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The One Sentence That Makes You Become A Really Boring Person

The One Sentence That Makes You Become A Really Boring Person

The one sentence that makes you become a really boring person: I don’t mind

Have you ever been dumped because the person you were trying to do so much for and be nice to all the time, thought of you to be boring? It must have hurt and ached to have been quit on by the one you loved, all because you were trying your very best to be the nicest thing since sliced bread. Well guess what, being ‘nice’ all the time is overrated and makes you a boring person.

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Being ‘nice’ doesn’t mean going with the flow all the time!

What is it about you that others find attractive? And here, by attractive we do not mean only romantically – there have to be some engaging qualities in you that make people want to be your friend, to hire you, to be like you and of course, to like and love you. These qualities are what make you unique and interesting.

People might like you for your conversation skills, shared interests and hobbies, and because you are all heart. However, being a caring person has got nothing to do with not having a voice of your own. If you are the kind of person who thinks that a relationship only works when you go with the flow, and you ignore you rown thoughts and likes to do so – then you are heading down the road to bitter breakup and will be a labeled a boring person. [1]

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An ‘I don’t mind’ attitude tells the other person that you have no mind.

Imagine someone asking you, what’s the best option for dinner? You shrug and indicate that the other person can go ahead and choose; you are all right with anything. As a onetime scenario this is fine, but if this is an oft repeated scene in the drama that is your life – then your ‘I don’t mind” attitude is making you one boring person. [2]

In a relationship, it’s good to disagree every now and then. It’s even okay to have a few fights and then agree to disagree. Nodding your head to everything, being a yes man or woman and portraying yourself as someone who is okay with just anything and everything the other party wants is just dull. Being nice all the time takes the fun out of any relationship – be it as friends or romantically. And it makes you a boring person.

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Being a yes person makes for unhealthy relationships.

How can one be okay with everything? The answer is, no one can. However, in a bid to be nice or rather to be thought of as nice, you may be stifling your wishes and dreams and going with the flow. It may be to keep your significant other happy, or trying to be just another cog in a well-oiled machine at your workplace. Whatever be the reasons or the situation, the ‘I’m okay with anything’ attitude of yours will not get you far.

Firstly, the person or parties that you are doing this for, may start resenting you for not having the courage or conviction to make your own decisions. You will be perceived as a pushover and this projected niceness of yours will not earn you any brownie points.

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Secondly, if you are deliberately being fine with anything and everything, after a while this act of yours may start to wear you down and the very relationship that you are trying to strengthen with this niceness, will sour even for you! [3]

Take charge every once in a while.

The solution to this is to get up and take charge. The next time anyone asks for your opinion, politely give it. The next time you have the urge to say no, say it. The next time you feel like standing out like a sore thumb, do it!

Be a nice person, but also be your own person.

Featured photo credit: Mihai Surdu via unsplash.com

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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