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How to Boost Growth in Your Life

How to Boost Growth in Your Life

Ever experienced a feeling of dissatisfaction, a general unease that you just can’t define? Most people describe this as “I just feel stuck”―they feel like they’re going nowhere, lacking progress and purpose, and they don’t know how to get out of it. They mooch into every day wondering if something will change: in effect, waiting for a metaphorical knight in shining armour to sweep in and kick things around a bit.

If you’re one of these people, the problem is you’ll be waiting a while if you’re relying on someone or something outside of yourself to fix the problem. Externalising the solution is the most common fault of people wanting to change. Changing jobs, taking a big holiday, getting a new hairdo or a new wardrobe―all of these are temporary “band aids”. They won’t hold the stuck feeling at bay for long.

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Small steps reap big rewards: you don’t have to overhaul your whole life to get moving. There is no “one big magic answer”. Work holistically, and start with small changes and small focuses across the board, and you’ll soon gain momentum. Here are 4 things you should know to boost growth in your life.

Make a decision… ANY decision!

Understand that you have to make a decision to do or achieve something. It sounds strange to say something so simple, but most people are just making “wish-lists”. They would like change to happen but they haven’t really decided to make it happen yet. A true decision is in concrete ‒ once made, it cannot be backed away from. It’s a serious thing to make a real decision and you need to do some serious thinking before you make one. Otherwise you’re just wishing.

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Your body is the bedrock of progress.

You can’t shoot forward into the future like an unstoppable rocket if your health is dragging you back every inch of the way. Your body has innate wisdom to run your health perfectly….if you get out of its way.

While you load your body with toxins inside and out, you cannot operate at peak performance. Start educating yourself about food, cleaners, toiletries, and cosmetics. Question what you’ve always been told, listen to your body. You don’t have to go on a massive diet or lifestyle change, just learn a little every day, swap a little every day. And don’t forget to celebrate every small win.

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You’re No.1!

Practice prioritising and valuing yourself before others. This is hard for a lot of people, especially mums, or people used to nurturing and supporting everyone else before themselves.

To move forward you need to prove to yourself that you are worth the effort. We do this by our small actions every day: they count. Start to act and speak in ways that tell YOU that you are No.1 and worth the effort, and you’ll automatically start to reach for something better in life.

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Don’t neglect your spirit.

Older civilisations understood better how important it was to feel your place on this earth and work in harmony with its energy and resources. Living consciously, adding value, and contributing to world change, feeling a connection to the earth, nature, and universal energy are all important to how we feel about ourselves.

Ideas and inspiration come from a creative place inside that can only be fully accessed when we are being our true selves and operating within a natural rhythm. Spend time on and with yourself, just being and learning who you are.

Getting forward movement in your life is a holistic process. Stop looking for something to happen to kick-start you. Don’t wait until New Year’s Day. Just work a little…on a lot…all the time. Great change comes in millimetre shifts.

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Last Updated on October 16, 2019

Invaluable Lessons You Can Learn From Your Mistakes

Invaluable Lessons You Can Learn From Your Mistakes

Do you like making mistakes?

I certainly don’t.

Making mistakes is inevitable. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we could be at ease with them?

Perhaps there is a way to think of them differently and see their benefits.

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Why Mistakes Feel Dangerous

Mistakes often feel dangerous. Throughout human history, our errors have often been treated as dangerous for a variety of reasons:

  • Our vulnerability. We have limited and fragile support systems. When those systems fail, people often lose their lives.
  • Real dangers. Nature can be dangerous, and making mistakes can put us at the mercy of nature and its animal residents seeking a meal.
  • Ignorance. Many cultures scapegoats someone whenever there is a failure of some kind. Scapegoating can be serious and deadly.
  • Order. Many societies punish those who do not conform to the prevailing orthodoxy and treat difference and non-conformity as a mistake. Even our brains flash an error message whenever we go against prevailing social norms.

We have a history of handling mistakes and failure in an unpleasant way. Since each of us carries our human history with us, it can be a challenge to overcome the fear of making mistakes.

If we can embrace the reality of mistakes, we can free ourselves to be more creative in our lives and dig up some interesting insights.

Why We Can’t Avoid Making Mistakes

Many people operate under the notion that making mistakes is an aberration, a mistake if you will. You can call it perfectionism but it is a more substantial problem. It is really a demand for order and continuity.

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When we think we can eliminate mistakes, we are often working from a perspective that sees the world as a fixed place. The world, however, is not so obliging. Like it or not, the world, and everything in it, is constantly changing.

Change is more constant and pervasive than we can see with our own eyes which is why we often miss it. Our bodies are constantly changing. The natural conditions of the earth change constantly as well. Everything, including economic and cultural systems have life cycles. Everything is in a constant state of flux.

We cannot see all of the changes going on around us since rates of change vary. Unfortunately, when we try to create a feeling of certainty and solidity in our lives or operate from the illusion of stability and order, we are fighting reality and our natural evolution which is built on adapting to change.

It is better to continually bend into this reality rather than fight every change we experience. Fighting it can cause us to make more mistakes. Finding the benefits in change can be useful and help us minimize unnecessary mistakes.

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Lessons Learned from Making Mistakes

Life has so many uncertainties and variables that mistakes are inevitable. Fortunately, there are many things you can learn from making mistakes.

Here is a list of ways to harness the mistakes you make for your benefit.

  1. Point us to something we did not know.
  2. Reveal a nuance we missed.
  3. Deepen our knowledge.
  4. Tell us something about our skill levels.
  5. Help us see what matters and what does not.
  6. Inform us more about our values.
  7. Teach us more about others.
  8. Let us recognize changing circumstances.
  9. Show us when someone else has changed.
  10. Keep us connected to what works and what doesn’t work.
  11. Remind us of our humanity.
  12. Spur us to want to better work which helps us all.
  13. Promote compassion for ourselves and others.
  14. Teach us to value forgiveness.
  15. Help us to pace ourselves better.
  16. Invite us to better choices.
  17. Can teach us how to experiment.
  18. Can reveal a new insight.
  19. Can suggest new options we had not considered.
  20. Can serve as a warning.
  21. Show us hidden fault lines in our lives which can lead us to more productive arrangements.
  22. Point out structural problems in our lives.
  23. Prompt us to learn more about ourselves.
  24. Remind us how we are like others.
  25. Make us more humble.
  26. Help us rectify injustices in our lives.
  27. Show us where to create more balance in our lives.
  28. Tell us when the time to move on has occurred.
  29. Reveal where our passion is and where it is not.
  30. Expose our true feelings.
  31. Bring out problems in a relationship.
  32. Can be a red flag for our misjudgments.
  33. Point us in a more creative direction.
  34. Show us when we are not listening.
  35. Wake us up to our authentic selves.
  36. Can create distance with someone else.
  37. Slow us down when we need to.
  38. Can hasten change.
  39. Reveal our blind spots.
  40. Are the invisible made visible.

Reframe Reality to Handle Mistakes More Easily

The secret to handling mistakes is to:

  • Expect them as part of the process of growth and development.
  • Have an experimental mindset.
  • Think in evolutional rather than fixed terms.

When we accept change as the natural structure of the world, our vulnerability and humanness lets us work with the ebb and flow of life.

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When we recognize the inevitability of mistakes as part of the ongoing experiment which life is, then we can relax more. In doing so we may make fewer of them.

It also helps to keep in mind that trial and error is an organic natural way of living. It is how we have evolved over time. It is better to be with our natural evolution than to fight it and make life harder.

When we adopt an evolutional mindset and see ourselves as part of the ongoing human experiment, we can appreciate that all that has been built up over time which includes the many mistakes our ancestors have made over thousands of years. Each one of us today is a part of that human tradition of learning and experimenting,

Mistakes are part of the trial and error, experimental nature of life. The more you adopt the experimental, evolutional frame, the easier it becomes to handle mistakes.

Handling mistakes well can help you relax and enjoy all aspects of life more.

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