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19 Feelings Only People Turning 25 Would Understand

19 Feelings Only People Turning 25 Would Understand

When you’re thirteen you want so desperately to be seventeen. When you’re seventeen you really want to be twenty one. When you’re twenty one you start thinking you’re ‘not seventeen anymore’, so when you get to twenty five it can be … slightly confusing. It’s a milestone age, perhaps the first one to really have an effect as an adult. It can be conflicting, heightened, beautiful, reflective, exciting. twenty five is a beautiful age. But only those who have been there can really know.

19 Feelings Only People Turning 25 Would Understand

  1. When you feel suddenly and fully responsible for yourself. And you start to realize that you are going to well and truly reap what you sow. There’s no turning back now.
  2. When you feel scared to go forward and really try. The stakes feel higher now, as you start gearing toward an age beyond that of reckless abandon.
  3. Feeling happy you are starting to shed toxicity and shape your world with care. You are starting to learn and also put into practice the things you have learned so far about self-love. You can begin to use your experiences to better yourself and proceed with greater understanding and influence.
  4. When you realize you are not young anymore. It can be very confronting. And scary. And also great, because you are entering a new phase. It’s scary and exciting.
  5. Feeling so so glad to leave twenty one behind. The excessive late nights and college parties were very fun at first, but secretly, you’re kind of glad you’ve got an excuse. You’re “maybe a bit old for that now”.
  6. Feeling good and ready to deal with your finances properly. You are understanding the importance of what you can do with what you earn, and what it can mean for your life when you don’t spend your entire pay on vodka slammers.
  7. Feeling overwhelmed that many of the people you went to school with are all getting married. Or feeling even more overwhelmed that some are having babies, or moving to the next level of their careers.
  8. Holy moly how on earth were your parents twenty five with three children already. Seriously. You don’t feel 25. You certainly don’t know how you could have an entire family at twenty five. You are gaining new respect for your parents.
  9. Feeling elated that the five years of work you have put in at your job has just meant the promotion you thought would never come.
  10. After cleaning yet another inch-deep greasy stovetop, moving out of your mates’ place and in with your partner is starting to look pretty good. You feel surprisingly more ready than you did 3 years back.
  11. Feeling overwhelmed out in the ‘real world’ since finally graduating. You are in the job you always thought you wanted, but have odd and conflicting thoughts about the reality of it.
  12. When you look at twenty one year olds and feel old.
  13. Feeling suddenly like you aren’t satisfied with the same things anymore, but you aren’t sure why.
  14. Getting your first grey hair. It’s usually around this time. George Clooney makes it look good. So can you.
  15. You suddenly get the fear of turning 30. It has never even entered your mind and then “POOF!” It starts to tick in there like a mind bomb.
  16. Feeling a tearing sense of wanting to party but also wanting to sleep early. It’s the milestone. You’ve got one foot in the sleep-when-I’m-dead past, and one foot in the I’m-getting-busy future. There are decisions to be made.
  17. When you start fretting about where your life is headed and if you are “where you are supposed to be”. (You are).
  18. LOVING the fact that you are old and wise enough not to look like those silly young kids all dressed up and trying to get in to clubs. Pfft, that was so long ago …
  19. Enjoying the beautiful age you are at right now at this very moment and will never be again.

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Last Updated on June 24, 2019

Why Social Media Might Be Causing Depression

Why Social Media Might Be Causing Depression

A study [1] published in Depression and Anxiety found that social media users are more likely to be depressed. This was just one of the huge number of studies linking social media and depression[2] . But why exactly do platforms like Facebook and Instagram make people so unhappy? Well, we don’t know yet for sure, but there are some explanations.

Social Media Could Lead to Depression

Depression is a serious medical condition that affects how you think, feel, and behave. Social media may lead to depression in predisposed individuals or make existing symptoms of depression[3] worse explains[4] the study above’s senior author Dr. Brian Primack. So, the problem may not be in social media per se, but how we use it.

Signs You’re Suffering From “Social Media Depression”

If you feel like social media is having a negative impact on your mood, then you may be suffering from “social media depression.” Look for symptoms like:

• low self-esteem,

• negative self-talk,

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• a low mood,

• irritability,

• a lack of interest in activities once enjoyed,

• and social withdrawal.

If you’ve had these symptoms for more than two weeks and if this is how you feel most of the time, then you are likely depressed. Although “social media depression “is not a term recognized in the medical setting, social media depression seems to be a real phenomenon affecting around 50% of social media users. As explained in a review study[5] published in Cyberpsychology, Behavior, and Social Networking, if a person has a certain predisposition to depression and other mental disorders, social media use may only worsen their mental health.

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Social Media Could Crush Self-Esteem

We know that social media and depression are in some way linked, but why is this so? Well, according to Igor Pantic, MD, Ph.D.[6], social media use skews your perception about other people’s lives and traits. To explain this further, most people like to portray an idealized image of their lives, personal traits, and appearance on sites like Facebook and Instagram. If you confuse this idealized image with reality, you may be under the false impression that everyone is better than you which can crush your self-esteem and lead to depression. This is especially true for teens and young adults who are more likely to compare themselves to others. If you already suffer from low self-esteem, the illusion that everyone has it better off than you will just make you feel worse.

Causing Social Isolation and Other Negative Emotions

Another commonly cited reason for the negative impact of social media on mental health is its link with social isolation. Depressed people are more likely to isolate themselves socially and chose only to interact indirectly through social media platforms. But communication online tends to be superficial and is lacking when compared to real-life interaction explains Panic. What this means is not that social media leads to isolation but the other way around, possibly explaining why we find so many depressed persons on these sites.

Lastly, social media use may generate negative emotions in you like envy, jealousy, dislike, loneliness, and many others and this may worsen your depressive symptoms.

Why We Need to Take This Seriously

Both depression and social media use are on the rise according to epidemiological studies. Since each one has an impact on the other, we have to start thinking of healthier ways to use social media. Teens and young adults are especially vulnerable to the negative impact of social media on mental health.

Advice on Social Media Use

Although these findings did not provide any cause-effect explanation regarding Facebook and depression[7], they still do prove that social media use may not be a good way to handle depression. For this reason, the leading authors of these studies gave some suggestions as to how clinicians and people can make use of such findings.

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One suggestion is that clinicians should ask patients about their social media habits. Then they can advise them on how to change their outlook on social media use or even suggest limiting their time spent on social media.

Some social media users may also exhibit addictive behavior; they may spend too much time due to compulsive urges. Any compulsive behavior is bound to lead to feelings of guilt which can worsen depressive symptoms.

Having Unhealthy Relationship with Social Media

If you feel like your relationship with social media is unhealthy, then consider the advice on healthy social media use provided by psychology experts from Links Psychology[8]:

Avoid negative social comparison – always keep in mind that how people portray themselves and their lives on social media is not a realistic picture, but rather an idealized one. Also, avoid comparing yourself to others because this behavior can lead to negative self-talk.

Remember that social media is not a replacement for real life – Social media is great for staying in touch and having fun, but it should never replace real-world interactions.

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Avoid releasing personal information – For your safety and privacy, make sure to be careful with what you post online.

Report users who bully and harass you – It’s easy to be a bully in the anonymous and distant world of social media. Don’t take such offense personally and report those who abuse social media to harass others.

The bits of advice listed above can help you establish a healthy relationship with social media. Always keep these things in mind to avoid losing an objective perspective of what social media is and how it is different from real life. If you are currently suffering from depression, talk to your doctor about what is bothering you so that you can get the treatment you need to get better. Tell your doctor about your social media use and see if they could give you some advice on this topic.

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