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29 Quotes To Summarize What You’ve Learned In 2016

29 Quotes To Summarize What You’ve Learned In 2016

Whenever a year is about to end and a new year is about to begin, we get the chance to start over again. We get to reflect on what we did wrong, what worked and what did not work from the past year–and correct them. True, most people make lists for their New Year’s resolutions, but ironically, most of them never follow through their lists.

Instead of making a list of resolutions that are hard to stick with for a whole year, another good way to initiate change in your life is to reflect on powerful motivational quotes that are based on other people’s experiences because experience is the best teacher. The motivational quotes below are our recommended quotes for reflection about things that we have learned in 2016.

1. You can never be happy if you’re always afraid to let go of what’s comfortable, familiar. Sometimes, those are the things that hurt us.

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    2. To be happy, we must not be too concerned with others.

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      3. Never allow waiting to become a habit. Live your dreams and take risks. Life is happening now.

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        4. It is not the mountain we conquer but ourselves.

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          5. The traveler sees what he wants to see. The tourist sees what he has come to see.

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            6. The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page.

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              7. Close some doors. Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply because they no longer lead somewhere.

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                8. How beautiful it is to stay silent when someone expects you to be enraged.

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                  9. Some people aren’t really all that they “post” to be.

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                    10. What you allow is what will continue.

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                      11. Don’t downgrade your dream just to fit your reality. Upgrade your conviction to match your destiny.

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                        12. Be selective in your battles, for sometimes peace is better than being right.

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                          13. Sometimes you don’t get closure, you just move on.

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                            14. If you saw the size of the blessing coming, you would understand the magnitude of the battle you are fighting.

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                              15. Forget it enough to get over it, remember it enough so it doesn’t happen again.

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                                16. Never judge someone by the opinion of others.

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                                  17. Sometimes when things are falling apart they may actually be falling into place.

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                                    18. New beginnings are always disguised as painful endings.

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                                      19. If you’re brave enough to say goodbye, life will reward you with a new hello.

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                                        20. Make sure you don’t start seeing yourself through the eyes of those who don’t value you. Know your worth even if they don’t.

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                                          21. Trust the timing of your life.

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                                            22. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.

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                                              23. There are 6,775,235,842 people in the world. Why are you letting one of them ruin your life?

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                                                24. 9 times out of 10 when people treat you like crap, they feel like crap. Don’t take on their internal struggle. Send them off with peace.

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                                                  25. If you find yourself constantly trying to prove your worth to someone, you have already forgotten your value.

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                                                    26. Never trust your tongue when your heart is bitter.

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                                                      27. Weak people revenge. Strong people forgive. Intelligent people ignore.

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                                                        28. Stay away from negative people. They have a problem for every solution.

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                                                          29. Behind you, all your memories. Before you, all your dreams. Around you, all who love you. Within you, all you need.

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                                                            Published on May 4, 2021

                                                            How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

                                                            How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

                                                            They say we are the average of the five persons we spend the most time with. For a minute, consider the people around you. Are they truly who your “tribe” should be or who you aspire to become in the future? Are they really genuine people who want to see you succeed? Or are they fake people who don’t really want to see you happy?

                                                            In this article, I’ll review why it is important to surround yourself with genuine individuals—the ones who care, bring something to our table, and first and foremost, who leave all fakeness behind.

                                                            How to Spot Fake People?

                                                            When you’ve been working in the helping professions for a while, spotting fake people gets a bit easier. There are some very clear signs that the person you are looking at is hiding something, acting somehow, or simply wanting to get somewhere. Most often, there is a secondary gain—perhaps attention, sympathy, or even a promotion.

                                                            Whatever it is, you’re better off working their true agenda and staying the hell away. Here are some things you should look out for to help spot fake people.

                                                            1. Full of Themselves

                                                            Fake people like to show off. They love looking at themselves in the mirror. They collect photos and videos of every single achievement they had and every part of their body and claim to be the “best at what they do.”

                                                            Most of these people are actually not that good in real life. But they act like they are and ensure that they appear better than the next person. The issue for you is that you may find yourself always feeling “beneath” them and irritated at their constant need to be in the spotlight.

                                                            2. Murky in Expressing Their Emotions

                                                            Have you ever tried having a deep and meaningful conversation with a fake person? It’s almost impossible. It’s because they have limited emotional intelligence and don’t know how they truly feel deep down—and partly because they don’t want to have their true emotions exposed, no matter how normal these might be.

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                                                            It’s much harder to say “I’m the best at what I do” while simultaneously sharing “average” emotions with “equal” people.

                                                            3. Zero Self-Reflection

                                                            To grow, we must accept feedback from others. We must be open to our strengths and to our weaknesses. We must accept that we all come in different shapes and can always improve.

                                                            Self-reflection requires us to think, forgive, admit fault, and learn from our mistakes. But to do that, we have to be able to adopt a level of genuineness and depth that fake people don’t routinely have. A fake person generally never apologizes, but when they do, it is often followed with a “but” in the next breath.

                                                            4. Unrealistic Perceptions

                                                            Fake people most often have an unrealistic perception of the world—things that they want to portray to others (pseudo achievements, materialistic gains, or a made-up sense of happiness) or simply how they genuinely regard life outside themselves.

                                                            A lot of fake people hide pain, shame, and other underlying reasons in their behavior. This could explain why they can’t be authentic and/or have difficulties seeing their environment for the way it objectively is (both good and bad).

                                                            5. Love Attention

                                                            As I mentioned earlier, the biggest sign that something isn’t quite right with someone’s behavior can be established by how much they love attention. Are you being interrupted every time you speak by someone who wants to make sure that the spotlight gets reverted back to them? Is the focus always on them, no matter the topic? If yes, you’re probably dealing with a fake person.

                                                            6. People Pleaser

                                                            Appreciation feels nice but having everyone like you is even better. While it is completely unrealistic for most people to please everyone all the time, fake people seem to always say yes in pursuit of constant approval.

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                                                            Now, this is a problem for two reasons. Firstly, these people are simply saying yes to things for their own satisfaction. Secondly, they often end up changing their minds or retracting their offer for one reason or another (“I would have loved to, but my grandmother suddenly fell ill.”), leaving you in the lurch for the 100th time this year.

                                                            7. Sarcasm and Cynicism

                                                            Behind the chronic pasted smile, fake people are well known for brewing resentment, jealousy, or anger. This is because, behind the postcard life, they are often unhappy. Sarcasm and cynicism are well known to act as a defense mechanism, sometimes even a diversion—anything so they can remain feeling on top of the world, whether it is through boosting themselves or bringing people down.

                                                            8. Crappy friend

                                                            Fake people are bad friends. They don’t listen to you, your feelings, and whatever news you might have to share. In fact, you might find yourself migrating away from them when you have exciting or bad news to share, knowing that it will always end up one way—their way. In addition, you might find that they’re not available when you truly need them or worse, cancel plans at the last minute.

                                                            It’s not unusual to hear that a fake person talks constantly behind people’s backs. Let’s be honest, if they do it to others, they’re doing it to you too. If your “friend” makes you feel bad constantly, trust me, they’re not achieving their purpose, and they’re simply not a good person to have around.

                                                            The sooner you learn to spot these fake people, the sooner you can meet meaningful individuals again.

                                                            How to Cope With Fake People Moving Forward?

                                                            It is important to remind yourself that you deserve more than what you’re getting. You are worthy, valuable, precious, and just as important as the next person.

                                                            There are many ways to manage fake people. Here are some tips on how to deal with them.

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                                                            1. Boundaries

                                                            Keep your boundaries very clear. As explained in the book Unlock Your Resilience, boundaries are what keep you sane when the world tries to suffocate you. When fake people become emotional vampires, make sure to keep your distances, limit contact, and simply replace them with more valuable interactions.

                                                            2. Don’t Take Their Behavior Personally

                                                            Sadly, they most likely have behaved this way before they knew you and will continue much longer after you have moved on. It isn’t about you. It is about their inner need to meet a void that you are not responsible for. And in all honesty, unless you are a trained professional, you are unlikely to improve it anyway.

                                                            3. Be Upfront and Honest About How You Feel

                                                            If your “friend” has been hurtful or engaged in behaviors you struggle with, let them know—nicely, firmly, however you want, but let them know that they are affecting you. If it works, great. If it doesn’t, you’ll feel better and when you’re ready to move on, you’ll know you tried to reach out. Your conscience is clear.

                                                            4. Ask for Advice

                                                            If you’re unsure about what you’re seeing or feeling, ask for advice. Perhaps a relative, a good friend, or a colleague might have some input as to whether you are overreacting or seeing some genuine concerns.

                                                            Now, don’t confuse asking for advice with gossiping behind the fake person’s back because, in the end, you don’t want to stoop down to their level. However, a little reminder as to how to stay on your own wellness track can never hurt.

                                                            5. Dig Deeper

                                                            Now, this one, I offer with caution. If you are emotionally strong, up to it, guaranteed you won’t get sucked into it, and have the skills to manage, perhaps you could dig into the reasons a fake person is acting the way they do.

                                                            Have they suffered recent trauma? Have they been rejected all their lives? Is their self-esteem so low that they must resort to making themselves feel good in any way they can? Sometimes, having an understanding of a person’s behavior can help in processing it.

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                                                            6. Practice Self-Care!

                                                            Clearly, putting some distance between the fake person and yourself is probably the way to go. However, sometimes, it takes time to get there. In the meantime, make sure to practice self-care, be gentle with yourself, and compensate with lots of positives!

                                                            Self-care can be as simple as taking a hot shower after talking to them or declining an invitation when you’re not feeling up to the challenge.

                                                            Spotting fake people isn’t too hard. They generally glow with wanna-be vibes. However, most often, there are reasons as to why they are like this. Calling their behavior might be the first step. Providing them with support might be the second. But if these don’t work, it’s time to stay away and surround yourself with the positivity that you deserve.

                                                            Final Thoughts

                                                            Remember that life is a rollercoaster. It has good moments, tough moments, and moments you wouldn’t change for the world. So, look around and make sure that you take the time to choose the right people to share it all with.

                                                            We are the average of the five people we spend the most time with, so take a good look around and choose wisely!

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