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5 Things Every Woman Should Say To Themselves

5 Things Every Woman Should Say To Themselves

Every single one of us has a story we tell ourselves, a tale about who we are, what we are, and why we do the things we do. Some of us speak our own truths. We boldly step beyond the box we were molded in and dismiss any and everything that does not resonate with our souls. We’re the zany ones, the quirky, somewhat strange, but loveable creatures that make the world an interesting place to live in. Others tell their tales through everyone else’s eyes. They judge their thoughts and feelings based off of the “opinion lense” other people view them through. They get so caught up in being what others want that they forget who they are and what they were meant to be.

Who you are should not be a mystery. What you are meant to be is simple: your own beautiful, unapologetically amazing self. If you ever feel lost and unsure about who that person is, here’s five things you should remind yourself of.

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1. Breathe.

Unfortunately, things can’t always be rainbows and unicorns. There are going to be times when you curse the fact that you ever made the decision to grow up. It’s okay. That’s normal. These are the days that test us. They give us an opportunity to become a better version of ourselves. When days like this get thrust upon us, remember to breathe. Trials and tribulations are part of the journey and you’re much stronger than you think. You can make it through anything, one breath at a time.

2. Smile.

Did you know that smiling actually makes you happy? It’s true. Try it. Right now, wherever you are. I’m not talking about a pathetic little half upturn of the lips here. I’m talking a full on, mouth opening, toothy grin. The kind that makes your eyes sparkle and dance. Got it? Good. Hold on to it for five seconds. How do you feel? You’re welcome. Even when you’re having a bad day, you can always find something to smile about.

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3. You’re Beautiful.

You are. It doesn’t matter if you’re a size zero or 24, you’re beautiful. Don’t let anyone ever tell you otherwise, including yourself. Look at your reflection in the mirror. Instead of focusing on the usual criticisms you like to dole out, revel in your exquisiteness. You’re a Goddess, an enchantress, alluring, fabulous, and fierce. Remember this. There’s no one else on the planet with your curves, your skin, and your eyes. Even if it’s one of those bad hair days, find something you like about your looks and focus on it. Then find something else, and then something else. Pretty soon you’ll be winking and blowing kisses at the foxy lady in the mirror.

4. You’re Strong.

It’s true. There has most certainly been a time in your life when you hit a low point. Maybe it was over a broken relationship. Maybe it was a financial debacle. Did you curl into a ball and hide in your blanket fort for eternity? No, you didn’t. You got back up. You moved on. You figured it out. Why, because you’ve got an inner warrior inside of you. She’s the one who taps you on the shoulder and reminds you not to take it lying down, the one who knows you can conquer any obstacle before you. This whole life thing? You totally got it.

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5. Love Yourself, There’s Nothing Wrong With You.

There isn’t. That boyfriend (or girlfriend) who did you wrong? Forget him (or her). Those people who judge you and always make you feel less than? Forget them. You’re amazing and you should love every piece of yourself. You aren’t just the things that other people see. You’re different shades of spectacular wrapped up in a quirky, nerdy, sexy bow. Love every color of yourself, all of the imperfections and idiosyncrasies that make up who you are. You’re awesome and you deserve to be loved. So give that to yourself. Love who you are without apology. Only then will you be able to truly love someone else.

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Last Updated on September 20, 2018

How to Stay Calm and Cool When You Are Extremely Stressful

How to Stay Calm and Cool When You Are Extremely Stressful

Being in a hurry all the time drains your energy. Your work and routine life make you feel overwhelmed. Getting caught up in things beyond your control stresses you out…

If you’d like to stay calm and cool in stressful situations, put the following 8 steps into practice:

1. Breathe

The next time you’re faced with a stressful situation that makes you want to hurry, stop what you’re doing for one minute and perform the following steps:

  • Take five deep breaths in and out (your belly should come forward with each inhale).
  • Imagine all that stress leaving your body with each exhale.
  • Smile. Fake it if you have to. It’s pretty hard to stay grumpy with a goofy grin on your face.

Feel free to repeat the above steps every few hours at work or home if you need to.

2. Loosen up

After your breathing session, perform a quick body scan to identify any areas that are tight or tense. Clenched jaw? Rounded shoulders? Anything else that isn’t at ease?

Gently touch or massage any of your body parts that are under tension to encourage total relaxation. It might help to imagine you’re in a place that calms you: a beach, hot tub, or nature trail, for example.

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3. Chew slowly

Slow down at the dinner table if you want to learn to be patient and lose weight. Shoveling your food down as fast as you can is a surefire way to eat more than you need to (and find yourself with a bellyache).

Be a mindful eater who pays attention to the taste, texture, and aroma of every dish. Chew slowly while you try to guess all of the ingredients that were used to prepare your dish.

Chewing slowly will also reduce those dreadful late-night cravings that sneak up on you after work.

4. Let go

Cliche as it sounds, it’s very effective.

The thing that seems like the end of the world right now?

It’s not. Promise.

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Stressing and worrying about the situation you’re in won’t do any good because you’re already in it, so just let it go.

Letting go isn’t easy, so here’s a guide to help you:

21 Things To Do When You Find It Hard To Let Go

5. Enjoy the journey

Focusing on the end result can quickly become exhausting. Chasing a bold, audacious goal that’s going to require a lot of time and patience? Split it into several mini-goals so you’ll have several causes for celebration.

Stop focusing on the negative thoughts. Giving yourself consistent positive feedback will help you grow patience, stay encouraged, and find more joy in the process of achieving your goals.

6. Look at the big picture

The next time you find your stress level skyrocketing, take a deep breath, and ask yourself:

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Will this matter to me…

  • Next week?
  • Next month?
  • Next year?
  • In 10 years?

Hint: No, it won’t.

I bet most of the stuff that stresses you wouldn’t matter the next week, maybe not even the next day.

Stop agonizing over things you can’t control because you’re only hurting yourself.

7. Stop demanding perfection of yourself

You’re not perfect and that’s okay. Show me a person who claims to be perfect and I’ll show you a dirty liar.

Demanding perfection of yourself (or anybody else) will only stress you out because it just isn’t possible.

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8. Practice patience every day

Below are a few easy ways you can practice patience every day, increasing your ability to remain calm and cool in times of stress:

  • The next time you go to the grocery store, get in the longest line.
  • Instead of going through the drive-thru at your bank, go inside.
  • Take a long walk through a secluded park or trail.

Final thoughts

Staying calm in stressful situations is possible, all you need is some daily practice.

Taking deep breaths and eat mindfully are some simple ways to train your brain to be more patient. But changing the way you think of a situation and staying positive are most important in keeping cool whenever you feel overwhelmed and stressful.

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