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Last Updated on September 3, 2020

5 Ways to Excel in Life Regardless of Obstacles

5 Ways to Excel in Life Regardless of Obstacles

What’s the difference between people who excel in life, and people who never seem to get ahead? Successful people tend to have daily practices that build over time, with consistency and determination. You can excel in life, regardless of any obstacles you come across, by following these five practices:

1. Morning Routines Create Your Future

Does it have to be morning? YES. If you want to set your day up right, you need to set the tone with daily routines. Starting your day with a positive routine such as meditating, gentle stretching or visualizing can set you up for success in whatever you do. Add goal setting to this potent time of the day in order to achieve what you want. A morning routine can be as simple as rolling out of bed, sitting on the floor and lighting a candle. You could use this time to write down your dreams, or journal your thoughts, hopes, wishes and dreams.

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2. Successful People Meditate

Many celebrities and high profile humans take the time to meditate every day. Meditation allows you to treat each day as a new one, and to reset your thinking from yesterday. When you take the time to sit quietly, you allow yourself to start the day restfully and with awareness, and you give yourself the opportunity for a fresh beginning. A few meditative celebrities: Clint Eastwood, Liv Tyler and Steve Jobs.

3. Successful People Who Struggled

Many people who are successful did not start out that way. In fact, many of them were hit by rejection, denial, and near-defeat. Some of these include: Albert Einstein, Steve Jobs, Jim Carey, Oprah Winfrey and Fred Astaire, to name a few. What would our world be like if these formidable humans had quit before they realized their potential? Do not quit before the race is over. Get yourself on the starting line and keep going, no matter what.

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4. Know What You Want – Review Goals Daily

Having a vision for your life is perhaps the greatest tool that you can utilize in order to get what you want. Identifying what gets you excited can be a complicated process, but the secret is that your needs and wants will change as time goes on. This is a necessary part of the process to figure out what you want and don’t want in your life. In short, you are not going to make a mistake by creating a vision, because it is supposed to change as you grow and evolve.

5. Be Stubborn and Control Your Memories

Get knocked down 4 times, get up 5 times. Ignore the “No’s”, and focus on the successes in your life. When you focus on all of the good things that are coming to you, effectively you are asking the Universe for more of the same. You cannot always ignore the things in your life that are going wrong. However, you do have the power to change your perspective and your thought process.

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People who excel in life don’t allow the naysayers, critics and haters to control what they do next. When you realize that you are the one in control of your own life, you can begin to step into the vision that you’re creating for yourself. Never, ever give up and don’t surrender to other peoples’ visions of what they think you should be like.

You are allowed to change, grow and ultimately become the kind of person who can excel in life. All you have to do is want it badly enough, and keep going even when you feel exhausted and done. If you can heed this simple advice and stay on top of your recipe for success, you will succeed!

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Last Updated on September 18, 2020

How to Break Free From Negative Thinking for Good

How to Break Free From Negative Thinking for Good

Negative thinking can make us feel as though we are never truly good enough to change our lives. Whether we believe that we are not good looking enough, not smart enough, not funny enough, or something in between, we are always right.

We often tell ourselves the following:

“I’m not good enough to accomplish this.”

“They won’t like me. I’m too ugly to be around them.”

“I won’t ever be able to get out of this situation.”

How we see ourselves dictates how we lead our lives. This simple truth, while it is currently impacting your reality in a negative way, is actually good news. Why?

You can change your thinking, and when you can change your thoughts, you can change your reality.

Put simply, if you start to believe and feel like you are good-looking, intelligent, wealthy, or other things, you begin to see yourself in that light. If you tell yourself that you are capable of achieving greatness, you will eventually get there!

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That said, many find themselves wondering what to do when they get stuck in negative thinking. Are you tired of letting negative thinking run your life? Do you want to take control of how you feel and put yourself out there?

If you want to start writing your own narrative, let’s learn more about negative thought cycles and how you can change your own internal voice.

Where Do Negative Thoughts Come From?

You aren’t going to wake up one day and find that you are suffering from random negative thoughts. Negative thoughts are often a mix of ideas that we develop on our own, as well as ideas that we may have gotten from others.

For example, if you are constantly watching media where individuals are depicted as having thin bodies and perfect skin (and you do not have the same characteristics as those who are traditionally considered to be beautiful), you may come to the conclusion that you are not beautiful or deserving of love.

This is far from the truth, but your own take on how the world works can play into how you feel about yourself.

Equally harmful, the opinions of others can start to affect our self-perception. If several people tell you something negative about yourself, you may begin to take these opinions to heart, telling yourself the same things over time. This self-belief then becomes the model for how you live.

More often than not, the reality is that individuals who lack confidence and self-esteem are going to develop negative thought patterns.

This does not mean that confident people do not face internal crises of their own. After all, everyone is prone to experiencing a negative thought here and there. However, those who are self-aware and confident are able to bounce back from these thoughts and return to their truth.

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Those who do not think highly of themselves, on the other hand, are going to keep believing the negative thoughts that come into their mind. The issue? These negative thoughts turn into a repetitive cycle that becomes harder to break over time.

When you tell yourself something for months or years at a time, it can be difficult to transform that internal dialogue into something more positive and realistic. But is it possible? Absolutely!

The Importance of Quitting Negative Thinking

Beyond low-self esteem, there may be mental health-related causes behind your negative thought patterns, like depression. One of the major symptoms of depression is, you guessed it, negative thoughts. Depression can make us feel unworthy of love and life, even if we have everything we could wish for[1].

You may be struggling with anxiety disorders instead, which can paint uncertain visions of the future and leave you anticipating the worst long before the moment has arrived. Some people have anxiety about the present or will return to past moments where they felt as though they failed, which affects their feelings about who they are or who they will be[2].

Having mental health issues can make your situation more complex, but it is important to know that these types of health issues are highly treatable, especially with the assistance of a mental health professional. You are deserving of self-love, and getting help is the first, most important step of your journey!

How to Break the Cycle of Negative Thinking

In order to overcome your negative thought process, you are going to need two things: self-awareness and a willingness to love yourself. Once you are armed with these two tools, take a look below to learn more about how you can break free of the cycle of negative thinking.

1. Become Aware of the Thoughts That Are Affecting You

Negative thoughts are hard to catch because they have a tendency to become a part of who we are. These thoughts build our belief system and go unchallenged, even when they pop up daily.

All change begins with awareness. Whatever it is that you believe about yourself, take the time to pay attention to your own dialogue.

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What are you saying to yourself on a regular basis? How does it make you feel? Is any of it true?

 

When these thoughts are brought to your attention, you begin to notice just how often you are saying these things to yourself. Once you’ve cultivated awareness around these thoughts, you can begin to develop the change that you want.

2. Learn to Accept Them as They Come (and Move on)

A lot of people believe that you have to completely remove negative thinking patterns from your life in order to be happy. Not only is this not possible, but it’s also not true. You are going to experience negative thoughts regardless. It’s what you decide to do with these thoughts that matters.

Next time a negative thought comes into your mind, treat it like a passing car. Acknowledge it and let it pass you by. Don’t try to wave the driver over to you or continue thinking about once it has passed. Just let it go.

Giving power to your thoughts allows them to have control over you. You can’t stop a negative thought from entering your mind, but you always have the power to let it go!

3. Challenge Your Negative Thoughts

Our own beliefs play on a loop, telling us certain things over and over again. While it’s important to let go, it is also important to get to the root of these issues and figure out where they are coming from.

Let’s imagine that you are telling yourself you are stupid throughout the day. If you notice this pattern, ask yourself: Does this have any basis in reality? Am I really stupid or am I telling myself this unnecessarily? Is there any evidence to support this[3]?

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Challenge negative thinking by asking questions.

    Challenging your negative thoughts will help you realize that they are highly-exaggerated and untrue. This gives you the opportunity to transform these negative thoughts into positive ones that resonate with you.

    4. Replace These Thoughts with Kinder, More Realistic Alternatives

    Anything that is broken must be replaced. The broken record playing on a loop within you can easily be changed to a tune that you can actually sing to.

    Whenever a negative thought comes up, take the time to stop yourself and think of something positive to put in its place. If you find yourself saying, “I can’t do this,” try telling yourself that you are more than capable instead.

    Keep in mind, however, that you need to tell yourself things that you truly believe. If you start telling yourself things that don’t resonate with you and encounter a situation that proves your belief wrong, you may do more harm than good!

    Bottom Line

    Changing the way you think is a rigorous but rewarding process that will change your outlook on life. If you find yourself struggling with negative thinking, learn more about where they come from and how you can stop them for good with the guide above!

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