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Last Updated on February 11, 2021

40+ Quotes To Read When Everything Appears To Be Going Wrong In Your Life

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40+ Quotes To Read When Everything Appears To Be Going Wrong In Your Life

There are sunny days and there are rainy days, and there may be times in your life when you can’t see the end to the downpour. Don’t despair, you are not alone. Don’t let yourself sink into the mud. Pull on some boots, grab your raincoat and choose to dance in the rain. Change your perspective on the situation, find your faith, embrace the rain, or look for the rainbow in the clouds. Here are 40+ inspirational quotes to motivate you through those darker days when everything appears to be going wrong in your life.

1. Success is the ability to go from one failure to another with no less enthusiasm

    2. If you look the right way, you can see the whole world is a garden

    If you look the right way, you can see the whole world is a garden.

      3. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself

        4. Things do not change, we change

        Things do not change, we change.

          5. You may not control all of the events that happen to you…

          Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway.

            6. I have not failed, I’ve just found 10,000 ways that don’t work

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            I have not failed, I have just found 10,000 ways that don't work.

              7. Let your hopes, not your hurts shape your future

              Let your hopes, not your hurts shape your future.

                8. Attitude is the difference between an ordeal and an adventure

                Attitude is the difference between an ordeal and an adventure

                  9. What I like best is new starts

                  What I like best is new starts.

                    10. This too shall pass

                      11. One happiness scatters a thousand sorrows

                      One happiness scatters a thousand sorrows.

                        12. This world is but a canvas to our imagination

                          13. You are never too old to set another goal or dream another dream

                            14. Broken crayons still color

                            Broken crayons still color

                              15. The best way to cheer yourself up is to try and cheer somebody else up

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                              The best way to cheer yourself up is to try and cheer somebody else up

                                16. Courage is being scared to death, but saddling up anyway

                                Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway.

                                  17. The only thing permanent in this life is that everything is temporary

                                  The only thing permanent in this life is that everything is temporary.

                                    18. Nothing is impossible

                                      19. It isn’t what you have or who you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy, it is what you think about.

                                      It isn't what you have or who you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy, it is what you think about.

                                        20. A goal is not always meant to be reached

                                          21. Still round the corner there may wait, a new road or secret gate.

                                          Still round the corner there may wait, a new road or secret gate.

                                             22. Don’t feel sorry for yourself if you have chosen the wrong road. Turn around.

                                              23. I avoid looking back, I prefer good memories to regrets

                                              I avoid looking back. I prefer good memories to regret.

                                                24. Follow your bliss

                                                Follow your bliss and the universe will open up doors where there were only walls

                                                  25. Good things happen in your life when you surround yourself with positive people

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                                                  Good things happen in your life when you surround yourself with positive people.

                                                    26. Faith is taking the first step, even if you don’t see the whole staircase

                                                    Faith is taking the first step even when you don't see the whole staircase.

                                                      27. It is the law of life if you are kind to someone, you feel happy

                                                      It is the law of life that if you are kind to someone, you feel happy.

                                                        28. Once you choose hope, anything is possible.

                                                        Once you choose hope, anything is possible.

                                                          29. Every exit is an entry somewhere else

                                                          Every exit is an entry somewhere else.

                                                            30. Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again

                                                            Failure is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.- Henry Ford

                                                              31. Problems are not stop signs, they are guidelines.

                                                              Problems are not stop signs, they are guidelines.

                                                                32. Do not stop thinking of life as an adventure

                                                                Do not stop thinking as life as an adventure.

                                                                  33. A problem is your chance to do your best.

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                                                                  A problem is your chance to do your best.

                                                                    34. Success is not final; failure is not fatal

                                                                    Success is not final, failure is not fatal; It is the courage to continue that counts.

                                                                      35. Think of all the beauty still left around you and be happy.

                                                                      Think of all the beauty still left around you and be happy.

                                                                         36. You will never find a rainbow if you are looking down

                                                                        You will never find a rainbow if you are looking down.

                                                                          37. Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see a shadow.

                                                                          Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see a shadow.

                                                                             38. I can’t always change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails

                                                                            I can't always change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination.

                                                                              39. The glory is not in never failing, but in rising every time you fall

                                                                              The glory is not in never failing, but in rising every time you fall.

                                                                                40. Be thankful for everything that happens in your life; It’s all an experience

                                                                                Be thankful for everything that happens in your life; it is all an experience.

                                                                                  41. The first step is you have to say you can

                                                                                  The first step is you have to say that you can

                                                                                    42. It is not in the stars to hold our destiny, but in ourselves

                                                                                    It is not in the stars to hold our destiny, but in ourselves.

                                                                                      43. Only in the darkness can you see the stars.

                                                                                      Only in the darkness can you see the stars.

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                                                                                        Published on September 27, 2021

                                                                                        What Is Incentive Motivation And Does It Work?

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                                                                                        What Is Incentive Motivation And Does It Work?

                                                                                        We’ve all needed a bit of inspiration at some time in our lives. In the past year or two, that need most likely has grown. Who hasn’t been trying to shed those extra pounds we put on during the pandemic? Who hasn’t felt the need to fake a little enthusiasm at joining yet another Zoom call? Who hasn’t been trying to get excited about trekking back into the office for a 9 to 5 (longer if you add in the commute)? Feeling “meh” is a sign of our times. So, too, is incentive motivation, a way to get back our spark, our drive, and our pursuit of the things we say we want most.

                                                                                        In this article, I’ll talk about what incentive motivation is and how it works.

                                                                                        What Is Incentive Motivation?

                                                                                        Incentive motivation is an area of study in psychology focused on human motivation. What is it that gets us to go from couch potato to running a marathon? What spurs us to get the Covid vaccine—or to forgo it? What is it that influences us to think or act in a certain way? Incentive motivation is concerned with the way goals influence behavior.[1] By all accounts, it works if the incentive being used holds significance for the person.

                                                                                        The Roots of Incentive Motivation

                                                                                        Incentive motivation’s roots can be traced back to when we were children. I’m sure many of us have similar memories of being told to “eat all our veggies” so that we would “grow up to be big and strong,” and if we did eat those veggies, we would be rewarded with a weekend trip to a carnival or amusement park or playground of choice. The incentive of that outing was something we wanted enough to have it influence our behavior.

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                                                                                        Growing up, incentive motivation continues to play a major role in what we choose to do. For example, while we may not have relished the idea of spending years studying, getting good grades, pursuing advanced degrees, and graduating with sizeable debt from student loans, a great many of us decided to do just that. Why? Because the end goal of a career, a coveted title, and the associated incentives of financial reward and joy in doing something we love were powerful motivators.

                                                                                        One researcher who believes in the power of incentive motivation is weight management expert, co-author of the book State of Slim, and co-founder of the transformational weight loss program of the same name, Dr. Holly Wyatt. Her work with her clients has proven time and again that when motivation fizzles, incentives can reignite those motivational fires.

                                                                                        “Eat more veggies, exercise, keep track of my weight: These things and more DO work, but bottom line, you gotta keep doing them. Setting up rituals and routines to put your efforts on auto-pilot is one way. And along the way, the use of both external and internal motivators helps keep people on track. External motivation sources are those things outside of ourselves that help to motivate us. They’re powerful, like pouring gasoline on a fire. But they may not last very long. Internal motivators are more tied into the reasons WHY we want to reach our goals. In my State of Slim weight loss program, we spend a lot of time on what I call ‘peeling back the onion’ to find the WHY. I think the internal motivators are more powerful, especially for the long-term, but they may take longer to build. They’re the hot coals that keep our motivational fires burning.”

                                                                                        Examples of Incentive Motivation

                                                                                        In the way of incentive motivation, specific to the external motivators, Dr. Wyatt challenges her clients to commit to changing just one behavior that will help them reach their weight loss goals. Clients must then agree to a “carrot” or a “stick” as either their reward for accomplishing what they say they will do or as their punishment for falling short. Those incentives might be something like enjoying a spa day if they do the thing they said they would do or sweating it out while running up and down the stairwell of their apartment building a certain number of times as punishment for not following through.

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                                                                                        Whatever they choose, the goal must be something they really want, and the incentive must be something that matters to them enough to influence their behaviors in reaching those goals. Some people are more motivated by some sort of meaningful reward (a carrot) whereas, other people are more motivated by some sort of negative consequence or the taking away of a privilege (the stick).

                                                                                        Another example of incentive motivation is playing out currently with companies and government entities offering perks to people who get the Covid vaccine. Nationwide, offers are being made in the way of lottery tickets, cash prizes, concert seats, free admission to events and discounts for food, and even free drink at local restaurants and bars. The list of incentives being offered to the public to increase vaccination rates is pretty extensive and quite creative.[2]  These incentives are financial, social, and even hit on moral sensibilities. But is this particular incentive motivation working?

                                                                                        Remember that a key to incentive motivation working is if the individual puts importance on the reward being received on the ultimate goal. So, not all incentives will motivate people in the same way. According to Stephen L. Franzoi, “The value of an incentive can change over time and in different situations.”[3]

                                                                                        How Does Incentive Motivation Differ from Other Types of Motivators?

                                                                                        Incentive motivation is just one type of motivating force that relies on external factors. While rewards are powerful tools in influencing behaviors, a few other options may be more aligned with who you are and what gets you moving toward your goals.

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                                                                                        Fear Motivation

                                                                                        In many ways, being motivated by fear is the very opposite of being motivated by incentives. Rather than pursuing some reward, it’s the avoidance of some consequence or painful punishment that sparks someone into action. For example, married couples may “forsake all others” not out of love or commitment but out of a fear that they may be “taken to the cleaners” by their spouses if their infidelities are revealed.

                                                                                        Another example wherein fear becomes the great motivator is one we’re hearing about more and more as we’re coming out of this pandemic—the fear of being poor. The fear of being poor has kept many people in jobs they hate. It’s only now that we see a reversal as headlines are shining a light on just how many workers are quitting and refusing to go back to the way things were.

                                                                                        Social Motivation

                                                                                        Human beings are social creatures. The desire to belong is a powerful motivator. This type of social motivation sparks one’s behavior in ways that, hopefully, result in an individual being accepted by a certain group or other individuals.

                                                                                        The rise of the Internet and the explosion of social media engagement has been both positive and negative in its power to motivate us to be included among what during our school days would be called “the cool kids” or “cliques” (jocks, nerds, artsy, gamers, etc.). We probably all have experienced at one time or another the feelings associated with “not being chosen”—whether to be on a team to play some game or as the winning candidate for some job or competition. Social rejection can make or break us.

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                                                                                        Before You Get Up and Go…

                                                                                        Know that, especially during these challenging times, it’s “normal” and very much “okay” to feel a lack of motivation. Know, too, that external motivators, such as those we’ve talked about in this article, can be great tools to get your spark back. We’ve only touched on a few here. There are many more—both external and internal.

                                                                                        Remember that these external motivators, such as incentive motivations, are only as powerful as the importance placed on the reward by the individual. It’s also important to note that if there isn’t an aligned internal motivation, the results will more than likely be short-lived.

                                                                                        For example, losing a certain amount of weight because you want to fit into some outfit you intend to wear at some public event may get you to where you want to be. But will it hold up after your party? Or will those pounds find their way back to you? If you want to be rewarded at work with that trip to the islands because you’ve topped the charts in sales and hustle to make your numbers, will you be motivated again and again for that same incentive? Or will you need more and more to stay motivated?

                                                                                        Viktor Frankl, the 20th-century psychiatrist, Holocaust survivor, and author of the best-selling book, Man’s Search for Meaning, is quoted as having said, “Those who have a ‘why’ to live, can bear with almost any ‘how’.” As important as external motivators like incentives may be in influencing behaviors, the key is always to align them with one’s internal “why”—only then will the results be long-lived.

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                                                                                        So, how might incentive motivation influence you and your behavior toward goals? Knowing your answer might keep you energized no matter what your journey and help to further your successes.

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                                                                                        Reference

                                                                                        [1] Britannica: Incentive motivation
                                                                                        [2] National Governors Association: COVID-19 Vaccine Incentives
                                                                                        [3] verywellmind: The Incentive Theory of Motivation

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