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20 Habits Practice By Truly Happy People Everyday

20 Habits Practice By Truly Happy People Everyday

Life is so much better when we are happy. It just seems to be easier to get through the day when you feel good. Some people just seem to have a better life because they are happy most of the time.

I have often wondered why some people are happier in life. I found out that there are 20 simple habits that happy people have. If you try to do these things in your daily life, you will be a happier person.

Here we go – 20 happy habits!

1. They spend time with other happy people

The people you hang out with have a big impact on your life. There are even studies conducted to prove that if you hang out with happy people, you will feel happier too. By surrounding yourself with happy and positive people, you will be happier too.

2. They think positive

Happy people thing positive about almost everything. Positive thoughts keep you happy. Smile and think happy things. It will improve your mood, and over time even your life.

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3. They try to be happy

Although it might sound just like the previous point, this one is slightly different. Just thinking positive thoughts is important; however, being happy with your whole body and soul takes more effort. The results from the positive thinking are also important, so think about your actions before you act them out.

4. They develop the ability to recover

Recovering from bad news or bad events is a key component to being happy. You need to be able to recover in order to stay happy in life. A lot of bad things will happen in life. Only the truly strong ones can get up after being knocked down and keep their life going. Try do develop a positive attitude and recovering will become easier.

5. They look for positive achievements

Being happy when you reach a goal is important. To feel truly happy, you need to look for even the smallest of achievements. For example, I try to eat healthier. When I drink a glass of water instead of soda, that’s an achievement. No matter how small it may seem, celebrate every little positive event.

6. They are grateful for little things

Happy people enjoy and appreciate little things in life, like a beautiful day, the flowers in the park, or even a cup of tea. You will feel a lot better when you are happy with all the little things around you. Be grateful for what you have, even if it isn’t much.

7. They give

Good deeds are a trigger for the development of dopamine. Yes, helping other people out makes you physically and mentally happier. Positive people will want to help other people. Helping others by giving (especially by giving your time) will make you feel happier and more satisfied with your life.

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8. They forget about time

You know that feeling when you are doing something with all your attention? It is only after several hours that you realize you still have a life to go back to. That feeling of losing track of time can make you feel truly successful. Happy people develop the habit of doing things in their daily life, where they can lose track of time. These things usually require our full attention and we enjoy them tremendously. To feel happy, find yourself a hobby or even a job where you can give your full attention because you simply enjoy doing it.

9. They prefer meaningful conversation

Although there is nothing wrong with small talk, happy people would rather talk about the deeper things in life. If you want to feel happier, try talking about how you feel or about something you are passionate about. Asking about the weather is not wrong, but it won’t fill you with the satisfaction of a deeper conversation.

10. They spend money on others

The feeling you get of making someone smile because you gave them the perfect gift, is one of the best feelings in the world. Spending money on other people can make you feel really happy. Happy people are not stingy, they share with other people. So, share, spend money on others, and be happy!

11. They listen

Naturally, we all want to talk and be heard. Happy people; however, also listen. When you listen, you can get to really know people, how they think, and what they feel. You can also gain more knowledge and enjoy their experiences. Listening is also the key to good relationships. Learn how to listen, it will improve you and your relationships with others.

12. They keep in touch

Happy people want to know how their friends are doing. They keep in touch to keep the friendship alive. It is easy to text, call, or email a friend, and it is important to do so; however, if you want to be more personal, write a letter to let them so they know you’re thinking of them. Ultimately, personal contact is the most important. While not all out friends live around the corner, still try and plan a trip to visit them once in a while.

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13. They appreciate music

Music has a big influence on us. Whether we like it or not, music reflects our mood, and vice versa. Happy people mainly listen to music with a positive message and they love it. Listen to happy music to make you feel better and appreciate it.

14. They disconnect

Humans are not made to be living on technology all day. Happy people know this and take a time out for themselves. Turn off your phone, leave your laptop in your room, and hide the remotes. Instead, simply enjoy some peaceful time to yourself to relax and unwind. Your body needs it!

15. They live with purpose

People who feel happy have a purpose in life. They are spiritually engaged in life. They take the time to think about the deeper things in life. Pondering over questions that you have about life is a good way to be in touch with your spiritual side. Live with a reason.

16. They exercise

Happy people love endorphins. These little friends help us feel happier. When you workout, your body releases endorphins, which in turn relieves symptoms of depression, anxiety, and frustration.

17. They go for a walk

Yes, it can be this easy. Happy people walk. When you feel tired, go for a walk. The fresh air and blood flow stimulates your brain. Besides, nature is truly beautiful, so why wouldn’t you want to go outside!

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18. They wake up slowly

Having enough sleep is one of those things we all know is important for our health. However, what about when we wake up? Happy people stay in bed. This may sound a little off, but there is a study that shows that running out of bed to do things is not actually all that good for you. Waking up slowly, and taking a little while to get out of bed, is important to get the most out of your day.

19. They laugh

Happy people know that laughing truly is a medicine. When you laugh, your brain releases hormones, which lower your pain level. So, try to laugh more. It really makes you feel happier.

20. They take wider steps

Although it might sound weird, taking wider steps is an automatic thing you do. You can’t help it. When you feel happy, your pace gets wider. Your brain does all the work for you.

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Published on April 7, 2021

6 Signs Of A Controlling Person To Be Aware Of

6 Signs Of A Controlling Person To Be Aware Of

Some of the most manipulative people are so good at what they do that their words and actions can convince you into thinking they truly care about what’s best for you when in reality, it’s quite the opposite. The most common signs of a controlling person are rarely obvious to outside observers. And for someone enmeshed in a controlling relationship or friendship, it can be incredibly challenging to stay away from this toxic person, even if you’re aware of their emotionally abusive tendencies.

While it’s ultimately up to you to decide whether to preserve or leave a lopsided, unfulfilling relationship, it’s nevertheless critical to understand the following six signs of controlling people so you can better advocate for yourself and mitigate the influence of their manipulative tendencies in your own life.

1. They Push Their Own Personal Agenda

Do you know someone who always tries to micromanage the words, behaviors, and attitudes of people around them? Does this person act like they have the right to know anything they want about you, including your location, what you’re doing in a given moment, who you’re talking to online, or any other private information about you? And when planning events and special occasions, does this person dominate conversations, steer plans in their own preferred directions, disparage others’ suggestions, and refuse to collaborate with anyone who might disagree with them?

If you answered “yes” to some of the above questions, then those are clear signs of a controlling person whom you absolutely need to be cautious around. Controlling people are reluctant to even consider alternative ideas, let alone enthusiastically work with people who have differing views. They prefer to be the captain of every ship—regardless of how much or how little an issue personally impacts them—and they have an arsenal of manipulative tactics to deploy if someone stands in the way of them achieving their own personal agendas.

In long-term relationships with controlling people, you may feel constantly pressured to meet their demands, follow their schedule, and focus on whatever they feel is most important. It’s not an exaggeration to say that these people act like the universe revolves around them, which can be exhausting to deal with for their family members, friends, and colleagues.

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2. They Make Everything Transactional

Controlling people aren’t always self-centered, but they’re not too empathetic either. Empathy for them tends to appear in the form of strategic concessions they use as a means to get what they want. They typically view interpersonal relationships as transactional opportunities to extract more value from people surrounding them, which can have a draining effect on those they interact with.

For example, one sign of a controlling person may be their insistence on “keeping score.” This can involve doing nice things for you with the ulterior motive of demanding something from you at a later date in exchange for what you thought was just an act of kindness or a friendly support.

Perhaps they shower you in praise (also known as “love-bombing”) or gifts then blow up at you if you don’t intuitively know they’re expecting something back from you. None of us are mind-readers, but controlling people behave as though everyone else should think and act like they want others to and those who fall out of line are punished for failing to meet their impossible expectations.

A controlling person may also threaten to withhold support if you don’t adhere to their demands, but they do so in such subtle ways that the guilt they impose blinds you from the unreasonable nature of their behaviors.

Some statements to be wary of include:

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  • “I did ___________ for you. What do you mean you can’t do ___________ for me?”
  • “Remember how I helped you with ___________? That took a lot of time and energy from me, but I guess you didn’t appreciate my help.”
  • “I always give you ___________. Don’t you care about my needs too?”
  • “You’re so selfish!” or “You don’t care about me at all!” (gaslighting if you respond with hesitation or politely decline their request for help for perfectly valid reasons, such as not having enough time or resources to assist them)

3. They Criticize Everything

One of the most common telltale signs of a controlling person is their capacity to criticize anything and everything, even small things that seemingly don’t matter. As with many toxic traits in relationships, these problems typically start out so small that you may not even notice. At first, you may even agree with their criticism or at least be able to understand their perspective when they bring up an issue.

However, the criticism tends to get more intense, more constant, and more perplexing for people who maintain relationships with controlling people. You’ll likely notice how they rarely seem to criticize something they do. It’s almost always other-oriented and these types of people are so manipulative that any rationale they offer can seem plausibly legitimate.

Some warning signs of a controlling person who’s overly critical to the point of abusiveness include:

  • Criticizing things about you that you have little to no control over (e.g., appearance, disability, family)
  • Criticizing your personal choices and interests, such as educational pursuits, career, clothing, favorite music, time spent on your hobbies, etc.
  • Punishing you for expressing vulnerability by invalidating thoughts and feelings you share with them
  • Attacking you whenever you express an opinion counter to theirs

4. They Balk When Someone Criticizes Them

We all know the adage, “what goes around, comes around.” But this statement doesn’t apply as much to toxic, controlling people. They’d much prefer to dish out criticism without ever having to take it in return.

For instance, if your friend constantly talks about your appearance with little regard for your emotions but flips out if you make just a single comment about their appearance, there’s a possibility that they could have some hidden controlling tendencies left unchecked. Remember, these people aren’t just controlling in their behaviors towards others. They’re also actively trying to stay in complete control over every aspect of their lives, which includes how others view them.

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This seemingly insatiable desire for control can prompt them to lash out against even the smallest bits of criticism, leaving people around them too weary or scared to speak up again in the future. While it’s possible they may suffer from something called rejection sensitivity dysphoria, this does not excuse them from the consequences of their words and actions. They should seek professional help to better manage their reactions to criticism.

5. They Socially Isolate You

Not all controlling people do this, but for manipulative narcissists, socially isolating victims is a go-to strategy for maintaining control because it’s effective at preventing people from truly understanding how toxic their partner, family member, or friend is treating them. Think of it this way—if you don’t talk to many other people in your life, there’s less of a risk that you’ll damage their reputation by revealing their abusive tendencies.

Socially isolating others also gives the person more control over you and your life as it becomes more difficult to break away from them if you don’t have other healthier channels of communication and interpersonal support to turn to.

This process doesn’t happen overnight, nor is it something you can readily recognize as abusive. At first, it may seem reasonable, such as asking you to stop engaging so often with family members with whom both of you disagree on major social or political issues. As the social isolation progresses, they may suggest cutting people out of your life—especially if they don’t like that person, regardless of how you personally feel—or even conjure up high-stakes problems like “it’s me or them” under the guise of saving you from people in your life whom they don’t like for whatever reason.

In a controlling person’s life narrative, they’re always the protagonist who’s incapable of any wrongdoing. The blame is always redirected at someone else, whether that’s you or other people in your life. The more they isolate you from other supportive people in your life, the more susceptible you’ll be to falsely believing that they’re right and you “don’t need” your other friends and family when you have someone as perfect as this person.

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6. They’re Emotionally Abusive

It’s hard enough to be in control of your own emotions but when someone else is constantly belittling you and your interests or leveraging guilt and shame to manipulate you into saying or doing what they want, this can make it even more challenging to stay in control of your own life and emotional well-being.

Emotional abuse is another sign of a controlling person that is often overlooked in relationships. After all, human personalities vary widely in terms of passivity, and it’s not uncommon for one person in a relationship to be significantly more passive than the other. This becomes an issue when the controlling partner or friend exudes signs of emotional abuse, which can start subtly and become much more pronounced over time.

Concerning signs of emotionally abusive language or behavior to watch out for include:

  • Dismissing your needs and/or belittling your interests in counterproductive ways
  • Privately or publicly shaming or humiliating you
  • Making you feel as though you can never live up to their expectations or do anything right (according to their own vague, subjective standards)
  • Gaslighting you into thinking they said or did something that never actually happened (making you question your own reality)

Final Thoughts

It’s sometimes hard to see the negative things about someone with whom we have a relationship. We may sometimes unconsciously overlook the signs of a controlling person, especially if that person is someone we have known for a long time or are close to us. However, cutting them off your life is the best thing you can do for yourself. Just watch out for these six signs of a controlling person and take immediate action when you spot them.

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