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20 Habits Practice By Truly Happy People Everyday

20 Habits Practice By Truly Happy People Everyday

Life is so much better when we are happy. It just seems to be easier to get through the day when you feel good. Some people just seem to have a better life because they are happy most of the time.

I have often wondered why some people are happier in life. I found out that there are 20 simple habits that happy people have. If you try to do these things in your daily life, you will be a happier person.

Here we go – 20 happy habits!

1. They spend time with other happy people

The people you hang out with have a big impact on your life. There are even studies conducted to prove that if you hang out with happy people, you will feel happier too. By surrounding yourself with happy and positive people, you will be happier too.

2. They think positive

Happy people thing positive about almost everything. Positive thoughts keep you happy. Smile and think happy things. It will improve your mood, and over time even your life.

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3. They try to be happy

Although it might sound just like the previous point, this one is slightly different. Just thinking positive thoughts is important; however, being happy with your whole body and soul takes more effort. The results from the positive thinking are also important, so think about your actions before you act them out.

4. They develop the ability to recover

Recovering from bad news or bad events is a key component to being happy. You need to be able to recover in order to stay happy in life. A lot of bad things will happen in life. Only the truly strong ones can get up after being knocked down and keep their life going. Try do develop a positive attitude and recovering will become easier.

5. They look for positive achievements

Being happy when you reach a goal is important. To feel truly happy, you need to look for even the smallest of achievements. For example, I try to eat healthier. When I drink a glass of water instead of soda, that’s an achievement. No matter how small it may seem, celebrate every little positive event.

6. They are grateful for little things

Happy people enjoy and appreciate little things in life, like a beautiful day, the flowers in the park, or even a cup of tea. You will feel a lot better when you are happy with all the little things around you. Be grateful for what you have, even if it isn’t much.

7. They give

Good deeds are a trigger for the development of dopamine. Yes, helping other people out makes you physically and mentally happier. Positive people will want to help other people. Helping others by giving (especially by giving your time) will make you feel happier and more satisfied with your life.

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8. They forget about time

You know that feeling when you are doing something with all your attention? It is only after several hours that you realize you still have a life to go back to. That feeling of losing track of time can make you feel truly successful. Happy people develop the habit of doing things in their daily life, where they can lose track of time. These things usually require our full attention and we enjoy them tremendously. To feel happy, find yourself a hobby or even a job where you can give your full attention because you simply enjoy doing it.

9. They prefer meaningful conversation

Although there is nothing wrong with small talk, happy people would rather talk about the deeper things in life. If you want to feel happier, try talking about how you feel or about something you are passionate about. Asking about the weather is not wrong, but it won’t fill you with the satisfaction of a deeper conversation.

10. They spend money on others

The feeling you get of making someone smile because you gave them the perfect gift, is one of the best feelings in the world. Spending money on other people can make you feel really happy. Happy people are not stingy, they share with other people. So, share, spend money on others, and be happy!

11. They listen

Naturally, we all want to talk and be heard. Happy people; however, also listen. When you listen, you can get to really know people, how they think, and what they feel. You can also gain more knowledge and enjoy their experiences. Listening is also the key to good relationships. Learn how to listen, it will improve you and your relationships with others.

12. They keep in touch

Happy people want to know how their friends are doing. They keep in touch to keep the friendship alive. It is easy to text, call, or email a friend, and it is important to do so; however, if you want to be more personal, write a letter to let them so they know you’re thinking of them. Ultimately, personal contact is the most important. While not all out friends live around the corner, still try and plan a trip to visit them once in a while.

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13. They appreciate music

Music has a big influence on us. Whether we like it or not, music reflects our mood, and vice versa. Happy people mainly listen to music with a positive message and they love it. Listen to happy music to make you feel better and appreciate it.

14. They disconnect

Humans are not made to be living on technology all day. Happy people know this and take a time out for themselves. Turn off your phone, leave your laptop in your room, and hide the remotes. Instead, simply enjoy some peaceful time to yourself to relax and unwind. Your body needs it!

15. They live with purpose

People who feel happy have a purpose in life. They are spiritually engaged in life. They take the time to think about the deeper things in life. Pondering over questions that you have about life is a good way to be in touch with your spiritual side. Live with a reason.

16. They exercise

Happy people love endorphins. These little friends help us feel happier. When you workout, your body releases endorphins, which in turn relieves symptoms of depression, anxiety, and frustration.

17. They go for a walk

Yes, it can be this easy. Happy people walk. When you feel tired, go for a walk. The fresh air and blood flow stimulates your brain. Besides, nature is truly beautiful, so why wouldn’t you want to go outside!

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18. They wake up slowly

Having enough sleep is one of those things we all know is important for our health. However, what about when we wake up? Happy people stay in bed. This may sound a little off, but there is a study that shows that running out of bed to do things is not actually all that good for you. Waking up slowly, and taking a little while to get out of bed, is important to get the most out of your day.

19. They laugh

Happy people know that laughing truly is a medicine. When you laugh, your brain releases hormones, which lower your pain level. So, try to laugh more. It really makes you feel happier.

20. They take wider steps

Although it might sound weird, taking wider steps is an automatic thing you do. You can’t help it. When you feel happy, your pace gets wider. Your brain does all the work for you.

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Last Updated on March 30, 2020

What Does Self-Conscious Mean? (And How to Stop Being It)

What Does Self-Conscious Mean? (And How to Stop Being It)

Have you ever walked into a room and felt like your nerves simply couldn’t handle it? Your heart beats fast, you start to sweat, and you feel like all eyes are on you (even if they’re really not). This is just one of the many ways that being self-conscious can rear its ugly head.

You may not even realize you’re self-conscious, and you may be wondering, “What does self-conscious mean?” That’s a good place to start.

This article will define self-consciousness, show how practically everyone has faced it at one point or another, and give you tips to avoid it.

What Does Self-Conscious Mean?

According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary, self-conscious is defined as “conscious of one’s own acts or states as belonging to or originating in oneself.”[1]

Not so bad, right? There’s another definition, though — one that speaks more to what you’re going through: “feeling uncomfortably conscious of oneself as an object of the observation of others.” For those of us who regularly deal with extreme self-consciousness, that second definition sounds about right.

There are many different ways self-consciousness can spring up. You may feel self-conscious around people you know, like your family members or closest friends. You may feel self-conscious at work, even though you spend hours every week around your co-workers. Or you may feel self-conscious when out in public and surrounded by strangers. However, you probably don’t feel self-conscious when you’re home alone.

How to Stop Being Too Self-Conscious

When you’re in the throes of self-consciousness, it’s nearly impossible to remember how to stop feeling that way. That’s why it’s so important to prepare ahead of time, when you’re feeling ready to tackle the problem instead of succumbing to it.

Here are a variety of ways to feel better about yourself and stop thinking about how others see you.

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1. Ask Yourself, “So What?”

One way to banish negative, self-conscious thoughts is to do just that: banish them.

The next time you walk into a room and feel your face getting red, think to yourself, “So what?” How much does it really matter if people don’t like how you look or act? What’s the worst that could happen?

Most of the time, you’ll find that you don’t have a good answer to this question. Then, you can immediately start assigning such thoughts less importance. With self-awareness, you can acknowledge that your negative thoughts are present and realize that you don’t agree with them.[2] They’re just thoughts, after all.

2. Be Honest

A lie that self-consciousness might tell is that there’s one way to act or feel. Honestly, though, everyone else is just figuring life out as well. There isn’t a preferred way to show up to an event, gathering, or public place. What you can do is be honest with your feelings and thoughts.[3]

If you feel offended by something someone says, you don’t have to smile to be polite or laugh to fit in with the crowd. Instead, you can politely say why you disagree or excuse yourself and find a group of people who you relate to better. If you’re nervous, don’t overcompensate by trying to look relaxed and casual — it’ll be obvious you’re putting on a front. Instead, nothing is more endearing than saying, “I’m a little nervous!” to a room of people who probably feel the exact same way.

On the same note, if you don’t understand why someone wants you to do something, question it. You can do this at work, at home, or even with people you don’t know well. Nobody should force you to do something you don’t want to do.

Also, even if you’re willing to do what’s asked of you, there’s nothing wrong with asking for more clarification. People will realize that you’re not a person to be bossed around.

3. Understand Why You’re Struggling at Work

Being self-conscious at work can get in the way of your daily responsibilities, your relationships with co-workers, and even your career as a whole. If you’re facing some sort of conflict but you’re too nervous to speak up, you may be at the whim of what happens to you instead of taking some control.

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If you’re usually confident at work, you may be wondering where this new self-consciousness is coming from. It’s possible that you’re dealing with burnout.[4] Common signs are anxiety, fatigue and distraction, all of which can leave you feeling under-confident.

4. Succeed at Something

When you create success in your life, it’s easier to feel confident[5] and less self-conscious. If you feel self-conscious at work, finish the project that’s been looming over your head. If you feel self-conscious in the gym, complete an advanced workout class.

Exposing yourself to what you’re scared of and then succeeding at it in some way (even just by finishing it) can do wonders for your self-esteem. The more confidence you build, the more likely you are to have more success in the future, which will create a cycle of confidence-building.

5. Treat All of You — Not Just Your Self-Consciousness

Trying to solve your self-consciousness alone may not treat the root of the problem. Instead, take a well-rounded approach to lower your self-consciousness and build confidence in areas where you may struggle.

Even professional counselors are embracing this holistic type of treatment[6] because they feel that the health of the mind and body are inextricably linked. This approach combines physical, spiritual, and psychological components. Common activities and treatments include meditation, yoga, massage, and healthy changes to diet and exercise.

If much of this is new to you, it will pay to give it a try. You never know how it will impact you.

If you’re feeling self-conscious about how your body looks, a massage that makes you feel great could boost your confidence. If you try a new workout, you could have something exciting to talk about the next time you’re in a group setting.

Putting yourself in a new situation and learning that you can get through it with grace can give you the confidence to get through all sorts of events and nerve-wracking moments.

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6. Make the Changes That Are Within Your Control

Let’s say you walk into a room and you’re self-conscious about how you look. However, you may have put a lot of time and effort into your outfit. Even though it may stand out, this is how you have chosen to express yourself.

You have to work on your internal confidence, not your external appearance. There’s nothing to change other than your outlook.

On the other hand, maybe there’s something that you don’t like about yourself that you can change. For example, maybe you hate how a birthmark on your face looks or have varicose veins that you think are unsightly. If you can do something about these things, do it! There’s nothing wrong with changing your appearance (or skills, education, etc.) if it’s going to make you more confident.

You don’t have to accept your current situation for acceptance’s sake. There’s no award for putting up with something you hate. Confidence is also required to make changes that are scary, even if they’re for the better. Plus, it may be an easier fix than you thought. For example, treating varicose veins doesn’t have to involve surgery — sometimes simple compression stockings will take care of the problem.[7]

7. Realize That Everyone Has Awkward Moments

Everyone has said something awkward to someone else and lived to tell the tale. We’ve all forgotten somebody’s name or said, “You too!” when the concession stand girl says to enjoy our movie. Not only are these things uber-common, but they’re not nearly as embarrassing as you feel they are.

Think about how you react when someone else does something awkward. Do you think, “Wow, that person’s such a loser!” or do you think, “What a relief, I’m not the only one who does that.” Chances are good that’s the same reaction others have to you when you stumble.

Remember, self-consciousness is a state of mind that you have control over. You don’t have to feel this way. Do what you need to in order to build your confidence, put your self-consciousness in perspective, and start exercising your “I feel awesome about myself” muscle. It’ll get easier with time.

When Is Being Self-Conscious a Good Thing?

Self-consciousness can sometimes be a good thing[8], but you have to take the awkwardness and nerves out of it.

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In this case, “self-aware” is a much better term. Knowing how you come off to people is an excellent trait; you’ll be able to read a room and understand how what you do and say affects others. These are fantastic skills for people work and personal relationships.

Self-awareness helps you dress appropriately for the occasion, tells you that you’re talking too loud or not loud enough, and guides a conversation so you don’t offend or bore anyone.

It’s not about being someone you’re not — that can actually have adverse effects, just like self-consciousness. Instead, it’s about turning up certain aspects of yourself to perform well in the situation.

Final Thoughts

When you’re self-conscious, you’re constantly battling with yourself in an effort to control how other people view you. You try to change yourself to suit what you think other people want to see.

The truth, though, is that you can’t actually control how other people view you — and you may not even be correct about how they view you in the first place.

Being confident doesn’t happen overnight. Instead, it happens in small steps as you slowly build your confidence and say “no” to your self-consciousness. It also requires accepting that you’re going to feel self-conscious sometimes, and that’s okay.

Sometimes worrying that there is a problem can be more stressful than the problem itself. Feeling bad for feeling self-conscious can be more troublesome than simply feeling it and getting on with the day.

Forgive yourself for being human and make the small changes that will lead to better confidence in the future.

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Reference

[1] Merriam-Webster: Self-conscious
[2] Bustle: 7 Tips On How To Stop Feeling Self-Conscious
[3] Marc and Angel: 10 Things to Remember When You Feel Unsure of Yourself
[4] Bostitch: How to Protect Small Businesses From Burnout
[5] Psychology Today: Self-conscious? Get Over It
[6] Wake Forest University: Embracing Holistic Medicine
[7] Center for Vein Restoration: What Causes Venous Ulcers, and How Are They Treated?
[8] Scientific American: The Pros and Cons of Being Self-Aware

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