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3 Things To Do If You Are Not Sure About Accepting A New Job

3 Things To Do If You Are Not Sure About Accepting A New Job

When someone asks a kid what he or she wants to do, the little one is going to reply right away, very sure of what he wants to become. Wait 10-15 years and ask the same person the same question and you will get an uncertain reply “I don’t know”.

As we grow, we get distracted and we soon become lost when it comes to what we want to do for a living. The certainty we had when we were kids fades out in front of the life’s realities. The dreams are replaced by financial analysis. Moreover, teachers and people around us have a huge influence on which career we end up choosing.

There are many teens who ask their teachers for advice and they rely on their advises. So if your teachers says you won’t be able to become a writer, but you have high chances of succeeding as an accountant, you are probably going to listen this advice.

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Choosing a career path

Of course, the most important factor in choosing a career nowadays is money: you have to be able to afford living. This is a sad truth for many talented painters or musicians or people who have special skills that are not profitable.

The fact we have to choose a career when we are only teens makes everything even more difficult, as most kids are not able to effectively assess their skills in their teens and they end up choosing the wrong career path.

This is exactly what I did: guided by my parents, I chose to get a degree in Informatics and Computing, only to find out that my true passion was writing. It was hard to acknowledge that all the years I spent learning were now useless. It was hard to change my job.

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But I did it and I learned what you need to do before accepting a job you are not sure you really want.

1. Journal your desires

When you get a new career or job opportunity, make sure you write about your feelings in your journal. When you put it on the paper, you will be able to step back and see how you really feel about the entire situation.

It will also help you decide between your logical thinking and your heart’s desires. If your true feelings show that you are ready to take up the new challenge, do it!

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2. Visualize and meditate

Before you give an answer to an interview invitation, you can meditate. There are many ways to meditate, but you can choose the one that best fits you. For example, you can just stop and visualize your goals while you are taking a walk in the park or while cycling.

The important thing is to get in touch with your inner self and check out what you really want. Let go of all the other thoughts and kick out your comfort zone, as this is how you will discover what you really want.

3. Use your imagination

Another visualizing exercise you can use is imagining your life without the job you are not sure about. If you will feel sad and you believe your life would be empty without that job, then you need to take up the challenge and accept the job.

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If this exercise makes you feel bad in any way, then you need to change your life. At the opposite side, if you don’t become emotional thinking of it, then you are good the way you are right now.

All these things are meant to make you listen to your heart, not your logical thinking. In most cases, people make logical decisions,ending up sad and bitter. Moreover, logic is always going to tell you that you need to pursue the money and financial wellbeing, but your heart might ask you to take another path for your own mental wellbeing.

Featured photo credit: Andres Cabrera/Flickr via flickr.com

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Last Updated on July 16, 2019

7 Powerful Habits To Win In Office Politics

7 Powerful Habits To Win In Office Politics

Office politics – a taboo word for some people. It’s a pervasive thing at the workplace.

In its simplest form, workplace politics is simply about the differences between people at work; differences in opinions, conflicts of interests are often manifested as office politics. It all goes down to human communications and relationships.

There is no need to be afraid of office politics. Top performers are those who have mastered the art of winning in office politics. Below are 7 good habits to help you win at the workplace:

1. Be Aware You Have a Choice

The most common reactions to politics at work are either fight or flight. It’s normal human reaction for survival in the wild, back in the prehistoric days when we were still hunter-gatherers.

Sure, the office is a modern jungle, but it takes more than just instinctive reactions to win in office politics. Instinctive fight reactions will only cause more resistance to whatever you are trying to achieve; while instinctive flight reactions only label you as a pushover that people can easily take for granted. Neither options are appealing for healthy career growth.

Winning requires you to consciously choose your reactions to the situation. Recognize that no matter how bad the circumstances, you have a choice in choosing how you feel and react. So how do you choose? This bring us to the next point…

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2. Know What You Are Trying to Achieve

When conflicts happen, it’s very easy to be sucked into tunnel-vision and focus on immediate differences. That’s a self-defeating approach. Chances are, you’ll only invite more resistance by focusing on differences in people’s positions or opinions.

The way to mitigate this without looking like you’re fighting to emerge as a winner in this conflict is to focus on the business objectives. In the light of what’s best for the business, discuss the pros and cons of each option. Eventually, everyone wants the business to be successful; if the business don’t win, then nobody in the organization wins.

It’s much easier for one to eat the humble pie and back off when they realize the chosen approach is best for the business.

By learning to steer the discussion in this direction, you will learn to disengage from petty differences and position yourself as someone who is interested in getting things done. Your boss will also come to appreciate you as someone who is mature, strategic and can be entrusted with bigger responsibilities.

3. Focus on Your Circle of Influence

At work, there are often issues which we have very little control over. It’s not uncommon to find corporate policies, client demands or boss mandates which affects your personal interests.

Gossiping and complaining are common responses to these events that we cannot control. But think about it, other than that short term emotional outlet, what tangible results do gossiping really accomplish? In most instances, none.

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Instead of feeling victimized and angry about the situation, focus on the things that you can do to influence the situation — your circle of influence. This is a very empowering technique to overcome the feeling of helplessness. It removes the victimized feeling and also allows others to see you as someone who knows how to operate within given constraints.

You may not be able to change or decide on the eventual outcome but, you can walk away knowing that you have done the best within the given circumstances.

Constraints are all around in the workplace; with this approach, your boss will also come to appreciate you as someone who is understanding and positive.

4. Don’t Take Sides

In office politics, it is possible to find yourself stuck in between two power figures who are at odds with each other. You find yourself being thrown around while they try to outwit each other and defend their own position; all at the expense of you getting the job done. You can’t get them to agree on a common decision for a project, and neither of them want to take ownership of issues; they’re too afraid they’ll get stabbed in the back for any mishaps.

In cases like this, focus on the business objectives and don’t take side with either of them – even if you like one better than the other. Place them on a common communication platform and ensure open communications among all parties, so that no one can claim “I didn’t say that”.

By not taking sides, you’ll help to direct conflict resolution in an objective manner. You’ll also build trust with both parties. That’ll help to keep the engagements constructive and focus on business objectives.

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5. Don’t Get Personal

In office politics, you’ll get angry with people. It happens. There will be times when you feel the urge to give that person a piece of your mind and teach him a lesson. Don’t.

People tend to remember moments when they were humiliated or insulted. Even if you win this argument and get to feel really good about it for now, you’ll pay the price later when you need help from this person. What goes around comes around, especially at the workplace.

To win in the office, you’ll want to build a network of allies which you can tap into. The last thing you want during a crisis or an opportunity is to have someone screw you up because they harbor ill-intentions towards you – all because you’d enjoyed a brief moment of emotional outburst at their expense.

Another reason to hold back your temper is your career advancement. Increasingly, organizations are using 360 degree reviews to promote someone. Even if you are a star performer, your boss will have to fight a political uphill battle if other managers or peers see you as someone who is difficult to work with. The last thing you’ll want is to make it difficult for your boss to champion you for a promotion.

6. Seek to Understand, Before Being Understood

The reason people feel unjustified is because they felt misunderstood. Instinctively, we are more interested in getting the others to understand us than to understand them first. Top people managers and business leaders have learned to suppress this urge.

Surprisingly, seeking to understand is a very disarming technique. Once the other party feels that you understand where he/she is coming from, they will feel less defensive and be open to understand you in return. This sets the stage for open communications to arrive at a solution that both parties can accept.

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Trying to arrive at a solution without first having this understanding is very difficult – there’s little trust and too much second-guessing.

7. Think Win-Win

As mentioned upfront, political conflicts happen because of conflicting interests. Perhaps due to our schooling, we are taught that to win, someone else needs to lose. Conversely, we are afraid to let someone else win, because it implies losing for us.

In business and work, that doesn’t have to be the case.

Learn to think in terms of “how can we both win out of this situation?” This requires that you first understand the other party’s perspective and what’s in it for him.

Next, understand what’s in it for you. Strive to seek out a resolution that is acceptable and beneficial to both parties. Doing this will ensure that everyone truly commit to the agreed resolution and will not pay only lip-service to it.

People simply don’t like to lose. You may get away with win-lose tactics once or twice but very soon, you’ll find yourself without allies in the workplace.

Thinking win-win is an enduring strategy that builds allies and help you win in the long term.

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