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20 Habits Practice By Truly Happy People Everyday

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20 Habits Practice By Truly Happy People Everyday

Life is so much better when we are happy. It just seems to be easier to get through the day when you feel good. Some people just seem to have a better life because they are happy most of the time.

I have often wondered why some people are happier in life. I found out that there are 20 simple habits that happy people have. If you try to do these things in your daily life, you will be a happier person.

Here we go – 20 happy habits!

1. They spend time with other happy people

The people you hang out with have a big impact on your life. There are even studies conducted to prove that if you hang out with happy people, you will feel happier too. By surrounding yourself with happy and positive people, you will be happier too.

2. They think positive

Happy people thing positive about almost everything. Positive thoughts keep you happy. Smile and think happy things. It will improve your mood, and over time even your life.

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3. They try to be happy

Although it might sound just like the previous point, this one is slightly different. Just thinking positive thoughts is important; however, being happy with your whole body and soul takes more effort. The results from the positive thinking are also important, so think about your actions before you act them out.

4. They develop the ability to recover

Recovering from bad news or bad events is a key component to being happy. You need to be able to recover in order to stay happy in life. A lot of bad things will happen in life. Only the truly strong ones can get up after being knocked down and keep their life going. Try do develop a positive attitude and recovering will become easier.

5. They look for positive achievements

Being happy when you reach a goal is important. To feel truly happy, you need to look for even the smallest of achievements. For example, I try to eat healthier. When I drink a glass of water instead of soda, that’s an achievement. No matter how small it may seem, celebrate every little positive event.

6. They are grateful for little things

Happy people enjoy and appreciate little things in life, like a beautiful day, the flowers in the park, or even a cup of tea. You will feel a lot better when you are happy with all the little things around you. Be grateful for what you have, even if it isn’t much.

7. They give

Good deeds are a trigger for the development of dopamine. Yes, helping other people out makes you physically and mentally happier. Positive people will want to help other people. Helping others by giving (especially by giving your time) will make you feel happier and more satisfied with your life.

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8. They forget about time

You know that feeling when you are doing something with all your attention? It is only after several hours that you realize you still have a life to go back to. That feeling of losing track of time can make you feel truly successful. Happy people develop the habit of doing things in their daily life, where they can lose track of time. These things usually require our full attention and we enjoy them tremendously. To feel happy, find yourself a hobby or even a job where you can give your full attention because you simply enjoy doing it.

9. They prefer meaningful conversation

Although there is nothing wrong with small talk, happy people would rather talk about the deeper things in life. If you want to feel happier, try talking about how you feel or about something you are passionate about. Asking about the weather is not wrong, but it won’t fill you with the satisfaction of a deeper conversation.

10. They spend money on others

The feeling you get of making someone smile because you gave them the perfect gift, is one of the best feelings in the world. Spending money on other people can make you feel really happy. Happy people are not stingy, they share with other people. So, share, spend money on others, and be happy!

11. They listen

Naturally, we all want to talk and be heard. Happy people; however, also listen. When you listen, you can get to really know people, how they think, and what they feel. You can also gain more knowledge and enjoy their experiences. Listening is also the key to good relationships. Learn how to listen, it will improve you and your relationships with others.

12. They keep in touch

Happy people want to know how their friends are doing. They keep in touch to keep the friendship alive. It is easy to text, call, or email a friend, and it is important to do so; however, if you want to be more personal, write a letter to let them so they know you’re thinking of them. Ultimately, personal contact is the most important. While not all out friends live around the corner, still try and plan a trip to visit them once in a while.

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13. They appreciate music

Music has a big influence on us. Whether we like it or not, music reflects our mood, and vice versa. Happy people mainly listen to music with a positive message and they love it. Listen to happy music to make you feel better and appreciate it.

14. They disconnect

Humans are not made to be living on technology all day. Happy people know this and take a time out for themselves. Turn off your phone, leave your laptop in your room, and hide the remotes. Instead, simply enjoy some peaceful time to yourself to relax and unwind. Your body needs it!

15. They live with purpose

People who feel happy have a purpose in life. They are spiritually engaged in life. They take the time to think about the deeper things in life. Pondering over questions that you have about life is a good way to be in touch with your spiritual side. Live with a reason.

16. They exercise

Happy people love endorphins. These little friends help us feel happier. When you workout, your body releases endorphins, which in turn relieves symptoms of depression, anxiety, and frustration.

17. They go for a walk

Yes, it can be this easy. Happy people walk. When you feel tired, go for a walk. The fresh air and blood flow stimulates your brain. Besides, nature is truly beautiful, so why wouldn’t you want to go outside!

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18. They wake up slowly

Having enough sleep is one of those things we all know is important for our health. However, what about when we wake up? Happy people stay in bed. This may sound a little off, but there is a study that shows that running out of bed to do things is not actually all that good for you. Waking up slowly, and taking a little while to get out of bed, is important to get the most out of your day.

19. They laugh

Happy people know that laughing truly is a medicine. When you laugh, your brain releases hormones, which lower your pain level. So, try to laugh more. It really makes you feel happier.

20. They take wider steps

Although it might sound weird, taking wider steps is an automatic thing you do. You can’t help it. When you feel happy, your pace gets wider. Your brain does all the work for you.

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Last Updated on July 20, 2021

How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)

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How to Overcome the Fear of Public Speaking (A Step-by-Step Guide)

You’re standing behind the curtain, just about to make your way on stage to face the many faces half-shrouded in darkness in front of you. As you move towards the spotlight, your body starts to feel heavier with each step. A familiar thump echoes throughout your body – your heartbeat has gone off the charts.

Don’t worry, you’re not the only one with glossophobia(also known as speech anxiety or the fear of speaking to large crowds). Sometimes, the anxiety happens long before you even stand on stage.

Your body’s defence mechanism responds by causing a part of your brain to release adrenaline into your blood – the same chemical that gets released as if you were being chased by a lion.

Here’s a step-by-step guide to help you overcome your fear of public speaking:

1. Prepare yourself mentally and physically

According to experts, we’re built to display anxiety and to recognize it in others. If your body and mind are anxious, your audience will notice. Hence, it’s important to prepare yourself before the big show so that you arrive on stage confident, collected and ready.

“Your outside world is a reflection of your inside world. What goes on in the inside, shows on the outside.” – Bob Proctor

Exercising lightly before a presentation helps get your blood circulating and sends oxygen to the brain. Mental exercises, on the other hand, can help calm the mind and nerves. Here are some useful ways to calm your racing heart when you start to feel the butterflies in your stomach:

Warming up

If you’re nervous, chances are your body will feel the same way. Your body gets tense, your muscles feel tight or you’re breaking in cold sweat. The audience will notice you are nervous.

If you observe that this is exactly what is happening to you minutes before a speech, do a couple of stretches to loosen and relax your body. It’s better to warm up before every speech as it helps to increase the functional potential of the body as a whole. Not only that, it increases muscle efficiency, improves reaction time and your movements.

Here are some exercises to loosen up your body before show time:

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  1. Neck and shoulder rolls – This helps relieve upper body muscle tension and pressure as the rolls focus on rotating the head and shoulders, loosening the muscle. Stress and anxiety can make us rigid within this area which can make you feel agitated, especially when standing.
  2. Arm stretches – We often use this part of our muscles during a speech or presentation through our hand gestures and movements. Stretching these muscles can reduce arm fatigue, loosen you up and improve your body language range.
  3. Waist twists – Place your hands on your hips and rotate your waist in a circular motion. This exercise focuses on loosening the abdominal and lower back regions which is essential as it can cause discomfort and pain, further amplifying any anxieties you may experience.

Stay hydrated

Ever felt parched seconds before speaking? And then coming up on stage sounding raspy and scratchy in front of the audience? This happens because the adrenaline from stage fright causes your mouth to feel dried out.

To prevent all that, it’s essential we stay adequately hydrated before a speech. A sip of water will do the trick. However, do drink in moderation so that you won’t need to go to the bathroom constantly.

Try to avoid sugary beverages and caffeine, since it’s a diuretic – meaning you’ll feel thirstier. It will also amplify your anxiety which prevents you from speaking smoothly.

Meditate

Meditation is well-known as a powerful tool to calm the mind. ABC’s Dan Harris, co-anchor of Nightline and Good Morning America weekend and author of the book titled10% Happier , recommends that meditation can help individuals to feel significantly calmer, faster.

Meditation is like a workout for your mind. It gives you the strength and focus to filter out the negativity and distractions with words of encouragement, confidence and strength.

Mindfulness meditation, in particular, is a popular method to calm yourself before going up on the big stage. The practice involves sitting comfortably, focusing on your breathing and then bringing your mind’s attention to the present without drifting into concerns about the past or future – which likely includes floundering on stage.

Here’s a nice example of guided meditation before public speaking:

2. Focus on your goal

One thing people with a fear of public speaking have in common is focusing too much on themselves and the possibility of failure.

Do I look funny? What if I can’t remember what to say? Do I look stupid? Will people listen to me? Does anyone care about what I’m talking about?’

Instead of thinking this way, shift your attention to your one true purpose – contributing something of value to your audience.

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Decide on the progress you’d like your audience to make after your presentation. Notice their movements and expressions to adapt your speech to ensure that they are having a good time to leave the room as better people.

If your own focus isn’t beneficial and what it should be when you’re speaking, then shift it to what does. This is also key to establishing trust during your presentation as the audience can clearly see that you have their interests at heart.[1]

3. Convert negativity to positivity

There are two sides constantly battling inside of us – one is filled with strength and courage while the other is doubt and insecurities. Which one will you feed?

‘What if I mess up this speech? What if I’m not funny enough? What if I forget what to say?’

It’s no wonder why many of us are uncomfortable giving a presentation. All we do is bring ourselves down before we got a chance to prove ourselves. This is also known as a self-fulfilling prophecy – a belief that comes true because we are acting as if it already is. If you think you’re incompetent, then it will eventually become true.

Motivational coaches tout that positive mantras and affirmations tend to boost your confidents for the moments that matter most. Say to yourself: “I’ll ace this speech and I can do it!”

Take advantage of your adrenaline rush to encourage positive outcome rather than thinking of the negative ‘what ifs’.

Here’s a video of Psychologist Kelly McGonigal who encourages her audience to turn stress into something positive as well as provide methods on how to cope with it:

4. Understand your content

Knowing your content at your fingertips helps reduce your anxiety because there is one less thing to worry about. One way to get there is to practice numerous times before your actual speech.

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However, memorizing your script word-for-word is not encouraged. You can end up freezing should you forget something. You’ll also risk sounding unnatural and less approachable.

“No amount of reading or memorizing will make you successful in life. It is the understanding and the application of wise thought that counts.” – Bob Proctor

Many people unconsciously make the mistake of reading from their slides or memorizing their script word-for-word without understanding their content – a definite way to stress themselves out.

Understanding your speech flow and content makes it easier for you to convert ideas and concepts into your own words which you can then clearly explain to others in a conversational manner. Designing your slides to include text prompts is also an easy hack to ensure you get to quickly recall your flow when your mind goes blank.[2]

One way to understand is to memorize the over-arching concepts or ideas in your pitch. It helps you speak more naturally and let your personality shine through. It’s almost like taking your audience on a journey with a few key milestones.

5. Practice makes perfect

Like most people, many of us are not naturally attuned to public speaking. Rarely do individuals walk up to a large audience and present flawlessly without any research and preparation.

In fact, some of the top presenters make it look easy during showtime because they have spent countless hours behind-the-scenes in deep practice. Even great speakers like the late John F. Kennedy would spend months preparing his speech beforehand.

Public speaking, like any other skill, requires practice – whether it be practicing your speech countless of times in front of a mirror or making notes. As the saying goes, practice makes perfect!

6. Be authentic

There’s nothing wrong with feeling stressed before going up to speak in front of an audience.

Many people fear public speaking because they fear others will judge them for showing their true, vulnerable self. However, vulnerability can sometimes help you come across as more authentic and relatable as a speaker.

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Drop the pretence of trying to act or speak like someone else and you’ll find that it’s worth the risk. You become more genuine, flexible and spontaneous, which makes it easier to handle unpredictable situations – whether it’s getting tough questions from the crowd or experiencing an unexpected technical difficulty.

To find out your authentic style of speaking is easy. Just pick a topic or issue you are passionate about and discuss this like you normally would with a close family or friend. It is like having a conversation with someone in a personal one-to-one setting. A great way to do this on stage is to select a random audience member(with a hopefully calming face) and speak to a single person at a time during your speech. You’ll find that it’s easier trying to connect to one person at a time than a whole room.

With that said, being comfortable enough to be yourself in front of others may take a little time and some experience, depending how comfortable you are with being yourself in front of others. But once you embrace it, stage fright will not be as intimidating as you initially thought.

Presenters like Barack Obama are a prime example of a genuine and passionate speaker:

7. Post speech evaluation

Last but not the least, if you’ve done public speaking and have been scarred from a bad experience, try seeing it as a lesson learned to improve yourself as a speaker.

Don’t beat yourself up after a presentation

We are the hardest on ourselves and it’s good to be. But when you finish delivering your speech or presentation, give yourself some recognition and a pat on the back.

You managed to finish whatever you had to do and did not give up. You did not let your fears and insecurities get to you. Take a little more pride in your work and believe in yourself.

Improve your next speech

As mentioned before, practice does make perfect. If you want to improve your public speaking skills, try asking someone to film you during a speech or presentation. Afterwards, watch and observe what you can do to improve yourself next time.

Here are some questions you can ask yourself after every speech:

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  • How did I do?
  • Are there any areas for improvement?
  • Did I sound or look stressed?
  • Did I stumble on my words? Why?
  • Was I saying “um” too often?
  • How was the flow of the speech?

Write everything you observed down and keep practicing and improving. In time, you’ll be able to better manage your fears of public speaking and appear more confident when it counts.

If you want even more tips about public speaking or delivering a great presentation, check out these articles too:

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