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Let Your Kids Do Some Chores To Help Them Grow More

Let Your Kids Do Some Chores To Help Them Grow More

The word “chores” may make your child cringe, but I implore you not to give up on having them help out around the house. If you don’t enforce chores on your child, they may grow up thinking that they’ll get everything handed to them on a silver platter (which you and I know is not the case).

Before you start thinking that you’re being too hard on your child — because you know that one day they’re going to throw a tantrum and cry to get out of vacuuming the house — understand that in the future they will thank you. Doing chores teaches important skills that your child will need in the future.

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Chores Allow Your Children To Grow

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    Teaching your children to help with chores at a younger age is key. It helps promote development and allows children to show you that they’re capable of fending for themselves when they’re out in the real world. Letting your child help prepare dinner (perhaps by arranging food on a plate or setting the table) will not only teach them fine and gross motor skills, it will leave them feeling accomplished and wanting to continue doing so.

    Imagine the spark in your child’s eye when you invite grandma over for dinner and they say with confidence “I made that for you, grandma.” Showing off is great at times like these — and grandma will think so, too.

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    Chores Teach Children To Work For What They Want

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      When children get accustomed to getting what they want when they want it, they’re less likely to be willing to work for their prized positions. However, when a child grows up hearing “You will be able to watch your show when you’ve dried the dishes off and put them away,” they’ll understand that in order to sit down and relax with a TV show, they need to step up and help a little bit. Although they might not like it, they will get used to this routine and eventually do their chores without being reminded because they’ll know what’s expected of them.

      Chores Teach Responsibility

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        A great way to prepare your child for the real world is teaching them that they won’t always be able to do things they want to do. Teaching them to apply themselves to do work they don’t enjoy helps them realize that some jobs need to be done whether they want to do them or not. No child wants to sweep and mop or clean their room, but all children are capable of handling it.

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        Instead of offering a prize for each chore they complete, you should attempt to make a chore chart. Write out a list of 5-10 chores you want your child to help with each week, and if they’re completed they get a prize. Prizes can range anywhere from going to the park to going to the movies. While offering your child a toy or a ten-dollar bill will seem nice at the time, I suggest offering something you can do with them. Build memories with them so they can carry out the same techniques with their children, and so on.

        Chores Promotes More Active Behavior

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          Children are more likely to engage in activities that promote movement and development such as gardening, putting away groceries, sweeping, mopping, and dusting. In the book The Well Balanced Child: Movement and Early Learning, it is said that movement-based tasks are linked to brain development and improved reading and writing. Plus, what kid doesn’t want to hear that “Using your muscles to carry in groceries will help you look more like Superman!”?

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          Published on January 30, 2019

          How to Support a Working Mother as a Working Father

          How to Support a Working Mother as a Working Father

          In roughly 60 percent of two-parent households with children under the age of 18, both parents work full time. But who takes time off work when the kids are sick in your house? And if you are a manager, how do you react when a man says he needs time to take his baby to the pediatrician?

          The sad truth is, the default in many companies and families is to value the man’s work over the woman’s—even when there is no significant difference in their professional obligations or compensation. This translates into stereotypes in the workplace that women are the primary caregivers, which can negatively impact women’s success on the job and their upward mobility.

          According to a Pew Research Center analysis of long-term time-use data (1965–2011), fathers in dual-income couples devote significantly less time than mothers do to child care.[1] Dads are doing more than twice as much housework as they used to (from an average of about four hours per week to about 10 hours), but there is still a significant imbalance.

          This is not just an issue between spouses; it’s a workplace culture issue. In many offices, it is still taboo for dads to openly express that they have family obligations that need their attention. In contrast, the assumption that moms will be on the front lines of any family crisis is one that runs deep.

          Consider an example from my company. A few years back, one of our team members joined us for an off-site meeting soon after returning from maternity leave. Not even two hours into her trip, her husband called to say that the baby had been crying nonstop. While there was little our colleague could practically do to help with the situation, this call was clearly unsettling, and the result was that her attention was divided for the rest of an important business dinner.

          This was her first night away since the baby’s birth, and I know that her spouse had already been on several business trips before this event. Yet, I doubt she called him during his conferences to ask child-care questions. Like so many moms everywhere, she was expected to figure things out on her own.

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          The numbers show that this story is far from the exception. In another Pew survey, 47 percent of dual-income parents agreed that the moms take on more of the work when a child gets sick.[2] In addition, 39 percent of working mothers said they had taken a significant amount of time off from work to care for their child compared to just 24 percent of working fathers. Mothers are also more likely than fathers (27 percent to 10 percent) to say they had quit their job at some point for family reasons.

          Before any amazing stay-at-home-dads post an angry rebuttal comment, I want to be very clear that I am not judging how families choose to divide and conquer their personal and professional responsibilities; that’s 100 percent their prerogative. Rather, I am taking aim at the culture of inequity that persists even when spouses have similar or identical professional responsibilities. This is an important issue for all of us because we are leaving untapped business and human potential on the table.

          What’s more, I think my fellow men can do a lot about this. For those out there who still privately think that being a good dad just means helping out mom, it’s time to man up. Stop expecting working partners—who have similar professional responsibilities—to bear the majority of the child-care responsibilities as well.

          Consider these ways to support your working spouse:

          1. Have higher expectations for yourself as a father; you are a parent, not a babysitter.

          Know who your pediatrician is and how to reach him or her. Have a back-up plan for transportation and emergency coverage.

          Don’t simply expect your partner to manage all these invisible tasks on her own. Parenting takes effort and preparation for the unexpected.

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          As in other areas of life, the way to build confidence is to learn by doing. Moms aren’t born knowing how to do this stuff any more than dads are.

          2. Treat your partner the way you’d want to be treated.

          I can’t tell you the number of times I’ve heard a man on a business trip say to his wife on a call something to the effect of, “I am in the middle of a meeting. What do you want me to do about it?”

          However, when the tables are turned, men often make that same call at the first sign of trouble.

          Distractions like this make it difficult to focus and engage with work, which perpetuates the stereotype that working moms aren’t sufficiently committed.

          When you’re in charge of the kids, do what she would do: Figure it out.

          3. When you need to take care of your kids, don’t make an excuse that revolves around your partner’s availability.

          This implies that the children are her first priority and your second.

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          I admit I have been guilty in the past of telling clients, “I have the kids today because my wife had something she could not move.” What I should have said was, “I’m taking care of my kids today.”

          Why is it so hard for men to admit they have personal responsibilities? Remember that you are setting an example for your sons and daughters, and do the right thing.

          4. As a manager, be supportive of both your male and female colleagues when unexpected situations arise at home.

          No one likes or wants disruptions, but life happens, and everyone will face a day when the troubling phone call comes from his sitter, her school nurse, or even elderly parents.

          Accommodating personal needs is not a sign of weakness as a leader. Employees will be more likely to do great work if they know that you care about their personal obligations and family—and show them that you care about your own.

          5. Don’t keep score or track time.

          At home, it’s juvenile to get into debates about who last changed a diaper or did the dishes; everyone needs to contribute, but the big picture is what matters. Is everyone healthy and getting enough sleep? Are you enjoying each other’s company?

          In business, too, avoid the trap of punching a clock. The focus should be on outcomes and performance rather than effort and inputs. That’s the way to maintain momentum toward overall goals.

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          The Bottom Line

          To be clear, I recognize that a great many working dads are doing a terrific job both on the home front and in their professional lives. My concern is that these standouts often aren’t visible to their colleagues; they intentionally or inadvertently let their work as parents fly under the radar. Dads need to be open and honest about family responsibilities to change perceptions in the workplace.

          The question “How do you balance it all?” should not be something that’s just asked of women. Frankly, no one can answer that question. Juggling a career and parental responsibilities is tough. At times, really tough.

          But it’s something that more parents should be doing together, as a team. This can be a real bonus for the couple relationship as well, because nothing gets in the way of good partnership faster than feelings of inequity.

          On the plus side, I can tell you that parenting skills really do get better with practice—and that’s great for people of both sexes. I think our cultural expectations that women are the “nurturers” and men are the “providers” needs to evolve. Expanding these definitions will open the doors to richer contributions from everyone, because women can and should be both—and so should men.

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