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Girl With Cancer Sends A Powerful Message That Redefines Beauty

Girl With Cancer Sends A Powerful Message That Redefines Beauty

Within the plethora of Instagram flawless beauties that make ordinary young girls feel even more insecure about their looks, a new kind of princess is taking the world by a storm, not just with her looks, giving us a lesson on beauty — and life for that matter. Her name is Andrea Sierra Salazar and she is a 17-year-old high school student from Texas, a model, and a cancer patient. None of these things defines her as a person. Why? Because she decided so.

The struggle

The diagnosis of stage 2 nodular sclerosis Hodgkin lymphoma came suddenly, causing Andrea’s life to take another turn. With a great support system and encouragement from her mum, Andrea has managed to regain her confidence and continue to pursue a modelling hobby with a fresh perspective on what constitutes beauty.

For centuries, long and full hair has been one of the never-changing symbols of female beauty, causing those not blessed with it to suffer from feeling not good enough and to undergo all sorts of ridiculous treatments in order to reach this must-have standard. Ironically enough, more than serving as a tool for self-acceptance, hair (the longer the better) has been used by young girls as a hideaway of a sort, from the harsh looks and judgment of a false-beauty-standard society.

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And just when you start thinking that the world has gone too far, idealizing impossible-to-reach norms of beauty and causing the majority of young girls start blindly conforming to it, a truly inspiring and beautiful soul comes to the forefront to make us question it all.

a cancer girl redefines beauty

    The defining moment

    The self-realization moment didn’t happen overnight for Andrea. Hair loss affected her confidence greatly, yet she managed to smooth the transition with playful wigs that accompanied each styling and look.

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    “When my hair started to fall out I would look in the mirror and I wouldn’t feel that confident about myself,” Andrea said.

    Luckily for all the young girls out there, being cancer patients or not, Andrea has gradually learned one of the most important life truths that “It’s not only about my outside beauty, it’s about the inside.”

    Her photoshoot without a wig went viral as it revealed something more than just Andrea’s amazing physical beauty — it showed the exceptional magnificence of a human soul to show bravery in not withholding its vulnerability, and that’s where the true beauty begins.

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    a girl with cancer sent a powerful message that redefines beauty

      A new kind of princess

      The reason that this story continues to touch so many hearts all around the world is because it conveys such a powerful message about turning something as ugly as cancer into something as wonderful as helping others to accept and love themselves no matter what. It started as a mission to empower other cancer patients at the hospital she was at to regain their confidence, to now reaching millions of people and truly redefining beautiful.

      “I want them to know that your hair or your physical attributes doesn’t define who you are – what really matters is your inner beauty, the way you treat others, and if you’re a kind person, that shows through.”

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      The powerful message this girl sends goes far beyond redefining the standards of beauty. It speaks of the ability of the soul to transcend all physical obstacles and shine through illusory appearance. She teaches us to not give up on our dreams even when times get rough. A true princess of today, Andrea inspires our looks-obsessed society to look for beauty beyond the exterior, and her story will surely make you think twice the next time you allow your bad hair day to get you down.

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      Last Updated on July 15, 2020

      How to Let Go of Toxic People in Your Life

      How to Let Go of Toxic People in Your Life

      “Entitlement is an expression of conditional love. Nobody is ever entitled to your love. You always have a right to protect your mental, emotional, and physical well-being by removing yourself from toxic people and circumstances.” -Dr. Janice Anderson & Kiersten Anderson

      It’s not always obvious if you have someone toxic in your life. A toxic relationship is one that is harmful to you. A toxic person can create distress to the degree you feel inadequate and isolated. So, what makes a toxic person?

      A toxic person has toxic behavior, meaning it’s not that the whole person is toxic[1]. It’s what they do that counts. Most toxic people run from accountability and misrepresent reality to you. They misrepresent your worth and your ability to heal from them can be stifled the longer you keep them in your life. You have a role to play with it as well; if your values are dismissed by them and you don’t act on it, you have allowed room for toxicity to grow.

      When you are in a toxic relationship, you feel less than. You feel as though you are not worth anyone’s time or effort. You feel unheard, and sometimes you feel unsafe. You don’t feel good about yourself in a toxic relationship, whether it be with a partner, friend, or family member.

      You may stay in a toxic relationship for a number of reasons. You may believe yourself to be a burden, have a lack of boundaries, resist change, fear conflict, try to be a people pleaser, find yourself codependent, or are partially stuck in a pattern or unhealthy cycle of abuse.

      Letting go of toxic people may not be easy. In order to do so, you have to know why or how they are toxic to you and read between the lines that they do not have your best interests in mind.

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      Letting go of toxic people is hard because you are good and want to see the good in others. You think their apologies are authentic. You have trouble believing they are being dishonest. You don’t spend time healing from it. You get pulled back into the pain because you don’t want it to end. However, if you feel like something isn’t right, it probably isn’t right.

      You should walk away from a toxic person because you need to preserve your peace. You need to feel like yourself again. And you need better support.

      Letting go of toxic people can involve four major steps.

      1. Recognize the Red Flags

      Red flags are signs a person is being toxic. It’s when someone shows characteristics that you should feel caution about. It’s when you feel any level of dissatisfaction and distrust. Trust your gut. When you recognize red flags, you can evaluate whether a person is trying to manipulate you or not. This gives you some level of control over what you allow in your life. The earlier you detect these behaviors, the better off you will be.

      Red flags can include:

      • They always put themselves first.
      • They point out imperfections and sabotage your self-esteem.
      • You may feel drained or used when you’re around them.
      • What you give isn’t reciprocated. They don’t return the goodness you provide as a friend.
      • They ignore your boundaries and get angry when you tell them “no.”
      • You catch them in half truths or outright lies when you confront them about anything.
      • You are the villain; they are the victim.
      • Second chances always lead to repeated patterns of behavior.
      • They may engage in abuse.

      2. Set Boundaries

      There are emotional boundaries that one can set, but there are also physical ones[2]. You can leave any time. Setting boundaries is also an important part of self-care.

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      You shouldn’t walk on eggshells. Tell them how you feel. Are they respecting you, fulfilling your needs, and listening to you? If not, it’s time to set up a healthy emotional distance and start letting go of toxic people around you.

      There are levels to this. You have your inner circle, which could include family, and then you have acquaintances and strangers. If a toxic person is in your inner circle, it’s time to pull back and put up some boundaries for them to follow. If they can’t hear you out, you can cut off the connection completely.

      You can give second chances, but you have to be careful. If someone knows they can get away with something, they will do it again. If there’s any chance for the relationship, they have to know not to cross certain lines.

      3. Invest in Yourself

      You deserve to know you are worthwhile. Try to remember that things will get better and that anything is possible. How do you do so? Invest in yourself.

      This means self care, goal setting, surrounding yourself with positive support, and feeling a sense of peace. Your greatest ambition should be to love yourself. Without self-love, letting go of toxic people will be difficult.

      Every relationship is a risk, but if you know yourself and what you will allow, toxic people will have less of a hold over you. If you are a giver or people pleaser, you are most at risk to being in a one-sided relationship. You shouldn’t be punished for caring, but sometimes trust needs to be earned. If you have self-love, you are treating yourself the best way possible. You know that others need to meet your standards; otherwise, they don’t get to be a part of your life.

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      It’s possible that you can love yourself and still not see the signs. It can be difficult for some to be aware that toxic people exist. However,, if you know how much you mean to others in your life and what you are worth, you will be less likely to take on a relationship that is harmful to you or repeat negative patterns. Self-love is how we get out of toxic relationships, but it’s also how they never begin.

      4. Know When Forgiveness Is Possible

      There are times a person will prove their worth to you. They may make a mistake that makes them seem like a horrible person. They may forget to be good to you because of their own issues. They may just have no example of what a healthy relationship looks like. They may have an inflated ego that really comes from insecurity. The list goes on.

      If they apologize, that’s a start. Look at their actions. Are they changing for the better because they really want to change or just seeming to in order to manipulate you? A person may control others with their image or perceived personality, but if you see through them, you may be able to discern the degree to which they are willing to be there for you.

      If they start to do the right thing, you may begin to trust them again. Don’t start forgiving them until time has passed and you are sure there is growth, even if they show vulnerability or remorse. You can give a second chance if they truly have an awakening. Otherwise, it’s best to get out. Don’t let them walk all over you; let them walk out the door.

      If you do give a second change and they still refuse to change, you have every right to remove them and continue the process of letting go of toxic people. The moment you even want to leave may also be a good time to get out. You don’t have to compromise yourself in order to care for them.

      Forgiveness is the release of resentment or anger[3]. Forgiveness doesn’t mean reconciliation. You have to go back to the same relationship or accept the same harmful behaviors from someone. You don’t have to let them back in. You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do.

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      Remember, forgiveness is ultimately for you, not them. You don’t need that person in your life in order to forgive them, and if you give them a second chance, proceed with caution.

      Final Thoughts

      Recognize the red flags, set boundaries, invest in yourself, and know when forgiveness is possible. This is how you cope with a toxic person impacting your life. You have power in the direction of your life and the people who accompany you as you move forward. Use it.

      If a person is worthwhile, they will prove themselves through their actions, not their words. If they cross certain lines that really harm you, you owe them nothing. You have every right to feel what you feel and to be upset. Honor your feelings and communicate them because it’ll only continue to keep happening if you don’t.

      If this is happening to you, it’s time to put a stop to it. It’s time to take control. It’s time to live for yourself, not for what others say about you. It’s time to set your standards higher than they’ve ever been before. And most of all, it’s time to let go.

      Resource reminder: A physically abusive relationship is ALWAYS toxic. There are resources for you. Always speak up.

      If you are in such a cycle or domestic violence or abuse reach out for help. For example, there is The National Domestic Violence Hotline (https://www.thehotline.org/) which can be reached at 1−800−799−7233. There are other ways to get help if you simply ask for it. 

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