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7 Signs You Might Attract Haters (But It’s Not Your Fault)

7 Signs You Might Attract Haters (But It’s Not Your Fault)

Success is growth and progress. However, for some people it is a time to throw stones at you and find out what truly makes you tick. While you may find this strange, it is important to know why you are hated when you are making such progress. Moreover, it is astounding to find out that having such haters is not a signal of shortcomings, but rather a new identity of growth for you. Yes, it may not be your fault that you have all these haters, but it is your responsibility to find out why you are being hated.

You are an outside the box thinker

You do not have conventional solutions to problems. Instead, you think outside the box and creatively find solutions. The truth is that many people can feel uncomfortable with the unconventional and want something that is the norm. Being conventional and like everyone else means approval. Thinking outside the box and doing something out of the ordinary will definitely garner negative reviews from those whom instead of seeing this as brilliant, sees it as bemusing.

You have an interesting life

“Haters don’t really hate you, they hate themselves; because you’re a reflection of what they wish to be.” – Yaira N

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It seems haters love to be spectators rather than participants. The truth is that they may rarely have success in their own lives and want to live some kind of success through your eyes. Seeing you achieve feats they cannot achieve or are too laid-back to accomplish makes them feel uncomfortable, so they target you to make up for their deficiencies.

You are bold

You are fierce, relentless, and a risk taker. You do not wait for the button to be punched. Instead, you punch the button and take action when necessary. For some reason, you are not willing to live a life of mediocrity or banality. Instead, you are willing to push and take what you deserve.

You attract attention

You do something that makes people adore you. You are loved. However, for others this is a time to gain popularity by attacking you. For the critics, attacking someone who is doing it just right means they can gain some attention too. It is just the way life is.

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You have paid your dues

You have paid the price of becoming successful. It may have taken a lot of patience, discipline, effort, and hard work, but you paid your dues. Somehow, you have done things many never thought you could do or could be done. You sort of made possibilities out of impossibilities. This also gives haters the props to wonder how you could have done it.

You are strong

“A truly strong person does not need the approval of others any more than a lion needs the approval of sheep.” – Vernon Howard

Hating you may just be the right channel for a hater to look for your Achille’s Heel. They use hating you to find out your weakness so they can exploit it for their own advantage as well. Strength on your part means that you have risen above the regular and are flying high.

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You stand up for something

“You have enemies? Good. That means you’ve stood up for something, sometime in your life.” – Winston Churchill

Being hated means you have grown and matured enough to stand up for something. The truth is that people who live reasonably happy lives have no reason to hate. Haters are immature and want to stay that way even if it means getting in your face.

Conclusion

At the end of the day, while it is not good to criticize or be a hater, it is important to have haters as this shows you are on the right path for more success. Hating shouldn’t stop you, but motivate you even more to get those things you want.

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Last Updated on August 16, 2018

10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks

10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks

The ability to take risks by stepping outside your comfort zone is the primary way by which we grow. But we are often afraid to take that first step.

In truth, comfort zones are not really about comfort, they are about fear. Break the chains of fear to get outside. Once you do, you will learn to enjoy the process of taking risks and growing in the process.

Here are 10 ways to help you step out of your comfort zone and get closer to success:

1. Become aware of what’s outside of your comfort zone

What are the things that you believe are worth doing but are afraid of doing yourself because of the potential for disappointment or failure?

Draw a circle and write those things down outside the circle. This process will not only allow you to clearly identify your discomforts, but your comforts. Write identified comforts inside the circle.

2. Become clear about what you are aiming to overcome

Take the list of discomforts and go deeper. Remember, the primary emotion you are trying to overcome is fear.

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How does this fear apply uniquely to each situation? Be very specific.

Are you afraid of walking up to people and introducing yourself in social situations? Why? Is it because you are insecure about the sound of your voice? Are you insecure about your looks?

Or, are you afraid of being ignored?

3. Get comfortable with discomfort

One way to get outside of your comfort zone is to literally expand it. Make it a goal to avoid running away from discomfort.

Let’s stay with the theme of meeting people in social settings. If you start feeling a little panicked when talking to someone you’ve just met, try to stay with it a little longer than you normally would before retreating to comfort. If you stay long enough and practice often enough, it will start to become less uncomfortable.

4. See failure as a teacher

Many of us are so afraid of failure that we would rather do nothing than take a shot at our dreams.

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Begin to treat failure as a teacher. What did you learn from the experience? How can you take that lesson to your next adventure to increase your chance of success?

Many highly successful people failed plenty of times before they succeeded. Here’re some examples:

10 Famous Failures to Success Stories That Will Inspire You to Carry On

5. Take baby steps

Don’t try to jump outside your comfort zone, you will likely become overwhelmed and jump right back in.

Take small steps toward the fear you are trying to overcome. If you want to do public speaking, start by taking every opportunity to speak to small groups of people. You can even practice with family and friends.

Take a look at this article on how you can start taking baby steps:

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The Number One Secret to Life Success: Baby Steps

6. Hang out with risk takers

There is no substitute for this step. If you want to become better at something, you must start hanging out with the people who are doing what you want to do and start emulating them. (Here’re 8 Reasons Why Risk Takers Are More Likely To Be Successful).

Almost inevitably, their influence will start have an effect on your behavior.

7. Be honest with yourself when you are trying to make excuses

Don’t say “Oh, I just don’t have the time for this right now.” Instead, be honest and say “I am afraid to do this.”

Don’t make excuses, just be honest. You will be in a better place to confront what is truly bothering you and increase your chance of moving forward.

8. Identify how stepping out will benefit you

What will the ability to engage in public speaking do for your personal and professional growth? Keep these potential benefits in mind as motivations to push through fear.

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9. Don’t take yourself too seriously

Learn to laugh at yourself when you make mistakes. Risk taking will inevitably involve failure and setbacks that will sometimes make you look foolish to others. Be happy to roll with the punches when others poke fun.

If you aren’t convinced yet, check out these 6 Reasons Not to Take Life So Seriously.

10. Focus on the fun

Enjoy the process of stepping outside your safe boundaries. Enjoy the fun of discovering things about yourself that you may not have been aware of previously.

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