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Real Story: “A Simple Act Of Kindness Changed My Life”

Real Story: “A Simple Act Of Kindness Changed My Life”

What would you do if you are unfairly treated and isolated by people around you?

“Fight or flight” appears to be the most common response. When we believe that injustice has been done on us, it seems natural for us to either retaliate, or to isolate ourselves from the crowd in attempt to avoid the problem. But are they the only options?

Josh has chosen differently. This student was frequently bullied by his fellow classmates, and he made the big decision to move to another school. Yet from day one, he adopted a different approach through which he hoped he would gain acceptance and be noticed for positive reasons. His daily act of kindness became a habit that was noticed, then caught on throughout the school. Not only was Josh’s life changed, but other students also started showing kindness. The result was it changed the tone of the entire school!

It’s Possible to Turn any Unhappy Situation Around.

“Even though I was scared, I took the jump.”

The big “jump” that Josh refers to was his decision to leave the school where he was bullied, and change his attitude towards others to a friendly, positive one. Instead of expecting to be bullied and trying to handle the situation after the event, he chose to be the instigator. He spoke to his fellow students before they approached him.

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When faced with difficult situations, you can also “take the jump” and change the situation into a happier one. Just have a go. You’ll be excited by the result.

It’s Empowering When You Believe in Yourself.

“I wanted to reach out to people and show them who I really was.”

Josh was tired of being a no-one. He believed there were better things in life for him than continually being reactive, unhappy, and unsettled.

Instead of being a target for bullies, Josh wanted to be accepted. His goal was to mix in with the other students and enjoy simple interactive opportunities like playing basketball with them or sitting with a group chatting and laughing.

You can also become empowered by believing you have the strength and talent to achieve whatever you want to in life. Just take the first step (no matter how small) and move on from there.

It’s Empowering to Watch Kindness Spread.

“Opening doors gives people hope. It tells them someone cares.”

People got to know Josh, and he got to know many of the students in the school.

At first, most were shocked; however, as the days and weeks progressed, more and more students spoke to Josh.

Josh referred to it as “a positive event that made them feel comfortable”. You may be wondering if Josh gained anything from this act of kindness? He certainly did. He gained confidence and a happy attitude towards life that weren’t evident previously.

It didn’t stop there. The positivity spread. By setting a good example, other people started doing nice things too. One student commented, “It changed the way I thought about things and the way I felt about myself.”

So, try kindness out. Give and gain at the same time. Your life will change for the better.

It’s Possible for Everyone to Pass on Happiness

What was this one thing that changed Josh’s life – and the lives of many others?

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Every morning, Josh arrived early to school. He stood at the main entrance door and opened it as students arrived, cheerfully greeting them, “Good morning.”

You might be saying, “That’s okay for Josh, but how can I apply this type of situation to my own life?”

Well, here are some ideas. If these don’t touch your life either, at least they might be the catalyst for other ideas that will.

1. Give encouragement.

Tell your teammates that they are doing a great job when they’re on the sporting field. Give your friends supporting words when they do well in some other area of their life. Praise them for their efforts.

2. Stand aside for someone else.

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Let someone go through the supermarket checkout before you. Give your seat on the bus to an elderly person.

3. Give to the homeless

When you’re out shopping, collect a few things (like a toothbrush, toothpaste, deodorant, etc.) and give them to a homeless person.  Maybe you could buy a meal for them as well.

4. Surprise someone

Bake some cookies to share at morning tea with your co-workers. Tell them they are appreciated, particularly if they’ve supported you in a special way.

Now It’s Over to You

REMEMBER: Be kind to others because of who you are not because of who they are.

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Even the smallest acts of kindness can go a long way toward making the world a better place. Do your small part. Start today.

Featured photo credit: Help!/Lydia via flickr.com

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Last Updated on September 17, 2019

10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

10 Simple Ways To Always Think Positive Thoughts

Positive thinking can lead to a lot of positive change in your life. Developing an optimistic outlook can be good for both your physical and mental health.

But sometimes, certain situations arise in life that makes it hard to keep a positive outlook. Take steps to make positive thinking become more like your second nature and you’ll reap the biggest benefits.

Here are 10 ways to make thinking positive thoughts easy:

1. Spend Time with Positive People

If you surround yourself with constant complainers, their negativity is likely to rub off on you.

Spend time with positive friends and family members to increase the likelihood that their positive thinking habits will become yours too. It’s hard to be negative when everyone around you is so positive.

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2. Take Responsibility for Your Behavior

When you encounter problems and difficulties in life, don’t play the role of the victim. Acknowledge your role in the situation and take responsibility for your behavior.

Accepting responsibility can help you learn from mistakes and prevent you from blaming others unfairly.

3. Contribute to the Community

One of the best ways to feel good about what you have, is to focus on what you have to give.

Volunteer in some manner and give back to the community. Helping others can give you a new outlook on the world and can assist you with positive thinking.

4. Read Positive and Inspirational Materials

Spend time each day reading something that encourages positive thinking. Read the Bible, spiritual material, or inspirational quotes to help you focus on what’s important to you in life. It can be a great way to start and end your day.

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5. Recognize and Replace Negative Thoughts

You won’t be successful at positive thinking if you’re still plagued by frequent negative thoughts. Learn to recognize and replace thoughts that are overly negative. Often, thoughts that include words like “always” and “never” signal that they aren’t true.

If you find yourself thinking something such as, “I always mess everything up,” replace it with something more realistic such as, “Sometimes I make mistakes but I learn from them.”

There’s no need to make your thoughts unrealistically positive, but instead, make them more realistic.

6. Establish and Work Toward Goals

It’s easier to be positive about problems and setbacks when you have goals that you’re working toward. Goals will give you motivation to overcome those obstacles when you encounter problems along the way. Without clear goals, it’s harder to make decisions and gauge your progress.

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Learn to set SMART goals to help you achieve more.

7. Consider the Consequences of Negativity

Spend some time thinking about the consequences of negative thinking. Often, it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

For example, a person who thinks, “I probably won’t get this job interview,” may put less effort into the interview. As a result, he may decrease his chances of getting the job.

Create a list of all the ways negative thinking impacts your life. It likely influences your behavior, your relationships, and your feelings. Then, create a list of the ways in which positive thinking could be beneficial.

8. Offer Compliments to Others

Look for reasons to compliment others. Be genuine in your praise and compliments, but offer it frequently. This will help you look for the good in other people.

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9. Create a Daily Gratitude List

If you start keeping a daily gratitude list, you’ll start noticing exactly how much you have to be thankful for. This can help you focus on the positive in your life instead of thinking about all the bad things that have happened in the day.

Getting in the habit of showing an attitude of gratitude makes positive thinking more of a habit. Here’re 40 Simple Ways To Practice Gratitude.

10. Practice Self-Care

Take good care of yourself and you’ll be more equipped to think positively.

Get plenty of rest and exercise and practice managing your stress well. Taking care of your physical and mental health will provide you with more energy to focus on positive thinking.

Learn about these 30 Self-Care Habits for a Strong and Healthy Mind, Body and Spirit.

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