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7 Tips to Make New Friends

7 Tips to Make New Friends

7 Tips to Make New Friends

16% – 50% of the population consists of introverts, so it is more likely that there are more extroverts in the world, which makes introverts feel left behind. Even though it is harder for them to make friends, when you get to know these people – they become the most loyal people in your life. Sometimes, even extroverts have problems making a move. Here are a few tips to make the first step easier, and how to make new meaningful connections.

1. Make sure you know what kind of friends you need

Before you start interacting with strangers, take a moment to think about why you need new friends. Is it because you feel lonely and need someone to talk to, or just because you need a party friend, to go out dancing with at the club? This is the key step, as this will determine where you can look for new people to make friends.

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2. Be around people who have a lot of friends

The easiest way to meet new people in a more casual way is being around someone, who is already surrounded by them. So find those social connectors at your school or work and hang out more often with them. You can make so many new friends, whom you will easily get along with.

3. Join social networks

Social networks are a great tool not only to know what your friends are doing but also to make new ones. The best tool for making new friends, in my opinion, is Plag – a unified location-based mobile network without pre-defined connections between its users. Here users can actually feel that they live in the same world. You suddenly realize, there are many people out there, who share similar interests and likes.

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4. Remember your past friendships

We all have at least one person in our lives, that we were great friends with, but somehow the friendship faded. There was no fight or misunderstanding, but it just happened. It is very likely that the other person also feels the same way, and wishes to be friends again. So, go ahead take the first step towards making your old friendship new.

5. Classmates or colleagues are potential besties

Don’t forget about the people whom you spend most of your time with – your classmates or colleagues already have a few things in common with you. You shouldn’t be afraid, and offer to hang out with them not only during work but also post work hours. It is also easy to organize group meetings – this will make it less formal and people will be more approachable.

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6. Find people with common interests

This might sound like one of the cheesiest ways, but usually, people forget about it. I bet you can find a lot of meeting groups in your city, where you’ll get to meet people with similar hobbies. You can find these groups using platforms such as Meetup.com – it is a place filled with like-minded people who are always looking to expand their circle. Volunteering can also be a great option in this case.

7. Don’t forget to keep in touch

To call someone a friend, you first have to pass the acquaintance stage. So even if you meet someone you’d like to be friends with – don’t abandon them after the first contact or meeting. Take an initiative towards planning the next meeting. You can even communicate with the person, just to ask what they’re up to. Just remember – don’t be too pushy.

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These are just a few tips that I think will help you find new friends. Feel free to add your suggestions and share their results. And remember – don’t be afraid to try, fail and try again. Yes, it will take time, but trust me, it will definitely be worth the effort.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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