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If You Want To Be More Decisive To Get What You Want, Remember These 4 Rules

If You Want To Be More Decisive To Get What You Want, Remember These 4 Rules

Have you ever met someone who could not make up their mind? Maybe it is a simple choice of cuisine:  Chinese or Indian. Or maybe the decision is a bit more serious like which school should we send our children to: public or private. Regardless of the decision, decisiveness is key to moving forward with daily responsibilities and getting what we want out of life.

Decisive people send a message to the world that they know who they are and what path they have decided to pursue in life. It is the difference between knowing who is goal-oriented or just wasting their time being wishy washy in life and about life. People who don’t make up their mind about simple decisions struggle with choosing a solution for larger dilemmas. Make sure you are decisive in life to fulfill your future dreams and get what you want out of life. In fact, consider these four rules as you move forward:

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1. Fight the Fear

Fear shows its ugly head in a variety of ways. Indecisiveness is one of those ways. If you or a friend struggle making decisions, what are you afraid of? Taking a moment to name your fears and question the authenticity of the concerns. This step can go a long way in helping you understand yourself. It can also help you determine what is a real fear and what is an irrational concern. When we know what we are afraid of, we can then question the reality of the concern and, hopefully, move forward.

Questioning the fears is also a way to discern the best course of action. When we know what we want, we normally strive to get it. Fighting fear to get what we want is imperative to live a happy life.

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2. Decide to Delay

Set a time limit for the decision that needs to be made. If you don’t want to decide right away, don’t. But create a deadline as to when you will state your choice about the dilemma at hand. This is one way to take the time necessary for research or to examine your fears, if there are any.

3. Take a Risk

It takes courage to move forward into the unknown. It is risky business to decide a course of action without any hardcore proof that the results will produce the desired output. However, if we lived our lives on the safe side, not wanting to make any decision unless we knew the outcome, we may wait forever.

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Courageously decide to state your choice of the options available. Use the gifts of reasoning and insight to delete the undesired, expected outcomes of certain choices. Then, with the remaining options left, pick one. You can positively project into the future what might happen based on the decision you choose. But with a positive attitude and pure motives, it is highly likely the results will be desirable.

4. Consult an Advisor

Sharing is caring. Taking the time to share your concerns with a trusted friend, mentor or advisor is one way to demonstrate you care about the impact this decision could make.  It is also a way to step into a role of leadership that highlights the magnitude of responsibility the decision entails.

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There is nothing wrong with not knowing what to do. But there is something wrong with being reckless and not making a decision at all. If you find yourself over analyzing the options or too afraid to think about the situation, maybe this is a great time to talk to someone who is not as emotionally connected to the problem. Their level-headed assessment could make the difference between a good decision and a bad one. Their opinion could help you determine what outcomes could likely occur.

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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