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5 Things Every Woman Should Say To Themselves

5 Things Every Woman Should Say To Themselves

Every single one of us has a story we tell ourselves, a tale about who we are, what we are, and why we do the things we do. Some of us speak our own truths. We boldly step beyond the box we were molded in and dismiss any and everything that does not resonate with our souls. We’re the zany ones, the quirky, somewhat strange, but loveable creatures that make the world an interesting place to live in. Others tell their tales through everyone else’s eyes. They judge their thoughts and feelings based off of the “opinion lense” other people view them through. They get so caught up in being what others want that they forget who they are and what they were meant to be.

Who you are should not be a mystery. What you are meant to be is simple: your own beautiful, unapologetically amazing self. If you ever feel lost and unsure about who that person is, here’s five things you should remind yourself of.

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1. Breathe.

Unfortunately, things can’t always be rainbows and unicorns. There are going to be times when you curse the fact that you ever made the decision to grow up. It’s okay. That’s normal. These are the days that test us. They give us an opportunity to become a better version of ourselves. When days like this get thrust upon us, remember to breathe. Trials and tribulations are part of the journey and you’re much stronger than you think. You can make it through anything, one breath at a time.

2. Smile.

Did you know that smiling actually makes you happy? It’s true. Try it. Right now, wherever you are. I’m not talking about a pathetic little half upturn of the lips here. I’m talking a full on, mouth opening, toothy grin. The kind that makes your eyes sparkle and dance. Got it? Good. Hold on to it for five seconds. How do you feel? You’re welcome. Even when you’re having a bad day, you can always find something to smile about.

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3. You’re Beautiful.

You are. It doesn’t matter if you’re a size zero or 24, you’re beautiful. Don’t let anyone ever tell you otherwise, including yourself. Look at your reflection in the mirror. Instead of focusing on the usual criticisms you like to dole out, revel in your exquisiteness. You’re a Goddess, an enchantress, alluring, fabulous, and fierce. Remember this. There’s no one else on the planet with your curves, your skin, and your eyes. Even if it’s one of those bad hair days, find something you like about your looks and focus on it. Then find something else, and then something else. Pretty soon you’ll be winking and blowing kisses at the foxy lady in the mirror.

4. You’re Strong.

It’s true. There has most certainly been a time in your life when you hit a low point. Maybe it was over a broken relationship. Maybe it was a financial debacle. Did you curl into a ball and hide in your blanket fort for eternity? No, you didn’t. You got back up. You moved on. You figured it out. Why, because you’ve got an inner warrior inside of you. She’s the one who taps you on the shoulder and reminds you not to take it lying down, the one who knows you can conquer any obstacle before you. This whole life thing? You totally got it.

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5. Love Yourself, There’s Nothing Wrong With You.

There isn’t. That boyfriend (or girlfriend) who did you wrong? Forget him (or her). Those people who judge you and always make you feel less than? Forget them. You’re amazing and you should love every piece of yourself. You aren’t just the things that other people see. You’re different shades of spectacular wrapped up in a quirky, nerdy, sexy bow. Love every color of yourself, all of the imperfections and idiosyncrasies that make up who you are. You’re awesome and you deserve to be loved. So give that to yourself. Love who you are without apology. Only then will you be able to truly love someone else.

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8 Benefits of a Minimalist Lifestyle That Get You to Live With Less

8 Benefits of a Minimalist Lifestyle That Get You to Live With Less

Minimalism is a way to put a stop to the gluttony of the world around us. It’s the opposite of every advertisement we see plastered on the radio and TV. We live in a society that prides itself on the accumulation of stuff; we eat up consumerism, material possessions, clutter, debt, distractions and noise.

What we don’t seem to have is any meaning left in our world.

By adopting a minimalist lifestyle, you can throw out what you don’t need in order to focus on what you do need.

I know first hand how little we actually need to survive. I was fortunate enough to live in a van for four months while traveling throughout Australia. This experience taught me valuable lessons about what really matters and how little we really need all this stuff we surround ourselves with.

Less is more.

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Living a minimalist lifestyle is reducing.There are a few obvious benefits of minimalism such as less cleaning and stress, a more organized household and more money to be found, but there are also a few deep, life-changing benefits.

What we don’t usually realize is that when we reduce, we reduce a lot more than just stuff.

Consider just some of the benefits of living with fewer possessions:

1. Create Room for What’s Important

When we purge our junk drawers and closets we create space and peace. We lose that claustrophobic feeling and we can actually breathe again. Create the room to fill up our lives with meaning instead of stuff.

2. More Freedom

The accumulation of stuff is like an anchor, it ties us down. We are always terrified of losing all our ‘stuff’. Let it go and you will experience a freedom like never before: a freedom from greed, debt, obsession and overworking.

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3. Focus on Health and Hobbies

When you spend less time at Home Depot trying unsuccessfully to keep up with the Joneses, you create an opening to do the things you love, things that you never seem to have time for.

Everyone is always saying they don’t have enough time, but how many people really stop and look at what they are spending their time doing?

You could be enjoying a day with your kids, hitting up the gym, practicing yoga, reading a good book or traveling. Whatever it is that you love you could be doing, but instead you are stuck at Sears shopping for more stuff.

4. Less Focus on Material Possessions

All the stuff we surround ourselves with is merely a distraction, we are filling a void. Money can’t buy happiness, but it can buy comfort. After the initial comfort is satisfied, that’s where our obsession with money should end.

We are bombarded by the media presenting promises of happiness through materialistic measures. It’s no wonder we struggle everyday. Resist those urges. It’s an empty path, it won’t make you happy.

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It’s hard not to get roped into the consumerism trap. I need constant reminders that it’s a false sense of happiness. I enjoy stuff, but I also recognize that I don’t need it.

5. More Peace of Mind

When we cling onto material possessions we create stress because we are always afraid of losing these things. By simplifying your life you can lose your attachment to these things and ultimately create a calm, peaceful mind.

The less things you have to worry about, the more peace you have, and it’s as simple as that.

6. More Happiness

When de-cluttering your life, happiness naturally comes because you gravitate towards the things that matter most. You see clearly the false promises in all the clutter, it’s like a broken shield against life’s true essence.

You will also find happiness in being more efficient, you will find concentration by having refocused your priorities, you will find joy by enjoying slowing down.

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7. Less Fear of Failure

When you look at Buddhist monks, they have no fear, and they have no fear because they don’t have anything to lose.

In whatever you wish to pursue doing you can excel, if you aren’t plagued with the fear of losing all your worldly possessions. Obviously you need to take the appropriate steps to put a roof over your head, but also know that you have little to fear except fear itself.

8. More Confidence

The entire minimalist lifestyle promotes individuality and self reliance. This will make you more confident in your pursuit of happiness.

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