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The One Question That Can Make Your Life Easier

The One Question That Can Make Your Life Easier

Do You Long For A Simpler, Easier Life?

Most of us desire a life that makes us happy. Many of us wish things weren’t so hard. We take steps to make life more fulfilling and do our best to feel happy. We think if we could win the lottery or declutter our whole house our lives would be perfect. We wish we had more time, less stress and that life could just be easier. We think if we could lose the weight, get the new job, take more vacations, and be more productive, life would finally be what we want it to be. All these things are wonderful goals, but where do we start and how do we actually accomplish them? How can we make our lives easier?

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The One Question To Ask Yourself

Several years back I was throwing a baby shower for one of my close friends. When I started asking her all the many questions that come with throwing a baby shower, she said, “Oh, just keep it simple.” I continued to ask her a few questions, and then I realized she meant it. Whatever was easiest, would be best. She was completely right. You might think this lesson would stick, but we are creatures of habit, and one of my lifelong habits is to overthink everything.

Recently I read these words that have stayed emblazoned in my mind: Life is simple, we just make it harder than it is. This idea absolutely resonated with me. Could this concept be true? Is life really simple? Do we make things harder than they need to be? I wasn’t so sure about the first part, but I was sure about the second. I wasn’t sold on the concept of life being simple, but I was sold on the notion that I make things harder than they need to be. I have a tendency to overthink just about everything.

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So, I decided to experiment with my life by asking myself the simple question: How can I make this simpler? I have applied it to all kinds of situations including: what to make for dinner, what to wear, how to use my time, what to read, my work, how to answer questions others ask me, etc.

The Happy Results You Will Experience

Since asking myself the question How can I make this simpler? I have experienced more ease in my life than ever. I feel less stress; I have more time. I am slowly becoming better at not overthinking every single thing. I am still thoughtful of different angles and scenarios and I still take action that feels best. I just don’t make it harder than it needs to be. I have simplified my thinking, which simplifies my actions, which in turn simplifies my life.

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We are creatures of habit. Some people will always be wound up; others will always go with the flow. But those of us that long for an easier and simpler life can start achieving it by getting in the habit of asking ourselves a simple question that can alleviate a rush of thoughts that can cause us stress. As most of us know, it’s more stressful to have too many options. This is what we do when we overthink every decision in our lives. If you think about it, your entire life is made up of moment-to-moment decisions.

Life will always have a certain amount of stress. We will most likely always long for more. That’s okay. But, if we want to live an easier life we can start by simplifying it and not making things harder than they need to be. Try it. Ask yourself the question: How can I make this simpler?

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Last Updated on September 17, 2019

10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

Positive thinking can lead to a lot of positive change in your life. Developing an optimistic outlook can be good for both your physical and mental health.

But sometimes, certain situations arise in life that makes it hard to keep a positive outlook. Take steps to make positive thinking become more like your second nature and you’ll reap the biggest benefits.

Here are 10 ways to make thinking positive thoughts easy:

1. Spend Time with Positive People

If you surround yourself with constant complainers, their negativity is likely to rub off on you.

Spend time with positive friends and family members to increase the likelihood that their positive thinking habits will become yours too. It’s hard to be negative when everyone around you is so positive.

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2. Take Responsibility for Your Behavior

When you encounter problems and difficulties in life, don’t play the role of the victim. Acknowledge your role in the situation and take responsibility for your behavior.

Accepting responsibility can help you learn from mistakes and prevent you from blaming others unfairly.

3. Contribute to the Community

One of the best ways to feel good about what you have, is to focus on what you have to give.

Volunteer in some manner and give back to the community. Helping others can give you a new outlook on the world and can assist you with positive thinking.

4. Read Positive and Inspirational Materials

Spend time each day reading something that encourages positive thinking. Read the Bible, spiritual material, or inspirational quotes to help you focus on what’s important to you in life. It can be a great way to start and end your day.

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5. Recognize and Replace Negative Thoughts

You won’t be successful at positive thinking if you’re still plagued by frequent negative thoughts. Learn to recognize and replace thoughts that are overly negative. Often, thoughts that include words like “always” and “never” signal that they aren’t true.

If you find yourself thinking something such as, “I always mess everything up,” replace it with something more realistic such as, “Sometimes I make mistakes but I learn from them.”

There’s no need to make your thoughts unrealistically positive, but instead, make them more realistic.

6. Establish and Work Toward Goals

It’s easier to be positive about problems and setbacks when you have goals that you’re working toward. Goals will give you motivation to overcome those obstacles when you encounter problems along the way. Without clear goals, it’s harder to make decisions and gauge your progress.

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Learn to set SMART goals to help you achieve more.

7. Consider the Consequences of Negativity

Spend some time thinking about the consequences of negative thinking. Often, it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

For example, a person who thinks, “I probably won’t get this job interview,” may put less effort into the interview. As a result, he may decrease his chances of getting the job.

Create a list of all the ways negative thinking impacts your life. It likely influences your behavior, your relationships, and your feelings. Then, create a list of the ways in which positive thinking could be beneficial.

8. Offer Compliments to Others

Look for reasons to compliment others. Be genuine in your praise and compliments, but offer it frequently. This will help you look for the good in other people.

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9. Create a Daily Gratitude List

If you start keeping a daily gratitude list, you’ll start noticing exactly how much you have to be thankful for. This can help you focus on the positive in your life instead of thinking about all the bad things that have happened in the day.

Getting in the habit of showing an attitude of gratitude makes positive thinking more of a habit. Here’re 40 Simple Ways To Practice Gratitude.

10. Practice Self-Care

Take good care of yourself and you’ll be more equipped to think positively.

Get plenty of rest and exercise and practice managing your stress well. Taking care of your physical and mental health will provide you with more energy to focus on positive thinking.

Learn about these 30 Self-Care Habits for a Strong and Healthy Mind, Body and Spirit.

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