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6 Questions That Help You Break Out of A Motivational Slump

6 Questions That Help You Break Out of A Motivational Slump

Even the best, most ambitious people find it hard to get things done sometimes. Motivation doesn’t exactly greet us every morning or even make attempts to show up at the front door and ring the bell. Many days can be a struggle to reach goals and meet deadlines. Occasionally, the motivation just isn’t there and we let the “slumpiness” take over our usually powerful and productive selves.

Well, there’s help. The first step to getting out of a slump is to discover why you’re in one, in the first place. To do that, you must ask yourself the right questions. Here are some questions to consider when you’re in a slump:

1. Are you tired?

Many times, when you’re lacking food, exercise, sleep, or proper nutrition, you will feel sick and tired. You need to work, but you can’t do so effectively until you take care of your body on a regular basis. And regular means being consistent.

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You can’t eat healthy for a week and then eat junk for the next three weeks. Your body will respond better to consistent care, than it will to sporadic treatments.

2. Are you in the middle of something?

Some say, beginning a project is the hardest. That may be true for many, but I tend to disagree. Continuing a project for any length of time is the hardest part.

Usually, you’re excited at the start and then there’s a mad dash when you get close to the end. In the middle, is where most of us lose it. It isn’t so much as packing for a trip or arriving at the destination, that concerns most of us; it’s how long the journey in between is, that causes us to quit or never even begin.

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3. What are you focused on?

Focusing on too many projects at once can ruin your motivation. You may think you are, but you’re not an acrobat. At least, I’m not. You only have so much time and so much energy to dedicate to any one thing.

If you focus on one thing and get it done before moving on to the next thing, you will feel better about each task and each one has the potential of being more successful. Multitasking is, quite honestly, a curse.

4. Who are you focused on?

Often, when you don’t know where to start or how to start, it can be a good idea to ask someone else, if they need help. A focus on one’s self can be draining. A focus on the needs of others or on someone else’s project may be just the impetus and fuel you need to refresh yourself and begin working on your own.

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5. Are you procrastinating?

Procrastination will throw you into a slump faster than you think. If you’re dreading something you know you should complete, you’re not really helping yourself by just thinking about it. After the dread is gone, the project will still be there.

If the dread stays around longer than it should, the project will still be there. The only way to “un-dread” yourself is to stop procrastinating and get to work. You will find that once you get into the project, the dread was all for nothing.

6. What is your confidence level?

Usually, when we’re in a slump, our confidence levels are very low. When you lack conviction, you usually don’t know when to move or what direction to move into.

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You’re scared to do anything because this will usually eject you from your comfort zone. The way to raise your level of confidence is to step out and do something. Appreciate your own abilities and believe that you can do the thing you set your mind to.

In the act of overcoming our “slumpiness”, we find ourselves, move past our limits, gain a little more ground each day, and become our own personal heroes.

“As you begin to live according to your own guidance and your own daring everything changes completely.” – Leonard Willoughby

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Last Updated on December 18, 2018

Why Do I Have Bad Luck? 2 Simple Things to Change Your Destiny

Why Do I Have Bad Luck? 2 Simple Things to Change Your Destiny

Are you one of those people who are always suffering setbacks? Does little ever seem to go right for you? Do you sometimes feel that the universe is out to get you? Do you wonder:

Why do I have bad luck? Is bad luck real?

A couple of months ago, I met up with an old friend of mine who I hadn’t seen since last year. Over lunch, we talked about all kinds of things, including our careers, relationships and hobbies.

My friend told me his job had become dull and uninteresting to him, and despite applying for promotion – he’d been turned down. His personal life wasn’t great either, as he told me that he’d recently separated from his long-term girlfriend.

When I asked him why things had seemingly gone wrong at home and work, he paused for a moment, and then replied:

“I’m having a run of bad luck.”

I was surprised by his response as I’d never thought of him as someone who thought that luck controlled his life. He always appeared to be someone who knew what he wanted – and went after it with gusto.

He told me he did believe in bad luck because of everything happened to me.

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It was at this point, that I shared my opinion on luck and destiny:

While chance events certainly occur, they are purely random in nature. In other words, good luck and bad luck don’t exist in the way that people believe. And more importantly, even if random negative events do come along, our perspective and reaction can turn them into positive things.

Your luck is no worse—and no better—than anyone else’s. It just feels that way. Better still, there are two simple things you can do which will reverse your feelings of being unlucky and change your luck.

1. Stop believing that what happens in life is out of your control.

Stop believing that what happens in your life is down to the vagaries of luck, destiny, supernatural forces, malevolent other people, or anything else outside yourself.

Psychologists call this “external locus of control.” It’s a kind of fatalism, where people believe that they can do little or nothing personally to change their lives.

Because of this, they either merely hope for the best, focus on trying to change their luck by various kinds of superstition, or submit passively to whatever comes—while complaining that it doesn’t match their hopes.

Most successful people take the opposite view. They have “internal locus of control.” They believe that what happens in their life is nearly all down to them; and that even when chance events occur, what is important is not the event itself, but how you respond to it.

This makes them pro-active, engaged, ready to try new things, and keen to find the means to change whatever in their lives they don’t like.

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They aren’t fatalistic and they don’t blame bad luck for what isn’t right in their world. They look for a way to make things better.

Are they luckier than the others? Of course not.

Luck is random—that’s what chance means—so they are just as likely to suffer setbacks as anyone else.

What’s different is their response. When things go wrong, they quickly look for ways to put them right. They don’t whine, pity themselves, or complain about “bad luck.” They try to learn from what happened to avoid or correct it next time and get on with living their life as best they can. They have this Motivation Engine, which most people lack, to keep them going.

No one is habitually luckier or unluckier than anyone else. It may seem so, over the short term (Random events often come in groups, just as random numbers often lie close together for several instances—which is why gamblers tend to see patterns where none exist).

When you take a longer perspective, random chance is just . . . random. Yet those who feel that they are less lucky, typically pay far more attention to short-term instances of bad luck, convincing themselves of the correctness of their belief.

Your locus of control isn’t genetic. You learned it somehow. If it isn’t working for you, change it.

2. Remember that whatever you pay attention to grows in your mind.

If you focus on what’s going wrong in your life—especially if you see it as “bad luck” you can do nothing about—it will seem blacker and more malevolent.

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In a short time, you’ll become so convinced that everything is against you that you’ll notice more and more instances where this appears to be true. As a result, you will drown yourself in negative energy and almost certainly stop trying, convinced that nothing you can do will improve your prospects.

Not long ago, a reader (I’ll call her Kelly) has shared with me about how frustrated she felt and how unlucky she was. Kelly’s an aspiring entrepreneur. She had been trying to find investors to invest in her project. It hadn’t been going well as she was always rejected by the potential investors. And at her most stressful time, her boyfriend broke up with her. And the day after her breakup, she missed an important opportunity to meet an interested investor. She was about to give up because she felt that she’d not be lucky enough to build her business successfully.

It definitely wasn’t an easy time for her. She was stressful and tired. But it wasn’t bad luck that was playing the role.

Fatalism feeds on itself until people become passive “victims” of life’s blows. The “losers” in life are those who are convinced they will fail before they start anything; sure that their “bad luck” will ruin any prospects of success.

They rarely notice that the true reasons for their failure are ignorance, laziness, lack of skill, lack of forethought, or just plain foolishness—all of which they could do something to correct, if only they would stop blaming other people or “bad luck” for their personal deficiencies.

Your attention is under your control. Send it where you want it to go. Starve the negative thoughts until they die.

I explained to Kelly that to improve her fortune and have “good luck”, first decide that what happens is nearly always down to her; then try to focus on what works and what turns out well, not the bad stuff.

Then Kelly tried to review her current situation objectively. She realized that she only needed a short break for herself — from work and her just broken-up relationship. She really needed some time to clear up her mind before moving on with her work and life. When she got her emotions settled down from her heartbreak, she started to work on improving her business’ selling points and looked for new investors that are more suitable.

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A few months later, she told me that she finally found two investors who were really interested in her project and would like to work with her to grow the business. I was really glad that she could take back control of her destiny and achieved what she wanted.

Your “fate” really does depend on the choices that you make. When random events happen, as they always will, do you choose to try to turn them to your advantage or just complain about them?

What’s Next?

Now that you’ve learned the 2 simple things you can do to take control of your fate and create your own luck. But this isn’t it! These simple techniques you’ve learned here are just part of the essential 7 Cornerstone Skills — a skillset that will give you the power to create permanent solutions to big problems in life — any problem in any area of your life!

If you think you’re “suffering from bad luck”, you can really change things up and start life over with these 7 Cornerstone Skills. It may even be a lot easier than you thought:

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Thomas Jefferson is said to have used these words:

“I’m a great believer in luck and I find the harder I work, the more I have of it.”

Your luck, in the end, is pretty much what you choose it to be.

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