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This Is What Happens When You Live With A Nurse

This Is What Happens When You Live With A Nurse

Anyone who lives with a nurse knows to be ready for the unexpected. Nursing is more than a job — it’s a way of life, and those who live with (or have lived with) a nurse know that’s true. The following are just a few of the enjoyable and absurd experiences that make living with a nurse so much fun (and a little bit frustrating at times).

1. Think twice before asking “How’s your day?”

When a nurse comes home from work, only the brave asks, “How was your day?” Those who are squeamish probably won’t want to ask this question at all. What you’ll receive is an account of the graphic, funny, sad, weird, gross, and far-from-boring parts of a nurse’s day. If you’re ready to hear about a workday that’s crazier than you can imagine, go ahead and ask.

2. You wonder why they are getting so many calls and text messages.

Nurses receive health questions at all times of day from friends, parents, nieces, aunts, uncles, etc. A nurse is almost always helping a friend, family member, or acquaintance with a medical issues.

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3. You never have to go to the store for medication.

Don’t worry, your nurse husband, wife, friend, or roommate is always equipped with medication to take care of your headache, nausea, bloating, cold, diarrhea, or whatever ails you. Check the medicine cabinet and you’ll see that it’s fully stocked.

4. You hear them come home at the oddest hours.

You’ll probably never say “good morning” to a nurse that works a day shift, and a nurse who works at night will rarely be home before you go to bed. Living with a nurse is sometimes like living with no one at all. Although, when a nurse finishes their 12-hour shift, you’re sure to hear some interesting hospital stories.

5. You have a hard time understanding some of their vocabulary.

You may be a little confused when a nurse mentions albumin to globulin ratios, hemoglobin and hematocrit, and other strange medical terms in conversation. The best solution is to keep a search engine or medical book open at all times.

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6. You can rest assured, because they’ve seen it all.

You don’t have to be embarrassed about personal problems, health issues, or moments of craziness when you’re living with a nurse. They’ve always seen something crazier from a patient, and they’ve always been willing to help.

7. You have to give plenty of notice for plans.

Nurses receive their work schedules roughly 3 months in advance, which means you’ll have to be prepared when asking to make plans. Most nurses work every other weekend, so never try to schedule getaways or events two weekends in a row.

8. You never run out of pens or pads of paper.

Pens, pads of paper, refrigerator magnets, and countless other items showcasing the names of pharmaceutical companies float around a nurse’s home at all times. A nurse may despise a particular pharmaceutical rep, but that doesn’t mean they won’t take a free calculator.

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9. You hear the strangest phone conversations.

If you’ve ever heard one nurse talk over the phone with another, you know to leave the room immediately. Bodily fluids, surgeries, emergency room occurrences, and patient-bathroom mishaps are common topics of discussion, and if you don’t want to feel a bit nauseous, it’s best to let nurses speak in private.

10. You begin to feel like a doctor.

Listening to a nurse assess your ailments and those of others will lead you to think you’re an expert too. There’s no doubt you’ll start diagnosing your friends with your newfound expertise. Just be sure you send them to a real doctor or nurse after you’re finished giving your not-so-expert opinion.

11. You get used to seeing constant multitasking.

It seems like nurses can perform 100 tasks at once, and that’s because they do this every day at the hospital. You’ll watch as a nurse mops the floor while speaking on the phone, applying a bandage to a two-year-old’s elbow, and cooking sunnyside-up eggs. Never try to perform these same tasks at once, unless of course, you’re a nurse too.

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Featured photo credit: ResoluteSupportMedia via flickr.com

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Last Updated on July 10, 2020

How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

We all have them—those hurtful, frustrating, offensive, manipulative people in our lives. No matter how hard we try to surround ourselves with positive and kind people, there will always be those who will disrespect, insult, berate, and misuse you if we allow them to.

We may, for a variety of reasons, not be able to avoid them, but we can determine how we interact with them and how we allow them to interact with us.

So, how to take control of your life and stop being pushed around?

Learning to set clear firm boundaries with the people in our lives at work and in our personal lives is the best way to protect ourselves from the negative effects of this kind of behavior.

What Boundaries Are (And What They’re Not)

Boundaries are limits

—they are not threats or ultimatums. Boundaries inform or teach. They are not a form of punishment.

Boundaries are firm lines—determined by you—which cannot be crossed by those around you. They are guidelines for how you will allow others to treat you and what kind of behaviors you will expect.

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Healthy personal boundaries help protect you from physical or emotional pain. You may also need to set firm boundaries at work to ensure you and your time are not disrespected. Don’t allow others to take advantage of your kindness and generosity.

Clear boundaries communicate to others that you demand respect and consideration—that you are willing to stand up for yourself and that you will not be a doormat for anyone. They are a “no trespassing” sign that makes it very clear when a line has been crossed and that there will be consequences for doing so.

Boundaries are not set with the intention of changing other people. They may change how people interact with you, but they are more about enforcing your needs than attempting to change the general behavior and attitude of others.

How to Establish Boundaries and Take Control of Your Life

Here are some ways that you can establish boundaries and take control of your life.

1. Self-Awareness Comes First

Before you can establish boundaries with others, you first need to understand what your needs are.

You are entitled to respect. You have the right to protect yourself from inappropriate or offensive behavior. Setting boundaries is a way of honoring your needs.

To set appropriate boundaries, you need to be clear about what healthy behaviors look like—what healthy relationships look like.

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You first have to become more aware of your feelings and honest with yourself about your expectations and what you feel is appropriate behavior:

  • Where do you need to establish better boundaries?
  • When do you feel disrespected?
  • When do you feel violated, frustrated, or angered by the behavior of others?
  • In what situations do you feel you are being mistreated or taken advantage of?
  • When do you want to be alone?
  • How much space do you need?

You need to honor your own needs and boundaries before you can expect others to honor them. This allows you to take control of your life.

2. Clear Communication Is Essential

Inform others clearly and directly what your expectations are. It is essential to have clear communication if you want others to respect your boundaries. Explain in an honest and respectful tone what you find offensive or unacceptable.

Many people simply aren’t aware that they are behaving inappropriately. They may never have been taught proper manners or consideration for others.

3. Be Specific but Don’t Blame

Taking a blaming or punishing attitude automatically puts people on the defensive. People will not listen when they feel attacked. It’s part of human nature.

That said, you do not need to overexplain or defend yourself. Boundaries are not open to compromise.

Sample language:

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  • “You may not…yell or raise your voice to me…”
  • “I need…to be treated with respect…”
  • “It’s not okay when…you take things from my desk without asking…”
  • “I won’t…do your work…cover for you anymore…”
  • “It’s not acceptable when…you ridicule or insult me…”
  • “I am uncomfortable when…you use offensive language”
  • “I will no longer be able to…lend you money…”

Being able to communicate these without sounding accusatory is essential if you want others to respect your boundaries so you can take control of your life.

4. Consequences Are Often Necessary

Determine what the appropriate consequences will be when boundaries are crossed. If it’s appropriate, be clear about those consequences upfront when communicating those boundaries to others.

Follow through. People won’t respect your boundaries if you don’t enforce them.

Standing our ground and forcing consequences doesn’t come easily to us. We want to be nice. We want people to like us, but we shouldn’t have to trade our self-respect to gain friends or to achieve success.

We may be tempted to let minor disrespect slide to avoid conflict, but as the familiar saying goes, “if you give people an inch, they’ll take a mile.”

It’s much easier to address offensive or inappropriate behavior now than to wait until that behavior has gotten completely out of hand.

It’s also important to remember that positive reinforcement is even more powerful than negative consequences. When people do alter the way they treat you, acknowledge it. Let people know that you notice and appreciate their efforts.

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Final Thoughts

Respect is always a valid reason for setting a boundary. Don’t defend yourself or your needs. Boundaries are often necessary to protect your time, your space, and your feelings. And these are essential if you want to take control of your life.

Start with the easiest boundaries first. Setting boundaries is a skill that needs to be practiced. Enlist support from others if necessary. Inform people immediately when they have crossed the line.

Don’t wait. Communicate politely and directly. Be clear about the consequences and follow them through.

The better you become at setting your own boundaries, the better you become at recognizing and respecting the boundaries of others.

Remember that establishing boundaries is your right. You are entitled to respect. You can’t control how other people behave, but you do have control over the way you allow people to treat you.

Learning to set boundaries is not always easy, but with time, it will become more comfortable. You may eventually find that boundaries become automatic and you no longer need to consciously set them.

They will simply become a natural extension of your self-respect.

Featured photo credit: Thomas Kelley via unsplash.com

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