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Asking These 5 Questions Can Get You In The Best Shape Of Your Life

Asking These 5 Questions Can Get You In The Best Shape Of Your Life

When it comes to our lives, asking ourselves the right questions can help clarify where we’re heading as well as establishing where we are in the present moment. Life is one hell of a journey and most of us are wandering blindly on a path that has no real right or wrong and this is why stopping once in a while and questioning our motives is important. Encouraging our need to grow is paramount to understanding our needs moving forward.

With this in mind, here are 5 questions you can ask yourself to get you thinking in the right direction.

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1. Where Do I Need To Go To Find Myself?

Travelling extensively isn’t for everyone but going off and experiencing different places and cultures can really help you grow and find out more about your values. Experiencing different places allows us to see different perspectives. Different ways of doing things and our reactions to different experiences whether comfortable or uncomfortable, brings growth and a deeper understanding of ourselves. Wherever you go, whether it’s different parts of your own country or further afield into the world make sure it’s somewhere that’ll inspire or challenge you.

2. What’s The Most Impractical Career That Would Make Me Happy If I Went For It?

This gets you thinking about what your passion truly is. If there were no barriers, obstacles or money wasn’t an issue, what would you want to do? Sometimes we get stuck in life or get to a point where we question our career choice. Happiness, rather than following a particular career path, becomes more of a priority when we realise there must be more to life than what is our current repetitive routine.

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Many people are brave enough to change careers completely and succeed. There’s nothing wrong with imagining what your ideal life would be and asking yourself this question could start some inspired action or opportunities.

3. Why Do I Want What I Want?

This is one of the most powerful questions you can ask yourself because it’s finding out the why behind your what. If we don’t know why we do anything then we really live life with no real purpose. Identifying the why is the best way to focus in on what’s important to you and helps eliminate your need to care about what other people think. We’re so used to questioning our motives through the opinions of others instead of our own, so honing in our own ‘why’ is crucial in understanding our true purpose.

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4. What’s The Lowest Standard of Living I’m Willing To Tolerate Right Now?

Depending on your age, your tolerance to your living standards varies. For those still in the throes of youth, living impractically is much easier and probably the only real time in your life you can get away with it. But for anyone, when we’re stuck in a rut it’s important to think about how to better our situation in some way. Whether it’s choosing to live more impractically with no rules or commitments, or choosing to improve it somehow, for example, redecorating your home, a change can be good to get more perspective on how your life is going.

5. What Kind of Life Do I Want To Avoid At All Costs?

Figuring out what we want can be hard especially when we’re starting out in life but can also be applied to any stage of our lives. Turning the question of what we want on its head and asking ‘what do I NOT want?’  may be a smarter way to approach it. Sometimes eliminating what you want to avoid is much easier than trying to think about what you really want.

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Questioning ourselves is an important way to check in and evaluate our lives. Asking the right questions can help open our eyes and make us realise whether we’re on the right track. You don’t always have to have all the answers but making sure you are asking yourself these questions can highlight areas of life that may need evaluating from time to time.

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Last Updated on December 3, 2019

10 Life Lessons You’d Better Learn Early on in Life

10 Life Lessons You’d Better Learn Early on in Life

There are so many lessons I wish I had learned while I was young enough to appreciate and apply them. The thing with wisdom, and often with life lessons in general, is that they’re learned in retrospect, long after we needed them. The good news is that other people can benefit from our experiences and the lessons we’ve learned.

Here’re 10 important life lessons you should learn early on:

1. Money Will Never Solve Your Real Problems

Money is a tool; a commodity that buys you necessities and some nice “wants,” but it is not the panacea to your problems.

There are a great many people who are living on very little, yet have wonderfully full and happy lives… and there are sadly a great many people are living on quite a lot, yet have terribly miserable lives.

Money can buy a nice home, a great car, fabulous shoes, even a bit of security and some creature comforts, but it cannot fix a broken relationship, or cure loneliness, and the “happiness” it brings is only fleeting and not the kind that really and truly matters. Happiness is not for sale. If you’re expecting the “stuff” you can buy to “make it better,” you will never be happy.

2. Pace Yourself

Often when we’re young, just beginning our adult journey we feel as though we have to do everything at once. We need to decide everything, plan out our lives, experience everything, get to the top, find true love, figure out our life’s purpose, and do it all at the same time.

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Slow down—don’t rush into things. Let your life unfold. Wait a bit to see where it takes you, and take time to weigh your options. Enjoy every bite of food, take time to look around you, let the other person finish their side of the conversation. Allow yourself time to think, to mull a bit.

Taking action is critical. Working towards your goals and making plans for the future is commendable and often very useful, but rushing full-speed ahead towards anything is a one-way ticket to burnout and a good way to miss your life as it passes you by.

3. You Can’t Please Everyone

“I don’t know the secret to success, but the secret to failure is trying to please everyone” – Bill Cosby.

You don’t need everyone to agree with you or even like you. It’s human nature to want to belong, to be liked, respected and valued, but not at the expense of your integrity and happiness. Other people cannot give you the validation you seek. That has to come from inside.

Speak up, stick to your guns, assert yourself when you need to, demand respect, stay true to your values.

4. Your Health Is Your Most Valuable Asset

Health is an invaluable treasure—always appreciate, nurture, and protect it. Good health is often wasted on the young before they have a chance to appreciate it for what it’s worth.

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We tend to take our good health for granted, because it’s just there. We don’t have to worry about it, so we don’t really pay attention to it… until we have to.

Heart disease, bone density, stroke, many cancers—the list of many largely preventable diseases is long, so take care of your health now, or you’ll regret it later on.

5. You Don’t Always Get What You Want

“Life is what happens while you’re busy making other plans.” – John Lennon

No matter how carefully you plan and how hard you work, sometimes things just don’t work out the way you want them to… and that’s okay.

We have all of these expectations; predetermined visions of what our “ideal” life will look like, but all too often, that’s not the reality of the life we end up with. Sometimes our dreams fail and sometimes we just change our minds mid-course. Sometimes we have to flop to find the right course and sometimes we just have to try a few things before we find the right direction.

6. It’s Not All About You

You are not the epicenter of the universe. It’s very difficult to view the world from a perspective outside of your own, since we are always so focused on what’s happening in our own lives. What do I have to do today? What will this mean for me, for my career, for my life? What do I want?

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It’s normal to be intensely aware of everything that’s going on in your own life, but you need to pay as much attention to what’s happening around you, and how things affect other people in the world as you do to your own life. It helps to keep things in perspective.

7. There’s No Shame in Not Knowing

No one has it all figured out. Nobody has all the answers. There’s no shame in saying “I don’t know.” Pretending to be perfect doesn’t make you perfect. It just makes you neurotic to keep up the pretense of manufactured perfection.

We have this idea that there is some kind of stigma or shame in admitting our limitations or uncertainly, but we can’t possibly know everything. We all make mistakes and mess up occasionally. We learn as we go, that’s life.

Besides—nobody likes a know-it-all. A little vulnerability makes you human and oh so much more relatable.

8. Love Is More Than a Feeling; It’s a Choice

That burst of initial exhilaration, pulse quickening love and passion does not last long. But that doesn’t mean long-lasting love is not possible.

Love is not just a feeling; it’s a choice that you make every day. We have to choose to let annoyances pass, to forgive, to be kind, to respect, to support, to be faithful.

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Relationships take work. Sometimes it’s easy and sometimes it’s incredibly hard. It is up to us to choose how we want to act, think and speak in a relationship.

9. Perspective Is a Beautiful Thing

Typically, when we’re worried or upset, it’s because we’ve lost perspective. Everything that is happening in our lives seems so big, so important, so do or die, but in the grand picture, this single hiccup often means next to nothing.

The fight we’re having, the job we didn’t get, the real or imagined slight, the unexpected need to shift course, the thing we wanted, but didn’t get. Most of it won’t matter 20, 30, 40 years from now. It’s hard to see long term when all you know is short term, but unless it’s life-threatening, let it go, and move on.

10. Don’t Take Anything for Granted

We often don’t appreciate what we have until it’s gone: that includes your health, your family and friends, your job, the money you have or think you will have tomorrow.

When you’re young, it seems that your parents will always be there, but they won’t. You think you have plenty of time to get back in touch with your old friends or spend time with new ones, but you don’t. You have the money to spend, or you think you’ll have it next month, but you might not.

Nothing in your life is not guaranteed to be there tomorrow, including those you love.

This is a hard life lesson to learn, but it may be the most important of all: Life can change in an instant. Make sure you appreciate what you have, while you still have it.

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