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8 Signs Foretelling You’re Destined To Be Successful

8 Signs Foretelling You’re Destined To Be Successful

It’s rough out there trying to make your mark in the world. At some point or another we come across people, situations, quotes, that inspire us. What we do with that inspiration is up to us. We can either make the choice to be average, or make the choice to become something much, much greater. We often relate success to careers or finances, but it’s much more broad than that. You define what success is to you and these traits show you’re on the right track.

1. You’re action-oriented

You’re one of those people who likes to take on a task and get things done. You’re not afraid to make mistakes along the way because in your eyes, you’d rather get things moving and adjust your approach after seeing some results. You’re a leader, you like to be in charge. Some may look at this as a bad thing, but sometimes with you, it’s an “it’s my way or the highway” kind of deal.

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You may also at times find yourself being mildly stubborn in some situations. You’re the complete opposite of indecisive. You take on leadership roles with ease, and you actually enjoy the responsibility that comes along with it. What is patience? You know little to almost nothing about it. You often find yourself becoming impatient with those around you who aren’t like you.

2. You keep an open mind

One of the most important characteristics of successful people is learning to keep an open mind about literally anything and everything, but you know that already. You notice that the more you learn, you realize how little you know. This mindset allows for you to take advantage of opportunities that present themselves to you. You’re always open to new ideas, new ways of thinking, and you’re constantly challenging your own beliefs.

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3. You have the habit of setting goals

Most think that setting goals means “what do I want five years from now?” But you realize the importance of setting daily, achievable goals. You understand that by sometimes setting long-term goals you can lose your vision, so you establish small daily goals that will help you achieve that vision much easier. You’re a realistic optimist.

4. You aren’t stuck in the past or failure

You know that what’s done is done and you can’t go back and change anything in the past. You use your past as a vital tool for your future. Everything from your past has brought you to the present and you don’t waste any of your time wallowing in the could’ve, should’ve, would’ve beens. You know that by getting stuck in the past you’re robbing yourself of the present and future. You’re completely adaptable and you fully embrace change. You’re comfortable with the unknown and you’re always ready to take it head on.

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5. You can delay gratification

You have an uncanny ability to wait it out for the big reward for all your dedication and hard work. You take a look at what you have and what you want, and you’re able to avoid making impulsive decisions. For example, if someone told you that you could have one cookie now, or you could wait 20 minutes and receive two cookies, you’re smart enough to wait it out and reap the larger reward.

Delayed gratification truly applies to all aspects of life. Whether it be with your career, finances, relationships, health, etc. You have acquired the ability to ignore the temptations of instant gratification because you know that it is an essential element when you’re trying to reach your ultimate goal.

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6. You work on maximizing your strengths

“Successful people maximize their strengths and minimize their weaknesses. They know what they are good at.” – Alan Stein

You use your strengths as your foundation to success. You rely on the skills in which you are proficient and use them to do what you love. You’re fully aware of your weaknesses and look to others for their knowledge and skills in areas in which you lack. You know that you can’t do everything on your own so reaching out to others for assistance when needed isn’t a difficult task for you. You use your strengths as your prime resource to reach your goals.

7. You’re ambitious

You can clearly see yourself being the best of the best. You wake up every day ready to tackle anything and everything thrown your way. Why? Because you know in the long run it’s going to help you achieve your end goal. You know that it isn’t just about working longs hours and seeing a journey to its end. Ambition is truly the reason for existence. It’s your soul telling you where the meaning in life is found. You’re extremely persistent and nothing stands in your way.

8. You have passion for improvement

You have this deep desire and craving to always want to improve yourself and often times you can be too hard on yourself. You’re constantly wanting to change and improve so you can become the best version of you. You’re never satisfied and you’re your own worst critic, in every aspect of your life.

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Last Updated on October 21, 2019

How to Be a Good Leader and Lead Effectively

How to Be a Good Leader and Lead Effectively

U.S. Sen. Elizabeth Warren, a contender for the 2020 Democratic nomination, is a reminder of why I am so drawn to leadership as a topic. Whenever I think it is impossible for me to be more impressed with her, she proves me wrong.

Earlier this week, a former marine suggested that he had been in a long-term sexual relationship with the Senator. She flipped the narrative and used the term “Cougar,” a term used to describe older women who date younger men, to reference her alma mater.

Rather than calling the young man a liar, or responding to the accusations in kind, she re-focused the conversation back to her message of college affordability and lifted up that “Cougar” was the mascot for her alma mater. She went on to note that tuition at her school was just $50 per semester when she was a student. Class act.

But by the end of the week, news broke that U.S. Sen. Bernie Sanders, another contender for the presidency, had a heart attack. Warren not only wished Sanders a speedy recovery but her campaign sent a meal to his staff. She knew that the hopes of staff, donors and supporters were with the Senator from Vermont and showed genuine compassion and empathy.

To me, she has proven time and time again that she is more than a presidential candidate: she belongs in a leadership hall of fame.

What makes some people excel as leaders is fascinating. You can read about leadership, research it and talk about it, yet the interest in leadership alone will not make you a better leader.

You will have more information than the average person, but becoming a good leader is lifelong work. It requires experience – and lots of it. Most importantly, it requires observation and a commitment to action. Warren observed what was happening with Sen. Sanders, empathized with his team and then took action. Regardless of the outcome of this election, Sanders’ staff will likely never forget her gesture.

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You would have had to work on a political campaign in order to appreciate the stress and anxiety that comes with it. In this moment, staff may not remember everything that Warren said throughout the lengthy campaign, but they will remember what she did during an unforgettable time during the campaign.

If this model of leadership is appealing, and if you are searching for how to up your own leadership game, read on for six characteristics that good leaders share:

1. Good leaders are devoted to the success of the people around them.

Good leaders are not self-interested. Sure, they want to succeed, but they also want others to succeed.

Good leaders see investing in others just as important as they see investing in themselves. They understand that their success is closely tied to the people around them, and they work to ensure that their peers, employees, friends and family have paths for growth and development.

While the leaders may be the people in the spotlight, they are quick to point to the people around them who helped them (the leaders) enter that spotlight. Their willingness to lift others inspires their colleagues’ and friends’ devotion and loyalty.

2. Good leaders are not overly dependent on others’ approval.

It is important for managers to express their support for their teams; good leaders must be independent of the approval of others. I explained in an article for The Chronicle of Philanthropy, that:[1]

“While a desire to be loved is natural, managers who prioritize approval from subordinates will become ineffective supervisors who may do employees harm. For example, a manager driven by a need for approval may shy away from delivering constructive feedback that could help an employee improve. A manager fearful of upsetting someone may tolerate behavior that degrades the work environment and culture.”

In yet another example, a manager who is dependent on the approval of others may not make decisions that could be deemed unpopular in the short run but necessary in the long run.

Think of the coaches who integrated their sporting teams. Their decision to do so, may have seemed odd, and even wrong, in the moment, but time has proven that those leaders were on the right side of history.

3. Good leaders have the capacity to share the spotlight.

Attention is nice, but it is not the prime motivator for good leaders. Doing a good job is.

For this reason, good leaders are willing to share the spotlight. They aren’t threatened by a lack of attention, and they do not need credit for every accomplishment. They are too focused on their goal and too focused on the urgency of their work.

4. Good leaders are students.

In the same way that human beings are constantly evolving, so too are leaders. As long as you are living, you have the potential to learn. It doesn’t matter how much knowledge you think you have; you can always learn something new.

I have the experience of thinking I was doing everything right as a manager, only to receive conflicting feedback from my team. Perhaps my approach was not working for my team, and I had to be willing to hear their feedback to improve.

Good leaders understand that their secret sauce is their willingness to keep receiving information and keep learning. They aren’t intimidated by what they do not know: As long as they maintain a willingness to keep growing, they believe they can overcome any obstacle they face.

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As both masters and students, good leaders read, listen and study to grow. They consume content for information, not just entertainment purposes. They aren’t impressed with their knowledge; they are impressed with the learning journey.

5. Good leaders view vulnerability as a superpower.

It means “replacing ‘professional distance and cool,’ with uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure,” said Emma Sappala in a Dec. 11, 2014, article, “What Bosses Gain by being Vulnerable” for Harvard Business Journal.[2] She went on to note the importance of human connection, which she asserts is often missing at work.

“As leaders and employees, we are often taught to keep a distance and project a certain image. An image of confidence, competence and authority. We may disclose our vulnerability to a spouse or close friend behind closed doors at night but we would never show it elsewhere during the day, let alone at work.”

This rings so true for me as a woman leader. I was raised believing that any show of emotion in the workplace could be used against me. I was raised believing that it was best for women leaders to be stoic and to “never let ‘em see you sweat.” This may have prevented me from connecting with employees and colleagues on a deeper, more personal level.

6. Good leaders understand themselves.

I am a huge fan of life coach and spiritual teacher Iyanla Vanzant. In addition to her hit show on the OWN network, Vanzant has authored dozens of books. In her books and teachings, she underscores the importance of knowing ourselves fully. She argues that we must know what makes us tick, what makes us happy and what makes us angry.

Self-awareness enables us to put ourselves in situations where we can thrive, and it also enables us to have compassion when we fall short of the goals and expectations we have for ourselves. Relatedly, understanding ourselves will allow us to know our strength. When we know our strengths, we will be able to put people around us who compliment our strengths and fill the gaps in our leadership.

Final Thoughts

Being a good leader, first and foremost, is an inside job. You must focus on growing as a person regardless of the leadership title that you hold. You cannot take others where you yourself have not been. So focusing on yourself, regardless of your time or where you are in your career will have long term benefits for you and the people around you.

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Further, if you want to become a good leader, you should start by setting the intention to do so. What you focus on grows. If you focus on becoming a better leader, you will research and invest in things that help you to fulfill this intention. You will also view the good and bad leadership experiences as steppingstones that hone your character and help you improve.

After you set the intention, get really clear on what a good leader looks like to you. Each of us has a different understanding of leadership. Is a good leader someone who takes risk? Is a good leader, in your estimation, someone who develops other leaders? Whatever it is, know what you’re shooting for. Once you define what it means to be a good leader, look for people who exemplify your vision. Watch and engage with them if you can.

Finally, understand that becoming a good leader doesn’t happen overnight. You must continually work at improving, investing in yourself and reflecting on what is going well and what you must improve. In this way, every experience is an opportunity to grow and a chance to ask: ‘What is this experience trying to teach me?’ or ‘what action is necessary based on this situation?’

If you are committed to questioning, evaluating and acting, you are that much closer to becoming a better leader.

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Reference

[1] The Chronicle of Philanthropy: Why Good Managers Overcome the Desire to Be Liked
[2] Harvard Business Journal: What Bosses Gain by being Vulnerable

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