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If You Have The Chill Friend, You’re Really Lucky

If You Have The Chill Friend, You’re Really Lucky

Do you have a super relaxed friend who you love to be around?

Do you find yourself regularly thinking about how chill and calm they are?

If this sounds like you, you are a very lucky person.

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If you have found a friend who brings peace and tranquillity to your life whenever you speak to them, let them know how much you appreciate them. If you have found a friend who dislikes drama and fighting, cherish them. If you have found a friend who you can always go to for advice, never let them go.

Your chill friend will change your perspective on life without you even realizing. They will show you no judgement, only love and positive emotions. They will be one of the best friends that you ever have – and here are 10 reasons why.

1. The chill friend doesn’t hold on to little things

It doesn’t matter if you had a disagreement the day before – your chill friend will never hold it against you. They understand that everyone disagrees sometimes, and the friendship is far too important to end over something so silly.

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2. The chill friend is non-judgemental

Often people are overly critical of themselves and others around them, but not your chill friend. They always try to see the best in other people, and they would never judge you for doing something that they disagree with.

3. The chill friend dislikes arguing

The chill friend hates petty arguing – if there is a problem, they will bring it up without any negative emotions. You much prefer the drama-free discussion to a childish fight.

4. The chill friend doesn’t care if there is a change of plans

Your chill friend is always happy to go with the flow – you never have to worry about annoying them with a change of plans.

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5. The chill friend gives you your space

They don’t probe you for extra details about your personal life if you don’t want to talk about it. The chill friend respects your boundaries, and they understand that your life and past isn’t their business. This doesn’t mean they aren’t involved in your life; if you ever needed to talk about something they would always be there to listen.

6. When you are stressed out, you seek advice from your chill friend

If you are having a hard day the first person you contact is your chill friend. They have a way of looking at the world that helps you to calm down and focus on the bigger picture.

7. The chill friend doesn’t like making people feel bad

The chill friend takes no pleasure in saying “I told you so.” They don’t like making people feel bad or upset, and they would much rather feel like they are equal to their friends.

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8. The chill friend never expects the relationship to be a certain way

The chill friend doesn’t have any expectations for your friendship (or you). They are happy to let the relationship happen naturally, without forcing certain things. They understand that the relationship is out of their hands, and the best thing to do is to just go with the flow.

9. The chill friend makes you feel more chilled, too

Spending time with your chill friend has helped you to become a more relaxed and positive person. Whenever you become upset, angry or stressed you think about your friend and it helps you to relax. After all, if they can live life with such a great attitude, why can’t you?

10. The chill friend can’t be replaced

You hope that your friendship with the chill friend will last for a very long time. They are there for you whenever you need them, and you always try to support and love them. You appreciate their presence in your life and you know that you are a better person for knowing them.

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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