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6 Things I Am Too Old For (But That Means I’ve Matured)

6 Things I Am Too Old For (But That Means I’ve Matured)

Getting older is tough. You’re not as energetic and vibrant as you used to be. Your health deteriorates, and sometimes you may even lose your precious hair. But there is another important aspect of aging, and it is that you don’t find time or patience for the things you have done as a younger person, things that you are too old for. Now, it doesn’t necessarily have to be a bad thing. In fact, it can actually be looked at as a good virtue–it means that you have matured.

If you’re experiencing this feeling, rejoice and take pride in it, maturity the result a full life’s learning. It is wisdom. Here are six things that you may feel too old for, but it just means that you’ve matured.

1. Keeping What You Want To Express In Heart

Older, more mature people, simply do not find the patience to bottle up their thoughts when they sense that something was done wrong, or unjustly. Either to them, or to other people around them. Younger people, fearful of stepping out of line of their peers, do not always do the same, unless it is widely acceptable for them to shout out. Yet, older, mature people, do not care for their popularity scale.

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When something is wrong, it needs fixing, plain and simple, even if it means that you’ll have to face some social inconvenience.

2. Worrying How Others Perceive You

If there’s anything that is associated to young people, is the strive to make good impression on others, the need to fit in. You simply cannot act as you’d wish to, always keeping yourself concerned about “what will others think of me?”

This is where growing up and becoming mature shows its virtue. As you grow, you realize that whatever others might think of you, will not really change your everyday life. Especially if those involved are actually complete strangers. It finally befalls on you that walking around down the streets with a stained shirt will not make much of an impact on your life, and most definitely should not shape your everyday behavior.

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One important aspect of being mature is being able to differentiate the crucial from the ridiculous. And to be completely honest, you really don’t have anymore patience to change shirts over a small stain after all of these years.

3. Making Excuses For Your Mistakes

As a young person, every mistake you make seems like the end, and your world swirls and turning upside down the more you think of it. If it was bringing a friend over and finding out that you have unclean laundry dropped down on the floor, or if you loaned something from a friend and you realized that it simply slipped out of your mind to bring it back to him the next time you met. Mistakes, for young people, are devastating. Therefore, they will always find excuses to make up for them, not much for others, but more for themselves, so they’ll be able to sleep peacefully at night.

As you get older, and more mature, you realize that mistakes are simply mistakes. No reason to beat yourself down for them, and no reason to justify them for other. You are human, and you make mistakes, just like everyone. You will try to do better next time, but even if you will not, it’s not like you have done it on purpose.

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4. Spending Time On Anything That Is Not Worth It

It can be a person, an animal, or a thing. It doesn’t really matter. Unlike young people, who are obsessed with enlarging their social circle, and with having many things, older and mature people perceive these things as suitable use of their time. When you keep in touch with people you don’t care for only to increase your number of Facebook friends, or when you accumulate possessions as a result of a constant fear that you might “need them one day”, you are actually throwing away that precious little time you have in this world.

Older, more mature people understand this problem, and so they do not bother with people they don’t care about, and possessions they have no sentiment or need for.

5. Guilty Pleasure

Why does the phrase “guilty pleasure” even exists? Why do we need to feel guilty for whatever it is that give us pleasure? Truth is, that it should not, and mature people understand this best. Guilty pleasure comes from the fear of younger people from being percieved as “different” or even “weird”, forgetting that whatever we like best make us special and unique.

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Older and mature people couldn’t care less of what other people might think of their own personal pleasures, and quite frankly, there’s really no reason for them to start.

6. Looking For The Good In Every Person You Know

Well, it’s not like mature people don’t want to look for it, it’s just that they do not care for trying too hard by now. They go by their guts, and take a calculated assumption on whether they’d get along with the other person or not. Young people, on the other hand, are compelled to getting along with different people as part of their never ending social life.

Older people care more dearly about their time, and on whoever they might invest it upon. They don’t want to dig into another person’s life in order to find a shining good in it, they simply have neither the patience, nor the time.

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Last Updated on January 16, 2020

12 Simple Ways to Boost Your Confidence Right Now

12 Simple Ways to Boost Your Confidence Right Now

The way you feel about yourself greatly influences how you live and interact with others. If you are confident about yourself, you tend to see yourself positively and actually enjoy spending time with and around people. You don’t feel self-conscious or awkward around others, and that allows you to live your fullest and happiest life.

However, if you’re drowning in a sea of self-doubt, hesitancy and shyness, you often withdraw and isolate yourself from others and avoid interacting and connecting with people. That anxiety you feel in the pit of your stomach when you are around people is holding you back greatly and it is not good for your emotional health and overall well-being. You need to do something about it if you are low in self-confidence or have friends or family members who are not confident.

“Confidence isn’t walking into a room thinking you’re better than everyone, it’s walking in not having to compare yourself to anyone” – Anonymous

Here are simple, practical tips to boost your confidence right now and make you feel and act your best.

1. Stop labeling yourself as awkward, timid or shy.

When you label yourself as awkward, timid or shy, you sub-consciously tell your mind to act accordingly and psychologically feel inclined to live up to those expectations. Instead of labeling and entertaining negative self-talk, visualize and affirm yourself as confident and strong. Close your eyes for a minute and visualize yourself in different situation as you would like to be.

Be your own cheerleader. Experts believe that positive affirmation and good mental practices like picturing yourself winning or achieving a goal can lead to greater feelings of self-assurance and prepare your brain for success.[1] As the saying goes, “seeing is believing.” Picture yourself as confident and soon enough you will begin to manifest behavior that gives evidence to this new ‘fact.’

2. Recognize that the world is not focused on you (unless, of course, you are Kanye West).

That means you don’t have to be excessively sensitive about who you are or what you are doing (or not doing). You are not on the center stage; there is no need for preoccupation with self and perfectionism. As rap music star Rocko sings, “You just do you and I will do me, aight?”

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Forget about trying to please everyone or being perfect. Trying to be perfect and being a people-pleaser puts too much pressure on you and creates unnecessary anxiety. Besides, people are too preoccupied with their own issues to pay much attention to your every move unless, of course, you are a mega famous, super celebrity like Beyonce or Kanye West.

3. Focus on other people as opposed to yourself.

If you are low on confidence, self-conscious, nervous and shy in social situations, focus your attention on other people and what they are saying or doing instead of focusing on your own awkwardness.

For example, think about what it is that is interesting about the person who’s the centre of the party or the guy or girl you are talking with. Prompt them to talk more about themselves and be genuinely curious and interested in what they say. You will instantly come across as confident and warmhearted.

People generally want to talk about themselves, be heard and understood. They will love it when you’re eager and willing to listen to them and really hear what they have to say.

This habit of focusing more on what you love in others as opposed to what you dislike in yourself will not only help you become more assertive and comfortable in virtually all social situations, but also instantly make you feel great about yourself.

4. Know (and accept) yourself for who you are.

Chinese military general, strategist and philosopher Sun Tzu, author of the internationally acclaimed book The Art of War, said, “Know yourself and you will win all battles.” Even in the battle with lack of confidence, you will need to know yourself to win.

Knowing yourself starts with understanding that people are not all the same, neither are all social situation suitable for everyone. You might not be confident in large gatherings, but you could be bold and confident in one-on-one and small group interactions. We all have our own unique gifts and unique ways of expressing ourselves. Embrace yours!

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Introverts, for example, have a quiet confidence that is, unfortunately, often confused for shyness. They are naturally low key and prefer to spend time alone. However, this natural disposition affords them certain unique gifts, such as an ability to listen better than most people and notice things that others don’t.

Your uniqueness is where your strength and advantage lies. You won’t be comfortable and confident in all situations all the time. Albert Einstein said,

“Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”

5. Crack a smile.

If there is one sure way to instantly boost your confidence, it’s cracking a smile. Christine Clapp, a public speaking expert at The George Washington University, says that flashing those pretty, pearly white teeth will immediately make you appear both confident and composed. But, the effect of smiling is not just external. Studies show that smiling can also help nix feelings of stress and pave the way for a happier and more relaxed you.[2]

Not a bad return for something seemingly so trite, wouldn’t you agree?

6. Break a sweat—with exercise.

Working out is another great way to make yourself feel amazing and confident. Science has shown that exercising increases your endorphins, helps reduce stress, tones your muscles and makes you feel happy and confident.[3]

And hey, all you have to do is take a walk a few times a week and you’ll see the benefits. What seems to matter—as far as your confidence goes—is whether you break a sweat, not how strenuous your session is, which is pretty cool. Start working out now.

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7. Groom yourself.

This might seem mundane, but it’s amazing how much of a difference a shower and shave can have on your confidence and self-image. And when you spritz on a scent, the boost on confidence and self-esteem is incredible. As it turns out, your favorite fragrance does more than make you smell oh-so-nice.

A study found that a fragrance can inspire confidence in men. Interestingly, the study also found that the more a man likes the fragrance, the more confident he might feel. Another study found that 90% of women feel more confident while wearing a scent than those who go fragrance-free.

8. Dress nicely.

Another one that might seem trite, but it works. If you dress nicely, you’ll instantly feel good about yourself and give your confidence a real boost. That is largely because you’ll feel attractive, presentable and sometimes even successful in nice clothes.

While dressing nicely means something different for everyone, it does not necessarily mean wearing $500 designer outfits. It means wearing clothes that are clean, that you are comfortable in and that are nice-looking and presentable, including casual clothes.

9. Do activities you enjoy.

Whether it is reading a book, playing a musical instrument, riding your bicycle or going fishing, do what you really enjoy and what makes you truly happy often. It will boost your self-esteem, soothe your ego and allow you to identify with your gifts and talents. That will in turn bolster your self-belief and grow your confidence exponentially.

You might not become popular for doing what you love, but you might not even want to be popular at all. Being popular doesn’t make you happy; doing what you love does.

10. Prepare for the possibility of rejection / setback.

Late World No. 1 professional tennis player Arthur Ashe said, “One important key to success is self-confidence. A key to self-confidence is preparation.” You need to prepare for the possibility of rejection and setback.

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Why?

Everybody suffers rejection and setback at one point or another. You are not exempted. The question on your mind, therefore, should not be if you will be rejected, but how you will handle rejection when it comes.

Prepare yourself adequately in every situation to minimize the risk and effect of rejection and so that your confidence is not broken. For example, learn public speaking and rehearse what you are going to say beforehand if you have landed a public speaking engagement. That way, you are sure of yourself and confident you have what it takes to hack it. If you are rejected, don’t take it personally.

Rejection and setbacks happen to the best of us. Take it as a learning experience. Learn from your mistakes and move on.

11. Face uncomfortable situations square in the face.

Don’t run away from uncomfortable situations. Running away from people or situations because you feel scared, shy or timid only confirms and reinforces your shyness. Instead, face the situation that makes you uneasy square in the face. For example, go ahead and talk to that person you are afraid to approach, or go straight to the front of your yoga class! What’s the worst that can happen?

Prepare and be ready for any eventuality. The more you face your fears, the more you realize you are stronger than you thought and the more confident you get. This simple, yet admittedly courageous, act makes you unstoppable. You get comfortable being uncomfortable and begin to feel like you can take on the world. And that is the hallmark of someone destined for great things.

12. Sit up straight and walk tall—you are awesome!

Yes, sit up straight and believe you are awesome. Don’t slump in your chair or slouch your shoulders. Experts say the right stance can not only keep your self-esteem and mood lifted, but also lead to more confidence in your own thoughts.[4]

The way to sit is to open up your chest and keep your head level so that you look and feel poised and assured. And when you get up, stand tall and walk like you’re on a mission. People who sit up straight and walk tall are more attractive and instantly feel more confident. Try it now: you’ll feel fierce and confident just by sitting up straight and walking tall.

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