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40+ Quotes To Read When Everything Appears To Be Going Wrong In Your Life

40+ Quotes To Read When Everything Appears To Be Going Wrong In Your Life

There are sunny days and there are rainy days, and there may be times in your life when you can’t see the end to the downpour. Don’t despair, you are not alone. Don’t let yourself sink into the mud. Pull on some boots, grab your raincoat and choose to dance in the rain. Change your perspective on the situation, find your faith, embrace the rain, or look for the rainbow in the clouds. Here are 40+ inspirational quotes to motivate you through those darker days when everything appears to be going wrong in your life.

1. Success is the ability to go from one failure to another with no less enthusiasm

    2. If you look the right way, you can see the whole world is a garden

    If you look the right way, you can see the whole world is a garden.

      3. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself

        4. Things do not change, we change

        Things do not change, we change.

          5. You may not control all of the events that happen to you…

          Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway.

            6. I have not failed, I’ve just found 10,000 ways that don’t work

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            I have not failed, I have just found 10,000 ways that don't work.

              7. Let your hopes, not your hurts shape your future

              Let your hopes, not your hurts shape your future.

                8. Attitude is the difference between an ordeal and an adventure

                Attitude is the difference between an ordeal and an adventure

                  9. What I like best is new starts

                  What I like best is new starts.

                    10. This too shall pass

                      11. One happiness scatters a thousand sorrows

                      One happiness scatters a thousand sorrows.

                        12. This world is but a canvas to our imagination

                          13. You are never too old to set another goal or dream another dream

                            14. Broken crayons still color

                            Broken crayons still color

                              15. The best way to cheer yourself up is to try and cheer somebody else up

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                              The best way to cheer yourself up is to try and cheer somebody else up

                                16. Courage is being scared to death, but saddling up anyway

                                Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway.

                                  17. The only thing permanent in this life is that everything is temporary

                                  The only thing permanent in this life is that everything is temporary.

                                    18. Nothing is impossible

                                      19. It isn’t what you have or who you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy, it is what you think about.

                                      It isn't what you have or who you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy, it is what you think about.

                                        20. A goal is not always meant to be reached

                                          21. Still round the corner there may wait, a new road or secret gate.

                                          Still round the corner there may wait, a new road or secret gate.

                                             22. Don’t feel sorry for yourself if you have chosen the wrong road. Turn around.

                                              23. I avoid looking back, I prefer good memories to regrets

                                              I avoid looking back. I prefer good memories to regret.

                                                24. Follow your bliss

                                                Follow your bliss and the universe will open up doors where there were only walls

                                                  25. Good things happen in your life when you surround yourself with positive people

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                                                  Good things happen in your life when you surround yourself with positive people.

                                                    26. Faith is taking the first step, even if you don’t see the whole staircase

                                                    Faith is taking the first step even when you don't see the whole staircase.

                                                      27. It is the law of life if you are kind to someone, you feel happy

                                                      It is the law of life that if you are kind to someone, you feel happy.

                                                        28. Once you choose hope, anything is possible.

                                                        Once you choose hope, anything is possible.

                                                          29. Every exit is an entry somewhere else

                                                          Every exit is an entry somewhere else.

                                                            30. Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again

                                                            Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.- Henry Ford

                                                              31. Problems are not stop signs, they are guidelines.

                                                              Problems are not stop signs, they are guidelines.

                                                                32. Do not stop thinking of life as an adventure

                                                                Do not stop thinking as life as an adventure.

                                                                  33. A problem is your chance to do your best.

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                                                                  A problem is your chance to do your best.

                                                                    34. Success is not final; failure is not fatal

                                                                    Success is not final, failure is not fatal; It is the courage to continue that counts.

                                                                      35. Think of all the beauty still left around you and be happy.

                                                                      Think of all the beauty still left around you and be happy.

                                                                         36. You will never find a rainbow if you are looking down

                                                                        You will never find a rainbow if you are looking down.

                                                                          37. Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see a shadow.

                                                                          Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see a shadow.

                                                                             38. I can’t always change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails

                                                                            I can't always change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination.

                                                                              39. The glory is not in never failing, but in rising every time you fall

                                                                              The glory is not in never failing, but in rising every time you fall.

                                                                                40. Be thankful for everything that happens in your life; It’s all an experience

                                                                                Be thankful for everything that happens in your life; it is all an experience.

                                                                                  41. The first step is you have to say you can

                                                                                  The first step is you have to say that you can

                                                                                    42. It is not in the stars to hold our destiny, but in ourselves

                                                                                    It is not in the stars to hold our destiny, but in ourselves.

                                                                                      43. Only in the darkness can you see the stars.

                                                                                      Only in the darkness can you see the stars.

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                                                                                        What Does Self-Conscious Mean? (And How to Stop Being It)

                                                                                        What Does Self-Conscious Mean? (And How to Stop Being It)

                                                                                        Have you ever walked into a room and felt like your nerves simply couldn’t handle it? Your heart beats fast, you start to sweat, and you feel like all eyes are on you (even if they’re really not). This is just one of the many ways that being self-conscious can rear its ugly head.

                                                                                        You may not even realize you’re self-conscious, and you may be wondering, “What does self-conscious mean?” That’s a good place to start.

                                                                                        This article will define self-consciousness, show how practically everyone has faced it at one point or another, and give you tips to avoid it.

                                                                                        What Does Self-Conscious Mean?

                                                                                        According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, self-conscious is defined as “conscious of one’s own acts or states as belonging to or originating in oneself.”[1]

                                                                                        Not so bad, right? There’s another definition, though — one that speaks more to what you’re going through: “feeling uncomfortably conscious of oneself as an object of the observation of others.” For those of us who regularly deal with extreme self-consciousness, that second definition sounds about right.

                                                                                        There are many different ways self-consciousness can spring up. You may feel self-conscious around people you know, like your family members or closest friends. You may feel self-conscious at work, even though you spend hours every week around your co-workers. Or you may feel self-conscious when out in public and surrounded by strangers. However, you probably don’t feel self-conscious when you’re home alone.

                                                                                        How to Stop Being Too Self-Conscious

                                                                                        When you’re in the throes of self-consciousness, it’s nearly impossible to remember how to stop feeling that way. That’s why it’s so important to prepare ahead of time, when you’re feeling ready to tackle the problem instead of succumbing to it.

                                                                                        Here are a variety of ways to feel better about yourself and stop thinking about how others see you.

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                                                                                        1. Ask Yourself, “So What?”

                                                                                        One way to banish negative, self-conscious thoughts is to do just that: banish them.

                                                                                        The next time you walk into a room and feel your face getting red, think to yourself, “So what?” How much does it really matter if people don’t like how you look or act? What’s the worst that could happen?

                                                                                        Most of the time, you’ll find that you don’t have a good answer to this question. Then, you can immediately start assigning such thoughts less importance. With self-awareness, you can acknowledge that your negative thoughts are present and realize that you don’t agree with them.[2] They’re just thoughts, after all.

                                                                                        2. Be Honest

                                                                                        A lie that self-consciousness might tell is that there’s one way to act or feel. Honestly, though, everyone else is just figuring life out as well. There isn’t a preferred way to show up to an event, gathering, or public place. What you can do is be honest with your feelings and thoughts.[3]

                                                                                        If you feel offended by something someone says, you don’t have to smile to be polite or laugh to fit in with the crowd. Instead, you can politely say why you disagree or excuse yourself and find a group of people who you relate to better. If you’re nervous, don’t overcompensate by trying to look relaxed and casual — it’ll be obvious you’re putting on a front. Instead, nothing is more endearing than saying, “I’m a little nervous!” to a room of people who probably feel the exact same way.

                                                                                        On the same note, if you don’t understand why someone wants you to do something, question it. You can do this at work, at home, or even with people you don’t know well. Nobody should force you to do something you don’t want to do.

                                                                                        Also, even if you’re willing to do what’s asked of you, there’s nothing wrong with asking for more clarification. People will realize that you’re not a person to be bossed around.

                                                                                        3. Understand Why You’re Struggling at Work

                                                                                        Being self-conscious at work can get in the way of your daily responsibilities, your relationships with co-workers, and even your career as a whole. If you’re facing some sort of conflict but you’re too nervous to speak up, you may be at the whim of what happens to you instead of taking some control.

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                                                                                        If you’re usually confident at work, you may be wondering where this new self-consciousness is coming from. It’s possible that you’re dealing with burnout.[4] Common signs are anxiety, fatigue and distraction, all of which can leave you feeling under-confident.

                                                                                        4. Succeed at Something

                                                                                        When you create success in your life, it’s easier to feel confident[5] and less self-conscious. If you feel self-conscious at work, finish the project that’s been looming over your head. If you feel self-conscious in the gym, complete an advanced workout class.

                                                                                        Exposing yourself to what you’re scared of and then succeeding at it in some way (even just by finishing it) can do wonders for your self-esteem. The more confidence you build, the more likely you are to have more success in the future, which will create a cycle of confidence-building.

                                                                                        5. Treat All of You — Not Just Your Self-Consciousness

                                                                                        Trying to solve your self-consciousness alone may not treat the root of the problem. Instead, take a well-rounded approach to lower your self-consciousness and build confidence in areas where you may struggle.

                                                                                        Even professional counselors are embracing this holistic type of treatment[6] because they feel that the health of the mind and body are inextricably linked. This approach combines physical, spiritual, and psychological components. Common activities and treatments include meditation, yoga, massage, and healthy changes to diet and exercise.

                                                                                        If much of this is new to you, it will pay to give it a try. You never know how it will impact you.

                                                                                        If you’re feeling self-conscious about how your body looks, a massage that makes you feel great could boost your confidence. If you try a new workout, you could have something exciting to talk about the next time you’re in a group setting.

                                                                                        Putting yourself in a new situation and learning that you can get through it with grace can give you the confidence to get through all sorts of events and nerve-wracking moments.

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                                                                                        6. Make the Changes That Are Within Your Control

                                                                                        Let’s say you walk into a room and you’re self-conscious about how you look. However, you may have put a lot of time and effort into your outfit. Even though it may stand out, this is how you have chosen to express yourself.

                                                                                        You have to work on your internal confidence, not your external appearance. There’s nothing to change other than your outlook.

                                                                                        On the other hand, maybe there’s something that you don’t like about yourself that you can change. For example, maybe you hate how a birthmark on your face looks or have varicose veins that you think are unsightly. If you can do something about these things, do it! There’s nothing wrong with changing your appearance (or skills, education, etc.) if it’s going to make you more confident.

                                                                                        You don’t have to accept your current situation for acceptance’s sake. There’s no award for putting up with something you hate. Confidence is also required to make changes that are scary, even if they’re for the better. Plus, it may be an easier fix than you thought. For example, treating varicose veins doesn’t have to involve surgery — sometimes simple compression stockings will take care of the problem.[7]

                                                                                        7. Realize That Everyone Has Awkward Moments

                                                                                        Everyone has said something awkward to someone else and lived to tell the tale. We’ve all forgotten somebody’s name or said, “You too!” when the concession stand girl says to enjoy our movie. Not only are these things uber-common, but they’re not nearly as embarrassing as you feel they are.

                                                                                        Think about how you react when someone else does something awkward. Do you think, “Wow, that person’s such a loser!” or do you think, “What a relief, I’m not the only one who does that.” Chances are good that’s the same reaction others have to you when you stumble.

                                                                                        Remember, self-consciousness is a state of mind that you have control over. You don’t have to feel this way. Do what you need to in order to build your confidence, put your self-consciousness in perspective, and start exercising your “I feel awesome about myself” muscle. It’ll get easier with time.

                                                                                        When Is Being Self-Conscious a Good Thing?

                                                                                        Self-consciousness can sometimes be a good thing[8], but you have to take the awkwardness and nerves out of it.

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                                                                                        In this case, “self-aware” is a much better term. Knowing how you come off to people is an excellent trait; you’ll be able to read a room and understand how what you do and say affects others. These are fantastic skills for people work and personal relationships.

                                                                                        Self-awareness helps you dress appropriately for the occasion, tells you that you’re talking too loud or not loud enough, and guides a conversation so you don’t offend or bore anyone.

                                                                                        It’s not about being someone you’re not — that can actually have adverse effects, just like self-consciousness. Instead, it’s about turning up certain aspects of yourself to perform well in the situation.

                                                                                        Final Thoughts

                                                                                        When you’re self-conscious, you’re constantly battling with yourself in an effort to control how other people view you. You try to change yourself to suit what you think other people want to see.

                                                                                        The truth, though, is that you can’t actually control how other people view you — and you may not even be correct about how they view you in the first place.

                                                                                        Being confident doesn’t happen overnight. Instead, it happens in small steps as you slowly build your confidence and say “no” to your self-consciousness. It also requires accepting that you’re going to feel self-conscious sometimes, and that’s okay.

                                                                                        Sometimes worrying that there is a problem can be more stressful than the problem itself. Feeling bad for feeling self-conscious can be more troublesome than simply feeling it and getting on with the day.

                                                                                        Forgive yourself for being human and make the small changes that will lead to better confidence in the future.

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                                                                                        Reference

                                                                                        [1] Merriam-Webster: Self-conscious
                                                                                        [2] Bustle: 7 Tips On How To Stop Feeling Self-Conscious
                                                                                        [3] Marc and Angel: 10 Things to Remember When You Feel Unsure of Yourself
                                                                                        [4] Bostitch: How to Protect Small Businesses From Burnout
                                                                                        [5] Psychology Today: Self-conscious? Get Over It
                                                                                        [6] Wake Forest University: Embracing Holistic Medicine
                                                                                        [7] Center for Vein Restoration: What Causes Venous Ulcers, and How Are They Treated?
                                                                                        [8] Scientific American: The Pros and Cons of Being Self-Aware

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