“Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.” — Marcus Aurelius
Life is more beautiful with profound relationships. When we let ourselves be vulnerable and open ourselves up to another human being, we find intrinsic value and support from those we love. It is important for us to nurture these relationships — as it is important for those we love to find similar connections with us. Simple things like listening, communicating, and being there for someone can indicate your willingness to connect and show support, but what are some other signs that you are a person who can connect deeply with other human beings?Advertising
You do away with the small talk.
I mean, you can small talk along with the rest of them. You know how, and it isn’t tricky. But you are generally on the hunt for something more stimulating. You are looking for the person in the room who seeks a more meaningful conversation — something you can learn about, that stimulates your mind.
You love exploring the meaning of life.
There’s nothing you love more than a good yarn, but particularly a yarn that challenges your current ideas, your thoughts, and your very existence. You gravitate toward the people you know are going to give as good as they get, and you whittle away at ideas together, happily losing hours of time.Advertising
You can see strengths in people easily.
You don’t judge too harshly. You know that everybody is on their own journey of learning and has come from their own experiences with life. You can, however, see the goo shining from within. This is not something everybody has. And even when somebody does something not so nice, you can see beyond that to the reason why it might be happening. Instead of berating them, you understand that there is goodness there too.
You always question the meaning of the things you do.
You are constantly self reflecting. You understand that life, and the enjoyment of life, comes from growth and you relish in the change that brings. As humans we can make mistakes, but it is up to us to acknowledge our behavior patterns, and make good of them.Advertising
You are a sensitive person.
Many people misinterpret this factor. Sensitive people are often misconstrued as shy, quiet, easily offended, or somewhat helpless. This is untrue. Being sensitive means you are more tuned in to human frequencies. Yes you might feel very hurt, or embarrassed, or silly over things that tougher people might not bat an eyelash at, but this doesn’t mean you aren’t equipped to deal with that. What it does mean is that you are able to gain deeper insight with other humans and situations outside of yourself, that less sensitive people cannot. Sensitive people can connect deeply because they feel things on another level, and they can be more thoughtful. While they perhaps experience ugliness on a deeper emotional level, so too do they experience great beauty. You can spot a good heart a mile away.
You’re always curious to know what someone has experienced and endured in all those years.
You love people life stories! It’s one of your great joys, to know and to understand where someone has come from, how they arrived from place to place, or why they made the decisions that they did. You want to learn from other human beings and you want to communicate with them in order to do so. Everybody has a story to tell. It shows great kindness to ask another human being about themselves, and to truly listen to their story.Advertising
Last Updated on December 10, 2019
5 Smart Reasons to Start Journal Writing Today
Here’s the truth: your effectiveness at life is not what it could be. You’re missing out.
Each day passes by and you have nothing to prove that it even happened. Did you achieve something? Go on a date? Have an emotional breakthrough? Who knows?
But what you do know is that you don’t want to make the same mistakes that you’ve made in the past.
Our lives are full of hidden gems of knowledge and insight, and the most recent events in our lives contain the most useful gems of all. Do you know why? It’s simple, those hidden lessons are the most up to date, meaning they have the largest impact on what we’re doing right now.
But the question is, how do you get those lessons? There’s a simple way to do it, and it doesn’t involve time machines:
Improved mental clarity, the ability to see our lives in the big picture, as well as serving as a piece of evidence cataloguing every success we’ve ever had; we are provided all of the above and more by doing some journal writing.
Journal writing is a useful and flexible tool to help shed light on achieving your goals.
Here’s 5 smart reasons why you should do journal writing:
1. Journals Help You Have a Better Connection with Your Values, Emotions, and Goals
By journaling about what you believe in, why you believe it, how you feel, and what your goals are, you understand your relationships with these things better. This is because you must sort through the mental clutter and provide details on why you do what you do and feel what you feel.
Perhaps you’ve spent the last year or so working at a job you don’t like. It would be easy to just suck it up and keep working with your head down, going on as if it’s supposed to be normal to not like your job. Nobody else is complaining, so why should you, right?
But a little journal writing will set things straight for you. You don’t like your job. You feel like it’s robbing you of happiness and satisfaction, and you don’t see yourself better there in the future.
The other workers? Maybe they don’t know, maybe they don’t care. But you do, you know and care enough to do something about it. And you’re capable of fixing this problem because your journal writing allows you to finally be honest with yourself about it.
2. Journals Improve Mental Clarity and Help Improve Your Focus
If there’s one thing journal writing is good for, it’s clearing the mental clutter.
How does it work? Simply, whenever you have a problem and write about it in a journal, you transfer the problem from your head to the paper. This empties the mind, allowing allocation of precious resources to problem-solving rather than problem-storing.
Let’s say you’ve been juggling several tasks at work. You’ve got data entry, testing, e-mails, problems with the boss, and so on—enough to overwhelm you—but as you start journal writing, things become clearer and easier to understand: Data entry can actually wait till Thursday; Bill kindly offered earlier to do my testing; For e-mails, I can check them now; the boss is just upset because Becky called in sick, etc.
You become better able to focus and reason your tasks out, and this is an indispensable and useful skill to have.
3. Journals Improve Insight and Understanding
As a positive consequence of improving your mental clarity, you become more open to insights you may have missed before. As you write your notes out, you’re essentially having a dialogue with yourself. This draws out insights that you would have missed otherwise; it’s almost as if two people are working together to better understand each other. This kind of insight is only available to the person who has taken the time to connect with and understand themselves in the form of writing.
Once you’ve gotten a few entries written down, new insights can be gleaned from reading over them. What themes do you see in your life? Do you keep switching goals halfway through? Are you constantly dating the same type of people who aren’t good for you? Have you slowly but surely pushed people out of your life for fear of being hurt?
All of these questions can be answered by simply self-reflecting, but you can only discover the answers if you’ve captured them in writing. These questions are going to be tough to answer without a journal of your actions and experiences.
4. Journals Track Your Overall Development
Life happens, and it can happen fast. Sometimes we don’t take the time to stop and look around at what’s happening to us at each moment. We don’t get to see the step-by-step progress that we’re making in our own lives. So what happens? One day it’s the future, and you have no idea how you’ve gotten there.
Journal writing allows you to see how you’ve changed over time, so you can see where you did things right, and you can see where you took a misstep and fell.
The great thing about journals is that you’ll know what that misstep was, and you can make sure it doesn’t happen again—all because you made sure to log it, allowing yourself to learn from your mistakes.
5. Journals Facilitate Personal Growth
The best thing about journal writing is that no matter what you end up writing about, it’s hard to not grow from it. You can’t just look at a past entry in which you acted shamefully and say “that was dumb, anyway!” No, we say “I will never make a dumb choice like that again!”
It’s impossible not to grow when it comes to journal writing. That’s what makes journal writing such a powerful tool, whether it’s about achieving goals, becoming a better person, or just general personal-development. No matter what you use it for, you’ll eventually see yourself growing as a person.
How can journaling best be of use to you? To vent your emotions? To help achieve your goals? To help clear your mind? What do you think makes journaling such a useful life skill?
Know the answer? Then it’s about time you reap the benefits of journal writing and start putting pen to paper.
Here’s what you can do to start journaling:
- 15 Inspiring Journal Ideas to Set You up for Success
- How to Bullet Journal to Skyrocket Your Productivity
- Writing Journal for a Better and More Productive Self (The How-To Guide)
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