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11 Signs You’re So Independent You Scare People Away (And Why It’s Alright)

11 Signs You’re So Independent You Scare People Away (And Why It’s Alright)

Being highly independent is a good thing. It means you are strong and you have something working right for you, both professionally and personally. However, this can be an intimidating personality to some who feel bewildered by what the term “independence” means.

It’s awesome to be independent, but you should be watchful of the following signs because they just might scare some people away.

1. You are focused on your career

Your career takes so much of your time and energy, it almost feels like a vacuum. Other activities not related to your job might seem mundane in comparison.

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2. You know how to say “no”

You have become great at saying “no” to things or activities that do not drive you to your goals. You totally dominate your focus on time and resources. You do not want anyone messing up with what you have going on.

3. You take care of your bills

You are in control of your finances. If someone wants to help you out with taking care of this, you would gladly never oblige to it.

4. You are ambitious

You always want more out of life. Good is not enough, you know you can be better. You are always improving yourself and doing well to make sure you are a better fit for your aspirations.

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5. You are selective about relationships

You do not throw yourself at every association or relationship that comes your way. You are meticulous about the relationship you want to go into. You look at patterns and ask yourself the right questions before dipping yourself into any alliances.

6. You are strong

You are not easily fooled or intimidated. Since you are independent, you know what you want out of life and you are clear about it. This affects your self-esteem and confidence positively as you would not accept less than what you feel you deserve.

7. You are realistic

You do not chase after the wind. You know your strengths and flaws. You are willing to use this knowledge as a compass to pursuing those things you want. You are also realistic about your direction and where you are going.

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8. You are not comfortable being with needy people

This may push such people away, as you always want activity around you rather than idleness. Yes, such attitude towards people who are not making the best use of their energy and time can make you look icy and callous, but it is just who you are. It has worked so far.

9. You are in control of your life

You are in control of your activities, the way you expend your energy and resources, and you will only give yourself to things that you are interested in because, at the end of the day, it is not about what others think.

10. You plan for the future

You know that living is not about the present, you also have to think of where you will be in the next couple of years. You make plans and organize your affairs in a way that you will meet the future you are determined to get or that you feel you deserve.

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11. You are cool with being on your own

You don’t feel needy or try to depend on others. You know how to manage yourself. You are cool with being on your own. Even if no one calls you or tries to contact you, you are fine. You wouldn’t want to trouble others or be in their face. Instead, you would rather find ways to deal with your challenges or situations. At the end of the day, that is what independence means and you are fully up to the task of embracing your true self.

Conclusion

Being highly independent can scare some people away, but you are not callous or mean, you just know how to get the things you want and deserve. What is so wrong about that?

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Why It’s Never Too Late To Redefine Yourself

Why It’s Never Too Late To Redefine Yourself

The ability to reinvent and redefine yourself is a bold, daring and purposeful choice. It doesn’t just happen. You have to make a conscious, intentional choice and then follow through.

If the thought of forging a new path, changing habits, thought patterns and your inner circle of friends scares you – you’re not alone. Change can be a very scary thing. It takes courage, fortitude and a bit of faith to decide to shed your old self and don a new persona. However, it is one of the most critical processes one must repeatedly endure in the pursuit of destiny. Change unlocks new levels of potential.

The Need for Change

Everyday when we wake up, we make a decision. We decide to follow our routine or we decide to go off script and shake things up a bit. For those who are creatures of habit, routine is comfortable, easy and produces very little stress. The problem with this is, after a while you stop growing.

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We all reinvent ourselves at some point in our lives. It is absolutely necessary to achieve certain levels of success.

Reflect back on who you were as a teenager and then who you were at 25. Those are two very different people. Most of us are completely different. Your thought patterns changed, your appearance, job, level of education and even your friends– changed. We like to refer to this as “growing up” or maturing and consider it to be one of life’s natural progressions. However the changes you made were purposeful and deliberate.

This process must be a lifelong and continuous cycle. You are never too old to refresh yourself.

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    Signs It’s Time to Redefine

    “Just as established products and brands need updating to stay alive and vibrant, you periodically need to refresh or reinvent yourself.”– Mireille Guiliano

    So how do you know when it’s time for a system upgrade? There are signs along the way that alert you that it is time for an overhaul. The first sign is the feeling of being stuck. If you feel like you are in a rut, you’re bored with life or you need some newness and excitement, a self reinvention may be in order. Re-evaluate your life vision and your goals. Is that vision still valid and are your goals consistent with your vision and–are they achievable? If you are off course, it’s time for a change. If you are not moving forward and making progress, it’s time for a change.

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    In life, there’s no such thing as neutrality–you’re either moving forward or you are moving backward. Time constantly moves forward and if you are standing still, you are actually losing ground. No matter your age or stage in life– there is always room for improvement.

    “You’re never too old to set another goal or dream a new dream.” ~C. S. Lewis

    The second sign that you are due for a change is the occurrence of major life events in which change is forced upon you. Getting married, starting a new job, being promoted, ending a relationship, becoming a parenting or relocating are all prime opportunities to completely overhaul your life.

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    When these major shifts occur in your life–you have to shift with them. You can’t have a single mentality and have a successful marriage. You can’t remain selfish and irresponsible, and raise a healthy, well-adjusted child. You can’t be promoted to a supervisory position and keep the same subordinate attitude. Each level of success requires something different from you.

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      Consider, for a moment, Arnold Schwarzenegger. People may have different opinions about his character and some of his life choices, but he is a master at reinventing himself. He achieved the ultimate success as a professional body builder by earning the title “Mr. Universe” three times. He then earned a tremendous amount of fame and fortune in the entertainment industry making action/adventure films. And in his latest role, he served two terms as the Governor of California. He succeeded as a professional body builder, a film star and a politician. Each role required massive amounts of change, commitment, strength and hard work.

      And if Arnold can do it…so can you!

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