I believe that if life gives you lemons, you should make lemonade… then try to find somebody whose life has given them vodka, and have a party.
When I was younger I was certain that life was one big party. Now… well, I still think that. Only, it turns out that it’s a complicated, unpredictable one where the guests don’t always party responsibly. I recently found my original party invitation and this time I got out my trusty magnifying glass to read the fine print. I’ve enlarged the print and posted it below for you. Maybe you’ll find it helpful.
The universe is throwing a big party and we’re all invited!Advertising
Here are a few things you should know about this particular party.
1. It’s BYOE
Bring Your Own Everything. The universe isn’t hosting the party so much as allowing us to hang out at her place for awhile. She’s providing the environment for us to enjoy, or not to enjoy. It’s up to us to bring stuff. And that stuff includes an open mind and a forgiving spirit because you never know what or whom you’ll encounter there.Advertising
2. There Will Be Other People
There will be guests attending that may not be to your liking. The good news is, the universe is a big place and if you explore it you’re sure to find those you click with. But if you do find yourself amongst those you don’t fancy, try being kind to them. Parties can sometimes make a person feel lonely. Maybe you can help make it a little less lonely by reaching out.
3. It Might Get Messy
Chaotic even. Everything might be going swimmingly for a bit. You might start feeling the groove and then, out of nowhere, there’s a surprise! An explosion of fireworks! The noise-makers start making too much noise and you can no longer hear yourself think! Or worse, you can hear yourself think and you’re thinking way too much about anything and everything, driving yourself mad! You might spill your drink, ruin the furniture and curse yourself for being such a klutz. But you’re not a klutz. Things spill. Mess happens. It’s okay. Take a deep breath. This will pass. Now try not to trash the place and please clean up after yourself.Advertising
4. There’s No End Time
You may have noticed that there’s no end time on the invites. That’s because everyone’s end time is different and there’s no way of knowing what yours will be. We suggest that you focus on the moments as they come with awareness and presence of mind.
By now you might have ideas as to how this party will go down. You’ve figured it all out. But you haven’t. None of us have. All we can do is show up, dance a little, meet some new people, learn a thing or two and try our best not to be a party pooper.
Last Updated on January 21, 2020
How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them
If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.
Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.
So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.
Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.
2. Ask Open-Ended Questions
Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”
“Why do you want to do that?”
“What makes you so excited about it?”
“How long has that been your dream?”
You need this information the help you with the following steps.
This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”
4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be
After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.
This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.
6. Ask How You Can Help
Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.
7. Follow Up
Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.
By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …
Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!
More on Motivation
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- 9 Types of Motivation That Make It Possible to Reach Your Dreams
- No Motivation? 7 Great Ways To Overcome Loss Of Motivation
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