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Why People Who Create Bucket Lists Achieve More In Life

Why People Who Create Bucket Lists Achieve More In Life

No matter who you are, there is probably something you really really want. Some experience, achievement, or monumental moment that has eluded you up until now.

Your dreams can be converted to reality and a bucket list is one of the ways to help you achieve whatever it is you’ve always wanted. A bucket list is an incredible mental tool to keep your dreams alive as achievements are far more likely.

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Having a vision for your life is perhaps the greatest tool that you can utilize in order to get what you want. What you give is a little bit of your time, what you receive is something extraordinary. Even before you get to live out your dream that you’ve set on your bucket list, your life will change. You’ll be working towards a goal and knowing that it will happen, which brings new excitement and vigor every day. So what are you waiting for?

How A Bucket List Changes The Way You Think

The moment you put your pencil to paper or start typing what you want to achieve, you’re already changing the way you think. You are mentally putting your intentions out there. Chances are, you’ll start to feel excited about the possibility of having or experiencing things you’ve always wanted.

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Knowing what you want and writing it down is the catalyst for great things to come. It will begin to pop into your head at random times of the day as you envision your bucket list and all the dreams that it holds. If you put the list somewhere that you will see it every day, it’s a daily reminder of something great to come.

The bucket list itself embodies what psychologists have learned when it comes to setting goals. Goals motivate you to accomplish things, and a bucket list asks you to be specific about what you want. Psychologists say that being specific about your goals makes you more motivated. A bucket list can be considered to be the critical first step in achieving goals.

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Short Term And Long Term Bucket List Goals

To test out how a bucket list can help you achieve things in life, you may want to start small. When you add small things to your list and see them come to fruition, you become even more inspired. Your belief in the positive effect of your bucket list is huge for achieving those bigger aspirations.

For example, couples that start a bucket list together might create their ideal monthly “super date.” Maybe their date is a romantic dinner at an expensive restaurant or maybe it’s skydiving for two. It brings them closer as they figure out what they would love to do. They start saving or invite friends and family to contribute to their bucket list dream. Sites specifically designed for bucket list experiences make it possible for loved ones to contribute to one’s true passions in life. Experiences you thought weren’t possible because they’re costly are easier than you may think. If your family and friends knew what you had on your bucket list, they could contribute to your dreams on your birthday or at Christmas.

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Developing Your Bucket List

Your bucket list should make life exciting even before you get to live out your dreams. If you know what you want and write it down, you’re a quarter of the way there. If you make it a habit to look at the list and take action with small steps, you have one foot in the door already. If you’re not sure where to start, do an internet search for bucket list tools. Don’t forget that a bucket list is just the beginning when it comes to reaching your goals. Taking action to reach your accomplishments is the second half of your journey.

  • Find a medium to start your bucket list. An online facility or a small pocket book allows you to jot down your dreams as they arise.
  • Really think about what you want. Where do you want to travel? What have you always wanted to see? What monumental thing have you always wanted to accomplish?
  • When you’re building your list, don’t think about what would impress others. This is a common mistake people make while creating their bucket lists. What makes you feel excited? What are you really passionate about? These dreams are yours and the catalog of choice is endless.
  • There are a variety of tools online to assist you, such as various apps and websites. Some platforms allow you to post your bucket list for the public so you can get support from others.

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The Gentle Art of Saying No

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No!

It’s a simple fact that you can never be productive if you take on too many commitments — you simply spread yourself too thin and will not be able to get anything done, at least not well or on time.

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But requests for your time are coming in all the time — through phone, email, IM or in person. To stay productive, and minimize stress, you have to learn the Gentle Art of Saying No — an art that many people have problems with.

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What’s so hard about saying no? Well, to start with, it can hurt, anger or disappoint the person you’re saying “no” to, and that’s not usually a fun task. Second, if you hope to work with that person in the future, you’ll want to continue to have a good relationship with that person, and saying “no” in the wrong way can jeopardize that.

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But it doesn’t have to be difficult or hard on your relationship. Here are the Top 10 tips for learning the Gentle Art of Saying No:

  1. Value your time. Know your commitments, and how valuable your precious time is. Then, when someone asks you to dedicate some of your time to a new commitment, you’ll know that you simply cannot do it. And tell them that: “I just can’t right now … my plate is overloaded as it is.”
  2. Know your priorities. Even if you do have some extra time (which for many of us is rare), is this new commitment really the way you want to spend that time? For myself, I know that more commitments means less time with my wife and kids, who are more important to me than anything.
  3. Practice saying no. Practice makes perfect. Saying “no” as often as you can is a great way to get better at it and more comfortable with saying the word. And sometimes, repeating the word is the only way to get a message through to extremely persistent people. When they keep insisting, just keep saying no. Eventually, they’ll get the message.
  4. Don’t apologize. A common way to start out is “I’m sorry but …” as people think that it sounds more polite. While politeness is important, apologizing just makes it sound weaker. You need to be firm, and unapologetic about guarding your time.
  5. Stop being nice. Again, it’s important to be polite, but being nice by saying yes all the time only hurts you. When you make it easy for people to grab your time (or money), they will continue to do it. But if you erect a wall, they will look for easier targets. Show them that your time is well guarded by being firm and turning down as many requests (that are not on your top priority list) as possible.
  6. Say no to your boss. Sometimes we feel that we have to say yes to our boss — they’re our boss, right? And if we say “no” then we look like we can’t handle the work — at least, that’s the common reasoning. But in fact, it’s the opposite — explain to your boss that by taking on too many commitments, you are weakening your productivity and jeopardizing your existing commitments. If your boss insists that you take on the project, go over your project or task list and ask him/her to re-prioritize, explaining that there’s only so much you can take on at one time.
  7. Pre-empting. It’s often much easier to pre-empt requests than to say “no” to them after the request has been made. If you know that requests are likely to be made, perhaps in a meeting, just say to everyone as soon as you come into the meeting, “Look guys, just to let you know, my week is booked full with some urgent projects and I won’t be able to take on any new requests.”
  8. Get back to you. Instead of providing an answer then and there, it’s often better to tell the person you’ll give their request some thought and get back to them. This will allow you to give it some consideration, and check your commitments and priorities. Then, if you can’t take on the request, simply tell them: “After giving this some thought, and checking my commitments, I won’t be able to accommodate the request at this time.” At least you gave it some consideration.
  9. Maybe later. If this is an option that you’d like to keep open, instead of just shutting the door on the person, it’s often better to just say, “This sounds like an interesting opportunity, but I just don’t have the time at the moment. Perhaps you could check back with me in [give a time frame].” Next time, when they check back with you, you might have some free time on your hands.
  10. It’s not you, it’s me. This classic dating rejection can work in other situations. Don’t be insincere about it, though. Often the person or project is a good one, but it’s just not right for you, at least not at this time. Simply say so — you can compliment the idea, the project, the person, the organization … but say that it’s not the right fit, or it’s not what you’re looking for at this time. Only say this if it’s true — people can sense insincerity.

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