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4 Reasons Why You Need More Than One Mentor

4 Reasons Why You Need More Than One Mentor

Life tends to be a lot harder navigating your unchartered territories without some help and wisdom from those who’ve journeyed the arduous roads before you; well, I’ve personally found this to be true. At times, I can be rough around the edges and even a complete rookie in certain aspects of my life.

At 18 years old, I realised that if I wanted to grow, learn and challenge myself I needed to trade some self-help books and youtube clips (these can be helpful but should not replace human interaction) for spending time with older, wiser people that I admired and start learning from them. After all, they’ve got a fair bit more life experience than I do plus they’ve been around the block a few times. Life is designed to be shared with others and when we choose to surround ourselves with them there is potential for more growth; you can only grow so much in isolation.

A mentor is a trusted adviser

Having a trusted adviser can be beneficial and can add a whole new flavour to your journey. I personally believe that having more than one mentor is where the ground-breaking magic happens. (Please keep in mind that multiple mentors are acquired over time and not in haste!)

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Here are 4 reasons why you need more than one mentor:

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    #1 More Than One Mentor = More Room to Grow

    Think of it like looking at a diamond; there are many facets to one diamond which all contribute to its brilliance.

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    I have personally found that having more than one person mentor you is valuable because no one person has the gifts, talents, time or ability to be able to advise about every single aspect of your life. Have one mentor that you discuss business/work with, the other finances, the other marriage/relationships/family and another fitness or lifestyle improvement.

    Whatever you want to improve on or excel in look for the people that are winning in that area of life and that you aspire to be like. Get in their world, take them out for coffee and glean from them BUT (this is a huuuuuge ‘but’) use wisdom and discretion when choosing mentors; you want people that are going to empower you, not compete with you.

    #2 More Than One Mentor = More Blindspots Addressed

    Humanity is imperfect and flawed, that’s what makes it so beautiful. None of us is excluded from this imperfection and we could all use some help.

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    Not every person will have access to a concentrated amount of view-time into one particular aspect of your life, so there may be a number of potentially hazardous blind spots that go unaddressed. Having more than one mentor offers some assurance that you are covered from more than one angle. More than one blind spot addressed, more personal growth and development, baby!

    #3 More Than One Mentor = More Advice & Opinions to Shape Your Worldview

    At the end of the day, the decision is ultimately yours; you choose what advice or opinions you take on board.

    The beauty of having more than one mentor is that you have a platter of advice and wisdom that you are able to choose from that can shape and mould your world view. Having mentors with more experience in life adds a depth to your journey and provides a bigger perspective into who you are, who you have the potential to become and what that transition would take.

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    #4 More Than One Mentor = More Accountability

    Accountability may sound like a cuss word but just walk with me for a moment.

    Accountability is NOT you needing someone to babysit you or micromanage your life. You are the one that is in control of your life, you are the one that ultimately has to take responsibility for your choices and you have the freedom to choose who mentors you and who doesn’t. Accountability IS, however, a choice to allow the people that you love and trust (that you have chosen to include into your life) to be able to keep you to your word and ask you the tough questions. Have mentors that want to see you win and aren’t afraid to question you, your choices and your motives. Accountability makes sure you keep rocking up to practice even when you’ve given up on the game.

    Mentoring is an awesome way to not only involve yourself in the community of your choosing, you make friends along the way that care enough to have the tough conversations with you. The wound of a friend is always sweeter than the kiss of an enemy; mentors are a safe place for you to scrape a few knees, fall off your bike a few times, learn and ultimately begin that transition into being the person who you’ve always wanted to be.

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    Last Updated on July 23, 2019

    What Is Procrastination (And the Complete Guide to Stop Procrastinating)

    What Is Procrastination (And the Complete Guide to Stop Procrastinating)

    If you have so many things to do that you often find yourself struggling to finish projects and tasks and move on to other stuff, you’re certainly not alone. Studies show that over 20 percent of the adult population put off or avoid doing certain tasks by allowing themselves to be overtaken by distractions.[1]

    So what is procrastination? And what can you do to prevent procrastination?

    In this article, I am going to explain to youwhy procrastination is so difficult to beat and how you can stop procrastinating once and for all by following a step-by-step guide. But first, you need to understand how procrastination happens.

    What Is Procrastination?

    Piers Steel, the author of the book The Procrastination Equation: How to Stop Putting Things Off and Start Getting Stuff Done, defines procrastination in this way:[2]

    “Procrastination is to voluntarily delay an intended course of action despite expecting to be worse off for the delay.”

    In other words, procrastination is doing more pleasurable things in place of less pleasurable ones. The end result is that important tasks are put off to a later time.

    This comic is one of the typical examples of procrastination:

      The Challenge of Getting Over Procrastination

      Human beings have limited self-control. Dr. Roy Baumeister, a psychologist from Florida State University, has been studying self-control and he has found that just like any muscles, human’s self-control is a limited resource that can quickly become exhausted.[3] When self-control is close to being depleted, human tend to choose what’s more pleasurable– the immediate procrastinated tasks instead of the actual works.

      At its core, procrastination is an avoidance strategy. Procrastinators choose to do something else instead of doing what they need to do because it’s much easier to choose pleasure over pain.

      In short, procrastination is so difficult to beat because it is a battle against human’s natural enemy, a human weakness that is in-born.

      How to Stop Procrastinating (Step-By-Step Guide)

      Despite the fact that it’s human nature to seek for immediate rewards and procrastinate, here I have a step-by-step guide for you to follow so as to stop procrastinating.

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      1. Identify Your Triggers: The 5 Types of Procrastinator

      Identifying the type of procrastination you personally experience is an essential step for you to fix the problem at its root.

      Take a look at this flowchart here to find out what type of procrastinator you are:

        Which type of procrastinator are you? Let’s take a look at the triggers for your procrastination type:

        Perfectionist

        Being perfect is the pleasure perfectionists want. But often this leads to them being too scared to show any imperfections. Because of this, they frequently fail to complete things, as they’re forever seeking the perfect timing or approach. Tasks end up never being completed, because in the eyes of the perfectionist, things are never perfect enough.

        Instead of finishing something, perfectionists get caught up in a never-ending cycle of additions, edits, and deletions.

        Ostrich

        An ostrich prefers to stay in the dreaming stage. That way, they don’t have to work for real, or deal with any negativity or stress.

        Dreaming gives this type of people a false sense of achievement, as in their minds, they envision big, ambitious plans. Unfortunately for them, these plans will most likely stay as dreams, and they’ll never accomplish anything truly worthwhile.

        Self-Saboteur

        A self-saboteur has bought into the line that ‘by doing nothing, bad things won’t happen.’

        In reality, self-saboteurs have developed a fear of making mistakes or doing anything wrong. Their way to avoid these mishaps, is to do nothing at all. In the end, they may make few mistakes – but they also see few accomplishments.

        Daredevil

        Daredevils are those who believe that deadlines can push them to do better. Instead of having a schedule to complete their work – they prefer to enjoy time doing their own thing before the deadline comes around.

        It’s most likely an unconscious thing, but daredevils evidently believe that starting early will sacrifice their time for pleasure. This is reinforced in their minds and feelings, by the many times they manage to get away with burning the midnight oil. Often they sacrifice the quality of their work because of rushing it.

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        Chicken

        Chickens lack the ability to prioritize their work. They do what they feel like they should do, rather than thinking through what they really need to do.

        Prioritizing tasks is a step that takes extra time, so chicken will feel it’s not worth it. Because of this, they usually end up doing a lot of effortless tasks that don’t contribute much to a project. They’re incessantly busy on low-impact tasks, but seem oblivious to urgent, high-impact tasks.

        2. Face Your Triggers and Get Rid of Them

        Whether it’s fear of failure, overwhelming feelings, avoidance or convincing yourself you’re just too busy to get something done, you can improve your ability to be productive by eliminating your procrastination triggers.

        For Perfectionists, Re-Clarify Your Goals

        Much of the time procrastination tendencies form simply because we’ve outgrown our goals. We’re ever-changing and so are our wants in life. Try looking over your goals and ask yourself if they’re still what you want.

        Take time out to regroup and ask yourself what you really want to achieve:

        • What steps do you need to take?
        • Is what you’re currently doing reflecting what you want?
        • What do you need to change?

        Write things down, scribble them out and rewrite.

        For Ostriches, Do the Difficult Tasks First

        Even if you feel you’re not a morning person, the beginning of the day is when your brain is most productive. Use this window of time to get the more difficult stuff done.

        If you leave your difficult tasks to later, you’re much more likely to put it off because you’re tired and lack motivation.

        Finishing lots of simple tasks at the beginning of the day such as reading all the new emails only gives you a false sense of being productive.

        For Self-Saboteurs, Write out a To-Do (And a Not–To-Do) List Each Day

        Writing things down is powerful and psychologically increases your need to get things done.

        Each day, make a habit of creating a list of the tasks you know you’ll try and avoid. By doing this, it brings these ‘difficult’ tasks to your mind’s attention instead of keeping them locked away somewhere in your avoidance mode.

        Remember, think how satisfying and productive it feels to cross of a completed task.

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        For Daredevils, Create a Timeline with Deadlines

        It’s common to have a deadline for a goal which seems like a good idea. But this is basically an open invitation for procrastination.

        If it’s a self-created deadline with no pressure, we tend to justify pushing it back each time it comes into sight and feel we haven’t yet done ‘enough’ to get there.

        Create a bigger timeline then within that, establish deadlines along the way. The beauty of this comes when each deadline completion is dependent on the next. It keeps you on track and keeps you accountable for being in alignment with the overall timeline.

        For Chickens, Break Tasks into Bite-Sized Pieces

        A lot of the time procrastination comes from overwhelming thoughts.

        If something feels too big to tackle and we don’t know where to start, it feels like a struggle. This is also true if our goal is too vague and lacking direction.

        Break down larger tasks into smaller ones and turn them into daily or weekly goals. Smaller steps may seem like the slower approach to achieving a goal, but it often leads you much more quickly to where you want to be due to the powerful momentum you get going.

        3. Take Planned Breaks

        The human brain isn’t designed to work continuously on the same task and this could be a reason for procrastination.

        Make sure you take regular, structured breaks away from your task so that you can come back refreshed and ready to be more productive.

        A break as short as 5 minutes is enough to keep your mind sharp and wards off fatigue. I recommend you to use the Pomodoro Time Tracker. It is a great tool to help you take breaks at set intervals. Simply start the 25-minute timer, and follow the prompts.

          4.  Reward Yourself

          It’s important to acknowledge and reward yourself for achieving even the small tasks. It creates a sense of motivation and releases those feel-good, productive emotions that spur you on to achieve even more.

          Make your reward proportional to the task you completed so getting a bite-sized task done gets you a cup of your favourite coffee or snack. Then plan a weekend away or fun activity for the bigger stuff.

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          Personally I try to make staying focus more fun by using the app Forest. It turns productivity into a game. In the game, you can plant a virtual tree at the beginning of your work time. If you maintain focus for the duration of the timer, you’ll grow a tree to add to your forest. It’s rewarding when you can eventually grow a forest.

            5. Keep Track of Your Time in a Smart Way

            If you want to prevent the bad habit of procrastination from coming back, keep track of the time you spend every day.

            By having a clear idea of where you spend your time, you can always review your productivity and know which areas to improve.

            It’s not easy to keep track of every minute you spend throughout the day so I recommend you to use the app Rescue Time.

            It gets you a categorized breakdown of how you spend your time and helps you to find out how much time you’re really on-task. You can even label activities as productive and non-productive so as to block your biggest distractions.

              The Bottom Line

              Procrastination exists for many reasons and only you know for yourself what these triggers are.

              Understanding what procrastination really is and the source of your avoidance tendencies is important in moving them out of the way and help you start the productivity momentum.

              Make procrastination under your control!

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