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40+ Quotes To Read When Everything Appears To Be Going Wrong In Your Life

40+ Quotes To Read When Everything Appears To Be Going Wrong In Your Life

There are sunny days and there are rainy days, and there may be times in your life when you can’t see the end to the downpour. Don’t despair, you are not alone. Don’t let yourself sink into the mud. Pull on some boots, grab your raincoat and choose to dance in the rain. Change your perspective on the situation, find your faith, embrace the rain, or look for the rainbow in the clouds. Here are 40+ inspirational quotes to motivate you through those darker days when everything appears to be going wrong in your life.

1. Success is the ability to go from one failure to another with no less enthusiasm

    2. If you look the right way, you can see the whole world is a garden

    If you look the right way, you can see the whole world is a garden.

      3. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself

        4. Things do not change, we change

        Things do not change, we change.

          5. You may not control all of the events that happen to you…

          Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway.

            6. I have not failed, I’ve just found 10,000 ways that don’t work

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            I have not failed, I have just found 10,000 ways that don't work.

              7. Let your hopes, not your hurts shape your future

              Let your hopes, not your hurts shape your future.

                8. Attitude is the difference between an ordeal and an adventure

                Attitude is the difference between an ordeal and an adventure

                  9. What I like best is new starts

                  What I like best is new starts.

                    10. This too shall pass

                      11. One happiness scatters a thousand sorrows

                      One happiness scatters a thousand sorrows.

                        12. This world is but a canvas to our imagination

                          13. You are never too old to set another goal or dream another dream

                            14. Broken crayons still color

                            Broken crayons still color

                              15. The best way to cheer yourself up is to try and cheer somebody else up

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                              The best way to cheer yourself up is to try and cheer somebody else up

                                16. Courage is being scared to death, but saddling up anyway

                                Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway.

                                  17. The only thing permanent in this life is that everything is temporary

                                  The only thing permanent in this life is that everything is temporary.

                                    18. Nothing is impossible

                                      19. It isn’t what you have or who you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy, it is what you think about.

                                      It isn't what you have or who you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy, it is what you think about.

                                        20. A goal is not always meant to be reached

                                          21. Still round the corner there may wait, a new road or secret gate.

                                          Still round the corner there may wait, a new road or secret gate.

                                             22. Don’t feel sorry for yourself if you have chosen the wrong road. Turn around.

                                              23. I avoid looking back, I prefer good memories to regrets

                                              I avoid looking back. I prefer good memories to regret.

                                                24. Follow your bliss

                                                Follow your bliss and the universe will open up doors where there were only walls

                                                  25. Good things happen in your life when you surround yourself with positive people

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                                                  Good things happen in your life when you surround yourself with positive people.

                                                    26. Faith is taking the first step, even if you don’t see the whole staircase

                                                    Faith is taking the first step even when you don't see the whole staircase.

                                                      27. It is the law of life if you are kind to someone, you feel happy

                                                      It is the law of life that if you are kind to someone, you feel happy.

                                                        28. Once you choose hope, anything is possible.

                                                        Once you choose hope, anything is possible.

                                                          29. Every exit is an entry somewhere else

                                                          Every exit is an entry somewhere else.

                                                            30. Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again

                                                            Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.- Henry Ford

                                                              31. Problems are not stop signs, they are guidelines.

                                                              Problems are not stop signs, they are guidelines.

                                                                32. Do not stop thinking of life as an adventure

                                                                Do not stop thinking as life as an adventure.

                                                                  33. A problem is your chance to do your best.

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                                                                  A problem is your chance to do your best.

                                                                    34. Success is not final; failure is not fatal

                                                                    Success is not final, failure is not fatal; It is the courage to continue that counts.

                                                                      35. Think of all the beauty still left around you and be happy.

                                                                      Think of all the beauty still left around you and be happy.

                                                                         36. You will never find a rainbow if you are looking down

                                                                        You will never find a rainbow if you are looking down.

                                                                          37. Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see a shadow.

                                                                          Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see a shadow.

                                                                             38. I can’t always change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails

                                                                            I can't always change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination.

                                                                              39. The glory is not in never failing, but in rising every time you fall

                                                                              The glory is not in never failing, but in rising every time you fall.

                                                                                40. Be thankful for everything that happens in your life; It’s all an experience

                                                                                Be thankful for everything that happens in your life; it is all an experience.

                                                                                  41. The first step is you have to say you can

                                                                                  The first step is you have to say that you can

                                                                                    42. It is not in the stars to hold our destiny, but in ourselves

                                                                                    It is not in the stars to hold our destiny, but in ourselves.

                                                                                      43. Only in the darkness can you see the stars.

                                                                                      Only in the darkness can you see the stars.

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                                                                                        How to Give Constructive Feedback in the Workplace

                                                                                        How to Give Constructive Feedback in the Workplace

                                                                                        We all crave constructive feedback. We want to know not just what we’re doing well but also what we could be doing better.

                                                                                        However, giving and getting constructive feedback isn’t just some feel-good exercise. In the workplace, it’s part and parcel of how companies grow.

                                                                                        Let’s take a closer look.

                                                                                        Why Constructive Feedback Is Critical

                                                                                        A culture of feedback benefits individuals on a team and the team itself. Constructive feedback has the following effects:

                                                                                        Builds Workers’ Skills

                                                                                        Think about the last time you made a mistake. Did you come away from it feeling attacked—a key marker of destructive feedback—or did you feel like you learned something new?

                                                                                        Every time a team member learns something, they become more valuable to the business. The range of tasks they can tackle increases. Over time, they make fewer mistakes, require less supervision, and become more willing to ask for help.

                                                                                        Boosts Employee Loyalty

                                                                                        Constructive feedback is a two-way street. Employees want to receive it, but they also want the feedback they give to be taken seriously.

                                                                                        If employees see their constructive feedback ignored, they may take it to mean they aren’t a valued part of the team. Nine in ten employees say they’d be more likely to stick with a company that takes and acts on their feedback.[1]

                                                                                        Strengthens Team Bonds

                                                                                        Without trust, teams cannot function. Constructive feedback builds trust because it shows that the giver of the feedback cares about the success of the recipient.

                                                                                        However, for constructive feedback to work its magic, both sides have to assume good intentions. Those giving the feedback must genuinely want to help, and those getting it has to assume that the goal is to build them up rather than to tear them down.

                                                                                        Promotes Mentorship

                                                                                        There’s nothing wrong with a single round of constructive feedback. But when it really makes a difference is when it’s repeated—continuous, constructive feedback is the bread and butter of mentorship.

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                                                                                        Be the change you want to see on your team. Give constructive feedback often and authentically, and others will naturally start to see you as a mentor.

                                                                                        Clearly, constructive feedback is something most teams could use more of. But how do you actually give it?

                                                                                        How to Give Constructive Feedback

                                                                                        Giving constructive feedback is tricky. Get it wrong, and your message might fall on deaf ears. Get it really wrong, and you could sow distrust or create tension across the entire team.

                                                                                        Here are ways to give constructive feedback properly:

                                                                                        1. Listen First

                                                                                        Often, what you perceive as a mistake is a decision someone made for a good reason. Listening is the key to effective communication.

                                                                                        Seek to understand: how did the other person arrive at her choice or action?

                                                                                        You could say:

                                                                                        • “Help me understand your thought process.”
                                                                                        • “What led you to take that step?”
                                                                                        • “What’s your perspective?”

                                                                                        2. Lead With a Compliment

                                                                                        In school, you might have heard it called the “sandwich method”: Before (and ideally, after) giving difficult feedback, share a compliment. That signals to the recipient that you value their work.

                                                                                        You could say:

                                                                                        • “Great design. Can we see it with a different font?”
                                                                                        • “Good thinking. What if we tried this?”

                                                                                        3. Address the Wider Team

                                                                                        Sometimes, constructive feedback is best given indirectly. If your comment could benefit others on the team, or if the person whom you’re really speaking to might take it the wrong way, try communicating your feedback in a group setting.

                                                                                        You could say:

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                                                                                        • “Let’s think through this together.”
                                                                                        • “I want everyone to see . . .”

                                                                                        4. Ask How You Can Help

                                                                                        When you’re on a team, you’re all in it together. When a mistake happens, you have to realize that everyone—not just the person who made it—has a role in fixing it. Give constructive feedback in a way that recognizes this dynamic.

                                                                                        You could say:

                                                                                        • “What can I do to support you?”
                                                                                        • “How can I make your life easier?
                                                                                        • “Is there something I could do better?”

                                                                                        5. Give Examples

                                                                                        To be useful, constructive feedback needs to be concrete. Illustrate your advice by pointing to an ideal.

                                                                                        What should the end result look like? Who has the process down pat?

                                                                                        You could say:

                                                                                        • “I wanted to show you . . .”
                                                                                        • “This is what I’d like yours to look like.”
                                                                                        • “This is a perfect example.”
                                                                                        • “My ideal is . . .”

                                                                                        6. Be Empathetic

                                                                                        Even when there’s trust in a team, mistakes can be embarrassing. Lessons can be hard to swallow. Constructive feedback is more likely to be taken to heart when it’s accompanied by empathy.

                                                                                        You could say:

                                                                                        • “I know it’s hard to hear.”
                                                                                        • “I understand.”
                                                                                        • “I’m sorry.”

                                                                                        7. Smile

                                                                                        Management consultancies like Credera teach that communication is a combination of the content, delivery, and presentation.[2] When giving constructive feedback, make sure your body language is as positive as your message. Your smile is one of your best tools for getting constructive feedback to connect.

                                                                                        8. Be Grateful

                                                                                        When you’re frustrated about a mistake, it can be tough to see the silver lining. But you don’t have to look that hard. Every constructive feedback session is a chance for the team to get better and grow closer.

                                                                                        You could say:

                                                                                        • “I’m glad you brought this up.”
                                                                                        • “We all learned an important lesson.”
                                                                                        • “I love improving as a team.”

                                                                                        9. Avoid Accusations

                                                                                        Giving tough feedback without losing your cool is one of the toughest parts of working with others. Great leaders and project managers get upset at the mistake, not the person who made it.[3]

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                                                                                        You could say:

                                                                                        • “We all make mistakes.”
                                                                                        • “I know you did your best.”
                                                                                        • “I don’t hold it against you.”

                                                                                        10. Take Responsibility

                                                                                        More often than not, mistakes are made because of miscommunications Recognize your own role in them.

                                                                                        Could you have been clearer in your directions? Did you set the other person up for success?

                                                                                        You could say:

                                                                                        • “I should have . . .”
                                                                                        • “Next time, I’ll . . .”

                                                                                        11. Time it Right

                                                                                        Constructive feedback shouldn’t catch people off guard. Don’t give it while everyone is packing up to leave work. Don’t interrupt a good lunch conversation.

                                                                                        If in doubt, ask the person to whom you’re giving feedback to schedule the session themselves. Encourage them to choose a time when they’ll be able to focus on the conversation rather than their next task.

                                                                                        12. Use Their Name

                                                                                        When you hear your name, your ears naturally perk up. Use that when giving constructive feedback. Just remember that constructive feedback should be personalized, not personal.

                                                                                        You could say:

                                                                                        • “Bob, I wanted to chat through . . .”
                                                                                        • “Does that make sense, Jesse?”

                                                                                        13. Suggest, Don’t Order

                                                                                        When you give constructive feedback, it’s important not to be adversarial. The very act of giving feedback recognizes that the person who made the mistake had a choice—and when the situation comes up again, they’ll be able to choose differently.

                                                                                        You could say:

                                                                                        • “Next time, I suggest . . .”
                                                                                        • “Try it this way.”
                                                                                        • “Are you on board with that?”

                                                                                        14. Be Brief

                                                                                        Even when given empathetically, constructive feedback can be uncomfortable to receive. Get your message across, make sure there are no hard feelings, and move on.

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                                                                                        One exception? If the feedback isn’t understood, make clear that you have plenty of time for questions. Rushing through what’s clearly an open conversation is disrespectful and discouraging.

                                                                                        15. Follow Up

                                                                                        Not all lessons are learned immediately. After giving a member of your team constructive feedback, follow it up with an email. Make sure you’re just as respectful and helpful in your written feedback as you are on your verbal communication.

                                                                                        You could say:

                                                                                        • “I wanted to recap . . .”
                                                                                        • “Thanks for chatting with me about . . .”
                                                                                        • “Did that make sense?”

                                                                                        16. Expect Improvement

                                                                                        Although you should always deliver constructive feedback in a supportive manner, you should also expect to see it implemented. If it’s a long-term issue, set milestones.

                                                                                        By what date would you like to see what sort of improvement? How will you measure that improvement?

                                                                                        You could say:

                                                                                        • “I’d like to see you . . .”
                                                                                        • “Let’s check back in after . . .”
                                                                                        • “I’m expecting you to . . .”
                                                                                        • “Let’s make a dent in that by . . .”

                                                                                        17. Give Second Chances

                                                                                        Giving feedback, no matter how constructive, is a waste of time if you don’t provide an opportunity to implement it. Don’t set up a “gotcha” moment, but do tap the recipient of your feedback next time a similar task comes up.

                                                                                        You could say:

                                                                                        • “I know you’ll rock it next time.”
                                                                                        • “I’d love to see you try again.”
                                                                                        • “Let’s give it another go.”

                                                                                        Final Thoughts

                                                                                        Constructive feedback is not an easy nut to crack. If you don’t give it well, then maybe it’s time to get some. Never be afraid to ask.

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