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19 Feelings Only People Turning 25 Would Understand

19 Feelings Only People Turning 25 Would Understand

When you’re thirteen you want so desperately to be seventeen. When you’re seventeen you really want to be twenty one. When you’re twenty one you start thinking you’re ‘not seventeen anymore’, so when you get to twenty five it can be … slightly confusing. It’s a milestone age, perhaps the first one to really have an effect as an adult. It can be conflicting, heightened, beautiful, reflective, exciting. twenty five is a beautiful age. But only those who have been there can really know.

19 Feelings Only People Turning 25 Would Understand

  1. When you feel suddenly and fully responsible for yourself. And you start to realize that you are going to well and truly reap what you sow. There’s no turning back now.
  2. When you feel scared to go forward and really try. The stakes feel higher now, as you start gearing toward an age beyond that of reckless abandon.
  3. Feeling happy you are starting to shed toxicity and shape your world with care. You are starting to learn and also put into practice the things you have learned so far about self-love. You can begin to use your experiences to better yourself and proceed with greater understanding and influence.
  4. When you realize you are not young anymore. It can be very confronting. And scary. And also great, because you are entering a new phase. It’s scary and exciting.
  5. Feeling so so glad to leave twenty one behind. The excessive late nights and college parties were very fun at first, but secretly, you’re kind of glad you’ve got an excuse. You’re “maybe a bit old for that now”.
  6. Feeling good and ready to deal with your finances properly. You are understanding the importance of what you can do with what you earn, and what it can mean for your life when you don’t spend your entire pay on vodka slammers.
  7. Feeling overwhelmed that many of the people you went to school with are all getting married. Or feeling even more overwhelmed that some are having babies, or moving to the next level of their careers.
  8. Holy moly how on earth were your parents twenty five with three children already. Seriously. You don’t feel 25. You certainly don’t know how you could have an entire family at twenty five. You are gaining new respect for your parents.
  9. Feeling elated that the five years of work you have put in at your job has just meant the promotion you thought would never come.
  10. After cleaning yet another inch-deep greasy stovetop, moving out of your mates’ place and in with your partner is starting to look pretty good. You feel surprisingly more ready than you did 3 years back.
  11. Feeling overwhelmed out in the ‘real world’ since finally graduating. You are in the job you always thought you wanted, but have odd and conflicting thoughts about the reality of it.
  12. When you look at twenty one year olds and feel old.
  13. Feeling suddenly like you aren’t satisfied with the same things anymore, but you aren’t sure why.
  14. Getting your first grey hair. It’s usually around this time. George Clooney makes it look good. So can you.
  15. You suddenly get the fear of turning 30. It has never even entered your mind and then “POOF!” It starts to tick in there like a mind bomb.
  16. Feeling a tearing sense of wanting to party but also wanting to sleep early. It’s the milestone. You’ve got one foot in the sleep-when-I’m-dead past, and one foot in the I’m-getting-busy future. There are decisions to be made.
  17. When you start fretting about where your life is headed and if you are “where you are supposed to be”. (You are).
  18. LOVING the fact that you are old and wise enough not to look like those silly young kids all dressed up and trying to get in to clubs. Pfft, that was so long ago …
  19. Enjoying the beautiful age you are at right now at this very moment and will never be again.

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Last Updated on October 16, 2019

5 Powerful Ways for Building Fulfilling Relationships

5 Powerful Ways for Building Fulfilling Relationships

We all have relationships. We have acquaintances, relatives, colleagues, neighbors and friends. However, for a large percentage of us, many of these relationships are not fulfilling.

They are unfulfilling because they lack real strength; and they lack real strength because they lack real depth.

Unfortunately, in today’s society, we tend to have shallow, superficial relationships with others, and it’s extremely hard for this kind of relationships to provide anything more than faint satisfaction.

I’d like to show you, based on my experience as a communication and confidence coach, how you can add a significant amount of depth, and thus strength, to your relationships and make your social life a whole lot more meaningful.

Here’re 5 simple yet powerful ways for meaningful relationships building:

1. Meet More People

This is an apparent paradox, but the quality of the people you meet has considerably to do with the quantity of people you meet.

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If you don’t know a lot of people and you barely meet one or two new people every season of the year, considering the variety of individuals out there, you won’t meet very often people who are a good match with you in terms of personality, interests and values.

And since this natural match plays a huge part in building strong relationships, you’ll just as seldom have the opportunity to develop strong relationships.

Conversely, if you go out a lot, you meet a lot of new people and you constantly expand your social circle, you’re much more likely to meet people you match up well with, and these people have a tremendous potential to become good friends, reliable partners, etc.

This is why it’s important to meet more people.

2. Talk about the Things That Matter To You

A relationship becomes the strongest when two people discover they believe in the same things and have similar interests. It’s these commonalities regarding values and interests that create the strongest emotional connection.

I’ve noticed that many people keep conversations shallow. They talk about trivial stuff such as the weather, what’s on TV, the lives of various movie stars, but they rarely talk about what really matters to them in life. This is a mistake from my perspective, because it’s the perfect method for a relationship to not develop.

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Talk about the things that truly matter to you and give others a chance to know what you care about and what you believe in. If they believe in the same things and they care about the same things, they’ll eagerly let you know. Thus you’ll find meaningful common ground and you’ll feel more connected.

3. Express Vulnerability

Many people try to come off as perfect. They don’t talk about their failures, they hide their shortcomings and they never say anything that could embarrass them.

This is all just a facade though. You may appear perfect to some, but you know you’re not perfect and they know that too. You’re only human and humans have flaws.

However, by hiding your flaws, what you do succeed in is appearing cold and impersonal. You seem like a marble statue rather than a real person. And this makes it very hard for anyone to connect with you emotionally.

Humans connect with other humans, not with ideals. Keep this in mind and don’t be afraid to let your vulnerability and your humanity show. This is what takes a relationship to the next level.

Take a look at this article and find out Why Showing Vulnerability Actually Proves Your Strength.

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4. Have Integrity

Integrity, as I see it, is the alignment between your thoughts, your words and your actions. When you say what you think and you do what you said you’ll do, you have integrity.

This is a crucial trait because if you have integrity, people can trust you. They can trust you to give them an honest feedback, even when it’s hard to shallow, and they can trust you to keep your promises.

This trust is one of the central pillars of a strong relationship, both in your personal and your professional life. So, as challenging as it can be sometimes, always try to have integrity.

Be honest with the people around you, even when this will initially hurt them. It’s more important for them to trust you than to not feel hurt. And always do what you promised. Even better, think twice before you promise anything, and only promise what you really can and you are willing to do.

5. Be There for Others

Another central pillar of strong relationships is support. Connections between people grow sturdy if they can rely on each other for support when it’s needed, whether that support means a few kind words or several massive actions.

Of course, you can’t be there for everybody, all the time. Your time, energy and other resources are limited. But what you can do is identify the genuinely important people in your life and then seek to be there as much as possible, at least for them.

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Your support will help them practically, and it will comfort them emotionally; which makes one hell of a difference in a relationship.

The Bottom Line

With the right mindset and the right behavior, you can strengthen a wide range of relationships in your life and advance them as far as they can be advanced.

And with strong relationships, not only that you feel more fulfilled, but you feel more connected to the entire world. You feel that your life has real value, you have more fun and you live in the moment. An entire world of opportunities opens up in front of you.

Then your task is to simply walk through the open doors.

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