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Making soul decisions can bring greater joy into your world

Making soul decisions can bring greater joy into your world

Decisions are made from a combination of factors. Doing the “long math” requires careful consideration and if you are no good at math, may I suggest allowing someone else to assist with the calculations.

Have a heart to heart with yourself

I asked myself recently “What story is writing through me?” What is the void in my soul? The precise answer that I am waiting for hasn’t come quickly. The chapters are still unfolding, but no doubt there is a pen moving.

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Don’t assume just because something is difficult that it is not of a greater purpose. The challenges you may face are very real. Many have given up what would have become tremendous accomplishments because of this. How do you discover your purpose? I don’t have the answer to that, I do however have a simple question that may help. It has helped me.

Purpose is difficult, but not impossible to find

Here is the secret. What is important to you? What is your passion? What causes that short stretch of joy that you wish would last much longer? That satisfying natural rush? This complicated question is like stripping off winter clothes in a hurry. Getting through the layers is no easy task. Ask questions that display a greater calm than the person standing next to them. We all know of someone who has an infectious lightheartedness about them.

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When you answer this honestly, I believe that you begin to unpack and discard the values, priorities and traditions of other people. Now you’ve found what matters most. Your own. What can you do to make a difference, to have a real life, feel good, change witnessing difference. For me it is the ineffable joy of putting myself out there for others. The honor of introducing hope to those who may have given up starts with a simple smile.

For you, it may be refinishing furniture, giving your time to a charity, not kicking your mate out of bed for snoring or in my part of the country, building a chicken coop! Whatever it is, everything involves sacrifices. The gut wrenching brown patches in the otherwise green grass kind.

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How’s your turf builder lately?

Dreading your days? Maybe changing direction can help

Rarely have we figured it all out. We learn things as we do them. Listen to your dissatisfaction. It can turn out to be more of a guiding force than you think. Have you become bored, irritable and can’t seem to get out of your own way? If you are like me, those were just the clues that screamed “put on the brakes!” Sometimes the answers that we need are really close.

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It is frightening when you step out of the limited boxes that we have all been programmed to remain in. Greatness takes a beautiful arrangement of sweat, patience and disappointment, but I assure you it is worth it. Following through with what you know in your gut to be your gift is the key to finding your joy.

May I encourage you to search your soul, honest and brutal. The abundance as a result of the truth you find holds value – not only for the present, but it can last for generations.

Enjoy the ride

Be bold and be favored. Your world message begins on the inside and it will spread as large as your decisions allow it to. Take the road less traveled. The sights are wonderful.

Featured photo credit: Jeremy Cai via images.unsplash.com

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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