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Why People Who Create Bucket Lists Achieve More In Life

Why People Who Create Bucket Lists Achieve More In Life

No matter who you are, there is probably something you really really want. Some experience, achievement, or monumental moment that has eluded you up until now.

Your dreams can be converted to reality and a bucket list is one of the ways to help you achieve whatever it is you’ve always wanted. A bucket list is an incredible mental tool to keep your dreams alive as achievements are far more likely.

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Having a vision for your life is perhaps the greatest tool that you can utilize in order to get what you want. What you give is a little bit of your time, what you receive is something extraordinary. Even before you get to live out your dream that you’ve set on your bucket list, your life will change. You’ll be working towards a goal and knowing that it will happen, which brings new excitement and vigor every day. So what are you waiting for?

How A Bucket List Changes The Way You Think

The moment you put your pencil to paper or start typing what you want to achieve, you’re already changing the way you think. You are mentally putting your intentions out there. Chances are, you’ll start to feel excited about the possibility of having or experiencing things you’ve always wanted.

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Knowing what you want and writing it down is the catalyst for great things to come. It will begin to pop into your head at random times of the day as you envision your bucket list and all the dreams that it holds. If you put the list somewhere that you will see it every day, it’s a daily reminder of something great to come.

The bucket list itself embodies what psychologists have learned when it comes to setting goals. Goals motivate you to accomplish things, and a bucket list asks you to be specific about what you want. Psychologists say that being specific about your goals makes you more motivated. A bucket list can be considered to be the critical first step in achieving goals.

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Short Term And Long Term Bucket List Goals

To test out how a bucket list can help you achieve things in life, you may want to start small. When you add small things to your list and see them come to fruition, you become even more inspired. Your belief in the positive effect of your bucket list is huge for achieving those bigger aspirations.

For example, couples that start a bucket list together might create their ideal monthly “super date.” Maybe their date is a romantic dinner at an expensive restaurant or maybe it’s skydiving for two. It brings them closer as they figure out what they would love to do. They start saving or invite friends and family to contribute to their bucket list dream. Sites specifically designed for bucket list experiences make it possible for loved ones to contribute to one’s true passions in life. Experiences you thought weren’t possible because they’re costly are easier than you may think. If your family and friends knew what you had on your bucket list, they could contribute to your dreams on your birthday or at Christmas.

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Developing Your Bucket List

Your bucket list should make life exciting even before you get to live out your dreams. If you know what you want and write it down, you’re a quarter of the way there. If you make it a habit to look at the list and take action with small steps, you have one foot in the door already. If you’re not sure where to start, do an internet search for bucket list tools. Don’t forget that a bucket list is just the beginning when it comes to reaching your goals. Taking action to reach your accomplishments is the second half of your journey.

  • Find a medium to start your bucket list. An online facility or a small pocket book allows you to jot down your dreams as they arise.
  • Really think about what you want. Where do you want to travel? What have you always wanted to see? What monumental thing have you always wanted to accomplish?
  • When you’re building your list, don’t think about what would impress others. This is a common mistake people make while creating their bucket lists. What makes you feel excited? What are you really passionate about? These dreams are yours and the catalog of choice is endless.
  • There are a variety of tools online to assist you, such as various apps and websites. Some platforms allow you to post your bucket list for the public so you can get support from others.

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Last Updated on September 17, 2018

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

7 Signs of an Unhappy Relationship That Makes You Feel Stuck

Relationships are complicated and when you’re unhappy, it can be difficult to tell what’s causing it and what needs to change.

Sometimes it’s as easy as opening up to your partner about your problems, while other times it may be necessary to switch partners or roll solo to get your mind straight.

When you’re in the thick of things, it can be difficult to tell if you’re unhappy in your relationship or just unhappy in general (in which case, a relationship may be just the cure you need).

Here’re signs of an unhappy relationship that is possibly making you feel stuck:

1. You’re depressed about your home life.

No matter what you do in life, you’re going to have good and bad days. Your relationship is no different.

However, no matter what you’re going through at home, you have to feel comfortable in your own home.

If you constantly dread going home because your significant other is there, there’s a problem. Maybe it’s something you already know about, everyone has an argument or just needs some alone time.

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When that yearning to be alone becomes an insatiable obsession over the course of months and years, it’s time to realize you’re not the exception to the rule.

You’re unhappy in your relationship, and you need to take a look in the mirror and do whatever it takes to make yourself smile.

2. You aren’t comfortable being yourself.

Remember all those things you discovered about yourself when you first got together? The way your partner made you feel when you met that made you fall in love with him or her in the first place.

If they don’t make you feel that way anymore, it’s not the end of the world. If your partner makes you uncomfortable about being you, then her or she is only dragging you down. It’s up to you to decide how to handle that.

You need to be comfortable with who you are. This means being comfortable in your skin and with the way you walk, talk, look, breath, move, and all the other things that make you uniquely you.

If the person who supposedly loves you doesn’t make you feel good about yourself, know that you can do better. They’re not even one in a billion.

3. You can’t stop snooping.

Mutual trust is necessary in any relationship. The only way to get that trust is with respect.

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I can find you anywhere online, no matter how private and secure you think you are. The odds of you having a password I can’t crack are slim. If we’ve met in person, I could install a remote key logger on your device without even touching it.

Finding your information online hardly takes a clandestine organization. Any idiot with a Wi-Fi-enabled device can cyberstalk you. I’m just the only idiot in the village admitting it.

So now that we know everyone snoops, it’s time to address your personal habits. Governments snoop because they don’t trust us. If you’re snooping on your partner, it’s because you don’t trust them.

It’s ok to have doubts, and it’s perfectly normal to look into anything that looks weird, but keep in mind that data collection is only half of an investigation.

If you find yourself constantly snooping and questioning everything, clearly there’s a trust issue and the relationship likely needs to end.

4. You’re afraid of commitment.

If you’ve been dating longer than a year and you aren’t engaged, it’s never going to happen.

Commitment is important. People will come up with a million ways to describe why they can’t be committed.

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No matter who you are if you like it, you need to put a ring on it. Find an engagement ring, stick a gemstone in it and marry the person. If you’re not legally able to get married or you don’t believe in it for one reason or another, have a child (or adopt one, however you’re able to) or treat your partner’s family like your own. It’s a huge financial and mental commitment.

If you’re not ready for one or the other after some time, don’t waste anymore of your precious life on the relationship.

Your relationship should be something that propels you forward. If it’s not going anywhere, make it an open relationship and call it what it is—dating multiple people.

5. You imagine a happier life without your partner.

If all you’re doing is imagining a happier life without your partner, it’s a sign that you’re in the wrong relationship. You’re unhappy and you need to get out.

Your partner should be included in your dreams. There’s nothing wrong with wanting a future with someone.

Try to remember what you dreamed of before you got your heart broken by the realities of life, love and the pursuit of human success.

Remember when you would crush on that cute kid in class? You would secretly imagine marrying him or her and going on an adventure—that’s the way life should be.

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If you’re not at least imagining adventures together, then why are you in that relationship?

6. You resent, rather than love your partner.

When a relationship starts to crumble, you begin to resent your partner for all the things you once loved about him or her.

When you’ve reached this point, your partner has reached at least No. 2 on this list. From your partner’s perspective, your unhappiness with them is picked up as bashing them for being who they are.

If you’re both unhappy in the relationship, it’s better if it ends as quickly and painlessly as possible.

7. You chase past feelings.

It’s okay to reminisce about the past, but if all you do is wish things were like they used to be, it’s a sign you’re not on the right path.

You’re unhappy and, at the very least, you need to have an open dialogue about it. This isn’t necessarily a sign that the relationship should end, but it definitely needs a spark.

When you talk to your partner candidly about what it is you’re looking for, you never know how they’ll react. The risk alone is worth it, good or bad.

Final thoughts

If you’re feeling stuck in your current relationship, it’s time to reflect about it with your partner. Don’t ignore these signs of an unhappy relationship as they will slowly go worse and harm both you and your partner in long-term.

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