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New Year’s Resolutions You Probably Shouldn’t Make

New Year’s Resolutions You Probably Shouldn’t Make

The trouble with New Year’s resolutions

With the new year upon us, you may be thinking about the ways in which you would like to change your life in 2017. Every January, many of us feel as though we have been given a new opportunity to finally make progress with long-term goals.

Resolutions can be wonderful and motivating, but the sad fact is that the majority of them with go unkept. The solution? To get realistic about resolutions, and to choose goals that are both attainable and inspire a sense of enjoyment and hope rather than obligation. The following list contains five of the most common resolutions that people make every January, with reasons why you probably shouldn’t even thing about putting them on your to-do list.

The five resolutions you shouldn’t make

1. To lose weight

It is very difficult for most people to lose weight and keep it off. In simple terms, research shows that yo-yo dieting becomes the norm for most people who try and lose weight through even “sensible” diets and exercise.[1] Instead of aiming for a particular number on the scale, why not aim to make changes to your lifestyle and diet in ways that make you feel good? Take a new exercise class for the fun of it and try some healthy recipes.

2. To be happy

This is a noble goal, but it is too vague to be of much use. Why not set a small, tangible goal that will help you incorporate more fun into your life instead? For example, you could make a resolution to treat yourself to two enjoyable activities or small treats every week, or to take at least one trip away with friends in the summer.

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3. To work harder

In theory, working harder should equate to greater career satisfaction, progression and higher earnings. In practice, this doesn’t always turn out to be the case, especially if you do not make your working hours productive. Why not make a resolution to measure your productivity, and then strive to increase it by a certain percentage?

4. To give up caffeine

Coffee and other high-caffeine beverages have a bad reputation, and as a result you may be tempted to try cutting out caffeine entirely. However, caffeine is not unhealthy when taken in moderation and actually has some health benefits. For instance, research has shown that it may be protective against some forms of dementia[2]. Why not resolve to simply cut down on your intake instead if you are worried about your consumption?

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5. To get on better with other people or to be “nicer” to others

If you have to deal with difficult individuals on a regular basis, you may be tempted to try and be “nicer” or “more understanding” this year. However, committing to this resolution implies that spending time with toxic people is a good use of your precious time. Instead, why not focus on finding people who make you feel positive? Do an inventory of the people around you, and ask yourself what impact they have on your mental health. If you often feel angry, drained or upset following a few hours in someone’s company it may be time to re-assess the role they ought to be playing in your life.

In summary, there is nothing wrong with trying to improve yourself and your life. However, it pays to be smart about the resolutions you make. Whatever you want to change, make sure your resolutions are realistic. Even better, choose resolutions that allow you to have a bit of fun along the way! This way, you are more likely to make changes that last.

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Reference

[1]http://nutritionj.biomedcentral.com/articles/10.1186/1475-2891-10-9
[2]http://content.iospress.com/articles/journal-of-alzheimers-disease/jad01404

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10 Reasons Why New Year’s Resolutions Fail

10 Reasons Why New Year’s Resolutions Fail

A new year beautifully symbolizes a new chapter opening in the book that is your life. But while so many people like you aspire to achieve ambitious goals, only 12% of you will ever experience the taste of victory. Sound bad? It is. 156 million people (that’s 156,000,000) will probably give up on their resolution before you can say “confetti.” Keep on reading to learn why New Year’s resolutions fail (and how to succeed).

Note: Since losing weight is the most common New Year’s resolution, I chose to focus on weight loss (but these principles can be applied to just about any goal you think of — make it work for you!).

1. You’re treating a marathon like a sprint.

Slow and steady habit change might not be sexy, but it’s a lot more effective than the “I want it ALL and I want it NOW!” mentality. Small changes stick better because they aren’t intimidating (if you do it right, you’ll barely even notice them!).

If you have a lot of bad habits today, the last thing you need to do is remodel your entire life overnight. Want to lose weight? Stop it with the crash diets and excessive exercise plans. Instead of following a super restrictive plan that bans anything fun, add one positive habit per week. For example, you could start with something easy like drinking more water during your first week. The following week, you could move on to eating 3 fruits and veggies every day. And the next week, you could aim to eat a fistful of protein at every meal.

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2. You put the cart before the horse.

“Supplementing” a crappy diet is stupid, so don’t even think about it. Focus on the actions that produce the overwhelming amount of results. If it’s not important, don’t worry about it.

3. You don’t believe in yourself.

A failure to act can cripple you before you leave the starting line. If you’ve tried (and failed) to set a New Year’s resolution (or several) in the past, I know it might be hard to believe in yourself. Doubt is a nagging voice in your head that will resist personal growth with every ounce of its being. The only way to defeat doubt is to believe in yourself. Who cares if you’ve failed a time or two? This year, you can try again (but better this time).

4. Too much thinking, not enough doing.

The best self-help book in the world can’t save you if you fail to take action. Yes, seek inspiration and knowledge, but only as much as you can realistically apply to your life. If you can put just one thing you learn from every book or article you read into practice, you’ll be on the fast track to success.

5. You’re in too much of a hurry.

If it was quick-and-easy, everybody would do it, so it’s in your best interest to exercise your patience muscles.

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6. You don’t enjoy the process.

Is it any wonder people struggle with their weight when they see eating as a chore and exercise as a dreadful bore? The best fitness plan is one that causes the least interruption to your daily life. The goal isn’t to add stress to your life, but rather to remove it.

The best of us couldn’t bring ourselves to do something we hate consistently, so make getting in shape fun, however you’ve gotta do it. That could be participating in a sport you love, exercising with a good friend or two, joining a group exercise class so you can meet new people, or giving yourself one “free day” per week where you forget about your training plan and exercise in any way you please.

7. You’re trying too hard.

Unless you want to experience some nasty cravings, don’t deprive your body of pleasure. The more you tell yourself you can’t have a food, the more you’re going to want it. As long as you’re making positive choices 80-90% of the time, don’t sweat the occasional indulgence.

8. You don’t track your progress.

Keeping a written record of your training progress will help you sustain an “I CAN do this” attitude. All you need is a notebook and a pen. For every workout, record what exercises you do, the number of repetitions performed, and how much weight you used if applicable. Your goal? Do better next time. Improving your best performance on a regular basis offers positive feedback that will encourage you to keep going.

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9. You have no social support.

It can be hard to stay motivated when you feel alone. The good news? You’re not alone: far from it. Post a status on Facebook asking your friends if anybody would like to be your gym or accountability buddy. If you know a co-worker who shares your goal, try to coordinate your lunch time and go out together so you’ll be more likely to make positive decisions. Join a support group of like-minded folks on Facebook, LinkedIn, or elsewhere on the internet. Strength in numbers is powerful, so use it to your advantage.

10. You know your what but not your why.

The biggest reason why most New Year’s resolutions fail: you know what you want but you not why you want it.

Yes: you want to get fit, lose weight, or be healthy… but why is your goal important to you? For example:

Do you want to be fit so you can be a positive example that your children can admire and look up to?

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Do you want to lose fat so you’ll feel more confident and sexy in your body than ever before?

Do you want to be healthy so you’ll have increased clarity, energy, and focus that would carry over into every single aspect of your life?

Whether you’re getting in shape because you want to live longer, be a good example, boost your energy, feel confident, have an excuse to buy hot new clothes, or increase your likelihood of getting laid (hey, I’m not here to judge) is up to you. Forget about any preconceived notions and be true to yourself.

  • The more specific you can make your goal,
  • The more vivid it will be in your imagination,
  • The more encouraged you’ll be,
  • The more likely it is you will succeed (because yes, you CAN do this!).

I hope this guide to why New Year’s resolutions fail helps you achieve your goals this year. If you found this helpful, please pass it along to some friends so they can be successful just like you. What do you hope to accomplish next year?

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