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3 Strategic Statements for Goal Setting and a New life

3 Strategic Statements for Goal Setting and a New life

Are you constantly thinking how to improve yourself, set the correct goals? If you are ready for the new experience that transformed thousands entrepreneurs, to live with yourself peacefully, to accept self and others, read on…

Two sides of the brain impacts the result

“Those who do not believe in magic, never find it” – Roald Dahl

Are you familiar with the brilliant way of S.M.A.R.T goal setting which stands for Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, Time-bound technique. And it works for sure. However, one thing is missing from the right side of our brain for setting a S.M.A.R.T goal. We know that our brain operates on two hemispheres – the left is responsible for logics, rationale while the right handles creativity and visualization. An outcome of goal setting clearly requires the left side of our brain – logical, structural, clear action. On the other side is a dip, the place where the magic happens and can impact the life. This scientifically proven technology helps to connect the right and left side of a brain.

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You can apply the same method to augment your brain connections.

Anticipation raises happiness level

The Neural Recondition Process implemented by John Assaraf, the best selling book author of “The Answer”, has helped numerous entrepreneurs and business owners to raise their behavior, life and business to another level. This process has a set of seven techniques to practice daily. The only one thing that keeps us going forward is the anticipating something. Research has shown that when we are looking forward to something, it can boost our endorphin levels by 27%. Therefore anticipating something is the same as the use of the power of affirmation. A clear, definitive statement declaring something, solidifying ideas of where you want to go or how you want to change is an affirmation forms the basis of  change.

Affirmation is a new To-Be list

An affirmation is a self talk, a conversation with your inner confidence, inner power and inner attraction to convert an idea into a reality. This is a powerful way to build new neural connections in the mind to achieve goals and live the life you want. Affirmations are new declarations to form neural pathways in your subconscious mind, it’s a ‘To- Be’ list. Affirmations tap directly into the right side of the brain. Science proves that our brains need 25-to 30 days to adapt to new information and proceed with it. Simply anticipating something positive can boost your state of happiness and endorphin levels. For example an affirmation “I am confident I will lose 10 pounds and tone my body”, plus adding the image how you feel and look when you reach your goal -sets a mental pattern. You have affirmed what you are looking forward to.

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The 3 strategic statements

The secret of the three strategic statements to a new life and goal setting lies in the structure of affirmation. John Assaraf, author of “The Answer” gives the nuts and bolts:

I am: A statement of who you are.

These are positive affirmations of a real state of being that exists in you. You can achieve a full list of ‘I am’ statements by taking a personal positive inventory of your attributes, strengths, talents and competencies.

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  • For example: I am perfectly healthy in mind, body and spirit.

I can: A statement of your potential.

This is a positive expression of your ability to accomplish goals. It is a statement in your belief in your power to grow, change and help yourself. ‘I can’ statements could be designed after you have a set of goals.

  • For example: I can grow my business and be financially free.

I will: A statement of positive change in your life.

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Positive affirmations of what you want to happen. It is a success prophecy. I will statements are developed after you have set your priorities and goals. Many times the word “will” can be removed to bring the statement to the present.

  • For example: I [will] love and nurture myself better each day.

Putting it into practice

After setting a S.M.A.R.T goal, now is your turn to put the idea into declaration and practice, to connect left and right brain:

  • Write down your statement or affirmation ( “I want to be happy”),
  • Make a mental image (recall the moment of being fully happy, how did that feel, what did you hear, what other emotions were present),
  • Speak out loud to yourself, three times a day (morning, afternoon, evening),
  • Meditate with the affirmations for 7 minutes daily for upcoming 30 days.

Stanford professor BJ Fogg said: “You can never change just one behavior. Our behaviors are interconnected, so when you change one behavior, other behaviors also shift”.

This means when you focus and work towards rewarding goals, you automatically change many behaviors that are holding you back, thus creating a new positive way of life for yourself.

Featured photo credit: Ed Gregory via stokpic.com

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Last Updated on October 17, 2019

How to Spend More Quality Time with Your Partner

How to Spend More Quality Time with Your Partner

You see your partner every single day. They are the first person you talk to in the morning and the last person you kiss goodnight.

But does seeing each other day in and day out equal a healthy relationship? Not necessarily.

Spending quality time with your partner is the best way to ensure your relationship stays healthy and strong. This means going above and beyond sitting together while you watch Netflix or going out for the occasional dinner. You deserve more from your relationship – and so does your spouse!

What does quality time mean? It means spending time with your spouse without interruption. It’s a chance for you to come together and talk. Communication will build emotional intimacy and trust.

Quality time is also about expressing love in a physical way. Not sex, necessarily (but that’s great, too!) but through hand-holding, cuddling, caressing, and tickling. Studies show that these displays of affection will boost partner satisfaction.[1]

So how do you spend quality time with your partner? Here are 13 relationship tips on making the most out of your time with your partner.

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1. Recognize the Signs

If you want a healthy relationship, you have to learn how to recognize the signs that you need to spend more quality time together.

Some telltale signs include:

  • You’re always on your phones.
  • You value friendships or hobbies over quality time with your spouse.
  • You aren’t together during important events.
  • You are arguing more often or lack connection.
  • You don’t make plans or date nights.
  • You’re not happy.

If you are experiencing any of these relationship symptoms, know that quality time together can reverse the negative effects of the signs above.

2. Try New Things Together

Have you ever wanted to learn how to play an instrument or speak another language? How about skydive or ballroom dance?

Instead of viewing these as solo hobbies and interests, why not involve your partner?

Trying new activities together builds healthy relationships because it encourages spouses to rely on one another for emotional and physical support.

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Shared hobbies also promote marital friendship, and the Journal of Happiness Studies found that marital satisfaction was twice as high for couples who viewed each other as best friends.[2]

3. Schedule in Tech-Free Time

Your phone is a great way to listen to music, watch videos, and keep up-to-date with friends and family. But is your phone good for your relationship?

Many couples phone snub, or ‘phub’, one another. Studies show that phubbing can lower relationship satisfaction and increase one’s chances of depression.[3]

Reduce those chances by removing distractions when spending quality time together and showing your partner they have your full attention.

4. Hit the Gym as a Couple

One way you can spend more time together as a couple is by becoming workout partners. Studies show that couples are more likely to stay with their exercise routine if they work out together.[4] Couples also work out harder than they would solo. One study found that 95 percent of couples who work out together maintained weight loss compares to the 66 percent of singles who did.[5]

Join a gym, do at-home couples’ workouts, try couples yoga, hit the hiking trails, or get your bikes out. No matter which way you choose to exercise, these healthy activities can promote a healthy relationship.

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5. Cook Meals Together

Pop open a bottle of wine or put some romantic music on while you get busy – in the kitchen, of course!

One of the best relationship tips for spending quality time together when you both have busy schedules is to cook meals together.[6]

Spice things up and try and prepare a four-course meal or a fancy French dish together. Not only is this a fun way to spend your time together, but it also promotes teamwork.

If all goes well, you’ll have a romantic date night meal at home that you prepared with your four hands. And if the food didn’t turn out the way you’d hoped, you are guaranteed to have a laugh and create new memories together.

6. Have a Regular Date Night

Couples experience a greater sense of happiness and less stress when they are spending quality time together.[7] One of the biggest relationship tips for a healthy partnership is to include a date night in your weekly routine.

The National Marriage Project found that having a weekly date night can make your relationship seem more exciting and helps prevent relationship boredom.[8] It also lowers the probability of divorce, improves your sex life, and increases healthy communication.

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Some great ideas for what to do on your date night include:

  • Have a movie marathon – Gather up your favorite flicks and cuddle up on the couch.
  • Play games together – Cards, board games, video games, and other creative outlets are a fun way to spend quality time together.
  • Recreate your first date – Go back to that restaurant and order the same meal you did when you first got together. You can spice up your evening by pretending you’re strangers meeting for the first time and see how sexy the night gets.
  • Plan a weekend getaway – There’s nothing better than traveling with the one you love.
  • Dinner and a movie – A classic!
  • Try a new restaurant – Make it your mission to rate and try all of the Mexican restaurants/Irish pubs/Italian trattorias in your area.
  • Have a long sex session – Intimacy promotes the release of the oxytocin hormone which is responsible for a myriad of great feelings.[9]

Here’re even more date night ideas for your reference: 50 Unique and Really Fun Date Ideas for Couples

Final Thoughts

The benefits of spending quality time together are endless. Here are just some of the ways it can contribute to a healthy relationship:

  • Improves emotional and physical intimacy
  • Lowers divorce rates
  • Improves communication
  • Reduces marital boredom
  • Bonds couples closer
  • Improves friendship
  • Boosts health
  • Reduces stress

These are all excellent reasons to start making date night a regular part of your week.

It’s easy to have a healthy relationship when you set aside dedicated time to share with your spouse. Try new things together, make your spouse your workout buddy, and look for innovative ways to be close and connected.

These relationship tips will bring great benefits to your marriage.

Featured photo credit: Allen Taylor via unsplash.com

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