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Don’t like your job? Here are some solutions.

Don’t like your job? Here are some solutions.

Don’t like your job? Here are some possible solutions that could help you find more satisfaction and fulfillment in your work days.

1. Feeling stressed out and overwhelmed at work, with little control over your work duties? Start by decreasing your stress outside of work.

If you feel overwhelmed with your job and there’s not an easy, quick solution to decreasing your stress at work, start working on decreasing your stress outside of work. Start making the daily tasks in your personal life more efficient, so you can spend more time doing things you really enjoy.

Get rid of the unimportant, time-sucking activities that aren’t adding value to your life. Use the time you save to do something that brings you joy. Set goals in your personal life and design a very fulfilling personal life.

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2. Feeling like you’re not making a difference? Discover your natural strengths and passions.

The book Strengths Finder 2.0 by Tom Rath can help you discover your strengths. Learn about your strengths and seek ways in your current job to maximize these strengths. When you capitalize on your innate strengths, you can make a big impact.

If you’re working in a career field that doesn’t align with your innate strengths, create ways in your job to use your strengths. If you are an achiever, volunteer to lead a new project or initiative. If positivity is one of your core strengths, spread that positive outlook around!

Along with developing a strong understanding of your strengths, it’s helpful to discover your passions. If you’re not sure what you’re passionate about, check out this free workbook to help you find your passion. When you can do work you absolutely love, your career becomes much more fulfilling and Monday mornings can actually be awesome.

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3. Struggling to find meaning in your career? Seek connection.

If your work feels meaningless, create meaning in your work by finding ways to feel connected. Connect with your coworkers. Connect with a cause your employer donates to. Connect with your clients.

When you create connection, it can increase your sense of purpose for your career. Connection also makes life much more fulfilling. Create ways to connect with people in your work environment, so your job becomes more to you than just a paycheck.

4. Exhausting work hours? Be open to creative solutions.

If your work hours are exhausting and you want to change that, there are a variety of potential solutions. Could you possibly work from home some days and decrease the constant flow of interruptions that tire you out? Will your boss allow you to work 4 day weeks instead of 5, so you could decrease your time spent commuting? Are you willing to decrease luxuries in your personal life to be able to decrease your hours at work and accept a salary cut?

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Being flexible and open to creative solutions can help you find a solution to your exhausting work hours.

5. Want to make a different impact on the world than your work allows you to do? Create an exit plan.

If you want to make a different impact on the world than your work allows you to do, remember that you can make someone’s day every day and you can spend each day brightening other people’s lives. Go to work each day with the goal of making someone’s day. Create purpose and impact in your current career.

This above strategies can definitely help you make an impact and make your work life more tolerable and ultimately, but if you are feeling a tugging in your heart to make a different impact on the world than your work allows you to do, start creating your exit plan.

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Determine what actions you’ll need to take to transition into a career you love and start taking those steps. Life is too short to spend your years feeling stifled in a job that doesn’t light you up.

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Last Updated on July 22, 2019

7 Things To Remember When You Feel Broken Inside

7 Things To Remember When You Feel Broken Inside

I have been broken many times in my life. I have had life deliver blows that have knocked me to the ground. The pain and the feelings of hopelessness and despair have consumed my life for many months. I wondered if I would ever survive this, or if I would live a life where I felt happy and safe. Slowly, over time, my life got better and I got stronger.

Now when I look back, I realize that these events, though they were painful at the time, were the catalysts for me to change my life. Now I am living my life doing what I love – writing, speaking and coaching.

For us to live our lives to the fullest, the only way we can achieve this is by overcoming the challenges that life throws at us. We have to experience the pain, the betrayal, the adversity, the feelings of hopelessness and the despair in life, because how else do we learn about who we are?

There is no other way for us to learn how to be resilient, courageous, hopeful and optimistic about life and our future.

Though we do not like it, everyone feels broken at some point in their life journey. Often when we find ourselves at this place of despair, we do not know what to do and so we can end up living our life through our fear, regret, pain, disillusionment and sadness. This is not the way our lives are meant to be lived.

When you are feeling broken inside, remember these 7 things as they will help you discover your courage and build your resilience so that you can step out and embrace the joy of living a life you love.

1. Remember to Accept and Anticipate Change

“It is not the most intellectual of the species that survives; it is not the strongest that survives; but the species that survives is the one that is able best to adapt and adjust to the changing environment in which it finds itself.”  — Dr Leon C. Megginson

In today’s world of constant change, it is hard to hold on to who you are and manage the complexity and unpredictability of life. The one constant thing in our lives today is change.

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Instead of fighting the inevitability of change, learn how to accept it. Embrace change and know that by doing this your life can only get better.

Resisting change will fuel the negative energy that keeps you feeling broken and discouraged about life.

2. Remember to Embrace Your Power Of Choice

“Today I choose life. Every morning when I wake up I can choose joy, happiness, negativity, pain… To feel the freedom that comes from being able to continue to make mistakes and choices – today I choose to feel life, not to deny my humanity but embrace it.” — Kevyn Aucion

Using your power of choice will enable you to change your approach to life from one where you languish in pain to one where you flourish with joy and hope.

Using your power of choice empowers and strengthens your ability to take action and to make decisions.

Your power of choice is a gift that you have within you that if you choose to use, will transform your life.

3. Remember to Ask For Help

“Asking for help does not mean that we are weak or incompetent. It usually indicates an advanced level of honesty and intelligence.”  Anne Wilson Schaef

Asking for help is not a sign of weakness. When we are feeling so broken inside, we want to hide away from the world. Sometimes, it is because we feel embarrassed, or we believe that people won’t understand what we are going through.

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The support, advice and encouragement from others helps us to overcome adversity and solve problems in our life.

It is the energy and wisdom from friends, family and supporters that fuels our courage and our desire to take action to change our lives for the better.

4. Remember to Be Present

“Yesterday is gone. Tomorrow has not yet come. We have only today. Let us begin.” — Mother Teresa

Your thoughts fuel how you feel about your life. When you feel broken in your life, it will be your negative thoughts that dictate your feelings of sadness, disillusionment and unhappiness. When you feel joy and happiness, your positive thoughts of hope and self belief will support more of these feelings.

The key to managing your negative thoughts is to practice trying to distance yourself from these thoughts and observe them rather than react automatically to them.

Identify those thoughts that will draw you in and create confusion and inertia within you. Accept that these thoughts do not serve you well and work towards having more control over them.

Label the type of thought you are having rather than paying attention to its content. Observe your thoughts and if you notice a thought that is judging (how good or bad the situation is), label it “judging”.

If you are criticizing yourself for doing something wrong, then label that thought “criticizing”. Then, ask yourself how long you want to spend criticizing and blaming yourself. My suggestion is that you spend zero time doing this activity.

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5. Remember to Focus on What Brings You Joy

“Find a place inside where there’s joy, and the joy will burn out the pain” — Joseph Campbell

When you are feeling despair, frustration and hopelessness, it is easy to forget the good things that are happening in your life. In fact, if you are consumed by negativity, you will start to believe that there is nothing good in your life.

Focusing on what in your life is good and what brings you joy is an important step to you changing your life. The more you focus on the good in your life, the more hopeful you become.

Positivity and hope are contagious and the more you celebrate this, the better you will feel about your life.

6. Remember to Be Hopeful about Your Future

“The best thing about the future is that it comes only one day at a time” — Abraham Lincoln

It is understandable that when you feel broken in life, you can become consumed by the concern that this is what your life will be like forever. It is very hard to be hopeful about the future when you feel so much pain and heartache. However, your pain and heartache will not heal you and deep down inside, you want to be healed – you just don’t know how.

For me, when I felt  broken in my life, the one thing that helped me on my journey of healing was to try and keep hopeful about my future. It was important for me to keep perspective on the fact that what was happening in my life at the time was not a part of my future life. That tiny bit of hope I had about my future was enough for me to slowly start to heal — step by step.

7. Remember to Accept That Life Is a Mystery

“The mystery of life is not a problem to be solved; it is a reality to be experienced” — Jacobus Johannes Leeuw

Life is a funny thing and the more we fight and resist it, the harder it is to live our life. Accepting and embracing the mystery of life allows us to heal and look at our pain as only one chapter of many chapters in our life.

Life throws us curve balls. It tests us and challenges us. We survive and thrive in life by embracing these challenges so that we can grow and live courageous and resilient lives.

When we feel broken inside, we need to remember that this is part of our journey and that there is no escaping the pain. We just have to work our way through the pain and despair.

Instead of fighting and questioning life and blaming yourself for how you feel, take a deep breath and remember that life is a mystery. Do not make the moments of despair and unhappiness in your life as foundations for how you will live your life forever.

Your role in life is to embrace it – the good the bad and the ugly and to live your life to its fullest – so go live it!

“Ester asked why people are sad. “That’s simple,” says the old man. “They are the prisoners of their personal history. Everyone believes that the main aim in life is to follow a plan. They never ask if that plan is theirs or if it was created by another person. They accumulate experiences, memories, things, other people’s ideas, and it is more than they can possibly cope with. And that is why they forget their dreams.”  – Paul Coelho, The Zahir.

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