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100 Inspirational Quotes That Will Give You Strength During Hard Times

100 Inspirational Quotes That Will Give You Strength During Hard Times

1. You Were Given This Life Because You Are Strong Enough To Live It.

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    2. I Am Not What Happened To Me. I Am What I Choose To Become.

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      3. Forget Your Past, Forgive Yourself, And Begin Again Right Now.

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        4. Whenever You Find Yourself Doubting How Far You Can Go, Just Remember How Far You Have Come. Remember Everything You Have Faced, All The Battles You Have Won, And All The Fears You Have Overcome.

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          5. Growth Is Painful. Change Is Painful. But Nothing Is As Painful As Staying Stuck Somewhere You Don’t Belong.

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            6. I Don’t Want You To Save Me. I Want You To Stand By My Side As I Save Myself.

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              7. Hope Is The Only Thing Stronger Than Fear.

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                8. Let Yourself Be Gutted. Let It Open You. Start There.

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                  9. I’ll Find Strength in Pain.

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                    10. Never Apologize For Being Sensitive Or Emotional. Let This Be A Sign That You’ve Got A Big Heart And Aren’t Afraid To Let Others See It. Showing Your Emotions Is A Sign Of Strength.

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                      11. Being Deeply Loved Gives You Strength; Loving Deeply Gives You Courage.

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                        12. You Attract What You Are, Not What You Want If You Want Great, Then Be Great.

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                          13. You’re Allowed To Scream, You’re Allowed To Cry, But Do Not Give Up.

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                            14. Step Into My Shoes And Walk the life I’m Living And If you Get As Far As I am, Just Maybe You Will See How Strong I Really Am.

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                              15. If You’re Lucky Enough To Be Different, Don’t Ever Change.

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                                16. I Am Strong Because I’ve Been Weak. I Am Fearless Because I’ve Been Afraid.

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                                  17. Sometimes You Face Difficulties You’re Doing Something Wrong, But Because You’re Doing Something Right.

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                                    18. Work For A Cause, Not For Applause. Live Life To Express, Not To Impress. Don’t Strive To Make Your Presence Noticed, Just Make Your Presence Noticed, Just Make Your Absence Felt.

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                                      19. Wake Up With Determination. Go To Bed With Satisfaction.

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                                        20. Go Ahead Tell Me That I’m Not Good Enough Tell Me I Can’T Do It Because I Will Show You Over & Over That I Can!

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                                          21. Do Not Jude You Don’T Know What Storm I’ve Asked Her To Walk Trough.

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                                            22. When You Start Seeing Your Worth, You’ll Find It Harder To Stay Around People Who Don’t.

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                                              23. The Woman Who Does Not Required Validation From Anyone Is The Most Feared Individual On The Planet.

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                                                24. Smile. You’re Cute.

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                                                  25. The Strongest Actions For A Woman Is To Love Herself, Be herself And Shine Amongst Those Who Never Believed She Could.

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                                                    26. Dear Stress, Let’s Break up.

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                                                      27. I Am The Type Of Person That Will Sit In The Bathroom And Cry, But Then Walk Out Like Nothing Ever Happened.

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                                                        28. A Strong Woman Is One Who Is Able To Smile This Morning Like She Wasn’t Crying Last Night.

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                                                          29. The Strongest People Are Not Those Who Show Strength In Front Of Us But Those Who Win Battles We Know Nothing About.

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                                                            30. Sometimes You Have To Get Knocked Down Lower Than You Have Ever Been To Stand Back Up Taller Than You Ever Were.

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                                                              31. Smile And Let Everyone Know That Today, You’re A Lot Stronger Than You Were.

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                                                                32. Do Not Pray For An Easy Life, Pray For The Strength To Endure A Difficult One.

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                                                                  33. The Struggle Of You’re In Today Is Developing the Strength You Need For Tomorrow.

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                                                                    34. Knowing When To Walk Away I s Wisdom….

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                                                                      35. A Strong Woman Knows How To Keep Her Life In Line. With Tears In Her Eyes, She Still Manages To Say, “Nah, I’m Fine.”

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                                                                        36. A Strong Woman Looks A Challenge Dead In The Eye And Gives It a Wink.

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                                                                          37. If I Ever Let My Head Down It Will Be Just To Admire My Shoes.

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                                                                            38. Littles Girs With Dreams Becomes Women With Vision.

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                                                                              39. Women Have Been Trained To Speak Softly And Carry A Lipstick.
                                                                              Those Days Are Over.

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                                                                                40. You Can Become Strong And Powerful And Beautiful.

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                                                                                  41. Never Be Ashamed Of A Scar. It Simply Means You Were Stronger Than Whatever Tried To Hurt You.

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                                                                                    42. You Were Never Created To Live Depressed, Defeated, Guilty, Condemned, Ashamed Or Unworthy. You Were Created To Be Victorious.

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                                                                                      43. When You Face Difficult Times, Know That Challenges Are Not Sent To Destroy You. They’re Sent To Promote, Increase And Strengthen You.

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                                                                                        44. The Kind Of Beauty I Want Most Is The Hard-to-get Kind That Comes From Within-strength, Courage, Dignity.

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                                                                                          45. She Is Clothed With Strength & Dignity And Laughs Without Fear Of The feature.

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                                                                                            46. Sometimes The Bad Things That Happen In Our Lives Put Us Directly On The Best Things That Will Ever Happen To Us.

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                                                                                              47. Give God Your Weakness And He’ll Give You His Strength.

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                                                                                                48. She Builds Others Up Because She Knows What It’s Like To Be Torn Down.

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                                                                                                  49. Strong Women Wear Their Pain Like They Do Stilettos. No Matter How Much It Hurts, All You See Is The Beauty Of It.

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                                                                                                    50. This Is The Year I Will Be Stronger, Braver, Kinder, Unstoppable, And This Year I Will Be Fierce.

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                                                                                                      51. Life Has A Way Of Testing A Persons Will, Either By Having Nothing Happen At All or By Having Everything Happen At Once.

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                                                                                                        52. Storms Makes Tress Take Deeper Roots.

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                                                                                                          53. You Only Live Once, You Might As Well As A Badass!

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                                                                                                            54. Don’t Let The Behavior Of Others Destroy Inner Peace.

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                                                                                                              55. Smile And Let Everyone Know That Today, You’re A Lot Stronger Than You Were Yesterday.

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                                                                                                                56. I Am Strong Because I Know My Weaknesses. I Am Beautiful Because I Am Aware Of My Flaws. I AM Fearless…

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                                                                                                                  57. Believe In Yourself A Little More.

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                                                                                                                    58. You Are Stronger Than You Think.

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                                                                                                                      59. Don’t Worry…

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                                                                                                                        60. The Strongest People Are Not Those Who Show Strength In Front Of Us But Those Who Win Battles We Know Nothing About.

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                                                                                                                          61. Go As Long As You Can, And Then Take Another Step.

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                                                                                                                            62. Don’t Let Anyone Ever Break Your Soul….

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                                                                                                                              63. And The Salt In My Wounds Isn’t Burning Anymore Than It Used To…

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                                                                                                                                64. Above All, Be the Heroine Of Your Life, Not The Victim.

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                                                                                                                                  65. If A Person Wants To Be A Part Of Your Life, They Will Make An Obvious Effort To Do So. Think Twice Before Reserving A Space In Your Heart For People Who Do Not Make An Effort To Stay.

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                                                                                                                                    66. Stop Wearing Your Wishbone Where Your Backbone Ought to Be.

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                                                                                                                                      67. When Start Seeing Your Worth, Your’ll Find It Harder To Stay Around People Who Don’t.

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                                                                                                                                        68. A Strong Woman Loves, Forgives, Walks Aways, Lets Go, Tries again, and Perseveres…

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                                                                                                                                          69. I Am The Type Of Person That Will Sit In The Bathroom And Cry, But Then Walk Out Like Nothing Ever Happened.

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                                                                                                                                            70. Character. Intelligence. Strength. Style. That Makes Beauty.

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                                                                                                                                              71. Being Both Soft And Strong Is A Combination Very Few Have Mastered.

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                                                                                                                                                72. Heavenly Father Knows All About You…

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                                                                                                                                                  73. Do You Want to Be Happy? Let Go Of What’s Gone, Be Grateful For What Remains And Look Forward To What Is Coming.

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                                                                                                                                                    74. Once You Start To See Results, It Becomes An Addiction.

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                                                                                                                                                      75. I’m Stronger Because I Had To Be, I’m Smarter Because…

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                                                                                                                                                        76. Sometimes, You Have To Get Knocked Down Lower Than You Have Ever Been To Stand Back Up Taller Than You Ever You Were.

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                                                                                                                                                          77. The Strongest People Are Not Those Who Show Strength In Front Of Us But Those Who Win Battles WeKnow Nothing About.

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                                                                                                                                                            78. What Would You Do If You Weren’t Afraid?

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                                                                                                                                                              79. I’m Thankful For My Struggle Because…

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                                                                                                                                                                80. You Have Within You, Right Now, Everything You Need To Deal With Whatever The World Can Throw At You.

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                                                                                                                                                                  81.When You Change The Way You Look At Things, The Things You Look At Change.

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                                                                                                                                                                    82. Don’t Ever Mistake My Silence For Ignorance, My Calmness For Acceptance And My Kindness For Weakness.

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                                                                                                                                                                      83. We All Have An Unsuspected Reserve Of Strength Inside That emerges When Life Puts Us To The Test.

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                                                                                                                                                                        84. If You Can’t Stop Thinking About It, Don’t Stop Working For It.

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                                                                                                                                                                          85. I’m Too Busy Working On My Own Grass To Notice If Yours Is Greener.

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                                                                                                                                                                            86. One Of The Most Courageous Decisions You’ll Ever Make Is To Finally Let Go Of What Is Hurting Your Heart And Soul.

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                                                                                                                                                                              87. Make A Fairy Tale And Go Live In It.

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                                                                                                                                                                                88. You can, and You Will.

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                                                                                                                                                                                  89. Maybe Life Isn’t About Avoiding The Bruises. Maybe It’s About Collecting The Scars To Prove We Showed Up For It.

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                                                                                                                                                                                    90. Don’t Let How You Feel Make You Forget What You Deserve.

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                                                                                                                                                                                      91. We All Have A Fighter In Us.

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                                                                                                                                                                                        92. You Have To Be At Your Strongest When You’re feeling At Your Weakest.

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                                                                                                                                                                                          93. It’s Better To Break Your Own Heart By Leaving, Rather Than Having That Person Break Your Heart Every Day You’re With Them.

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                                                                                                                                                                                            94. Stay Positive Even When It Feels Like Your Life Is Falling Apart.

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                                                                                                                                                                                              95. Some People Don’t Like You Just Because Your Strength Reminds Them Of Their Weakness. Don’t let The Hate Slow You Down.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                96. The Secret Of Having It All Is Believing You Already Do.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                  97. Throw Me To The Wolves And I’ll Come Back Leading The Pack.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                    98. If You Are Not Willing To Learn, No One Can Help You. If You Are Determined To Lean, No One Can Stop You.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                      99. It’s Okay To Be Scared. Being Scared Means You’re About To Do Something Really, Really Brave.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                        100. Don’t Quit. Suffer Now And Live The Rest Of Your Life As A Champion.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                          101. Do What You Have To Do Until You Can Do What You Want To Do.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                            102.  Forget All The Reasons Why It Wont Work And Believe The One Reason Why It Will!

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                                                                                                                                                                                                              103. Make A Wish.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                104. Better Things Are Coming.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                  105. Keep Your Hopes Up.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                    106. The Only Person You Should Try To Be Better Than, Is The Person You Were Yesterday.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                      107. Happiness Is Not A Destination It Is A Way Of Life.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                        108. Stay Positive.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                          109. You’re Beautiful.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                            110. The Lord Is My Strength And My Shield In Him My Heart.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                              111. Keep The Faith. The Most Amazing Things In Life Tend To Happen Right At The Moment You’re About To Give Up Hope.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                112. Anyone Can Give Up, It’s The Easiest Thing In The World To Do. But To Hold It Together When Everyone Else Would Understand If You Fell Apart, That’s True Strength.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  113. Be That Strong Girl That Everyone Knew Would Make It Through The Worst. Be that Fearless Girl..

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    114. Nothing Can Dim The Light That Shines From Within.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      115. May My Heart Be Brave, My Mind Fierce, And My Spirit Free.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        116. I Figure, If A Girl Wants To Be A Legend, She Should Go Ahead And Be One.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          117. Nothing Is More Impressive Than A person Who Is Secure In The Unique Way God Made Her.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            118. You Never Realize How Strong You Are Until Being Strong Is the Only Choice You Have.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              119. A Strong Woman Stands Up For Herself. A Stronger Woman Stands Up For Everyone Else.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                120. A True Hero Isn’t Measured By The Size Of His Strength, But By The Strength Of His Heart

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  121. Stay Strong, Make Them Wonder How You’re Still Smiling.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    122. You’ve Always Had The Power My Dear, Your Just Had To Learn It For Yourself.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      123. I’ve Never Met A Strong Person With An Easy Part.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        124. You’re Never Too Young To Dream BIG!

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          125. Nothing Is Impossible, The World Itself Says “I’m Possible!”

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            126. Follow That Dream.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              127. Don’t Tell People Your Dream. Show Them.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                128. Fall Seven Times, Stand Up Eight.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  129. If You Haven’t Found It Yet, Keep Looking.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    130. Nobody Is Too Busy, It’s Just A Matter Of Priorities.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      131. The Distance Between Your Dreams And Reality Is Call Action.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        132. Hey Little Fighter, Soon Things Will Be Brighter.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          How to Let Go of Toxic People in Your Life

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          How to Let Go of Toxic People in Your Life

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          “Entitlement is an expression of conditional love. Nobody is ever entitled to your love. You always have a right to protect your mental, emotional, and physical well-being by removing yourself from toxic people and circumstances.” -Dr. Janice Anderson & Kiersten Anderson

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          It’s not always obvious if you have someone toxic in your life. A toxic relationship is one that is harmful to you. A toxic person can create distress to the degree you feel inadequate and isolated. So, what makes a toxic person?

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          A toxic person has toxic behavior, meaning it’s not that the whole person is toxic[1]. It’s what they do that counts. Most toxic people run from accountability and misrepresent reality to you. They misrepresent your worth and your ability to heal from them can be stifled the longer you keep them in your life. You have a role to play with it as well; if your values are dismissed by them and you don’t act on it, you have allowed room for toxicity to grow.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          When you are in a toxic relationship, you feel less than. You feel as though you are not worth anyone’s time or effort. You feel unheard, and sometimes you feel unsafe. You don’t feel good about yourself in a toxic relationship, whether it be with a partner, friend, or family member.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          You may stay in a toxic relationship for a number of reasons. You may believe yourself to be a burden, have a lack of boundaries, resist change, fear conflict, try to be a people pleaser, find yourself codependent, or are partially stuck in a pattern or unhealthy cycle of abuse.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Letting go of toxic people may not be easy. In order to do so, you have to know why or how they are toxic to you and read between the lines that they do not have your best interests in mind.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Letting go of toxic people is hard because you are good and want to see the good in others. You think their apologies are authentic. You have trouble believing they are being dishonest. You don’t spend time healing from it. You get pulled back into the pain because you don’t want it to end. However, if you feel like something isn’t right, it probably isn’t right.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          You should walk away from a toxic person because you need to preserve your peace. You need to feel like yourself again. And you need better support.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Letting go of toxic people can involve four major steps.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          1. Recognize the Red Flags

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Red flags are signs a person is being toxic. It’s when someone shows characteristics that you should feel caution about. It’s when you feel any level of dissatisfaction and distrust. Trust your gut. When you recognize red flags, you can evaluate whether a person is trying to manipulate you or not. This gives you some level of control over what you allow in your life. The earlier you detect these behaviors, the better off you will be.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Red flags can include:

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          • They always put themselves first.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          • They point out imperfections and sabotage your self-esteem.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          • You may feel drained or used when you’re around them.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          • What you give isn’t reciprocated. They don’t return the goodness you provide as a friend.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          • They ignore your boundaries and get angry when you tell them “no.”
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          • You catch them in half truths or outright lies when you confront them about anything.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          • You are the villain; they are the victim.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          • Second chances always lead to repeated patterns of behavior.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          • They may engage in abuse.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          2. Set Boundaries

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          There are emotional boundaries that one can set, but there are also physical ones[2]. You can leave any time. Setting boundaries is also an important part of self-care.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          You shouldn’t walk on eggshells. Tell them how you feel. Are they respecting you, fulfilling your needs, and listening to you? If not, it’s time to set up a healthy emotional distance and start letting go of toxic people around you.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          There are levels to this. You have your inner circle, which could include family, and then you have acquaintances and strangers. If a toxic person is in your inner circle, it’s time to pull back and put up some boundaries for them to follow. If they can’t hear you out, you can cut off the connection completely.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          You can give second chances, but you have to be careful. If someone knows they can get away with something, they will do it again. If there’s any chance for the relationship, they have to know not to cross certain lines.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          3. Invest in Yourself

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          You deserve to know you are worthwhile. Try to remember that things will get better and that anything is possible. How do you do so? Invest in yourself.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          This means self care, goal setting, surrounding yourself with positive support, and feeling a sense of peace. Your greatest ambition should be to love yourself. Without self-love, letting go of toxic people will be difficult.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Every relationship is a risk, but if you know yourself and what you will allow, toxic people will have less of a hold over you. If you are a giver or people pleaser, you are most at risk to being in a one-sided relationship. You shouldn’t be punished for caring, but sometimes trust needs to be earned. If you have self-love, you are treating yourself the best way possible. You know that others need to meet your standards; otherwise, they don’t get to be a part of your life.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          It’s possible that you can love yourself and still not see the signs. It can be difficult for some to be aware that toxic people exist. However,, if you know how much you mean to others in your life and what you are worth, you will be less likely to take on a relationship that is harmful to you or repeat negative patterns. Self-love is how we get out of toxic relationships, but it’s also how they never begin.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          4. Know When Forgiveness Is Possible

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          There are times a person will prove their worth to you. They may make a mistake that makes them seem like a horrible person. They may forget to be good to you because of their own issues. They may just have no example of what a healthy relationship looks like. They may have an inflated ego that really comes from insecurity. The list goes on.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          If they apologize, that’s a start. Look at their actions. Are they changing for the better because they really want to change or just seeming to in order to manipulate you? A person may control others with their image or perceived personality, but if you see through them, you may be able to discern the degree to which they are willing to be there for you.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          If they start to do the right thing, you may begin to trust them again. Don’t start forgiving them until time has passed and you are sure there is growth, even if they show vulnerability or remorse. You can give a second chance if they truly have an awakening. Otherwise, it’s best to get out. Don’t let them walk all over you; let them walk out the door.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          If you do give a second change and they still refuse to change, you have every right to remove them and continue the process of letting go of toxic people. The moment you even want to leave may also be a good time to get out. You don’t have to compromise yourself in order to care for them.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Forgiveness is the release of resentment or anger[3]. Forgiveness doesn’t mean reconciliation. You have to go back to the same relationship or accept the same harmful behaviors from someone. You don’t have to let them back in. You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do.

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Remember, forgiveness is ultimately for you, not them. You don’t need that person in your life in order to forgive them, and if you give them a second chance, proceed with caution.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Final Thoughts

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Recognize the red flags, set boundaries, invest in yourself, and know when forgiveness is possible. This is how you cope with a toxic person impacting your life. You have power in the direction of your life and the people who accompany you as you move forward. Use it.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          If a person is worthwhile, they will prove themselves through their actions, not their words. If they cross certain lines that really harm you, you owe them nothing. You have every right to feel what you feel and to be upset. Honor your feelings and communicate them because it’ll only continue to keep happening if you don’t.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          If this is happening to you, it’s time to put a stop to it. It’s time to take control. It’s time to live for yourself, not for what others say about you. It’s time to set your standards higher than they’ve ever been before. And most of all, it’s time to let go.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Resource reminder: A physically abusive relationship is ALWAYS toxic. There are resources for you. Always speak up.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          If you are in such a cycle or domestic violence or abuse reach out for help. For example, there is The National Domestic Violence Hotline (https://www.thehotline.org/) which can be reached at 1−800−799−7233. There are other ways to get help if you simply ask for it. 

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