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3 Strategic Statements for Goal Setting and a New life

3 Strategic Statements for Goal Setting and a New life

Are you constantly thinking how to improve yourself, set the correct goals? If you are ready for the new experience that transformed thousands entrepreneurs, to live with yourself peacefully, to accept self and others, read on…

Two sides of the brain impacts the result

“Those who do not believe in magic, never find it” – Roald Dahl

Are you familiar with the brilliant way of S.M.A.R.T goal setting which stands for Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, Time-bound technique. And it works for sure. However, one thing is missing from the right side of our brain for setting a S.M.A.R.T goal. We know that our brain operates on two hemispheres – the left is responsible for logics, rationale while the right handles creativity and visualization. An outcome of goal setting clearly requires the left side of our brain – logical, structural, clear action. On the other side is a dip, the place where the magic happens and can impact the life. This scientifically proven technology helps to connect the right and left side of a brain.

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You can apply the same method to augment your brain connections.

Anticipation raises happiness level

The Neural Recondition Process implemented by John Assaraf, the best selling book author of “The Answer”, has helped numerous entrepreneurs and business owners to raise their behavior, life and business to another level. This process has a set of seven techniques to practice daily. The only one thing that keeps us going forward is the anticipating something. Research has shown that when we are looking forward to something, it can boost our endorphin levels by 27%. Therefore anticipating something is the same as the use of the power of affirmation. A clear, definitive statement declaring something, solidifying ideas of where you want to go or how you want to change is an affirmation forms the basis of  change.

Affirmation is a new To-Be list

An affirmation is a self talk, a conversation with your inner confidence, inner power and inner attraction to convert an idea into a reality. This is a powerful way to build new neural connections in the mind to achieve goals and live the life you want. Affirmations are new declarations to form neural pathways in your subconscious mind, it’s a ‘To- Be’ list. Affirmations tap directly into the right side of the brain. Science proves that our brains need 25-to 30 days to adapt to new information and proceed with it. Simply anticipating something positive can boost your state of happiness and endorphin levels. For example an affirmation “I am confident I will lose 10 pounds and tone my body”, plus adding the image how you feel and look when you reach your goal -sets a mental pattern. You have affirmed what you are looking forward to.

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The 3 strategic statements

The secret of the three strategic statements to a new life and goal setting lies in the structure of affirmation. John Assaraf, author of “The Answer” gives the nuts and bolts:

I am: A statement of who you are.

These are positive affirmations of a real state of being that exists in you. You can achieve a full list of ‘I am’ statements by taking a personal positive inventory of your attributes, strengths, talents and competencies.

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  • For example: I am perfectly healthy in mind, body and spirit.

I can: A statement of your potential.

This is a positive expression of your ability to accomplish goals. It is a statement in your belief in your power to grow, change and help yourself. ‘I can’ statements could be designed after you have a set of goals.

  • For example: I can grow my business and be financially free.

I will: A statement of positive change in your life.

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Positive affirmations of what you want to happen. It is a success prophecy. I will statements are developed after you have set your priorities and goals. Many times the word “will” can be removed to bring the statement to the present.

  • For example: I [will] love and nurture myself better each day.

Putting it into practice

After setting a S.M.A.R.T goal, now is your turn to put the idea into declaration and practice, to connect left and right brain:

  • Write down your statement or affirmation ( “I want to be happy”),
  • Make a mental image (recall the moment of being fully happy, how did that feel, what did you hear, what other emotions were present),
  • Speak out loud to yourself, three times a day (morning, afternoon, evening),
  • Meditate with the affirmations for 7 minutes daily for upcoming 30 days.

Stanford professor BJ Fogg said: “You can never change just one behavior. Our behaviors are interconnected, so when you change one behavior, other behaviors also shift”.

This means when you focus and work towards rewarding goals, you automatically change many behaviors that are holding you back, thus creating a new positive way of life for yourself.

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The Gentle Art of Saying No

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No!

It’s a simple fact that you can never be productive if you take on too many commitments — you simply spread yourself too thin and will not be able to get anything done, at least not well or on time.

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But requests for your time are coming in all the time — through phone, email, IM or in person. To stay productive, and minimize stress, you have to learn the Gentle Art of Saying No — an art that many people have problems with.

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What’s so hard about saying no? Well, to start with, it can hurt, anger or disappoint the person you’re saying “no” to, and that’s not usually a fun task. Second, if you hope to work with that person in the future, you’ll want to continue to have a good relationship with that person, and saying “no” in the wrong way can jeopardize that.

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But it doesn’t have to be difficult or hard on your relationship. Here are the Top 10 tips for learning the Gentle Art of Saying No:

  1. Value your time. Know your commitments, and how valuable your precious time is. Then, when someone asks you to dedicate some of your time to a new commitment, you’ll know that you simply cannot do it. And tell them that: “I just can’t right now … my plate is overloaded as it is.”
  2. Know your priorities. Even if you do have some extra time (which for many of us is rare), is this new commitment really the way you want to spend that time? For myself, I know that more commitments means less time with my wife and kids, who are more important to me than anything.
  3. Practice saying no. Practice makes perfect. Saying “no” as often as you can is a great way to get better at it and more comfortable with saying the word. And sometimes, repeating the word is the only way to get a message through to extremely persistent people. When they keep insisting, just keep saying no. Eventually, they’ll get the message.
  4. Don’t apologize. A common way to start out is “I’m sorry but …” as people think that it sounds more polite. While politeness is important, apologizing just makes it sound weaker. You need to be firm, and unapologetic about guarding your time.
  5. Stop being nice. Again, it’s important to be polite, but being nice by saying yes all the time only hurts you. When you make it easy for people to grab your time (or money), they will continue to do it. But if you erect a wall, they will look for easier targets. Show them that your time is well guarded by being firm and turning down as many requests (that are not on your top priority list) as possible.
  6. Say no to your boss. Sometimes we feel that we have to say yes to our boss — they’re our boss, right? And if we say “no” then we look like we can’t handle the work — at least, that’s the common reasoning. But in fact, it’s the opposite — explain to your boss that by taking on too many commitments, you are weakening your productivity and jeopardizing your existing commitments. If your boss insists that you take on the project, go over your project or task list and ask him/her to re-prioritize, explaining that there’s only so much you can take on at one time.
  7. Pre-empting. It’s often much easier to pre-empt requests than to say “no” to them after the request has been made. If you know that requests are likely to be made, perhaps in a meeting, just say to everyone as soon as you come into the meeting, “Look guys, just to let you know, my week is booked full with some urgent projects and I won’t be able to take on any new requests.”
  8. Get back to you. Instead of providing an answer then and there, it’s often better to tell the person you’ll give their request some thought and get back to them. This will allow you to give it some consideration, and check your commitments and priorities. Then, if you can’t take on the request, simply tell them: “After giving this some thought, and checking my commitments, I won’t be able to accommodate the request at this time.” At least you gave it some consideration.
  9. Maybe later. If this is an option that you’d like to keep open, instead of just shutting the door on the person, it’s often better to just say, “This sounds like an interesting opportunity, but I just don’t have the time at the moment. Perhaps you could check back with me in [give a time frame].” Next time, when they check back with you, you might have some free time on your hands.
  10. It’s not you, it’s me. This classic dating rejection can work in other situations. Don’t be insincere about it, though. Often the person or project is a good one, but it’s just not right for you, at least not at this time. Simply say so — you can compliment the idea, the project, the person, the organization … but say that it’s not the right fit, or it’s not what you’re looking for at this time. Only say this if it’s true — people can sense insincerity.

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