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When You Become Quieter, You’ll Hear Much More

When You Become Quieter, You’ll Hear Much More

Now that we have more ways of connecting with others than ever before, our world has become noisier. With the rise of social media, everyone can have a voice and most people seem intent on letting the world know exactly what they think and feel, sometimes on a daily basis.

We live in a noisy world

We are bombarded with media generated by both big corporations and lone individuals. In some respects, the internet has been a major step forward in humanity’s development. We can talk to people in every country on almost any topic imaginable, at any hour of the day or night. Anyone can set up a blog, write articles, and contribute to internet forums.

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This presents great opportunities for learning about the world, and even forming new relationships with people we could never have encountered a couple of decades ago. On the other hand, we are at risk from information overload. As modern life becomes increasingly focused on self-expression, those of us who understand the importance of stillness and silence enjoy distinct advantages.

The power of silence

When you choose to live life at a lower volume, you and others around you start to benefit in unexpected ways. For a start, you feel much calmer when you take a slower, quieter view of life. You feel as though you have nothing to prove to those around you. You don’t feel compelled to let all your friends, family members and colleagues know every detail of your personal life. This relieves any pressure you might feel to conform to others’ standards or try to compete with them. Those who know how to be quiet are also more likely to find inspiration from unlikely sources.

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For example, taking a peaceful walk alone affords you priceless thinking space, which may help you gain more clarity when working through a difficult life problem. Quiet people who have the confidence to reflect before speaking are often perceived as more trustworthy and intelligent, as they give the impression that their thoughts are carefully formulated and not simply the result of knee-jerk reactions.

Listening more and talking less

To embrace the power of quiet means being willing to let others go first in expressing themselves and leading a conversation. When you take a step back and make a conscious decision to listen more than you talk, your whole perspective on relationships and the world in general starts to shift.

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You begin to realize that other people’s’ experiences can teach you a great deal, and that if you had kept the focus on you, you would have missed out on their valuable insights. Listening is a gesture of respect. In giving other people the chance to air their views, you are demonstrating that you hold them in high esteem and that they are worthy of time and attention. In our fast-paced and increasingly competitive world, this may be one of the most valuable gifts you can give. Many people feel stressed, under-appreciated and anxious about trying to live up to various standards imposed upon them by the media and by society at large.

When you offer them a space in which they can share what is on their minds and offer them psychological support, they may well feel respected for the first time in a long while. For this reason, those who know when to remain quiet often enjoy high-quality relationships. They feel secure enough in themselves that they don’t need to talk about their personal lives and opinions. They can allow other people the space to be themselves, and accept that everyone has their own stories to tell.

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Last Updated on February 13, 2019

10 Things Happy People Do Differently

10 Things Happy People Do Differently

Think being happy is something that happens as a result of luck, circumstance, having money, etc.? Think again.

Happiness is a mindset. And if you’re looking to improve your ability to find happiness, then check out these 10 things happy people do differently.

Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions. -Dalai Lama

1. Happy people find balance in their lives.

Folks who are happy have this in common: they’re content with what they have, and don’t waste a whole lot of time worrying and stressing over things they don’t. Unhappy people do the opposite: they spend too much time thinking about what they don’t have. Happy people lead balanced lives. This means they make time for all the things that are important to them, whether it’s family, friends, career, health, religion, etc.

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2. Happy people abide by the golden rule.

You know that saying you heard when you were a kid, “Do unto others as you would have them do to you.” Well, happy people truly embody this principle. They treat others with respect. They’re sensitive to the thoughts and feelings of other people. They’re compassionate. And they get treated this way (most of the time) in return.

3. Happy people don’t sweat the small stuff.

One of the biggest things happy people do differently compared to unhappy people is they let stuff go. Bad things happen to good people sometimes. Happy people realize this, are able to take things in stride, and move on. Unhappy people tend to dwell on minor inconveniences and issues, which can perpetuate feelings of sadness, guilt, resentment, greed, and anger.

4. Happy people take responsibility for their actions.

Happy people aren’t perfect, and they’re well aware of that. When they screw up, they admit it. They recognize their faults and work to improve on them. Unhappy people tend to blame others and always find an excuse why things aren’t going their way. Happy people, on the other hand, live by the mantra:

“There are two types of people in the world: those that do and those that make excuses why they don’t.”

5. Happy people surround themselves with other happy people.

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    One defining characteristic of happy people is they tend to hang out with other happy people. Misery loves company, and unhappy people gravitate toward others who share their negative sentiments. If you’re struggling with a bout of sadness, depression, worry, or anger, spend more time with your happiest friends or family members. Chances are, you’ll find that their positive attitude rubs off on you.

    6. Happy people are honest with themselves and others.

    People who are happy often exhibit the virtues of honesty and trustworthiness. They would rather give you candid feedback, even when the truth hurts, and they expect the same in return. Happy people respect people who give them an honest opinion.

    7. Happy people show signs of happiness.

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      This one may sound obvious but it’s a key differentiator between happy and unhappy people. Think about your happiest friends. Chances are, the mental image you form is of them smiling, laughing, and appearing genuinely happy. On the flip side, those who aren’t happy tend to look the part. Their posture may be slouched and you may perceive a lack of confidence.

      8. Happy people are passionate.

      Another thing happy people have in common is their ability to find their passions in life and pursue those passions to the fullest. Happy people have found what they’re looking for, and they spend their time doing what they love.

      9. Happy people see challenges as opportunities.

      Folks who are happy accept challenges and use them as opportunities to learn and grow. They turn negatives into positives and make the best out of seemingly bad situations. They don’t dwell on things that are out of their control; rather, they seek solutions and creative ways of overcoming obstacles.

      10. Happy people live in the present.

      While unhappy people tend to dwell on the past and worry about the future, happy people live in the moment. They are grateful for “the now” and focus their efforts on living life to the fullest in the present. Their philosophy is:

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      There’s a reason it’s called “the present.” Because life is a gift.

      So if you’d like to bring a little more happiness into your life, think about the 10 principles above and how you can use them to make yourself better.

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