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Listening To The Words That Young Voices Speak

Listening To The Words That Young Voices Speak

I was out back in the yard pushing my son on the swing after playing an exhausting game of tag, and I started thinking about the words “less” and “full.” It dawned on me that for many years, those two words governed the way that I had lived my life. I was consumed with the desire and drive for more but unwilling to exchange anything in return. Sadly, it is also the way most folks live their lives today — being full of unimportant personal clutter rather than having less of it.

The spiritual empty

I had taken for granted all the richness in my life by having a narrow focus of what was important. I call it “the spiritual empty.” It is when you know you should be doing something differently but you’re either not sure how, you’re afraid, or you just don’t want to. I had become consumed with the corporate demands of schedules, meetings, running an operation. Deadlines. Money was my focus, and the result was a disregard for family.

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While I was leaving for work one morning, my son asked, “Dad, why do you work all the time? You’re never here.” I was floored. The drive in was the longest half hour of my life. I decided to make a change. I decided to give more and take less.

How could I help this tender 6 year old reach his potential and assist him with enriching his life? I had ideas, yes, but they all scared the hell out of me. I thought, “What am I going to do?”

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Today, in my young son’s eyes, I am the best at being a dad. I play with him, encourage him, teach him. I set the best examples that I know how for him in the situations that we encounter.

The first step

Remember the two words I mentioned at the beginning? What started out slowly and somewhat inconsistently, but has now gained valuable relevance in my life, is when I chose to add the word “thought” in front of both. This simple step could possibly work for you too.

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One brick at a time

I started small, but I realized that being finished with something wasn’t necessarily the end of it. Here’s what I mean.

The majority of our lives are made up of compartments. The trick is to combine them. To gain a rhythm. Leaving your job as I did disrupted that rhythm. I don’t recommend this approach — it is not for everyone. The joy that I have found in doing so, however, is worth more to me than a high salary. Take it slow.

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Maturing into unselfish behavior using this method has been a springboard into becoming more attentive, patient, and, to my surprise, significantly more helpful. The smile in the eyes of my child tells me all that I need to know. The words that are uttered by a little one, however softly, can add a quality to your life that was unthinkable before. Who are the “matter” people in your life? May I suggest gaining the approval of them first by listening, then make your move.

As you are reading this, check those two words. If you’re good, that’s great! If you’re not, then maybe try adding a third like I did.

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Last Updated on September 17, 2019

10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

Positive thinking can lead to a lot of positive change in your life. Developing an optimistic outlook can be good for both your physical and mental health.

But sometimes, certain situations arise in life that makes it hard to keep a positive outlook. Take steps to make positive thinking become more like your second nature and you’ll reap the biggest benefits.

Here are 10 ways to make thinking positive thoughts easy:

1. Spend Time with Positive People

If you surround yourself with constant complainers, their negativity is likely to rub off on you.

Spend time with positive friends and family members to increase the likelihood that their positive thinking habits will become yours too. It’s hard to be negative when everyone around you is so positive.

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2. Take Responsibility for Your Behavior

When you encounter problems and difficulties in life, don’t play the role of the victim. Acknowledge your role in the situation and take responsibility for your behavior.

Accepting responsibility can help you learn from mistakes and prevent you from blaming others unfairly.

3. Contribute to the Community

One of the best ways to feel good about what you have, is to focus on what you have to give.

Volunteer in some manner and give back to the community. Helping others can give you a new outlook on the world and can assist you with positive thinking.

4. Read Positive and Inspirational Materials

Spend time each day reading something that encourages positive thinking. Read the Bible, spiritual material, or inspirational quotes to help you focus on what’s important to you in life. It can be a great way to start and end your day.

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5. Recognize and Replace Negative Thoughts

You won’t be successful at positive thinking if you’re still plagued by frequent negative thoughts. Learn to recognize and replace thoughts that are overly negative. Often, thoughts that include words like “always” and “never” signal that they aren’t true.

If you find yourself thinking something such as, “I always mess everything up,” replace it with something more realistic such as, “Sometimes I make mistakes but I learn from them.”

There’s no need to make your thoughts unrealistically positive, but instead, make them more realistic.

6. Establish and Work Toward Goals

It’s easier to be positive about problems and setbacks when you have goals that you’re working toward. Goals will give you motivation to overcome those obstacles when you encounter problems along the way. Without clear goals, it’s harder to make decisions and gauge your progress.

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Learn to set SMART goals to help you achieve more.

7. Consider the Consequences of Negativity

Spend some time thinking about the consequences of negative thinking. Often, it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

For example, a person who thinks, “I probably won’t get this job interview,” may put less effort into the interview. As a result, he may decrease his chances of getting the job.

Create a list of all the ways negative thinking impacts your life. It likely influences your behavior, your relationships, and your feelings. Then, create a list of the ways in which positive thinking could be beneficial.

8. Offer Compliments to Others

Look for reasons to compliment others. Be genuine in your praise and compliments, but offer it frequently. This will help you look for the good in other people.

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9. Create a Daily Gratitude List

If you start keeping a daily gratitude list, you’ll start noticing exactly how much you have to be thankful for. This can help you focus on the positive in your life instead of thinking about all the bad things that have happened in the day.

Getting in the habit of showing an attitude of gratitude makes positive thinking more of a habit. Here’re 40 Simple Ways To Practice Gratitude.

10. Practice Self-Care

Take good care of yourself and you’ll be more equipped to think positively.

Get plenty of rest and exercise and practice managing your stress well. Taking care of your physical and mental health will provide you with more energy to focus on positive thinking.

Learn about these 30 Self-Care Habits for a Strong and Healthy Mind, Body and Spirit.

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