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100 Inspirational Quotes That Will Give You Strength During Hard Times

100 Inspirational Quotes That Will Give You Strength During Hard Times

1. You Were Given This Life Because You Are Strong Enough To Live It.

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    2. I Am Not What Happened To Me. I Am What I Choose To Become.

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      3. Forget Your Past, Forgive Yourself, And Begin Again Right Now.

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        4. Whenever You Find Yourself Doubting How Far You Can Go, Just Remember How Far You Have Come. Remember Everything You Have Faced, All The Battles You Have Won, And All The Fears You Have Overcome.

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          5. Growth Is Painful. Change Is Painful. But Nothing Is As Painful As Staying Stuck Somewhere You Don’t Belong.

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            6. I Don’t Want You To Save Me. I Want You To Stand By My Side As I Save Myself.

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              7. Hope Is The Only Thing Stronger Than Fear.

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                8. Let Yourself Be Gutted. Let It Open You. Start There.

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                  9. I’ll Find Strength in Pain.

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                    10. Never Apologize For Being Sensitive Or Emotional. Let This Be A Sign That You’ve Got A Big Heart And Aren’t Afraid To Let Others See It. Showing Your Emotions Is A Sign Of Strength.

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                      11. Being Deeply Loved Gives You Strength; Loving Deeply Gives You Courage.

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                        12. You Attract What You Are, Not What You Want If You Want Great, Then Be Great.

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                          13. You’re Allowed To Scream, You’re Allowed To Cry, But Do Not Give Up.

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                            14. Step Into My Shoes And Walk the life I’m Living And If you Get As Far As I am, Just Maybe You Will See How Strong I Really Am.

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                              15. If You’re Lucky Enough To Be Different, Don’t Ever Change.

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                                16. I Am Strong Because I’ve Been Weak. I Am Fearless Because I’ve Been Afraid.

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                                  17. Sometimes You Face Difficulties You’re Doing Something Wrong, But Because You’re Doing Something Right.

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                                    18. Work For A Cause, Not For Applause. Live Life To Express, Not To Impress. Don’t Strive To Make Your Presence Noticed, Just Make Your Presence Noticed, Just Make Your Absence Felt.

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                                      19. Wake Up With Determination. Go To Bed With Satisfaction.

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                                        20. Go Ahead Tell Me That I’m Not Good Enough Tell Me I Can’T Do It Because I Will Show You Over & Over That I Can!

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                                          21. Do Not Jude You Don’T Know What Storm I’ve Asked Her To Walk Trough.

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                                            22. When You Start Seeing Your Worth, You’ll Find It Harder To Stay Around People Who Don’t.

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                                              23. The Woman Who Does Not Required Validation From Anyone Is The Most Feared Individual On The Planet.

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                                                24. Smile. You’re Cute.

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                                                  25. The Strongest Actions For A Woman Is To Love Herself, Be herself And Shine Amongst Those Who Never Believed She Could.

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                                                    26. Dear Stress, Let’s Break up.

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                                                      27. I Am The Type Of Person That Will Sit In The Bathroom And Cry, But Then Walk Out Like Nothing Ever Happened.

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                                                        28. A Strong Woman Is One Who Is Able To Smile This Morning Like She Wasn’t Crying Last Night.

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                                                          29. The Strongest People Are Not Those Who Show Strength In Front Of Us But Those Who Win Battles We Know Nothing About.

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                                                            30. Sometimes You Have To Get Knocked Down Lower Than You Have Ever Been To Stand Back Up Taller Than You Ever Were.

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                                                              31. Smile And Let Everyone Know That Today, You’re A Lot Stronger Than You Were.

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                                                                32. Do Not Pray For An Easy Life, Pray For The Strength To Endure A Difficult One.

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                                                                  33. The Struggle Of You’re In Today Is Developing the Strength You Need For Tomorrow.

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                                                                    34. Knowing When To Walk Away I s Wisdom….

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                                                                      35. A Strong Woman Knows How To Keep Her Life In Line. With Tears In Her Eyes, She Still Manages To Say, “Nah, I’m Fine.”

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                                                                        36. A Strong Woman Looks A Challenge Dead In The Eye And Gives It a Wink.

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                                                                          37. If I Ever Let My Head Down It Will Be Just To Admire My Shoes.

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                                                                            38. Littles Girs With Dreams Becomes Women With Vision.

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                                                                              39. Women Have Been Trained To Speak Softly And Carry A Lipstick.
                                                                              Those Days Are Over.

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                                                                                40. You Can Become Strong And Powerful And Beautiful.

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                                                                                  41. Never Be Ashamed Of A Scar. It Simply Means You Were Stronger Than Whatever Tried To Hurt You.

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                                                                                    42. You Were Never Created To Live Depressed, Defeated, Guilty, Condemned, Ashamed Or Unworthy. You Were Created To Be Victorious.

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                                                                                      43. When You Face Difficult Times, Know That Challenges Are Not Sent To Destroy You. They’re Sent To Promote, Increase And Strengthen You.

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                                                                                        44. The Kind Of Beauty I Want Most Is The Hard-to-get Kind That Comes From Within-strength, Courage, Dignity.

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                                                                                          45. She Is Clothed With Strength & Dignity And Laughs Without Fear Of The feature.

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                                                                                            46. Sometimes The Bad Things That Happen In Our Lives Put Us Directly On The Best Things That Will Ever Happen To Us.

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                                                                                              47. Give God Your Weakness And He’ll Give You His Strength.

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                                                                                                48. She Builds Others Up Because She Knows What It’s Like To Be Torn Down.

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                                                                                                  49. Strong Women Wear Their Pain Like They Do Stilettos. No Matter How Much It Hurts, All You See Is The Beauty Of It.

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                                                                                                    50. This Is The Year I Will Be Stronger, Braver, Kinder, Unstoppable, And This Year I Will Be Fierce.

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                                                                                                      51. Life Has A Way Of Testing A Persons Will, Either By Having Nothing Happen At All or By Having Everything Happen At Once.

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                                                                                                        52. Storms Makes Tress Take Deeper Roots.

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                                                                                                          53. You Only Live Once, You Might As Well As A Badass!

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                                                                                                            54. Don’t Let The Behavior Of Others Destroy Inner Peace.

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                                                                                                              55. Smile And Let Everyone Know That Today, You’re A Lot Stronger Than You Were Yesterday.

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                                                                                                                56. I Am Strong Because I Know My Weaknesses. I Am Beautiful Because I Am Aware Of My Flaws. I AM Fearless…

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                                                                                                                  57. Believe In Yourself A Little More.

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                                                                                                                    58. You Are Stronger Than You Think.

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                                                                                                                      59. Don’t Worry…

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                                                                                                                        60. The Strongest People Are Not Those Who Show Strength In Front Of Us But Those Who Win Battles We Know Nothing About.

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                                                                                                                          61. Go As Long As You Can, And Then Take Another Step.

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                                                                                                                            62. Don’t Let Anyone Ever Break Your Soul….

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                                                                                                                              63. And The Salt In My Wounds Isn’t Burning Anymore Than It Used To…

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                                                                                                                                64. Above All, Be the Heroine Of Your Life, Not The Victim.

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                                                                                                                                  65. If A Person Wants To Be A Part Of Your Life, They Will Make An Obvious Effort To Do So. Think Twice Before Reserving A Space In Your Heart For People Who Do Not Make An Effort To Stay.

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                                                                                                                                    66. Stop Wearing Your Wishbone Where Your Backbone Ought to Be.

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                                                                                                                                      67. When Start Seeing Your Worth, Your’ll Find It Harder To Stay Around People Who Don’t.

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                                                                                                                                        68. A Strong Woman Loves, Forgives, Walks Aways, Lets Go, Tries again, and Perseveres…

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                                                                                                                                          69. I Am The Type Of Person That Will Sit In The Bathroom And Cry, But Then Walk Out Like Nothing Ever Happened.

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                                                                                                                                            70. Character. Intelligence. Strength. Style. That Makes Beauty.

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                                                                                                                                              71. Being Both Soft And Strong Is A Combination Very Few Have Mastered.

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                                                                                                                                                72. Heavenly Father Knows All About You…

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                                                                                                                                                  73. Do You Want to Be Happy? Let Go Of What’s Gone, Be Grateful For What Remains And Look Forward To What Is Coming.

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                                                                                                                                                    74. Once You Start To See Results, It Becomes An Addiction.

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                                                                                                                                                      75. I’m Stronger Because I Had To Be, I’m Smarter Because…

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                                                                                                                                                        76. Sometimes, You Have To Get Knocked Down Lower Than You Have Ever Been To Stand Back Up Taller Than You Ever You Were.

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                                                                                                                                                          77. The Strongest People Are Not Those Who Show Strength In Front Of Us But Those Who Win Battles WeKnow Nothing About.

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                                                                                                                                                            78. What Would You Do If You Weren’t Afraid?

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                                                                                                                                                              79. I’m Thankful For My Struggle Because…

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                                                                                                                                                                80. You Have Within You, Right Now, Everything You Need To Deal With Whatever The World Can Throw At You.

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                                                                                                                                                                  81.When You Change The Way You Look At Things, The Things You Look At Change.

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                                                                                                                                                                    82. Don’t Ever Mistake My Silence For Ignorance, My Calmness For Acceptance And My Kindness For Weakness.

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                                                                                                                                                                      83. We All Have An Unsuspected Reserve Of Strength Inside That emerges When Life Puts Us To The Test.

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                                                                                                                                                                        84. If You Can’t Stop Thinking About It, Don’t Stop Working For It.

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                                                                                                                                                                          85. I’m Too Busy Working On My Own Grass To Notice If Yours Is Greener.

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                                                                                                                                                                            86. One Of The Most Courageous Decisions You’ll Ever Make Is To Finally Let Go Of What Is Hurting Your Heart And Soul.

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                                                                                                                                                                              87. Make A Fairy Tale And Go Live In It.

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                                                                                                                                                                                88. You can, and You Will.

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                                                                                                                                                                                  89. Maybe Life Isn’t About Avoiding The Bruises. Maybe It’s About Collecting The Scars To Prove We Showed Up For It.

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                                                                                                                                                                                    90. Don’t Let How You Feel Make You Forget What You Deserve.

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                                                                                                                                                                                      91. We All Have A Fighter In Us.

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                                                                                                                                                                                        92. You Have To Be At Your Strongest When You’re feeling At Your Weakest.

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                                                                                                                                                                                          93. It’s Better To Break Your Own Heart By Leaving, Rather Than Having That Person Break Your Heart Every Day You’re With Them.

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                                                                                                                                                                                            94. Stay Positive Even When It Feels Like Your Life Is Falling Apart.

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                                                                                                                                                                                              95. Some People Don’t Like You Just Because Your Strength Reminds Them Of Their Weakness. Don’t let The Hate Slow You Down.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                96. The Secret Of Having It All Is Believing You Already Do.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                  97. Throw Me To The Wolves And I’ll Come Back Leading The Pack.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                    98. If You Are Not Willing To Learn, No One Can Help You. If You Are Determined To Lean, No One Can Stop You.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                      99. It’s Okay To Be Scared. Being Scared Means You’re About To Do Something Really, Really Brave.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                        100. Don’t Quit. Suffer Now And Live The Rest Of Your Life As A Champion.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                          101. Do What You Have To Do Until You Can Do What You Want To Do.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                            102.  Forget All The Reasons Why It Wont Work And Believe The One Reason Why It Will!

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                                                                                                                                                                                                              103. Make A Wish.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                104. Better Things Are Coming.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                  105. Keep Your Hopes Up.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                    106. The Only Person You Should Try To Be Better Than, Is The Person You Were Yesterday.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                      107. Happiness Is Not A Destination It Is A Way Of Life.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                        108. Stay Positive.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                          109. You’re Beautiful.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                            110. The Lord Is My Strength And My Shield In Him My Heart.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                              111. Keep The Faith. The Most Amazing Things In Life Tend To Happen Right At The Moment You’re About To Give Up Hope.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                112. Anyone Can Give Up, It’s The Easiest Thing In The World To Do. But To Hold It Together When Everyone Else Would Understand If You Fell Apart, That’s True Strength.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  113. Be That Strong Girl That Everyone Knew Would Make It Through The Worst. Be that Fearless Girl..

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    114. Nothing Can Dim The Light That Shines From Within.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      115. May My Heart Be Brave, My Mind Fierce, And My Spirit Free.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        116. I Figure, If A Girl Wants To Be A Legend, She Should Go Ahead And Be One.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          117. Nothing Is More Impressive Than A person Who Is Secure In The Unique Way God Made Her.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            118. You Never Realize How Strong You Are Until Being Strong Is the Only Choice You Have.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              119. A Strong Woman Stands Up For Herself. A Stronger Woman Stands Up For Everyone Else.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                120. A True Hero Isn’t Measured By The Size Of His Strength, But By The Strength Of His Heart

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  121. Stay Strong, Make Them Wonder How You’re Still Smiling.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    122. You’ve Always Had The Power My Dear, Your Just Had To Learn It For Yourself.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      123. I’ve Never Met A Strong Person With An Easy Part.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        124. You’re Never Too Young To Dream BIG!

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          125. Nothing Is Impossible, The World Itself Says “I’m Possible!”

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            126. Follow That Dream.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              127. Don’t Tell People Your Dream. Show Them.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                128. Fall Seven Times, Stand Up Eight.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  129. If You Haven’t Found It Yet, Keep Looking.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    130. Nobody Is Too Busy, It’s Just A Matter Of Priorities.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      131. The Distance Between Your Dreams And Reality Is Call Action.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        132. Hey Little Fighter, Soon Things Will Be Brighter.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          They say we are the average of the five persons we spend the most time with. For a minute, consider the people around you. Are they truly who your “tribe” should be or who you aspire to become in the future? Are they really genuine people who want to see you succeed? Or are they fake people who don’t really want to see you happy?

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          In this article, I’ll review why it is important to surround yourself with genuine individuals—the ones who care, bring something to our table, and first and foremost, who leave all fakeness behind.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          How to Spot Fake People?

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          When you’ve been working in the helping professions for a while, spotting fake people gets a bit easier. There are some very clear signs that the person you are looking at is hiding something, acting somehow, or simply wanting to get somewhere. Most often, there is a secondary gain—perhaps attention, sympathy, or even a promotion.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Whatever it is, you’re better off working their true agenda and staying the hell away. Here are some things you should look out for to help spot fake people.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          1. Full of Themselves

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Fake people like to show off. They love looking at themselves in the mirror. They collect photos and videos of every single achievement they had and every part of their body and claim to be the “best at what they do.”

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Most of these people are actually not that good in real life. But they act like they are and ensure that they appear better than the next person. The issue for you is that you may find yourself always feeling “beneath” them and irritated at their constant need to be in the spotlight.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          2. Murky in Expressing Their Emotions

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Have you ever tried having a deep and meaningful conversation with a fake person? It’s almost impossible. It’s because they have limited emotional intelligence and don’t know how they truly feel deep down—and partly because they don’t want to have their true emotions exposed, no matter how normal these might be.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          It’s much harder to say “I’m the best at what I do” while simultaneously sharing “average” emotions with “equal” people.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          3. Zero Self-Reflection

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          To grow, we must accept feedback from others. We must be open to our strengths and to our weaknesses. We must accept that we all come in different shapes and can always improve.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Self-reflection requires us to think, forgive, admit fault, and learn from our mistakes. But to do that, we have to be able to adopt a level of genuineness and depth that fake people don’t routinely have. A fake person generally never apologizes, but when they do, it is often followed with a “but” in the next breath.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          4. Unrealistic Perceptions

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Fake people most often have an unrealistic perception of the world—things that they want to portray to others (pseudo achievements, materialistic gains, or a made-up sense of happiness) or simply how they genuinely regard life outside themselves.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          A lot of fake people hide pain, shame, and other underlying reasons in their behavior. This could explain why they can’t be authentic and/or have difficulties seeing their environment for the way it objectively is (both good and bad).

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          5. Love Attention

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          As I mentioned earlier, the biggest sign that something isn’t quite right with someone’s behavior can be established by how much they love attention. Are you being interrupted every time you speak by someone who wants to make sure that the spotlight gets reverted back to them? Is the focus always on them, no matter the topic? If yes, you’re probably dealing with a fake person.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          6. People Pleaser

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Appreciation feels nice but having everyone like you is even better. While it is completely unrealistic for most people to please everyone all the time, fake people seem to always say yes in pursuit of constant approval.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Now, this is a problem for two reasons. Firstly, these people are simply saying yes to things for their own satisfaction. Secondly, they often end up changing their minds or retracting their offer for one reason or another (“I would have loved to, but my grandmother suddenly fell ill.”), leaving you in the lurch for the 100th time this year.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          7. Sarcasm and Cynicism

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Behind the chronic pasted smile, fake people are well known for brewing resentment, jealousy, or anger. This is because, behind the postcard life, they are often unhappy. Sarcasm and cynicism are well known to act as a defense mechanism, sometimes even a diversion—anything so they can remain feeling on top of the world, whether it is through boosting themselves or bringing people down.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          8. Crappy friend

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Fake people are bad friends. They don’t listen to you, your feelings, and whatever news you might have to share. In fact, you might find yourself migrating away from them when you have exciting or bad news to share, knowing that it will always end up one way—their way. In addition, you might find that they’re not available when you truly need them or worse, cancel plans at the last minute.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          It’s not unusual to hear that a fake person talks constantly behind people’s backs. Let’s be honest, if they do it to others, they’re doing it to you too. If your “friend” makes you feel bad constantly, trust me, they’re not achieving their purpose, and they’re simply not a good person to have around.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          The sooner you learn to spot these fake people, the sooner you can meet meaningful individuals again.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          How to Cope With Fake People Moving Forward?

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          It is important to remind yourself that you deserve more than what you’re getting. You are worthy, valuable, precious, and just as important as the next person.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          There are many ways to manage fake people. Here are some tips on how to deal with them.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          1. Boundaries

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Keep your boundaries very clear. As explained in the book Unlock Your Resilience, boundaries are what keep you sane when the world tries to suffocate you. When fake people become emotional vampires, make sure to keep your distances, limit contact, and simply replace them with more valuable interactions.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          2. Don’t Take Their Behavior Personally

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Sadly, they most likely have behaved this way before they knew you and will continue much longer after you have moved on. It isn’t about you. It is about their inner need to meet a void that you are not responsible for. And in all honesty, unless you are a trained professional, you are unlikely to improve it anyway.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          3. Be Upfront and Honest About How You Feel

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          If your “friend” has been hurtful or engaged in behaviors you struggle with, let them know—nicely, firmly, however you want, but let them know that they are affecting you. If it works, great. If it doesn’t, you’ll feel better and when you’re ready to move on, you’ll know you tried to reach out. Your conscience is clear.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          4. Ask for Advice

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          If you’re unsure about what you’re seeing or feeling, ask for advice. Perhaps a relative, a good friend, or a colleague might have some input as to whether you are overreacting or seeing some genuine concerns.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Now, don’t confuse asking for advice with gossiping behind the fake person’s back because, in the end, you don’t want to stoop down to their level. However, a little reminder as to how to stay on your own wellness track can never hurt.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          5. Dig Deeper

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Now, this one, I offer with caution. If you are emotionally strong, up to it, guaranteed you won’t get sucked into it, and have the skills to manage, perhaps you could dig into the reasons a fake person is acting the way they do.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Have they suffered recent trauma? Have they been rejected all their lives? Is their self-esteem so low that they must resort to making themselves feel good in any way they can? Sometimes, having an understanding of a person’s behavior can help in processing it.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          6. Practice Self-Care!

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Clearly, putting some distance between the fake person and yourself is probably the way to go. However, sometimes, it takes time to get there. In the meantime, make sure to practice self-care, be gentle with yourself, and compensate with lots of positives!

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Self-care can be as simple as taking a hot shower after talking to them or declining an invitation when you’re not feeling up to the challenge.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Spotting fake people isn’t too hard. They generally glow with wanna-be vibes. However, most often, there are reasons as to why they are like this. Calling their behavior might be the first step. Providing them with support might be the second. But if these don’t work, it’s time to stay away and surround yourself with the positivity that you deserve.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Final Thoughts

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Remember that life is a rollercoaster. It has good moments, tough moments, and moments you wouldn’t change for the world. So, look around and make sure that you take the time to choose the right people to share it all with.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          We are the average of the five people we spend the most time with, so take a good look around and choose wisely!

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