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Why People Who Create Bucket Lists Achieve More In Life

Why People Who Create Bucket Lists Achieve More In Life

No matter who you are, there is probably something you really really want. Some experience, achievement, or monumental moment that has eluded you up until now.

Your dreams can be converted to reality and a bucket list is one of the ways to help you achieve whatever it is you’ve always wanted. A bucket list is an incredible mental tool to keep your dreams alive as achievements are far more likely.

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Having a vision for your life is perhaps the greatest tool that you can utilize in order to get what you want. What you give is a little bit of your time, what you receive is something extraordinary. Even before you get to live out your dream that you’ve set on your bucket list, your life will change. You’ll be working towards a goal and knowing that it will happen, which brings new excitement and vigor every day. So what are you waiting for?

How A Bucket List Changes The Way You Think

The moment you put your pencil to paper or start typing what you want to achieve, you’re already changing the way you think. You are mentally putting your intentions out there. Chances are, you’ll start to feel excited about the possibility of having or experiencing things you’ve always wanted.

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Knowing what you want and writing it down is the catalyst for great things to come. It will begin to pop into your head at random times of the day as you envision your bucket list and all the dreams that it holds. If you put the list somewhere that you will see it every day, it’s a daily reminder of something great to come.

The bucket list itself embodies what psychologists have learned when it comes to setting goals. Goals motivate you to accomplish things, and a bucket list asks you to be specific about what you want. Psychologists say that being specific about your goals makes you more motivated. A bucket list can be considered to be the critical first step in achieving goals.

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Short Term And Long Term Bucket List Goals

To test out how a bucket list can help you achieve things in life, you may want to start small. When you add small things to your list and see them come to fruition, you become even more inspired. Your belief in the positive effect of your bucket list is huge for achieving those bigger aspirations.

For example, couples that start a bucket list together might create their ideal monthly “super date.” Maybe their date is a romantic dinner at an expensive restaurant or maybe it’s skydiving for two. It brings them closer as they figure out what they would love to do. They start saving or invite friends and family to contribute to their bucket list dream. Sites specifically designed for bucket list experiences make it possible for loved ones to contribute to one’s true passions in life. Experiences you thought weren’t possible because they’re costly are easier than you may think. If your family and friends knew what you had on your bucket list, they could contribute to your dreams on your birthday or at Christmas.

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Developing Your Bucket List

Your bucket list should make life exciting even before you get to live out your dreams. If you know what you want and write it down, you’re a quarter of the way there. If you make it a habit to look at the list and take action with small steps, you have one foot in the door already. If you’re not sure where to start, do an internet search for bucket list tools. Don’t forget that a bucket list is just the beginning when it comes to reaching your goals. Taking action to reach your accomplishments is the second half of your journey.

  • Find a medium to start your bucket list. An online facility or a small pocket book allows you to jot down your dreams as they arise.
  • Really think about what you want. Where do you want to travel? What have you always wanted to see? What monumental thing have you always wanted to accomplish?
  • When you’re building your list, don’t think about what would impress others. This is a common mistake people make while creating their bucket lists. What makes you feel excited? What are you really passionate about? These dreams are yours and the catalog of choice is endless.
  • There are a variety of tools online to assist you, such as various apps and websites. Some platforms allow you to post your bucket list for the public so you can get support from others.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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