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100 Famous Quotes About Life That Will Inspire You

100 Famous Quotes About Life That Will Inspire You

Looking for inspirations that can enlighten you and keep you moving forward?

Check out these 100 famous quotes about life that are handpicked by Lifehack’s editor.

1. If you want something you never had, you have to do something you’ve never done.

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    2. Ask yourself if what you’re doing today is getting you closer to where you want to be tomorrow.

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      3. She believed she could, so she did.

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        4. I’ll be ok. Just not today.

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          5. Don’t let anyone ever dull your sparkle.

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            6. She is clothed with strength and dignity; She can laugh at the days to come.

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              7. Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.

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                8. I’m very picky with whom I give my energy to. I prefer to reserve my time, intensity and spirit exclusively to those who reflect sincerity.

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                  9. Don’t waste words on people who deserve your silence. Sometimes the most powerful thing you can say is nothing at all.

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                    10. Sometimes you need to step outside, get some air, and remind yourself of who you are and where you want to be.

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                      11. Never apologise for being sensitive or emotional. Let this be a sign that you’ve got a big heart and aren’t afraid to let others see it. Showing your emotions is a sign of strength.

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                        12 . The 3C’s in Life” Choice, Chance, Change. You must make the choice, to take the chance, if you want anything in life to change.

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                          13. Be strong & courageous. Do not be afraid. Do not be discouraged. For the lord your god will be with you wherever you go.

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                            14. In the end, we only regret the chances we didn’t take.

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                              15. One day someone is going to hug you so tight, that all of your broken pieces fit back together.

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                                16. The darkest nights produce the brightest stars

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                                  17. Sometimes the wrong choices bring us to the right places.

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                                    18. You will forever be my always.

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                                      19. Throw me to the wolves and I will return leading the pack.

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                                        20. One of the happiest moments in life is when you find the courage to let go of what you can’t change.

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                                          21. God has placed you where you’re at in this very moment for a reason, remember that and trust he is working everything out!

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                                            22. What ever you decide to do, make sure it makes you happy.

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                                              23. You have to fight through some bad days to earn the best days of your life.

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                                                24. They laugh at me because I’m different; I laugh at them because they’re all the same.

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                                                  25. An arrow can only be shot by pulling it backward. So when life is dragging you back the difficulties, it means that it’s going to launch you into something great. So just focus, and keep aiming.

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                                                    26. Better than I was, more than I am. And all of this happened, by taking your hand.

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                                                      27. I smile like an idiot when I think about you.

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                                                        28. Someone who really loves you sees what a mess you can be, how you can be, how moody you can get, how hard you are to handle, but still wants you.

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                                                          29. I keep o much pain inside myself. I grasp my anger and loneliness and hold it in my chest, It has changed me into something I never meant to be. It has transformed me in a person I do not recognise; but I don’t know how to let it go.

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                                                            30. Positive mind. Positive vibes. Positive life.

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                                                              31. The things you take for granted someone else is praying.

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                                                                32. By the way, I’m wearing the smile you gave me.

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                                                                  33. Stop waiting for Friday, for summer, for someone to fall in love with you, for life. Happiness is achieved when you stop waiting for it and make the most of the moment you are in now.

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                                                                    34. You are free to choose, but you are not free from the consequence of your choice.

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                                                                      35. A girl’s favorite songs will tell you more about how she feels than her lips ever will.

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                                                                        36. It was rather beautiful: the way he put her insecurities to sleep. The way he dove into her eyes and starved all the fears and tasted all the dreams she kept coiled beneath her bones.

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                                                                          37. Sometimes you meet a person and you just click — you’re comfortable with them, like you’ve known them you whole life, and you don’t have to pretend to be anyone or anything.

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                                                                            38. A.S.A.P always say a prayer

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                                                                              39. I knew who I was this morning but I’ve changed a few times since then.

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                                                                                40. Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.

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                                                                                  41. Sometimes you just need to distance yourself from people. If they care, they’ll notice. If they don’t you know where you stand.

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                                                                                    42. She acts like summer & walks like rain.

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                                                                                      43. The moment you feel like you have to prove your worth to someone is the moment to absolutely and utterly walk away.

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                                                                                        44. If you know me you know that …

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                                                                                          45. When it rains look for Rainbows. When it’s dark look for Stars.

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                                                                                            46. Sometimes the smallest things take up the most room in your heart.

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                                                                                              47. When you’re happy you enjoy the music. When you’re sad you understand the lyrics.

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                                                                                                48. Don’t tell me what they said about me, tell me why they were so comfortable to say it around you.

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                                                                                                  49. You hate when people see you cry because you want to be that strong girl. At the same time, though, you hate how nobody notices how torn apart and broken you are.

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                                                                                                    50. You can never cross the ocean unless you have the courage to lose sight of the shore.

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                                                                                                      51. Fear not, …

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                                                                                                        52. Great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, small minds discuss people.

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                                                                                                          53. Why is Monday so far from Friday, and Friday so near to Monday?

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                                                                                                            54. A serious girl, when she finds someone who clams her spirit and quiets her busy thoughts, will love you so fiercely, it will defy even her own logic and reasoning.

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                                                                                                              55. Keep clam and think of the beach.

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                                                                                                                56. Stay humble, work hard, be kind.

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                                                                                                                  57. Just a brunette and a blonde with an unbreakable bond. Best friends forever.

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                                                                                                                    58. Do what you can with what you have where you are.

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                                                                                                                      59. Be a Girl with a mind, a Woman with attitude, and a Lady with class.

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                                                                                                                        60. Collect Moments Not Things.

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                                                                                                                          61. Every morning you have two choices: continue to sleep with your dreams or wake up and chase them.

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                                                                                                                            62. Don’t cry over the past, it’s gone. Don’t stress about the future, it hasn’t arrived. I live in the present and make it beautiful.

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                                                                                                                              63. Don’t give up now.

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                                                                                                                                64. And I’d choose you; in a hundred lifetimes in a hundred worlds, in any version of reality, I’d find you and I’d choose you.

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                                                                                                                                  65. Live in such a way that if someone spoke badly of you no one would believe it.

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                                                                                                                                    66. Good music doesn’t expiration date.

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                                                                                                                                      67. I’m stronger because I had to be, I’m smarter because of my mistakes, happier because of the sadness I’ve know, and now wiser because I learned.

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                                                                                                                                        68. Never apologize for having high standards. People who really want to be in your life will rise up to meet them.

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                                                                                                                                          69. Whenever you find yourself doubting how for you can go, just remember how far you have come. Remember everything you have faced, all the battles you have won, and all the fears you have overcome.

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                                                                                                                                            70. Why wish upon a star? When You can pray to the one who created it.

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                                                                                                                                              71. Someday, everything will make perfect sense. so for now, laugh at the confusion, smile through the tears, and keep reminding yourself that everything happens for a reason.

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                                                                                                                                                72. When someone else’s happiness is your happiness that is love.

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                                                                                                                                                  73. She’s standing on a line between giving up & seeing how much more she can take.

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                                                                                                                                                    74. Having a soft heart in a cruel world is courage, not weakness.

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                                                                                                                                                      75. In Our Home…

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                                                                                                                                                        76. How lucky I am to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard.

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                                                                                                                                                          77. Don’t worry when I fight with you, worry when I stop because it means there’s nothing left for us to fight for.

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                                                                                                                                                            78. Your mind is a powerful thing. When You fill it with positive thoughts, your life will start to change.

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                                                                                                                                                              79. You only miss the sun when it starts to snow, only know you love her when you let her go.

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                                                                                                                                                                80. I will walk by faith even when I can not see.

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                                                                                                                                                                  81. Quiet people have the loudest minds.

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                                                                                                                                                                    82. To live will be an awfully big adventure.

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                                                                                                                                                                      83. One of the hardest things to do in life, is letting go of what you thought was real.

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                                                                                                                                                                        84. It is only with the heart that one can see rightly. What is essential is invisible to the eye.

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                                                                                                                                                                          85. If you’re brave enough to say goodbye, life will reward you with a new hello.

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                                                                                                                                                                            86. The mot memorable people in life will be the friends who loved you when you weren’t very lovable.

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                                                                                                                                                                              86. If he makes you laugh. Kiss your forehead. Says he’s sorry. Makes an effort. Holds you hand. Works Hard. Attempts to understand you. then, believe it or not, he’s quite perfect.

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                                                                                                                                                                                88. When something goes wrong in your life, just yell “Plot twist!” and move on

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                                                                                                                                                                                  89. Let your faith be bigger than your fear.

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                                                                                                                                                                                    90. When god gives you a “No”, give him a “Thank you”. He was protecting you from less than his best.

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                                                                                                                                                                                      91. The most confused we ever get is when we try to convince our heads of something our hearts know is a lie.

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                                                                                                                                                                                        92. Time decides who you meet in life, your heart decides who you want in your life, and your behaviour decide who stays in your life.

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                                                                                                                                                                                          93. I love you past the moon and the stars, the planets, and the sun wrapped around everything times twenty million, bajillion times infinity! That’s how much I love you.

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                                                                                                                                                                                            94. I want to show him that he has not been loved before. I want him to feel with one kiss, how I can make love to his soul for eternity.

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                                                                                                                                                                                              95. You are my sun, my moon, and all of my stars.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                96. The true mark of maturity is when somebody hurts you and you try to understand their situation instead of trying to hurt them back.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                  97. I own no explanations for my flaws. I don’t have to justify my mistakes, my past, or my insecurities. I am growing and learning. Let me live.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                    98. The struggle you’re in today is developing the strength you need for tomorrow.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                      99. Only those who care about you can hear you when you’re quiet.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                        100. Apologising doesn’t always mean you’re wrong and the other person is right. It means you values relationship more than your ego.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                          101. It’s os amazing when someone comes to your life expecting nothing our of it but suddenly there right in front of you is everything you ever need.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                            102. Be who you are not who the world wants you to be.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                              103. We either make ourselves miserable or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                104. As I look back on my life, I realise that every time I thought I was being rejected from something good, I was actually being re-directed to something better.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                  105. Delight yourself in the Lord & he will live you the desires of your heart.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                    106. Sometimes when things are falling apart they may actually be falling into place.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                      107. The moment when you do a Math problem and your answer isn’t even one of the choices.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                        108. To love a person is to see all of their magic and to remind them of it when they have forgotten.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                          109. It’s hard not to fall in love with someone when they see the mixed up parts of your soul. When they understand the darkest and dustiest corners of your minds. When it’s four a.m. and they call because they know you’re not asleep.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                            110. Give it to god and go to sleep.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                              111. The greatest thing a father can do for his daughter is to love her mother.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                112. If you don’t know where you want to go, then it doesn’t matter which path you take.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  113. Some see a weed, some see a wish.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    6 Signs Of A Controlling Person To Be Aware Of

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Some of the most manipulative people are so good at what they do that their words and actions can convince you into thinking they truly care about what’s best for you when in reality, it’s quite the opposite. The most common signs of a controlling person are rarely obvious to outside observers. And for someone enmeshed in a controlling relationship or friendship, it can be incredibly challenging to stay away from this toxic person, even if you’re aware of their emotionally abusive tendencies.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    While it’s ultimately up to you to decide whether to preserve or leave a lopsided, unfulfilling relationship, it’s nevertheless critical to understand the following six signs of controlling people so you can better advocate for yourself and mitigate the influence of their manipulative tendencies in your own life.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    1. They Push Their Own Personal Agenda

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Do you know someone who always tries to micromanage the words, behaviors, and attitudes of people around them? Does this person act like they have the right to know anything they want about you, including your location, what you’re doing in a given moment, who you’re talking to online, or any other private information about you? And when planning events and special occasions, does this person dominate conversations, steer plans in their own preferred directions, disparage others’ suggestions, and refuse to collaborate with anyone who might disagree with them?

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    If you answered “yes” to some of the above questions, then those are clear signs of a controlling person whom you absolutely need to be cautious around. Controlling people are reluctant to even consider alternative ideas, let alone enthusiastically work with people who have differing views. They prefer to be the captain of every ship—regardless of how much or how little an issue personally impacts them—and they have an arsenal of manipulative tactics to deploy if someone stands in the way of them achieving their own personal agendas.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    In long-term relationships with controlling people, you may feel constantly pressured to meet their demands, follow their schedule, and focus on whatever they feel is most important. It’s not an exaggeration to say that these people act like the universe revolves around them, which can be exhausting to deal with for their family members, friends, and colleagues.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    2. They Make Everything Transactional

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Controlling people aren’t always self-centered, but they’re not too empathetic either. Empathy for them tends to appear in the form of strategic concessions they use as a means to get what they want. They typically view interpersonal relationships as transactional opportunities to extract more value from people surrounding them, which can have a draining effect on those they interact with.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    For example, one sign of a controlling person may be their insistence on “keeping score.” This can involve doing nice things for you with the ulterior motive of demanding something from you at a later date in exchange for what you thought was just an act of kindness or a friendly support.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Perhaps they shower you in praise (also known as “love-bombing”) or gifts then blow up at you if you don’t intuitively know they’re expecting something back from you. None of us are mind-readers, but controlling people behave as though everyone else should think and act like they want others to and those who fall out of line are punished for failing to meet their impossible expectations.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    A controlling person may also threaten to withhold support if you don’t adhere to their demands, but they do so in such subtle ways that the guilt they impose blinds you from the unreasonable nature of their behaviors.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Some statements to be wary of include:

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    • “I did ___________ for you. What do you mean you can’t do ___________ for me?”
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    • “Remember how I helped you with ___________? That took a lot of time and energy from me, but I guess you didn’t appreciate my help.”
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    • “I always give you ___________. Don’t you care about my needs too?”
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    • “You’re so selfish!” or “You don’t care about me at all!” (gaslighting if you respond with hesitation or politely decline their request for help for perfectly valid reasons, such as not having enough time or resources to assist them)

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    3. They Criticize Everything

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    One of the most common telltale signs of a controlling person is their capacity to criticize anything and everything, even small things that seemingly don’t matter. As with many toxic traits in relationships, these problems typically start out so small that you may not even notice. At first, you may even agree with their criticism or at least be able to understand their perspective when they bring up an issue.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    However, the criticism tends to get more intense, more constant, and more perplexing for people who maintain relationships with controlling people. You’ll likely notice how they rarely seem to criticize something they do. It’s almost always other-oriented and these types of people are so manipulative that any rationale they offer can seem plausibly legitimate.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Some warning signs of a controlling person who’s overly critical to the point of abusiveness include:

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    • Criticizing things about you that you have little to no control over (e.g., appearance, disability, family)
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    • Criticizing your personal choices and interests, such as educational pursuits, career, clothing, favorite music, time spent on your hobbies, etc.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    • Punishing you for expressing vulnerability by invalidating thoughts and feelings you share with them
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    • Attacking you whenever you express an opinion counter to theirs

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    4. They Balk When Someone Criticizes Them

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    We all know the adage, “what goes around, comes around.” But this statement doesn’t apply as much to toxic, controlling people. They’d much prefer to dish out criticism without ever having to take it in return.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    For instance, if your friend constantly talks about your appearance with little regard for your emotions but flips out if you make just a single comment about their appearance, there’s a possibility that they could have some hidden controlling tendencies left unchecked. Remember, these people aren’t just controlling in their behaviors towards others. They’re also actively trying to stay in complete control over every aspect of their lives, which includes how others view them.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    This seemingly insatiable desire for control can prompt them to lash out against even the smallest bits of criticism, leaving people around them too weary or scared to speak up again in the future. While it’s possible they may suffer from something called rejection sensitivity dysphoria, this does not excuse them from the consequences of their words and actions. They should seek professional help to better manage their reactions to criticism.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    5. They Socially Isolate You

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Not all controlling people do this, but for manipulative narcissists, socially isolating victims is a go-to strategy for maintaining control because it’s effective at preventing people from truly understanding how toxic their partner, family member, or friend is treating them. Think of it this way—if you don’t talk to many other people in your life, there’s less of a risk that you’ll damage their reputation by revealing their abusive tendencies.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Socially isolating others also gives the person more control over you and your life as it becomes more difficult to break away from them if you don’t have other healthier channels of communication and interpersonal support to turn to.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    This process doesn’t happen overnight, nor is it something you can readily recognize as abusive. At first, it may seem reasonable, such as asking you to stop engaging so often with family members with whom both of you disagree on major social or political issues. As the social isolation progresses, they may suggest cutting people out of your life—especially if they don’t like that person, regardless of how you personally feel—or even conjure up high-stakes problems like “it’s me or them” under the guise of saving you from people in your life whom they don’t like for whatever reason.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    In a controlling person’s life narrative, they’re always the protagonist who’s incapable of any wrongdoing. The blame is always redirected at someone else, whether that’s you or other people in your life. The more they isolate you from other supportive people in your life, the more susceptible you’ll be to falsely believing that they’re right and you “don’t need” your other friends and family when you have someone as perfect as this person.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    6. They’re Emotionally Abusive

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    It’s hard enough to be in control of your own emotions but when someone else is constantly belittling you and your interests or leveraging guilt and shame to manipulate you into saying or doing what they want, this can make it even more challenging to stay in control of your own life and emotional well-being.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Emotional abuse is another sign of a controlling person that is often overlooked in relationships. After all, human personalities vary widely in terms of passivity, and it’s not uncommon for one person in a relationship to be significantly more passive than the other. This becomes an issue when the controlling partner or friend exudes signs of emotional abuse, which can start subtly and become much more pronounced over time.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Concerning signs of emotionally abusive language or behavior to watch out for include:

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    • Dismissing your needs and/or belittling your interests in counterproductive ways
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    • Privately or publicly shaming or humiliating you
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    • Making you feel as though you can never live up to their expectations or do anything right (according to their own vague, subjective standards)
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    • Gaslighting you into thinking they said or did something that never actually happened (making you question your own reality)

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Final Thoughts

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    It’s sometimes hard to see the negative things about someone with whom we have a relationship. We may sometimes unconsciously overlook the signs of a controlling person, especially if that person is someone we have known for a long time or are close to us. However, cutting them off your life is the best thing you can do for yourself. Just watch out for these six signs of a controlling person and take immediate action when you spot them.

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