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40+ Quotes To Read When Everything Appears To Be Going Wrong In Your Life

40+ Quotes To Read When Everything Appears To Be Going Wrong In Your Life

There are sunny days and there are rainy days, and there may be times in your life when you can’t see the end to the downpour. Don’t despair, you are not alone. Don’t let yourself sink into the mud. Pull on some boots, grab your raincoat and choose to dance in the rain. Change your perspective on the situation, find your faith, embrace the rain, or look for the rainbow in the clouds. Here are 40+ inspirational quotes to motivate you through those darker days when everything appears to be going wrong in your life.

1. Success is the ability to go from one failure to another with no less enthusiasm

    2. If you look the right way, you can see the whole world is a garden

    If you look the right way, you can see the whole world is a garden.

      3. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself

        4. Things do not change, we change

        Things do not change, we change.

          5. You may not control all of the events that happen to you…

          Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway.

            6. I have not failed, I’ve just found 10,000 ways that don’t work

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            I have not failed, I have just found 10,000 ways that don't work.

              7. Let your hopes, not your hurts shape your future

              Let your hopes, not your hurts shape your future.

                8. Attitude is the difference between an ordeal and an adventure

                Attitude is the difference between an ordeal and an adventure

                  9. What I like best is new starts

                  What I like best is new starts.

                    10. This too shall pass

                      11. One happiness scatters a thousand sorrows

                      One happiness scatters a thousand sorrows.

                        12. This world is but a canvas to our imagination

                          13. You are never too old to set another goal or dream another dream

                            14. Broken crayons still color

                            Broken crayons still color

                              15. The best way to cheer yourself up is to try and cheer somebody else up

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                              The best way to cheer yourself up is to try and cheer somebody else up

                                16. Courage is being scared to death, but saddling up anyway

                                Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway.

                                  17. The only thing permanent in this life is that everything is temporary

                                  The only thing permanent in this life is that everything is temporary.

                                    18. Nothing is impossible

                                      19. It isn’t what you have or who you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy, it is what you think about.

                                      It isn't what you have or who you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy, it is what you think about.

                                        20. A goal is not always meant to be reached

                                          21. Still round the corner there may wait, a new road or secret gate.

                                          Still round the corner there may wait, a new road or secret gate.

                                             22. Don’t feel sorry for yourself if you have chosen the wrong road. Turn around.

                                              23. I avoid looking back, I prefer good memories to regrets

                                              I avoid looking back. I prefer good memories to regret.

                                                24. Follow your bliss

                                                Follow your bliss and the universe will open up doors where there were only walls

                                                  25. Good things happen in your life when you surround yourself with positive people

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                                                  Good things happen in your life when you surround yourself with positive people.

                                                    26. Faith is taking the first step, even if you don’t see the whole staircase

                                                    Faith is taking the first step even when you don't see the whole staircase.

                                                      27. It is the law of life if you are kind to someone, you feel happy

                                                      It is the law of life that if you are kind to someone, you feel happy.

                                                        28. Once you choose hope, anything is possible.

                                                        Once you choose hope, anything is possible.

                                                          29. Every exit is an entry somewhere else

                                                          Every exit is an entry somewhere else.

                                                            30. Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again

                                                            Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.- Henry Ford

                                                              31. Problems are not stop signs, they are guidelines.

                                                              Problems are not stop signs, they are guidelines.

                                                                32. Do not stop thinking of life as an adventure

                                                                Do not stop thinking as life as an adventure.

                                                                  33. A problem is your chance to do your best.

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                                                                  A problem is your chance to do your best.

                                                                    34. Success is not final; failure is not fatal

                                                                    Success is not final, failure is not fatal; It is the courage to continue that counts.

                                                                      35. Think of all the beauty still left around you and be happy.

                                                                      Think of all the beauty still left around you and be happy.

                                                                         36. You will never find a rainbow if you are looking down

                                                                        You will never find a rainbow if you are looking down.

                                                                          37. Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see a shadow.

                                                                          Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see a shadow.

                                                                             38. I can’t always change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails

                                                                            I can't always change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination.

                                                                              39. The glory is not in never failing, but in rising every time you fall

                                                                              The glory is not in never failing, but in rising every time you fall.

                                                                                40. Be thankful for everything that happens in your life; It’s all an experience

                                                                                Be thankful for everything that happens in your life; it is all an experience.

                                                                                  41. The first step is you have to say you can

                                                                                  The first step is you have to say that you can

                                                                                    42. It is not in the stars to hold our destiny, but in ourselves

                                                                                    It is not in the stars to hold our destiny, but in ourselves.

                                                                                      43. Only in the darkness can you see the stars.

                                                                                      Only in the darkness can you see the stars.

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                                                                                        13 Helping Points When Things Don’t Go Your Way

                                                                                        13 Helping Points When Things Don’t Go Your Way

                                                                                        For the original article by Celestine: 13 Helping Points When Things Don’t Go Your Way

                                                                                        “We all have problems. The way we solve them is what makes us different.” ~Unknown

                                                                                        “It’s not stress that kills us, it is our reaction to it.” – Hans Selye

                                                                                        Have you ever experienced moments when things just don’t go your way? For example, losing your keys, accidentally spilling your drink, waking up late, missing your buses/trains, forgetting to bring your things, and so on?

                                                                                        You’re not alone. All of us, myself included, experience times when things don’t go as we expect.

                                                                                        Here is my guide on how to deal with daily setbacks.

                                                                                        1. Take a step back and evaluate

                                                                                        When something bad happens, take a step back and evaluate the situation. Some questions to ask yourself:

                                                                                        1. What is the problem?
                                                                                        2. Are you the only person facing this problem in the world today?
                                                                                        3. How does this problem look like at an individual level? A national level? On a global scale?
                                                                                        4. What’s the worst possible thing that can happen to you as a result of this?
                                                                                        5. How is it going to impact your life in the next 1 year? 5 years? 10 years?

                                                                                        Doing this exercise is not to undermine the problem or disclaiming responsibility, but to consider different perspectives, so you can adopt the best approach for it. Most problems we encounter daily may seem like huge issues when they crop up, but most, if not all, don’t have much impact in our life beyond that day.

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                                                                                        2. Vent if you have to, but don’t linger on the problem

                                                                                        If you feel very frustrated and need to let off some steam, go ahead and do that. Talk to a friend, complain, crib about it, or scream at the top of your lungs if it makes you happy.

                                                                                        At the same time, don’t get caught up with venting. While venting may temporarily relieve yourself, it’s not going to solve the problem ultimately. You don’t want to be an energy vampire.

                                                                                        Vent if there’s a need to, but do it for 15 to 20 minutes. Then move on.

                                                                                        3. Realize there are others out there facing this too

                                                                                        Even though the situation may be frustrating, you’re not alone. Remember there are almost 7 billion people in the world today, and chances are that other people have faced the same thing before too. Knowing it’s not just you helps you to get out of a self-victimizing mindset.

                                                                                        4. Process your thoughts/emotions

                                                                                        Process your thoughts/emotions with any of the four methods:

                                                                                        1. Journal. Write your unhappiness in a private diary or in your blog. It doesn’t have to be formal at all – it can be a brain dump on rough paper or new word document. Delete after you are done.
                                                                                        2. Audio taping. Record yourself as you talk out what’s on your mind. Tools include tape recorder, your PC (Audacity is a freeware for recording/editing audio) and your mobile (most mobiles today have audio recording functions). You can even use your voice mail for this. Just talking helps you to gain awareness of your emotions. After recording, play back and listen to what you said. You might find it quite revealing.
                                                                                        3. Meditation. At its simplest form, meditation is just sitting/lying still and observing your reality as it is – including your thoughts and emotions. Some think that it involves some complex mambo-jumbo, but it doesn’t.
                                                                                        4. Talking to someone. Talking about it with someone helps you work through the issue. It also gets you an alternate viewpoint and consider it from a different angle.

                                                                                        5. Acknowledge your thoughts

                                                                                        Don’t resist your thoughts, but acknowledge them. This includes both positive and negative thoughts.

                                                                                        By acknowledging, I mean recognizing these thoughts exist. So if say, you have a thought that says, “Wow, I’m so stupid!”, acknowledge that. If you have a thought that says, “I can’t believe this is happening to me again”, acknowledge that as well.

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                                                                                        Know that acknowledging the thoughts doesn’t mean you agree with them. It’s simply recognizing the existence of said thoughts so that you can stop resisting yourself and focus on the situation on hand.

                                                                                        6. Give yourself a break

                                                                                        If you’re very stressed out by the situation, and the problem is not time sensitive, then give yourself a break. Take a walk, listen to some music, watch a movie, or get some sleep. When you’re done, you should feel a lot more revitalized to deal with the situation.

                                                                                        7. Uncover what you’re really upset about

                                                                                        A lot of times, the anger we feel isn’t about the world. You may start off feeling angry at someone or something, but at the depth of it, it’s anger toward yourself.

                                                                                        Uncover the root of your anger. I have written a five part anger management series on how to permanently overcome anger.

                                                                                        After that, ask yourself: How can you improve the situation? Go to Step #9, where you define your actionable steps. Our anger comes from not having control on the situation. Sitting there and feeling infuriated is not going to change the situation. The more action we take, the more we will regain control over the situation, the better we will feel.

                                                                                        8. See this as an obstacle to be overcome

                                                                                        As Helen Keller once said,

                                                                                        “Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experiences of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition inspired and success achieved.”

                                                                                        Whatever you’re facing right now, see it as an obstacle to be overcome. In every worthy endeavor, there’ll always be countless obstacles that emerge along the way. These obstacles are what separate the people who make it, and those who don’t. If you’re able to push through and overcome them, you’ll emerge a stronger person than before. It’ll be harder for anything to get you down in the future.

                                                                                        9. Analyze the situation – Focus on actionable steps

                                                                                        In every setback, there are going to be things that can’t be reversed since they have already occurred. You want to focus on things that can still be changed (salvageable) vs. things that have already happened and can’t be changed. The only time the situation changes is when you take steps to improve it. Rather than cry over spilt milk, work through your situation:

                                                                                        1. What’s the situation?
                                                                                        2. What’s stressing you about this situation?
                                                                                        3. What are the next steps that’ll help you resolve them?
                                                                                        4. Take action on your next steps!

                                                                                        After you have identified your next steps, act on them. The key here is to focus on the actionable steps, not the inactionable steps. It’s about regaining control over the situation through direct action.

                                                                                        10. Identify how it occurred (so it won’t occur again next time)

                                                                                        A lot of times we react to our problems. The problem occurs, and we try to make the best out of what has happened within the context. While developing a healthy coping mechanism is important (which is what the other helping points are on), it’s also equally important, if not more, to understand how the problem arose. This way, you can work on preventing it from taking place next time, vs. dealing reactively with it.

                                                                                        Most of us probably think the problem is outside of our control, but reality is most of the times it’s fully preventable. It’s just a matter of how much responsibility you take over the problem.

                                                                                        For example, for someone who can’t get a cab for work in the morning, he/she may see the problem as a lack of cabs in the country, or bad luck. However, if you trace to the root of the problem, it’s probably more to do with (a) Having unrealistic expectations of the length of time to get a cab. He/she should budget more time for waiting for a cab next time. (b) Oversleeping, because he/she was too tired from working late the previous day. He/she should allocate enough time for rest next time. He/she should also pick up better time management skills, so as to finish work in lesser time.

                                                                                        11. Realize the situation can be a lot worse

                                                                                        No matter how bad the situation is, it can always be much worse. A plus point vs. negative point analysis will help you realize that.

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                                                                                        12. Do your best, but don’t kill yourself over it

                                                                                        No matter how bad your situation may seem, do your best, but don’t kill yourself over it. Life is too beautiful to worry so much over daily issues. Take a step back (#1), give yourself a break if you need to (#6), and do what you can within your means (#9). Everything else will unfold accordingly. Worrying too much about the outcome isn’t going to change things or make your life any better.

                                                                                        13. Pick out the learning points from the encounter

                                                                                        There’s something to learn from every encounter. What have you learned from this situation? What lessons have you taken away?

                                                                                        After you identify your learning points, think about how you’re going to apply them moving forward. With this, you’ve clearly gained something from this encounter. You’ve walked away a stronger, wiser, better person, with more life lessons to draw from in the future.

                                                                                        Get the manifesto version of this article: [Manifesto] What To Do When Things Don’t Go Your Way

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