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16 Unhealthy Habits You Should Get Rid Of By 35 Years Old

16 Unhealthy Habits You Should Get Rid Of By 35 Years Old

If you are reaching your mid-thirties it is time to take have a look at yourself and decide which habits are worthwhile keeping and which are weighing you down and ought to be shaken off. Let’s take a look at 16 habits that you should quickly be shedding.

1. Comparing yourself to others.

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    When you compare yourself to others you do damage to your sense of self. By undertaking the game of comparisons you are bound to end up feeling envious and low in confidence. Comparing yourself to others is also not very effective, as the front that others present in public may mask what they are really feeling or going through.

    2. Being a spendthrift

    It’s all very well having the latest accessories and the nicest car; but is it really necessary? At one point you need to ask yourself; If I keep spending will I have something to live off when I get older? The fact is the earlier you start saving the longer you have to accrue interest on your money, and this additional interest could prove to come in handy when you are in your senior years.

    3. Having irregular sleeping habits

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      When you were young, you think you can sleep anytime. You think you can stay awake all the time. But all these will make you pay a price later in life. And your body will no longer be capable of such habit. Start going to sleep and waking up at regular times. This can do you a world of good. It will help you remain fresh through-out the days and lead to good sleeping habits for the future.

      4. Thinking you need to satisfy everyone.

      After you reach a certain age it is time to stop trying to please everyone around you and choose a couple of close friends and family to be good to. Invest your time and energy wisely and be selective when you choose to help others. Most importantly don’t skimp on your own needs.

      5. Abusing your feet

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        Your feet are essential for life. Make sure you wear shoes that fit and are comfortable. Otherwise you may end up with infections, hammer toes, blisters, weird skin or bunions. And these ailments could prove to slow you down later in life.

        6. Avoiding spending time alone

        Spending time with yourself can be very beneficial and can help you ‘reboot’ your system. Quiet time alone will allow you to gather your thoughts and reflect on what you have. If you still can’t enjoy being alone, it’s hard for you to be really happy with others.

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        7. Being inactive

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          We have all know that keeping fit will help you get the most out of life. But did you know that in the later half of your 30s you start losing muscle mass. This makes exercising during these years all the more important. As if you want to remain strong in your later years you need to flex those muscles.

          8. Putting off your life dream

          Now is the time to pursue your life dreams. Don’t wait another minute because time is ticking by. You may wish to start a family, travel the world, or write a book. Whatever your ambition is make sure you take the first steps to fulfil it now.

          9. Being lazy with your dental hygiene

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            Look after your teeth because you only get one set. Make sure you get your teeth cleaner regularly and do all the daily dental hygiene stuff that needs to be done. The longer you keep your own teeth the better your smile will be and the happier you will be eating.   

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            10. Getting a tan

            If you would rather not have wrinkles and thin skin from sun damage, then stop lying in the sun. Once more a great looking tan can prove to cause major health concerns later in life, though, for example, the development of melanomas.

            11. Dealing with all your stressful events in your head

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              Keeping a journal can help you put your thoughts and feelings down on paper. This, in turn, can help you deal with stressful events. More than this a journal can be a great reminder of good times and struggles when you get older.

              12. Berating yourself for your mistakes

              Start learning how to forgive yourself for your mistakes. Try not to dwell on where you went wrong and instead look towards the future and see how you can steer things in the direction you want to go.

              13. Smoking

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                If you are a smoker stop immediately. Research suggests that if you quit before you reach the age of 40 you have a 90% lower mortality rate than those who continue to smoke.

                14. Looking to change yourself and things around you.

                If you are content with what you have and who you are chances are you will be happier in life. Research suggests that true gratitude can increase happiness and decrease negative feelings.

                15. Trying to hide your inner-nature

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                  If people do not appreciate who you truly are deep down, then they are not worth the effort. Show the world your inner beauty and it’ll smile back.

                  16. Closing off from those you love

                  Be open to those who love you. Let them in and share your thoughts and experiences with them. The more you open up to the ones you love the more you will gain from having them close.

                  Featured photo credit: A Runners Enduring Excursion via arunnersenduringexcursion.com

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                  Last Updated on August 6, 2020

                  6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

                  6 Reasons Why You Should Think Before You Speak

                  We’ve all done it. That moment when a series of words slithers from your mouth and the instant regret manifests through blushing and profuse apologies. If you could just think before you speak! It doesn’t have to be like this, and with a bit of practice, it’s actually quite easy to prevent.

                  “Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another.” – Napolean Hill

                  Are we speaking the same language?

                  My mum recently left me a note thanking me for looking after her dog. She’d signed it with “LOL.” In my world, this means “laugh out loud,” and in her world it means “lots of love.” My kids tell me things are “sick” when they’re good, and ”manck” when they’re bad (when I say “bad,” I don’t mean good!). It’s amazing that we manage to communicate at all.

                  When speaking, we tend to color our language with words and phrases that have become personal to us, things we’ve picked up from our friends, families and even memes from the internet. These colloquialisms become normal, and we expect the listener (or reader) to understand “what we mean.” If you really want the listener to understand your meaning, try to use words and phrases that they might use.

                  Am I being lazy?

                  When you’ve been in a relationship for a while, a strange metamorphosis takes place. People tend to become lazier in the way that they communicate with each other, with less thought for the feelings of their partner. There’s no malice intended; we just reach a “comfort zone” and know that our partners “know what we mean.”

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                  Here’s an exchange from Psychology Today to demonstrate what I mean:

                  Early in the relationship:

                  “Honey, I don’t want you to take this wrong, but I’m noticing that your hair is getting a little thin on top. I know guys are sensitive about losing their hair, but I don’t want someone else to embarrass you without your expecting it.”

                  When the relationship is established:

                  “Did you know that you’re losing a lot of hair on the back of your head? You’re combing it funny and it doesn’t help. Wear a baseball cap or something if you feel weird about it. Lots of guys get thin on top. It’s no big deal.”

                  It’s pretty clear which of these statements is more empathetic and more likely to be received well. Recognizing when we do this can be tricky, but with a little practice it becomes easy.

                  Have I actually got anything to say?

                  When I was a kid, my gran used to say to me that if I didn’t have anything good to say, I shouldn’t say anything at all. My gran couldn’t stand gossip, so this makes total sense, but you can take this statement a little further and modify it: “If you don’t have anything to say, then don’t say anything at all.”

                  A lot of the time, people speak to fill “uncomfortable silences,” or because they believe that saying something, anything, is better than staying quiet. It can even be a cause of anxiety for some people.

                  When somebody else is speaking, listen. Don’t wait to speak. Listen. Actually hear what that person is saying, think about it, and respond if necessary.

                  Am I painting an accurate picture?

                  One of the most common forms of miscommunication is the lack of a “referential index,” a type of generalization that fails to refer to specific nouns. As an example, look at these two simple phrases: “Can you pass me that?” and “Pass me that thing over there!”. How often have you said something similar?

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                  How is the listener supposed to know what you mean? The person that you’re talking to will start to fill in the gaps with something that may very well be completely different to what you mean. You’re thinking “pass me the salt,” but you get passed the pepper. This can be infuriating for the listener, and more importantly, can create a lack of understanding and ultimately produce conflict.

                  Before you speak, try to label people, places and objects in a way that it is easy for any listeners to understand.

                  What words am I using?

                  It’s well known that our use of nouns and verbs (or lack of them) gives an insight into where we grew up, our education, our thoughts and our feelings.

                  Less well known is that the use of pronouns offers a critical insight into how we emotionally code our sentences. James Pennebaker’s research in the 1990’s concluded that function words are important keys to someone’s psychological state and reveal much more than content words do.

                  Starting a sentence with “I think…” demonstrates self-focus rather than empathy with the speaker, whereas asking the speaker to elaborate or quantify what they’re saying clearly shows that you’re listening and have respect even if you disagree.

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                  Is the map really the territory?

                  Before speaking, we sometimes construct a scenario that makes us act in a way that isn’t necessarily reflective of the actual situation.

                  A while ago, John promised to help me out in a big way with a project that I was working on. After an initial meeting and some big promises, we put together a plan and set off on its execution. A week or so went by, and I tried to get a hold of John to see how things were going. After voice mails and emails with no reply and general silence, I tried again a week later and still got no response.

                  I was frustrated and started to get more than a bit vexed. The project obviously meant more to me than it did to him, and I started to construct all manner of crazy scenarios. I finally got through to John and immediately started a mild rant about making promises you can’t keep. He stopped me in my tracks with the news that his brother had died. If I’d have just thought before I spoke…

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