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Last Updated on March 27, 2018

100 Inspirational Quotes That Summarize The Wisdom About Life

100 Inspirational Quotes That Summarize The Wisdom About Life

1. If you want something you never had, you have to do something you’ve never done.

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    2. Ask yourself if what you’re doing today is getting you closer to where you want to be tomorrow.

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      3. She believed she could, so she did.

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        4. I’ll be ok. Just not today.

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          5. Don’t let anyone ever dull your sparkle.

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            6. She is clothed with strength and dignity; She can laugh at the days to come.

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              7. Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.

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                8. I’m very picky with whom I give my energy to. I prefer to reserve my time, intensity and spirit exclusively to those who reflect sincerity.

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                  9. Don’t waste words on people who deserve your silence. Sometimes the most powerful thing you can say is nothing at all.

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                    10. Sometimes you need to step outside, get some air, and remind yourself of who you are and where you want to be.

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                      11. Never apologise for being sensitive or emotional. Let this be a sign that you’ve got a big heart and aren’t afraid to let others see it. Showing your emotions is a sign of strength.

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                        12 . The 3C’s in Life” Choice, Chance, Change. You must make the choice, to take the chance, if you want anything in life to change.

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                          13. Be strong & courageous. Do not be afraid. Do not be discouraged. For the lord your god will be with you wherever you go.

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                            14. In the end, we only regret the chances we didn’t take.

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                              15. One day someone is going to hug you so tight, that all of your broken pieces fit back together.

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                                16. The darkest nights produce the brightest stars

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                                  17. Sometimes the wrong choices bring us to the right places.

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                                    18. You will forever be my always.

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                                      19. Throw me to the wolves and I will return leading the pack.

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                                        20. One of the happiest moments in life is when you find the courage to let go of what you can’t change.

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                                          21. God has placed you where you’re at in this very moment for a reason, remember that and trust he is working everything out!

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                                            22. What ever you decide to do, make sure it makes you happy.

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                                              23. You have to fight through some bad days to earn the best days of your life.

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                                                24. They laugh at me because I’m different; I laugh at them because they’re all the same.

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                                                  25. An arrow can only be shot by pulling it backward. So when life is dragging you back the difficulties, it means that it’s going to launch you into something great. So just focus, and keep aiming.

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                                                    26. Better than I was, more than I am. And all of this happened, by taking your hand.

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                                                      27. I smile like an idiot when I think about you.

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                                                        28. Someone who really loves you sees what a mess you can be, how you can be, how moody you can get, how hard you are to handle, but still wants you.

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                                                          29. I keep o much pain inside myself. I grasp my anger and loneliness and hold it in my chest, It has changed me into something I never meant to be. It has transformed me in a person I do not recognise; but I don’t know how to let it go.

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                                                            30. Positive mind. Positive vibes. Positive life.

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                                                              31. The things you take for granted someone else is praying.

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                                                                32. By the way, I’m wearing the smile you gave me.

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                                                                  33. Stop waiting for Friday, for summer, for someone to fall in love with you, for life. Happiness is achieved when you stop waiting for it and make the most of the moment you are in now.

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                                                                    34. You are free to choose, but you are not free from the consequence of your choice.

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                                                                      35. A girl’s favorite songs will tell you more about how she feels than her lips ever will.

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                                                                        36. It was rather beautiful: the way he put her insecurities to sleep. The way he dove into her eyes and starved all the fears and tasted all the dreams she kept coiled beneath her bones.

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                                                                          37. Sometimes you meet a person and you just click — you’re comfortable with them, like you’ve known them you whole life, and you don’t have to pretend to be anyone or anything.

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                                                                            38. A.S.A.P always say a prayer

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                                                                              39. I knew who I was this morning but I’ve changed a few times since then.

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                                                                                40. Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.

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                                                                                  41. Sometimes you just need to distance yourself from people. If they care, they’ll notice. If they don’t you know where you stand.

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                                                                                    42. She acts like summer & walks like rain.

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                                                                                      43. The moment you feel like you have to prove your worth to someone is the moment to absolutely and utterly walk away.

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                                                                                        44. If you know me you know that …

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                                                                                          45. When it rains look for Rainbows. When it’s dark look for Stars.

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                                                                                            46. Sometimes the smallest things take up the most room in your heart.

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                                                                                              47. When you’re happy you enjoy the music. When you’re sad you understand the lyrics.

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                                                                                                48. Don’t tell me what they said about me, tell me why they were so comfortable to say it around you.

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                                                                                                  49. You hate when people see you cry because you want to be that strong girl. At the same time, though, you hate how nobody notices how torn apart and broken you are.

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                                                                                                    50. You can never cross the ocean unless you have the courage to lose sight of the shore.

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                                                                                                      51. Fear not, …

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                                                                                                        52. Great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, small minds discuss people.

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                                                                                                          53. Why is Monday so far from Friday, and Friday so near to Monday?

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                                                                                                            54. A serious girl, when she finds someone who clams her spirit and quiets her busy thoughts, will love you so fiercely, it will defy even her own logic and reasoning.

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                                                                                                              55. Keep clam and think of the beach.

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                                                                                                                56. Stay humble, work hard, be kind.

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                                                                                                                  57. Just a brunette and a blonde with an unbreakable bond. Best friends forever.

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                                                                                                                    58. Do what you can with what you have where you are.

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                                                                                                                      59. Be a Girl with a mind, a Woman with attitude, and a Lady with class.

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                                                                                                                        60. Collect Moments Not Things.

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                                                                                                                          61. Every morning you have two choices: continue to sleep with your dreams or wake up and chase them.

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                                                                                                                            62. Don’t cry over the past, it’s gone. Don’t stress about the future, it hasn’t arrived. I live in the present and make it beautiful.

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                                                                                                                              63. Don’t give up now.

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                                                                                                                                64. And I’d choose you; in a hundred lifetimes in a hundred worlds, in any version of reality, I’d find you and I’d choose you.

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                                                                                                                                  65. Live in such a way that if someone spoke badly of you no one would believe it.

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                                                                                                                                    66. Good music doesn’t expiration date.

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                                                                                                                                      67. I’m stronger because I had to be, I’m smarter because of my mistakes, happier because of the sadness I’ve know, and now wiser because I learned.

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                                                                                                                                        68. Never apologize for having high standards. People who really want to be in your life will rise up to meet them.

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                                                                                                                                          69. Whenever you find yourself doubting how for you can go, just remember how far you have come. Remember everything you have faced, all the battles you have won, and all the fears you have overcome.

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                                                                                                                                            70. Why wish upon a star? When You can pray to the one who created it.

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                                                                                                                                              71. Someday, everything will make perfect sense. so for now, laugh at the confusion, smile through the tears, and keep reminding yourself that everything happens for a reason.

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                                                                                                                                                72. When someone else’s happiness is your happiness that is love.

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                                                                                                                                                  73. She’s standing on a line between giving up & seeing how much more she can take.

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                                                                                                                                                    74. Having a soft heart in a cruel world is courage, not weakness.

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                                                                                                                                                      75. In Our Home…

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                                                                                                                                                        76. How lucky I am to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard.

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                                                                                                                                                          77. Don’t worry when I fight with you, worry when I stop because it means there’s nothing left for us to fight for.

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                                                                                                                                                            78. Your mind is a powerful thing. When You fill it with positive thoughts, your life will start to change.

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                                                                                                                                                              79. You only miss the sun when it starts to snow, only know you love her when you let her go.

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                                                                                                                                                                80. I will walk by faith even when I can not see.

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                                                                                                                                                                  81. Quiet people have the loudest minds.

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                                                                                                                                                                    82. To live will be an awfully big adventure.

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                                                                                                                                                                      83. One of the hardest things to do in life, is letting go of what you thought was real.

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                                                                                                                                                                        84. It is only with the heart that one can see rightly. What is essential is invisible to the eye.

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                                                                                                                                                                          85. If you’re brave enough to say goodbye, life will reward you with a new hello.

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                                                                                                                                                                            86. The mot memorable people in life will be the friends who loved you when you weren’t very lovable.

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                                                                                                                                                                              86. If he makes you laugh. Kiss your forehead. Says he’s sorry. Makes an effort. Holds you hand. Works Hard. Attempts to understand you. then, believe it or not, he’s quite perfect.

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                                                                                                                                                                                88. When something goes wrong in your life, just yell “Plot twist!” and move on

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                                                                                                                                                                                  89. Let your faith be bigger than your fear.

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                                                                                                                                                                                    90. When god gives you a “No”, give him a “Thank you”. He was protecting you from less than his best.

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                                                                                                                                                                                      91. The most confused we ever get is when we try to convince our heads of something our hearts know is a lie.

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                                                                                                                                                                                        92. Time decides who you meet in life, your heart decides who you want in your life, and your behaviour decide who stays in your life.

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                                                                                                                                                                                          93. I love you past the moon and the stars, the planets, and the sun wrapped around everything times twenty million, bajillion times infinity! That’s how much I love you.

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                                                                                                                                                                                            94. I want to show him that he has not been loved before. I want him to feel with one kiss, how I can make love to his soul for eternity.

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                                                                                                                                                                                              95. You are my sun, my moon, and all of my stars.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                96. The true mark of maturity is when somebody hurts you and you try to understand their situation instead of trying to hurt them back.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                  97. I own no explanations for my flaws. I don’t have to justify my mistakes, my past, or my insecurities. I am growing and learning. Let me live.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                    98. The struggle you’re in today is developing the strength you need for tomorrow.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                      99. Only those who care about you can hear you when you’re quiet.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                        100. Apologising doesn’t always mean you’re wrong and the other person is right. It means you values relationship more than your ego.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                          101. It’s os amazing when someone comes to your life expecting nothing our of it but suddenly there right in front of you is everything you ever need.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                            102. Be who you are not who the world wants you to be.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                              103. We either make ourselves miserable or we make ourselves strong. The amount of work is the same.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                104. As I look back on my life, I realise that every time I thought I was being rejected from something good, I was actually being re-directed to something better.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                  105. Delight yourself in the Lord & he will live you the desires of your heart.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                    106. Sometimes when things are falling apart they may actually be falling into place.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                      107. The moment when you do a Math problem and your answer isn’t even one of the choices.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                        108. To love a person is to see all of their magic and to remind them of it when they have forgotten.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                          109. It’s hard not to fall in love with someone when they see the mixed up parts of your soul. When they understand the darkest and dustiest corners of your minds. When it’s four a.m. and they call because they know you’re not asleep.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                            110. Give it to god and go to sleep.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                              111. The greatest thing a father can do for his daughter is to love her mother.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                112. If you don’t know where you want to go, then it doesn’t matter which path you take.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  113. Some see a weed, some see a wish.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    How to Overcome Your Irrational Fears (That Stop You from Succeeding)

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    How to Overcome Your Irrational Fears (That Stop You from Succeeding)

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    She could hear her beautiful baby crying but was frozen in the doorway unable to move. The crying got worse and she knew that unless she comforted the infant soon the baby would be inconsolable, and yet her feet wouldn’t move. She didn’t look at the cot but the floor in front, where the venomous hairy monster sat before her…. .okay it was a UK spider so not likely to kill her at all, and yet still her body was frozen as the tears fell down her face. “What a useless mother you are” she berated herself.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    That awful mother was me 14 years ago. My fear of spiders had not been controlled for years and I was at the stage where I wouldn’t open a newspaper until my husband had read it and removed the images of spiders. I hated houses that had wooden floors or skirting boards because every knot in the wood could be a spider about to crawl across me.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    At the height of my fear, I tried to get out of a moving car. Clearly this harmless 8-legged creature had massive levels of power over me but now that fear is gone, I’m never going to love spiders but I’m not going to leave the room because of one and I can read the word without freaking out and sobbing.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    If you think that fear is irrational, what about the fear of going to airports? Or the fear of not asking for help?

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Today I want to look at how our irrational fears impact on us, how they can destroy (and I don’t use that word lightly) our success. They can damage our health and even stop us from living our lives. And then I’ll share the benefits of fighting that fear and most importantly how you can fight your fears too.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    How irrational fears impact your life

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    The thing about irrational fears is that we are not keen to look at them. It makes us feel inadequate, weak and daft because we can’t do things that it seems everyone else can. That gives the fear power.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Fear loves negative emotions and saps up yours making your fear bigger and uglier and even more powerful. Not ideal to say the least. Fears can cause us to:

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    • Avoid situations where that fear may have to be faced. Dodging parties, new jobs, new experiences where we aren’t sure we will be able to protect ourselves.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    • Stop us from sleeping for fear the thing we fear will “get us in the night.” For me this was massive, and I stopped sleeping which had massive implications when my job was to look after a toddler and a baby. I felt half dead most of the time!
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    • Feel ill with the stress. Stress can be the cause of wrong decisions. Drinking alcohol when we shouldn’t, eating chocolate because it makes us feel better, the list of excuses is long that we hold on to so that we can avoid the cause of our stress.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    • Cause more distress as our minds overload us with negative thoughts of inadequacy. This can damage our confidence. Having coached thousands, I know that a lack of confidence is usually the underlining impactor on most people’s success across all areas of their lives.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    • Risk looking aloof or arrogant because we won’t participate like other people. Our fears can even isolate us in our personal and professional lives too.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    • Feel debilitated. Needless to say, these fears may look irrational and shouldn’t exist to the outside world but to the sufferer they are debilitating. Even impacting on their earning potential, love life, hobbies, travels and personal and professional success.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Why bother to fight the fear

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Couldn’t you just ensure you live your life in way that you don’t have to deal with your fear?

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    I had a client that was so scared of flying that they couldn’t even take their partner to the airport, another who had avoided public speaking for over 20 years and yet now at the height of their profession they had no choice, what were they going to do? Quit? There was another who could never ask for help and another who feared people finding out who they really were.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    All these fears and many more can be fixed but only if we can appreciate the benefits of fighting the fear.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Let’s look at the benefits of fighting your fears:

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    If you’re going to change the way you do something, something that has impacted on your life, thoughts and actions for years, it can be hard to believe change is possible.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    The first thing you must do is give yourself a big enough reason why. Go back through your life and remember all the occasions that this fear was there.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    I can still see the spider trapped in my hair because it had obviously been on my hairdryer. I also remember that I probably looked ludicrous in the South of France in my underwear running down the lane screaming and flinging my hair everywhere. The poor spider had not only been flung a long way from my head but was probably destroyed in the flight.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Remember the feelings, the actions, the negative feelings you felt afterwards, for me it meant that every time I picked up a hairdryer I could see a spider crawling towards my ear in my hair. Guess how helpful that was for reinforcing my reactions and irrational fear?

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Really experience the fear. Make it so painful that you probably notice your heart racing, your shoulders drawing up and your breath changing. That fear is causing physical change in your body, doesn’t feel good does it?

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    When the irrational fear is challenged and destroyed, it can’t have power over you. So new opportunities can come your way and instead of fearing them and what people will think of you for your choices, you can be open to;

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    • New hobbies
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    • New travels
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    • New opportunities
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    • More success
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    • Financially more secure
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    • Happier
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    • Healthier
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    • Confident

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    The list is long so what can you do to get rid of your fears?

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    How to fight your irrational fears

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    In my book Fight the Fear: How to Beat Your Negative Mindset and Win in Life, I cover 12 of the biggest fears that I see impact on success and happiness. Not all of these are obvious but they all have far reaching impacts on our lives.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Here are some of those ideas to help you fight your fear and get more of what you want out of life:

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Why did this happen?

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    For some people they really need to know why the fear started, for others all they want is to get rid of it. If you need to understand yours then don’t skip this tip. Learn how your fears are made and appreciate where yours came from. If you don’t care how it arrived, you can jump to top tip 2.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    I’ve seen some clients who are not prepared to look at how to get rid of the fear until they’ve understood how it got here in the first place. It’s not my place to tell them that is right or wrong, just to help them find the right steps to lead them to a happy path.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    When a fear first starts, we don’t acknowledge a fear has entered our lives. It is only after a few occasions that we begin to notice that there’s a strong negative emotion connected to this “thing”. That’s how fear is allowed to grow because as humans we have in-built responses that have kept us safe for our entire existence. This means we are meant to perceive fear and either run or fight, either way our bodies jump into action creating physical responses to the perceived threat.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Look for when you first noticed the fast heart beat, the shallow breathing, the shaking hands, the redness. You have created an automatic way of dealing with this fear. It could be that it felt sensible to fear this because you had an unhappy outcome, although it is usually the case that your head has the facts and your heart is not prepared to hear them as it creates a version of the event that is far scarier than it actually was.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Learning how to remove the emotions and feelings will help you to change your body’s response. The first time I fixed someone’s fear of public speaking, they told me that it physically closed their throat, I worried that was it possible with words to change our physicality? The answer was yes! With the tools and techniques I share below.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    The tool kit

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    From the many people that have contacted me after reading Fight the Fear to my clients, I know for even myself creating a tool kit is a must. This is not a bag that you physically must haul everywhere. This is about learning tools that really resonate with you so that when you can feel the fear start to impact on you, you’ve got your kit ready to take it on.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    I don’t have the space in one article to share all of those tools so let’s visit a few:

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    1. Why I’m awesome

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Creating a 2-page handwritten document of why you are awesome can help. This document will be packed with achievements, successes, overcoming adversity and all of those will be full of positive emotions, actions and feelings. It is not easy to write, and I get many messages telling me so however it is a powerful reminder that you can stand up and accomplish.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    2. Draw out your emotions

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Earlier we looked at how irrational fears can damage every aspect of our lives. If you were to follow the negative spiral down you can follow the positive spiral up again.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    I draw these individually for clients and with each action, thought or feeling we put an arrow between them. Each arrow is an opportunity to do something different. If we know that irrational fear is an automatic thought process, then we can start to see that we need to think, do or feel something different. Top tip 3 will help with that.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    3. Acknowledge that you need to change

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    It’s not easy to change, and that is a belief that many hold. Top tip 4 could assist further, however for this tip, remember that when you want to do, think or feel differently, you’ve already achieved the first step and that is recognizing something must change (you don’t need to know what). But if you aren’t sure yet if there’s really something different you want to do, this story about Nancy may help you to figure it out.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Then it’s about acknowledging it. That means not only accepting it but feeling that it is yours to take on and change.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Then for 2 weeks, decide that you won’t allow the thought to be in your head. There are usually some negative thoughts allowed to fester in your head. At this stage, just say “No I’d like you to stop.” After 2 weeks choose a new thought that you would prefer to hear in your head, maybe “I can cope with situations that scare me” or “I am stronger than I know”.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    There will be times when you fail. Don’t berate yourself because that is another negative thought you are allowing your head to process. Just start again and at times like that have a read of your “Why I’m awesome list”.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    4. Choose your words carefully.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    I’ve heard many clients tell me that “It’s going to be hard to change” “I can’t remember a time in my life where I wasn’t petrified” or “This is a lot to ask”. Any thought that gives power to your fear takes away power from you to fight it. Therefore, choose how you word your goal to overcome your fear carefully.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Think thoughts like “I remember when I achieved xxxx and that reminds me I’m far tougher and more capable than I give myself credit for”. (Take the xxx from your why I’m awesome document.)

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    5. Believe that you have the control power

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    The only person that can control what we think and feel is us. I know it can feel like other people are impacting on us, however they can only do that if we give them permission to do so.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    If you really think about that for a moment, can you see that you have the right to think and feel anything you want right now? I’m certain you wouldn’t choose pain, fear or anxiety. So, what would you choose to think about your fear?

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    6. Put up physical reminders

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Working one to one, I can find the fear, work through it and create a tool kit of thoughts, feelings and actions that will help them fight that fear and get rid of it. For some, they don’t need physical things to help them; others do.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    For example, the CEO who was petrified of public speaking but could handle a conference call with 300 without a second thought, imagined the microphone was a phone when they spoke in front of 400 people to help reinforce the positive thoughts and ideas we’d created.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Or the client that always worried that they were an imposter and “someone else can do this better” pinned on their office wall a tag cloud of all the words that made up their “Why I’m awesome document”.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    So they had a daily reminder. They were the right one for the job and they could do it. These daily reminders all come down to one key point — help you to Hack the Habit Loop.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    What would be your visual clues to remind you that you can overcome this?

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    7. Physical supports

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Music, environment and even smells can impact on us. Know the music that makes you feel alive and ready for anything. Try aromatherapy oils to feel positive and energised. Even choose your work environment or clothing to empower you.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Changing these things is physical and giving yourself physical ideas to action can help power up your emotional state too.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    8. Don’t go it alone

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    The fear to ask for help is very real (and has a whole chapter in my book) so I know people really struggle with this. The fact is we all need people. We are not insular by design and as such it can be tough to admit that you have a fear impacting on you.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    However, by sharing your fear with a trusted friend, colleague or loved one can mean that when you are feeling the fear. you can talk to someone. It could be that you share with them the contents of your tool kit and ask their permission to be added to it. That way they know what works for you and how to best support you.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    It’s not a sign of weakness to tell people about your fear. It takes massive levels of strength to say, “I have this fear, and I want to get rid of it.”

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    9. Get physical

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    One of the reasons that a fear can escalate is because we have come to accept that response. Our body reacted in a certain way, once repeated the behaviour and it became a formed habit that was accepted.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Challenging a fear can be done using our body too when we appreciate that fear is actually a reaction inside our bodies. We don’t need to understand where in our brains or what chemicals are racing through us to use our physicality to help us challenge our fears.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    When I was writing my book, the Cuddy Superhero pose was proved and disproved by various researchers around the world 3 times. Whether it’s real or not, the fact is the way we stand, the way we breathe and even the speed at which we speak can impact on us as well as those around us.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    If you have a fear of public speaking or a fear of people thinking you are stupid or a fear of what people are thinking you can look at how you speak, stand and move. If you compare these with people you deem confident and happy in these situations, how do you look? What can you learn?

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    The research around placebo’s reinforces us that if it feels like it is working, then keep doing it! What could you use to help reinforce your power and fearlessness?

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    A little fear can be good

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    As someone famous once says:

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    “It is not fear, it is performance energy.”

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Despite having an absolute hatred of public speaking 10 years ago, I now love an audience and yet I have a healthy level of fear. That level of fear says “Are you well prepared?” “Do you know your audience?” “Have you rested your voice?” “You really want to deliver to this audience what they need” And those thoughts are sensible.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    And just remember, it’s never ever too late to face your fear and do what you desire most! It’s even possible to start over your life no matter what stage of life you’re at. Here’s the proof:

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    How to Start Over and Reboot Your Life When It Seems Too Late

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    So as you reduce your fear, be aware of a good level of fear.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Featured photo credit: Isaiah Rustad via unsplash.com

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