“Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.” — Marcus Aurelius
Life is more beautiful with profound relationships. When we let ourselves be vulnerable and open ourselves up to another human being, we find intrinsic value and support from those we love. It is important for us to nurture these relationships — as it is important for those we love to find similar connections with us. Simple things like listening, communicating, and being there for someone can indicate your willingness to connect and show support, but what are some other signs that you are a person who can connect deeply with other human beings?Advertising
You do away with the small talk.
I mean, you can small talk along with the rest of them. You know how, and it isn’t tricky. But you are generally on the hunt for something more stimulating. You are looking for the person in the room who seeks a more meaningful conversation — something you can learn about, that stimulates your mind.
You love exploring the meaning of life.
There’s nothing you love more than a good yarn, but particularly a yarn that challenges your current ideas, your thoughts, and your very existence. You gravitate toward the people you know are going to give as good as they get, and you whittle away at ideas together, happily losing hours of time.Advertising
You can see strengths in people easily.
You don’t judge too harshly. You know that everybody is on their own journey of learning and has come from their own experiences with life. You can, however, see the goo shining from within. This is not something everybody has. And even when somebody does something not so nice, you can see beyond that to the reason why it might be happening. Instead of berating them, you understand that there is goodness there too.
You always question the meaning of the things you do.
You are constantly self reflecting. You understand that life, and the enjoyment of life, comes from growth and you relish in the change that brings. As humans we can make mistakes, but it is up to us to acknowledge our behavior patterns, and make good of them.Advertising
You are a sensitive person.
Many people misinterpret this factor. Sensitive people are often misconstrued as shy, quiet, easily offended, or somewhat helpless. This is untrue. Being sensitive means you are more tuned in to human frequencies. Yes you might feel very hurt, or embarrassed, or silly over things that tougher people might not bat an eyelash at, but this doesn’t mean you aren’t equipped to deal with that. What it does mean is that you are able to gain deeper insight with other humans and situations outside of yourself, that less sensitive people cannot. Sensitive people can connect deeply because they feel things on another level, and they can be more thoughtful. While they perhaps experience ugliness on a deeper emotional level, so too do they experience great beauty. You can spot a good heart a mile away.
You’re always curious to know what someone has experienced and endured in all those years.
You love people life stories! It’s one of your great joys, to know and to understand where someone has come from, how they arrived from place to place, or why they made the decisions that they did. You want to learn from other human beings and you want to communicate with them in order to do so. Everybody has a story to tell. It shows great kindness to ask another human being about themselves, and to truly listen to their story.Advertising
Last Updated on February 18, 2019
Why It’s Never Too Late To Redefine Yourself
The ability to reinvent and redefine yourself is a bold, daring and purposeful choice. It doesn’t just happen. You have to make a conscious, intentional choice and then follow through.
If the thought of forging a new path, changing habits, thought patterns and your inner circle of friends scares you – you’re not alone. Change can be a very scary thing. It takes courage, fortitude and a bit of faith to decide to shed your old self and don a new persona. However, it is one of the most critical processes one must repeatedly endure in the pursuit of destiny. Change unlocks new levels of potential.
The Need for Change
Everyday when we wake up, we make a decision. We decide to follow our routine or we decide to go off script and shake things up a bit. For those who are creatures of habit, routine is comfortable, easy and produces very little stress. The problem with this is, after a while you stop growing.
We all reinvent ourselves at some point in our lives. It is absolutely necessary to achieve certain levels of success.
Reflect back on who you were as a teenager and then who you were at 25. Those are two very different people. Most of us are completely different. Your thought patterns changed, your appearance, job, level of education and even your friends– changed. We like to refer to this as “growing up” or maturing and consider it to be one of life’s natural progressions. However the changes you made were purposeful and deliberate.
This process must be a lifelong and continuous cycle. You are never too old to refresh yourself.
Signs It’s Time to Redefine
“Just as established products and brands need updating to stay alive and vibrant, you periodically need to refresh or reinvent yourself.”– Mireille Guiliano
So how do you know when it’s time for a system upgrade? There are signs along the way that alert you that it is time for an overhaul. The first sign is the feeling of being stuck. If you feel like you are in a rut, you’re bored with life or you need some newness and excitement, a self reinvention may be in order. Re-evaluate your life vision and your goals. Is that vision still valid and are your goals consistent with your vision and–are they achievable? If you are off course, it’s time for a change. If you are not moving forward and making progress, it’s time for a change.
In life, there’s no such thing as neutrality–you’re either moving forward or you are moving backward. Time constantly moves forward and if you are standing still, you are actually losing ground. No matter your age or stage in life– there is always room for improvement.
“You’re never too old to set another goal or dream a new dream.” ~C. S. Lewis
The second sign that you are due for a change is the occurrence of major life events in which change is forced upon you. Getting married, starting a new job, being promoted, ending a relationship, becoming a parenting or relocating are all prime opportunities to completely overhaul your life.
When these major shifts occur in your life–you have to shift with them. You can’t have a single mentality and have a successful marriage. You can’t remain selfish and irresponsible, and raise a healthy, well-adjusted child. You can’t be promoted to a supervisory position and keep the same subordinate attitude. Each level of success requires something different from you.
Consider, for a moment, Arnold Schwarzenegger. People may have different opinions about his character and some of his life choices, but he is a master at reinventing himself. He achieved the ultimate success as a professional body builder by earning the title “Mr. Universe” three times. He then earned a tremendous amount of fame and fortune in the entertainment industry making action/adventure films. And in his latest role, he served two terms as the Governor of California. He succeeded as a professional body builder, a film star and a politician. Each role required massive amounts of change, commitment, strength and hard work.
And if Arnold can do it…so can you!
Featured photo credit: BK via flickr.com