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7 Ways To Make Your Life Much Simpler And Happier

7 Ways To Make Your Life Much Simpler And Happier

“Any intelligent fool can make things bigger, more complex, and more violent. It takes a touch of genius – and a lot of courage – to move in the opposite direction.” – E. F. Schumacker

In an age where we seem to pride ourselves in being intensely busy and remaining connected through technology 24/7, it is easy to forget that it’s the simple things in life that make us happy.

Sometimes we need to find ways to restore this simplicity in our lives. Here are 7 ways to make your life a lot simpler and happier.

1. Call the person, avoid texting

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    Texting has become a common form of communication, to the point where we have actually forgotten the original purpose of the phone: to actually call a person and speak to them directly. Yes, people, there is actually another person on the other side of that mobile device.

    Through texting, It’s very easy for what you want to say to actually be lost in translation. It’s very easy for misunderstandings to happen. And it’s definitely a lot harder to sort out any relationship problems or business issue you may be having. Aside from being incredibly time consuming, the sense of emotion is removed and you can’t actually tell how the person is feeling.

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    Would it not be a lot easier if you just picked up the phone and called? One would think so. You could instantly let it be known how you feel. Nothing is lost in translation. The emotion is not removed. There are no misunderstandings. It’s quicker, less time consuming (as you won’t be dwelling on the problem through back and forth messages) and more importantly you will be happier in knowing that you are sorting out the problem.

    2. Openly vent your emotions; don’t keep them bottled up

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      Are you the type of person who has the tendency to hide their emotions? You keep everything inside. When you are angry, you don’t let it be known that you are angry. When you are unhappy with someone, you don’t let that person know. When something someone does irritates you, you don’t tell them.

      The problem with this is that it can cause huge stress in your life. It makes you unhappy. Eventually, all these emotions come out, all at once. It’s not pretty. It’s not healthy, both psychologically and physically.

      Rather find ways to channel these emotions constructively. Chat with a friend. Find a safe place. e.g. your room where you can openly let these emotions out. Doing this will in the long run surely make you healthier and a lot happier as a person.

      3. Create your own memories; avoid the comparison game

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        How often do you find yourself, scrolling through Facebook, reading post after post of people doing amazing things? You see people travelling the world. Going on hikes. Relaxing with friends. Going out to lunch in beautiful restaurants. Inside you feel a little jealous and you think to yourself. “Why am I not doing these amazing things.?”

        Well exactly, why aren’t you? Go out and create your own memories, instead of spending your days reading what others are doing. Visit the places you wanted to visit. Read that book you wanted to read. Climb that mountain. Jump in the dam naked.

        Do all those things you want to do and more importantly, stop comparing yourself to others. Avoid the comparison game at all cost. This will not make you happier. What will make you happier is creating your own memories.

        4. Maintain open forms of communication; don’t assume

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          Have you ever guessed what your loved ones or the people you care about are thinking, and been totally wrong? Have you assumed they like something, when in fact this was not the case? Maybe you thought they liked going to a specific restaurant because you have always taken them there, but never actually asked if they enjoyed it?

          Assuming and guessing what people think can create complications down the line. Through maintaining open forms of communication and simply asking your loved one’s questions directly, you avoid miscommunication and ensure a healthier and happier relationship.

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          5. Actions speak louder than words; don’t panic

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            We often find ourselves not comforting our loved ones in times of need because we feel we don’t know how to comfort them. We panic about what to do. And what makes it worse is that sometimes your loved ones don’t even want to talk. What do you do?

            Sometimes all that is needed is for you to be there. As simple as that. They don’t need words. They don’t want to chat. They just want your touch. They just need a hug. Such a simple action can speak one thousand words.

            6. Try something new, don’t hesitate

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              Do you find yourself hesitating over what to do next? Maybe you are scared of trying something new? Maybe you are scared of what people think? There’s an age old saying:

              “It’s better to ask for forgiveness than to ask for permission.”

              This means that it’s better to act decisively and apologise for it later than seek someone’s approval to act and possibly risk delay. So if you want to do something do it. Do what makes you happy. Don’t be scared to try something. Don’t be hesitant. You might just find that through trying that something, that you absolutely love it. That it made you a lot happier as a person.

              And if it didn’t, well that’s fine. You will survive. Move on to the next thing, knowing that you have eliminated one other thing that doesn’t make you happy.

              7. Actively work on your future; stop worrying

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                We often overcomplicate things, by worrying unnecessarily about the future, instead of actively working on it now. Rather spend time on those things you can control right now and stop worrying about the things you cannot control.

                For example, if you want to start your own business, take simple small steps towards achieving that dream that will make you happier.

                There is no guarantee as to exactly how the future will turn out, but through focusing on those small things we can control right now, we are on the right track towards a future that will surely be a lot brighter and happier.

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                Last Updated on October 17, 2019

                How to Spend More Quality Time with Your Partner

                How to Spend More Quality Time with Your Partner

                You see your partner every single day. They are the first person you talk to in the morning and the last person you kiss goodnight.

                But does seeing each other day in and day out equal a healthy relationship? Not necessarily.

                Spending quality time with your partner is the best way to ensure your relationship stays healthy and strong. This means going above and beyond sitting together while you watch Netflix or going out for the occasional dinner. You deserve more from your relationship – and so does your spouse!

                What does quality time mean? It means spending time with your spouse without interruption. It’s a chance for you to come together and talk. Communication will build emotional intimacy and trust.

                Quality time is also about expressing love in a physical way. Not sex, necessarily (but that’s great, too!) but through hand-holding, cuddling, caressing, and tickling. Studies show that these displays of affection will boost partner satisfaction.[1]

                So how do you spend quality time with your partner? Here are 13 relationship tips on making the most out of your time with your partner.

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                1. Recognize the Signs

                If you want a healthy relationship, you have to learn how to recognize the signs that you need to spend more quality time together.

                Some telltale signs include:

                • You’re always on your phones.
                • You value friendships or hobbies over quality time with your spouse.
                • You aren’t together during important events.
                • You are arguing more often or lack connection.
                • You don’t make plans or date nights.
                • You’re not happy.

                If you are experiencing any of these relationship symptoms, know that quality time together can reverse the negative effects of the signs above.

                2. Try New Things Together

                Have you ever wanted to learn how to play an instrument or speak another language? How about skydive or ballroom dance?

                Instead of viewing these as solo hobbies and interests, why not involve your partner?

                Trying new activities together builds healthy relationships because it encourages spouses to rely on one another for emotional and physical support.

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                Shared hobbies also promote marital friendship, and the Journal of Happiness Studies found that marital satisfaction was twice as high for couples who viewed each other as best friends.[2]

                3. Schedule in Tech-Free Time

                Your phone is a great way to listen to music, watch videos, and keep up-to-date with friends and family. But is your phone good for your relationship?

                Many couples phone snub, or ‘phub’, one another. Studies show that phubbing can lower relationship satisfaction and increase one’s chances of depression.[3]

                Reduce those chances by removing distractions when spending quality time together and showing your partner they have your full attention.

                4. Hit the Gym as a Couple

                One way you can spend more time together as a couple is by becoming workout partners. Studies show that couples are more likely to stay with their exercise routine if they work out together.[4] Couples also work out harder than they would solo. One study found that 95 percent of couples who work out together maintained weight loss compares to the 66 percent of singles who did.[5]

                Join a gym, do at-home couples’ workouts, try couples yoga, hit the hiking trails, or get your bikes out. No matter which way you choose to exercise, these healthy activities can promote a healthy relationship.

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                5. Cook Meals Together

                Pop open a bottle of wine or put some romantic music on while you get busy – in the kitchen, of course!

                One of the best relationship tips for spending quality time together when you both have busy schedules is to cook meals together.[6]

                Spice things up and try and prepare a four-course meal or a fancy French dish together. Not only is this a fun way to spend your time together, but it also promotes teamwork.

                If all goes well, you’ll have a romantic date night meal at home that you prepared with your four hands. And if the food didn’t turn out the way you’d hoped, you are guaranteed to have a laugh and create new memories together.

                6. Have a Regular Date Night

                Couples experience a greater sense of happiness and less stress when they are spending quality time together.[7] One of the biggest relationship tips for a healthy partnership is to include a date night in your weekly routine.

                The National Marriage Project found that having a weekly date night can make your relationship seem more exciting and helps prevent relationship boredom.[8] It also lowers the probability of divorce, improves your sex life, and increases healthy communication.

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                Some great ideas for what to do on your date night include:

                • Have a movie marathon – Gather up your favorite flicks and cuddle up on the couch.
                • Play games together – Cards, board games, video games, and other creative outlets are a fun way to spend quality time together.
                • Recreate your first date – Go back to that restaurant and order the same meal you did when you first got together. You can spice up your evening by pretending you’re strangers meeting for the first time and see how sexy the night gets.
                • Plan a weekend getaway – There’s nothing better than traveling with the one you love.
                • Dinner and a movie – A classic!
                • Try a new restaurant – Make it your mission to rate and try all of the Mexican restaurants/Irish pubs/Italian trattorias in your area.
                • Have a long sex session – Intimacy promotes the release of the oxytocin hormone which is responsible for a myriad of great feelings.[9]

                Here’re even more date night ideas for your reference: 50 Unique and Really Fun Date Ideas for Couples

                Final Thoughts

                The benefits of spending quality time together are endless. Here are just some of the ways it can contribute to a healthy relationship:

                • Improves emotional and physical intimacy
                • Lowers divorce rates
                • Improves communication
                • Reduces marital boredom
                • Bonds couples closer
                • Improves friendship
                • Boosts health
                • Reduces stress

                These are all excellent reasons to start making date night a regular part of your week.

                It’s easy to have a healthy relationship when you set aside dedicated time to share with your spouse. Try new things together, make your spouse your workout buddy, and look for innovative ways to be close and connected.

                These relationship tips will bring great benefits to your marriage.

                Featured photo credit: Allen Taylor via unsplash.com

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