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The One Question That Can Make Your Life Easier

The One Question That Can Make Your Life Easier

Do You Long For A Simpler, Easier Life?

Most of us desire a life that makes us happy. Many of us wish things weren’t so hard. We take steps to make life more fulfilling and do our best to feel happy. We think if we could win the lottery or declutter our whole house our lives would be perfect. We wish we had more time, less stress and that life could just be easier. We think if we could lose the weight, get the new job, take more vacations, and be more productive, life would finally be what we want it to be. All these things are wonderful goals, but where do we start and how do we actually accomplish them? How can we make our lives easier?

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The One Question To Ask Yourself

Several years back I was throwing a baby shower for one of my close friends. When I started asking her all the many questions that come with throwing a baby shower, she said, “Oh, just keep it simple.” I continued to ask her a few questions, and then I realized she meant it. Whatever was easiest, would be best. She was completely right. You might think this lesson would stick, but we are creatures of habit, and one of my lifelong habits is to overthink everything.

Recently I read these words that have stayed emblazoned in my mind: Life is simple, we just make it harder than it is. This idea absolutely resonated with me. Could this concept be true? Is life really simple? Do we make things harder than they need to be? I wasn’t so sure about the first part, but I was sure about the second. I wasn’t sold on the concept of life being simple, but I was sold on the notion that I make things harder than they need to be. I have a tendency to overthink just about everything.

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So, I decided to experiment with my life by asking myself the simple question: How can I make this simpler? I have applied it to all kinds of situations including: what to make for dinner, what to wear, how to use my time, what to read, my work, how to answer questions others ask me, etc.

The Happy Results You Will Experience

Since asking myself the question How can I make this simpler? I have experienced more ease in my life than ever. I feel less stress; I have more time. I am slowly becoming better at not overthinking every single thing. I am still thoughtful of different angles and scenarios and I still take action that feels best. I just don’t make it harder than it needs to be. I have simplified my thinking, which simplifies my actions, which in turn simplifies my life.

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We are creatures of habit. Some people will always be wound up; others will always go with the flow. But those of us that long for an easier and simpler life can start achieving it by getting in the habit of asking ourselves a simple question that can alleviate a rush of thoughts that can cause us stress. As most of us know, it’s more stressful to have too many options. This is what we do when we overthink every decision in our lives. If you think about it, your entire life is made up of moment-to-moment decisions.

Life will always have a certain amount of stress. We will most likely always long for more. That’s okay. But, if we want to live an easier life we can start by simplifying it and not making things harder than they need to be. Try it. Ask yourself the question: How can I make this simpler?

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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