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100 Inspirational Quotes That Will Give You Strength During Hard Times

100 Inspirational Quotes That Will Give You Strength During Hard Times

1. You Were Given This Life Because You Are Strong Enough To Live It.

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    2. I Am Not What Happened To Me. I Am What I Choose To Become.

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      3. Forget Your Past, Forgive Yourself, And Begin Again Right Now.

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        4. Whenever You Find Yourself Doubting How Far You Can Go, Just Remember How Far You Have Come. Remember Everything You Have Faced, All The Battles You Have Won, And All The Fears You Have Overcome.

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          5. Growth Is Painful. Change Is Painful. But Nothing Is As Painful As Staying Stuck Somewhere You Don’t Belong.

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            6. I Don’t Want You To Save Me. I Want You To Stand By My Side As I Save Myself.

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              7. Hope Is The Only Thing Stronger Than Fear.

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                8. Let Yourself Be Gutted. Let It Open You. Start There.

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                  9. I’ll Find Strength in Pain.

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                    10. Never Apologize For Being Sensitive Or Emotional. Let This Be A Sign That You’ve Got A Big Heart And Aren’t Afraid To Let Others See It. Showing Your Emotions Is A Sign Of Strength.

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                      11. Being Deeply Loved Gives You Strength; Loving Deeply Gives You Courage.

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                        12. You Attract What You Are, Not What You Want If You Want Great, Then Be Great.

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                          13. You’re Allowed To Scream, You’re Allowed To Cry, But Do Not Give Up.

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                            14. Step Into My Shoes And Walk the life I’m Living And If you Get As Far As I am, Just Maybe You Will See How Strong I Really Am.

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                              15. If You’re Lucky Enough To Be Different, Don’t Ever Change.

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                                16. I Am Strong Because I’ve Been Weak. I Am Fearless Because I’ve Been Afraid.

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                                  17. Sometimes You Face Difficulties You’re Doing Something Wrong, But Because You’re Doing Something Right.

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                                    18. Work For A Cause, Not For Applause. Live Life To Express, Not To Impress. Don’t Strive To Make Your Presence Noticed, Just Make Your Presence Noticed, Just Make Your Absence Felt.

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                                      19. Wake Up With Determination. Go To Bed With Satisfaction.

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                                        20. Go Ahead Tell Me That I’m Not Good Enough Tell Me I Can’T Do It Because I Will Show You Over & Over That I Can!

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                                          21. Do Not Jude You Don’T Know What Storm I’ve Asked Her To Walk Trough.

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                                            22. When You Start Seeing Your Worth, You’ll Find It Harder To Stay Around People Who Don’t.

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                                              23. The Woman Who Does Not Required Validation From Anyone Is The Most Feared Individual On The Planet.

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                                                24. Smile. You’re Cute.

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                                                  25. The Strongest Actions For A Woman Is To Love Herself, Be herself And Shine Amongst Those Who Never Believed She Could.

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                                                    26. Dear Stress, Let’s Break up.

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                                                      27. I Am The Type Of Person That Will Sit In The Bathroom And Cry, But Then Walk Out Like Nothing Ever Happened.

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                                                        28. A Strong Woman Is One Who Is Able To Smile This Morning Like She Wasn’t Crying Last Night.

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                                                          29. The Strongest People Are Not Those Who Show Strength In Front Of Us But Those Who Win Battles We Know Nothing About.

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                                                            30. Sometimes You Have To Get Knocked Down Lower Than You Have Ever Been To Stand Back Up Taller Than You Ever Were.

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                                                              31. Smile And Let Everyone Know That Today, You’re A Lot Stronger Than You Were.

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                                                                32. Do Not Pray For An Easy Life, Pray For The Strength To Endure A Difficult One.

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                                                                  33. The Struggle Of You’re In Today Is Developing the Strength You Need For Tomorrow.

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                                                                    34. Knowing When To Walk Away I s Wisdom….

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                                                                      35. A Strong Woman Knows How To Keep Her Life In Line. With Tears In Her Eyes, She Still Manages To Say, “Nah, I’m Fine.”

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                                                                        36. A Strong Woman Looks A Challenge Dead In The Eye And Gives It a Wink.

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                                                                          37. If I Ever Let My Head Down It Will Be Just To Admire My Shoes.

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                                                                            38. Littles Girs With Dreams Becomes Women With Vision.

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                                                                              39. Women Have Been Trained To Speak Softly And Carry A Lipstick.
                                                                              Those Days Are Over.

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                                                                                40. You Can Become Strong And Powerful And Beautiful.

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                                                                                  41. Never Be Ashamed Of A Scar. It Simply Means You Were Stronger Than Whatever Tried To Hurt You.

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                                                                                    42. You Were Never Created To Live Depressed, Defeated, Guilty, Condemned, Ashamed Or Unworthy. You Were Created To Be Victorious.

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                                                                                      43. When You Face Difficult Times, Know That Challenges Are Not Sent To Destroy You. They’re Sent To Promote, Increase And Strengthen You.

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                                                                                        44. The Kind Of Beauty I Want Most Is The Hard-to-get Kind That Comes From Within-strength, Courage, Dignity.

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                                                                                          45. She Is Clothed With Strength & Dignity And Laughs Without Fear Of The feature.

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                                                                                            46. Sometimes The Bad Things That Happen In Our Lives Put Us Directly On The Best Things That Will Ever Happen To Us.

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                                                                                              47. Give God Your Weakness And He’ll Give You His Strength.

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                                                                                                48. She Builds Others Up Because She Knows What It’s Like To Be Torn Down.

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                                                                                                  49. Strong Women Wear Their Pain Like They Do Stilettos. No Matter How Much It Hurts, All You See Is The Beauty Of It.

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                                                                                                    50. This Is The Year I Will Be Stronger, Braver, Kinder, Unstoppable, And This Year I Will Be Fierce.

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                                                                                                      51. Life Has A Way Of Testing A Persons Will, Either By Having Nothing Happen At All or By Having Everything Happen At Once.

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                                                                                                        52. Storms Makes Tress Take Deeper Roots.

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                                                                                                          53. You Only Live Once, You Might As Well As A Badass!

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                                                                                                            54. Don’t Let The Behavior Of Others Destroy Inner Peace.

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                                                                                                              55. Smile And Let Everyone Know That Today, You’re A Lot Stronger Than You Were Yesterday.

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                                                                                                                56. I Am Strong Because I Know My Weaknesses. I Am Beautiful Because I Am Aware Of My Flaws. I AM Fearless…

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                                                                                                                  57. Believe In Yourself A Little More.

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                                                                                                                    58. You Are Stronger Than You Think.

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                                                                                                                      59. Don’t Worry…

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                                                                                                                        60. The Strongest People Are Not Those Who Show Strength In Front Of Us But Those Who Win Battles We Know Nothing About.

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                                                                                                                          61. Go As Long As You Can, And Then Take Another Step.

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                                                                                                                            62. Don’t Let Anyone Ever Break Your Soul….

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                                                                                                                              63. And The Salt In My Wounds Isn’t Burning Anymore Than It Used To…

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                                                                                                                                64. Above All, Be the Heroine Of Your Life, Not The Victim.

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                                                                                                                                  65. If A Person Wants To Be A Part Of Your Life, They Will Make An Obvious Effort To Do So. Think Twice Before Reserving A Space In Your Heart For People Who Do Not Make An Effort To Stay.

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                                                                                                                                    66. Stop Wearing Your Wishbone Where Your Backbone Ought to Be.

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                                                                                                                                      67. When Start Seeing Your Worth, Your’ll Find It Harder To Stay Around People Who Don’t.

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                                                                                                                                        68. A Strong Woman Loves, Forgives, Walks Aways, Lets Go, Tries again, and Perseveres…

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                                                                                                                                          69. I Am The Type Of Person That Will Sit In The Bathroom And Cry, But Then Walk Out Like Nothing Ever Happened.

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                                                                                                                                            70. Character. Intelligence. Strength. Style. That Makes Beauty.

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                                                                                                                                              71. Being Both Soft And Strong Is A Combination Very Few Have Mastered.

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                                                                                                                                                72. Heavenly Father Knows All About You…

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                                                                                                                                                  73. Do You Want to Be Happy? Let Go Of What’s Gone, Be Grateful For What Remains And Look Forward To What Is Coming.

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                                                                                                                                                    74. Once You Start To See Results, It Becomes An Addiction.

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                                                                                                                                                      75. I’m Stronger Because I Had To Be, I’m Smarter Because…

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                                                                                                                                                        76. Sometimes, You Have To Get Knocked Down Lower Than You Have Ever Been To Stand Back Up Taller Than You Ever You Were.

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                                                                                                                                                          77. The Strongest People Are Not Those Who Show Strength In Front Of Us But Those Who Win Battles WeKnow Nothing About.

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                                                                                                                                                            78. What Would You Do If You Weren’t Afraid?

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                                                                                                                                                              79. I’m Thankful For My Struggle Because…

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                                                                                                                                                                80. You Have Within You, Right Now, Everything You Need To Deal With Whatever The World Can Throw At You.

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                                                                                                                                                                  81.When You Change The Way You Look At Things, The Things You Look At Change.

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                                                                                                                                                                    82. Don’t Ever Mistake My Silence For Ignorance, My Calmness For Acceptance And My Kindness For Weakness.

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                                                                                                                                                                      83. We All Have An Unsuspected Reserve Of Strength Inside That emerges When Life Puts Us To The Test.

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                                                                                                                                                                        84. If You Can’t Stop Thinking About It, Don’t Stop Working For It.

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                                                                                                                                                                          85. I’m Too Busy Working On My Own Grass To Notice If Yours Is Greener.

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                                                                                                                                                                            86. One Of The Most Courageous Decisions You’ll Ever Make Is To Finally Let Go Of What Is Hurting Your Heart And Soul.

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                                                                                                                                                                              87. Make A Fairy Tale And Go Live In It.

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                                                                                                                                                                                88. You can, and You Will.

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                                                                                                                                                                                  89. Maybe Life Isn’t About Avoiding The Bruises. Maybe It’s About Collecting The Scars To Prove We Showed Up For It.

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                                                                                                                                                                                    90. Don’t Let How You Feel Make You Forget What You Deserve.

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                                                                                                                                                                                      91. We All Have A Fighter In Us.

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                                                                                                                                                                                        92. You Have To Be At Your Strongest When You’re feeling At Your Weakest.

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                                                                                                                                                                                          93. It’s Better To Break Your Own Heart By Leaving, Rather Than Having That Person Break Your Heart Every Day You’re With Them.

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                                                                                                                                                                                            94. Stay Positive Even When It Feels Like Your Life Is Falling Apart.

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                                                                                                                                                                                              95. Some People Don’t Like You Just Because Your Strength Reminds Them Of Their Weakness. Don’t let The Hate Slow You Down.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                96. The Secret Of Having It All Is Believing You Already Do.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                  97. Throw Me To The Wolves And I’ll Come Back Leading The Pack.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                    98. If You Are Not Willing To Learn, No One Can Help You. If You Are Determined To Lean, No One Can Stop You.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                      99. It’s Okay To Be Scared. Being Scared Means You’re About To Do Something Really, Really Brave.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                        100. Don’t Quit. Suffer Now And Live The Rest Of Your Life As A Champion.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                          101. Do What You Have To Do Until You Can Do What You Want To Do.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                            102.  Forget All The Reasons Why It Wont Work And Believe The One Reason Why It Will!

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                                                                                                                                                                                                              103. Make A Wish.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                104. Better Things Are Coming.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                  105. Keep Your Hopes Up.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                    106. The Only Person You Should Try To Be Better Than, Is The Person You Were Yesterday.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                      107. Happiness Is Not A Destination It Is A Way Of Life.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                        108. Stay Positive.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                          109. You’re Beautiful.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                            110. The Lord Is My Strength And My Shield In Him My Heart.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                              111. Keep The Faith. The Most Amazing Things In Life Tend To Happen Right At The Moment You’re About To Give Up Hope.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                112. Anyone Can Give Up, It’s The Easiest Thing In The World To Do. But To Hold It Together When Everyone Else Would Understand If You Fell Apart, That’s True Strength.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  113. Be That Strong Girl That Everyone Knew Would Make It Through The Worst. Be that Fearless Girl..

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    114. Nothing Can Dim The Light That Shines From Within.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      115. May My Heart Be Brave, My Mind Fierce, And My Spirit Free.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        116. I Figure, If A Girl Wants To Be A Legend, She Should Go Ahead And Be One.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          117. Nothing Is More Impressive Than A person Who Is Secure In The Unique Way God Made Her.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            118. You Never Realize How Strong You Are Until Being Strong Is the Only Choice You Have.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              119. A Strong Woman Stands Up For Herself. A Stronger Woman Stands Up For Everyone Else.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                120. A True Hero Isn’t Measured By The Size Of His Strength, But By The Strength Of His Heart

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  121. Stay Strong, Make Them Wonder How You’re Still Smiling.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    122. You’ve Always Had The Power My Dear, Your Just Had To Learn It For Yourself.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      123. I’ve Never Met A Strong Person With An Easy Part.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        124. You’re Never Too Young To Dream BIG!

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          125. Nothing Is Impossible, The World Itself Says “I’m Possible!”

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            126. Follow That Dream.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              127. Don’t Tell People Your Dream. Show Them.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                128. Fall Seven Times, Stand Up Eight.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  129. If You Haven’t Found It Yet, Keep Looking.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    130. Nobody Is Too Busy, It’s Just A Matter Of Priorities.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      131. The Distance Between Your Dreams And Reality Is Call Action.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        132. Hey Little Fighter, Soon Things Will Be Brighter.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          How to Say No When You Say Yes Too Often

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          How to Say No When You Say Yes Too Often

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Do you say yes so often that you realize you aren’t really happy about this, wondering how to say no to people?

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          For years, I was a serial people pleaser. Known as someone who would step up, I would gladly make time especially when it came to volunteering for certain causes. I proudly carried this role all through grade school, college, even through law school. For years, I thought saying “no” meant I would disappoint a good friend or someone I respected.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          But somewhere along the way, I noticed I wasn’t quite living my life. Instead, I seem to have created a schedule that was a strange combination of meeting the expectations of others, what I thought I should be doing, and some of what I actually wanted to do. The result? I had a packed schedule that left me overwhelmed and unfulfilled.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          It took a long while but I learned the art of saying no. Saying ‘no’ meant I no longer catered fully to everyone else’s needs and could make more room for what I really wanted to do. Instead of cramming too much in, I chose to pursue what really mattered. I started to manage my time more around my own needs and interests. When that happened, I became a lot happier. And guess what? I hardly disappointed anyone.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          The Importance of Saying No

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          When you learn the art of saying ‘no,’ you begin to look at the world differently. Rather than seeing all of the things you could or should be doing (and aren’t doing), you start to look at how to say yes to what’s important.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          In other words, you aren’t just reacting to what life throws at you. You seek the opportunities that move you to where you want to be.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Successful people aren’t afraid to say no. Oprah Winfrey considered one of the most successful women in the world confessed that it was much later in life when she learned how to say no. Even after she had become internationally famous, she felt she had to say yes to virtually everything. It was only when she realized that after years of struggling with saying no, I finally got to this question: “What do I want?”

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Being able to say no also helps you manage your time better.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Warren Buffett views no as essential to his success. He said,

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          “The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything.”

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          When I made ‘no’ a part of my toolbox, I drove more of my own success focusing on fewer things and doing them well.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          How We Are Pressured to Say Yes

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          It’s no wonder a lot of us find it hard to say ‘no.’

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          From an early age, we are conditioned to say ‘yes.’ We said yes probably hundreds of time in order to graduate from high school and then get into college. We said yes to find work. We said yes get a promotion. We said yes to find love and then yes again to stay in a relationship. We said yes to find and keep friends.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          We say yes because it feels better to help someone. We say yes because it can seem like the right thing to do. We say yes because we think that is key to success. And we say yes because the request might come from someone who is hard to resist like the boss.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          And that’s not all. The pressure to say yes doesn’t just come from others. We put a lot of pressure on ourselves. At work, we say yes because we compare ourselves to others who seem to be doing more than we are. Outside of work, we say yes because we feel guilty we aren’t doing enough to spend time with family or friends.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          The message no matter where we turn is nearly always, “You really could be doing more.” The result? When people ask us for our time, we are heavily conditioned to say yes.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          How to Say No Without Feeling Guilty

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Deciding to add the word ‘no’ to your toolbox is no small thing. Perhaps you already say ‘no’ but not as much as you would like. Maybe you have an instinct that if you were to learn the art of ‘no’ that you could finally create more time for things you care about. But let’s be honest, using the word ‘no’ doesn’t come easily for many people.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          The 3 Rules of Thumbs for Saying No

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          1. You Need to Get Out of Your Comfort Zone

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Let’s face it. It is hard to say no. Setting boundaries around your time especially you haven’t done it much in the past will feel awkward.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          2. You Are the Air Traffic Controller of Your Time

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Remember that you are the only one who understands the demands for your time. Think about it, who else knows about all of the demands on your time? No one. Only you are at the center of all of these requests. are the only one that understands what time you really have.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          3. Saying ‘No’ Means Saying ‘Yes’ to Something That Matters

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          When we decide not to do something, it means we can say yes to something else. You have a unique opportunity to decide how you spend your precious time.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          6 Ways to Start Saying No

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Incorporating that little word ‘no’ into your life can be transformational. Turning some things down will mean you can open doors to what really matters. Here are some essential tips to learn the art of no:

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          1. Check in With Your Obligation Meter

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          One of the biggest challenges to saying ‘no’ is a feeling of obligation. Do you feel you have a responsibility to say yes and worry that saying no reflect poorly on you?

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Ask yourself whether you truly have the duty to say yes. Check your assumptions or beliefs about whether you carry the responsibility to say yes. Turn it around and instead ask what duty you owe to yourself.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          2. Resist the Fear of Missing out (FOMO)

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Do you have a fear of missing out (FOMO)? FOMO can follow us around in so many ways. At work, we volunteer our time because we fear we won’t move ahead. In our personal lives, we agree to join the crowd because FOMO even while we ourselves aren’t enjoying the fun.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Check in with yourself. Are you saying yes because of FOMO or because you really want to say yes? More often than not, running after fear doesn’t make us feel better.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          3. Check Your Assumptions About What It Means to Say ‘No’

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Do you dread the reaction you will get if you say no? Often, we say ‘yes’ because we worry about how others will respond or the consequences of saying no or because of the consequences. We may be afraid to disappoint others or think we will lose respect from others. We often forget how much we are disappointing ourselves along the way.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Keep in mind that saying ‘no’ can be exactly what is needed to send the right message that you have limited time. In the tips below, you will see how to communicate your no in a gentle and loving way. You might disappoint someone initially but drawing a boundary can bring you the freedom you need so that you can give freely of yourself when you truly want to.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          4. When the Request Comes In, Sit on It

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Sometimes, when we are in the moment, we instinctively agree. The request might make sense at first. Or we typically have said yes to this request in the past.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Give yourself a little time to reflect on whether you really have the time, or can do the task properly. You may decide the best option is to say ‘no.’ There is no harm in giving yourself the time to decide.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          5. Communicate Your ‘No’ with Transparency and Kindness

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          When you are ready to tell someone no, communicate your decision clearly. The message can be open and honest to ensure the recipient that your reasons have to do with your limited time.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Resist the temptation not to respond or communicate all. But do not feel obligated to provide a lengthy account about why you are saying no.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          A clear communication with a short explanation is all that is needed. I have found it useful to tell people that I have many demands and need to be careful with how I allocate my time. I will sometimes say I really appreciate that they came to me and for them to check in again if the opportunity arises another time.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          6. Consider How to Use a Modified ‘No’

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          If you are under pressure to say yes but want to say no, you may want to consider downgrading a “yes” to a “yes but…” giving you an opportunity to condition your agreement to what works best for you.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Sometimes, the condition can be to do the task but not in the time frame that was originally requested. Or perhaps you can do part of what has been asked.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Final Thoughts

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Beginning right now, you can change how you respond to requests for your time. When the request comes in, take yourself off autopilot where you might normally say yes.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Use the request as a fresh request to draw a healthy boundary around your time. Pay particular attention to when you place certain demands on yourself. If you are the one placing the demand on yourself, try to evaluate the demand as if it were coming from somewhere else.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Try it now. Say no to a friend who continues to take advantage of your goodwill. Or, draw the line with a workaholic colleague and tell them you will complete the project but not by working all weekend. Or, tell someone in your family you can’t loan them money again because they never paid you back the last time. You’ll find yourself much happier.

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