“Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.” — Marcus Aurelius
Life is more beautiful with profound relationships. When we let ourselves be vulnerable and open ourselves up to another human being, we find intrinsic value and support from those we love. It is important for us to nurture these relationships — as it is important for those we love to find similar connections with us. Simple things like listening, communicating, and being there for someone can indicate your willingness to connect and show support, but what are some other signs that you are a person who can connect deeply with other human beings?Advertising
You do away with the small talk.
I mean, you can small talk along with the rest of them. You know how, and it isn’t tricky. But you are generally on the hunt for something more stimulating. You are looking for the person in the room who seeks a more meaningful conversation — something you can learn about, that stimulates your mind.
You love exploring the meaning of life.
There’s nothing you love more than a good yarn, but particularly a yarn that challenges your current ideas, your thoughts, and your very existence. You gravitate toward the people you know are going to give as good as they get, and you whittle away at ideas together, happily losing hours of time.Advertising
You can see strengths in people easily.
You don’t judge too harshly. You know that everybody is on their own journey of learning and has come from their own experiences with life. You can, however, see the goo shining from within. This is not something everybody has. And even when somebody does something not so nice, you can see beyond that to the reason why it might be happening. Instead of berating them, you understand that there is goodness there too.
You always question the meaning of the things you do.
You are constantly self reflecting. You understand that life, and the enjoyment of life, comes from growth and you relish in the change that brings. As humans we can make mistakes, but it is up to us to acknowledge our behavior patterns, and make good of them.Advertising
You are a sensitive person.
Many people misinterpret this factor. Sensitive people are often misconstrued as shy, quiet, easily offended, or somewhat helpless. This is untrue. Being sensitive means you are more tuned in to human frequencies. Yes you might feel very hurt, or embarrassed, or silly over things that tougher people might not bat an eyelash at, but this doesn’t mean you aren’t equipped to deal with that. What it does mean is that you are able to gain deeper insight with other humans and situations outside of yourself, that less sensitive people cannot. Sensitive people can connect deeply because they feel things on another level, and they can be more thoughtful. While they perhaps experience ugliness on a deeper emotional level, so too do they experience great beauty. You can spot a good heart a mile away.
You’re always curious to know what someone has experienced and endured in all those years.
You love people life stories! It’s one of your great joys, to know and to understand where someone has come from, how they arrived from place to place, or why they made the decisions that they did. You want to learn from other human beings and you want to communicate with them in order to do so. Everybody has a story to tell. It shows great kindness to ask another human being about themselves, and to truly listen to their story.Advertising
Last Updated on June 19, 2019
6 Ways to Be a Successful Risk Taker and Take More Chances
I’ve stood on the edge of my own personal cliffs many times. Each time I jumped, something different happened. There were risks that started off great, but eventually faded. There were risks that left me falling until I hit the ground. There were risks that started slow, but built into massive successes.
Every risk is different, but every risk is the same. You need to have some fundamentals ready before you jump, but not too many.
It wouldn’t be a risk if you knew everything that was about to happen, would it? Here’re 6 ways to be a successful risk taker.
1. Understand That Failure Is Going to Happen a Lot
It’s part of life. Everything we do has failure attached to it. All successful people have stories of massive failure attached to them. Thinking that your risk is going to be pain free and run as smooth as silk is insane.
Expect some pain and failure. Actually, expect a lot of it. Expect the sleepless nights with crazy thoughts of insecurity that leave you trembling under the covers. It’s going to happen, no matter how positive you are about the risk you are about to take.
When failure hits, the only options are to keep going or quit. If you expect falling into a meadow of flowers and frolicking unicorns, then you’re going to immediately quit once you realize that getting to that meadow requires you to go through a rock filled cave filled with hungry bats.
2. Trust the Muse
Writing a story isn’t a big risk. It’s really just a risk on my time. So when I start writing a story, I’m scared it will be time wasted. Of course, it never really is. Even if the story doesn’t turn out fabulous, I still practiced.
When I’ve taken risks in my life, the successful ones always seemed to happen when I followed the muse. Steven Pressfield describes the muse,
“The Muse demands depth. Shallow does not work for her. If we’re seeking her help, we can’t stay in the kiddie end. When we work, we have to go hard and go deep.”
The muse is a goddess who wants our attention and wants us to work on our passion.
If you’re taking a risk in anything, it’s assumed that there is some passion built up behind that risk. That passion, deep inside you, is the muse. Trust it, focus on it, listen to it.
The most successful articles and stories I write are the ones I’ve focused all my attention on. There were no interruptions during their creative development. I didn’t check my phone or go watch my Twitter feed. I was fully engaged in my work.
Trust the muse, focus your attention on your risk, let the ideas and path develop themselves, and leave the distractions at the side of the road.
3. Remember to Be Authentic
Taking a risk and then turning into something you’re not, is only going to lead to disaster. Whether you are risking a new relationship or new opportunity, you must be yourself throughout the entire process.
How many times have you acted like you loved something just because the men or woman you just started going out with loved it?
For example, I’m not an office worker. I have an incredibly hard time working in a confined timeline (ie. 9-5). That’s why I write. I can do it whenever the mood strikes, I don’t have somebody breathing down my neck, telling me that I’m five minutes late, or missed a comma somewhere. I don’t have to walk on eggshells wondering if what I’m writing will get me fired or make me lose a promotion. I can just be myself, period.
One girlfriend didn’t understand that. She believed solely in the 9-5 motto, specifically something in human resources because that was a very stable job. I was scared for my future, but I stuck with the relationship because of my own insecurities and acted like I would do it to make her happy.
Here’s a tip: NEVER take away from your happiness to make somebody else satisfied (note I didn’t say happy).
Making somebody else happy will make you happy. Doing something to satisfy somebody is murder on your soul.
4. Don’t Take Any Risks While You’re Not Clearheaded
I’d been considering the risk for a couple weeks. It all sounded good. I was 22 and I could be rich in a couple of years. That’s what they were selling me, anyways.
One night, while at a house party with some friends, I found myself at a computer. A couple of my friends were standing nearby and asked me what I was doing. I told them I was considering starting my own business and it was only going to cost me $1,500.
Of course, when a bunch of drunk people are surrounded by more drunk people, things get enthusiastic. It sounded like the best business venture in the world to everybody, including me. So I signed up and gave them my credit card number.
A few painful months and close to $4,000 dollars lost later, I quit the business. I was young and fell into the pyramid scheme trap. It was an expensive drunk decision.
Drinking heavily and making decisions has a proven track record of failure. So when you have something important to decide, don’t let your emotions take over your brain.
5. Fully Understand What You’re Risking
It was the start of my baseball comeback. I got a tryout with a professional scout and killed it. After the tryout, he talked to my girlfriend and myself, making sure we understood I would be gone for up to 6 months at a time. That strain on the relationship could be tough.
We understood. I left to play ball, chose to stay in the city I played in, and a year later we broke up. Not because of baseball, see point 3 above. Taking big risks can have massive impacts on everything in your life from relationships to money. Know what you’re risking before you take the risk.
If you believe the risk will be worth it or you have the support you need from your family, then go ahead and make the leap.
You can get more guidance on how to take calculated risks from this article: How to Take Calculated Risk to Achieve More and Become Successful
6. Remember This Is Your One Shot Only
As far as we know officially, this is our one shot at life, so why not take some risks?
The top thing people are saddened by on their deathbeds are these regrets. They wish they did more, asked that girl in the coffee shop out, spoke out when they should have, or did what they were passionate about.
Don’t regret. Learn and experience. Live. Take the risks you believe in. Be yourself and make the world a better place.
Now go ahead, take that risk and be successful at it!
More About Living Your Best Life
- 8 Reasons Risk Takers Are More Likely To Be Successful
- Is It Really Better to Step Out of Your Comfort Zone?
- This Is What Happens When You Move Out Of the Comfort Zone
- 10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Overcome Your Fear
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