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7 Signs You Might Attract Haters (But It’s Not Your Fault)

7 Signs You Might Attract Haters (But It’s Not Your Fault)

Success is growth and progress. However, for some people it is a time to throw stones at you and find out what truly makes you tick. While you may find this strange, it is important to know why you are hated when you are making such progress. Moreover, it is astounding to find out that having such haters is not a signal of shortcomings, but rather a new identity of growth for you. Yes, it may not be your fault that you have all these haters, but it is your responsibility to find out why you are being hated.

You are an outside the box thinker

You do not have conventional solutions to problems. Instead, you think outside the box and creatively find solutions. The truth is that many people can feel uncomfortable with the unconventional and want something that is the norm. Being conventional and like everyone else means approval. Thinking outside the box and doing something out of the ordinary will definitely garner negative reviews from those whom instead of seeing this as brilliant, sees it as bemusing.

You have an interesting life

“Haters don’t really hate you, they hate themselves; because you’re a reflection of what they wish to be.” – Yaira N

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It seems haters love to be spectators rather than participants. The truth is that they may rarely have success in their own lives and want to live some kind of success through your eyes. Seeing you achieve feats they cannot achieve or are too laid-back to accomplish makes them feel uncomfortable, so they target you to make up for their deficiencies.

You are bold

You are fierce, relentless, and a risk taker. You do not wait for the button to be punched. Instead, you punch the button and take action when necessary. For some reason, you are not willing to live a life of mediocrity or banality. Instead, you are willing to push and take what you deserve.

You attract attention

You do something that makes people adore you. You are loved. However, for others this is a time to gain popularity by attacking you. For the critics, attacking someone who is doing it just right means they can gain some attention too. It is just the way life is.

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You have paid your dues

You have paid the price of becoming successful. It may have taken a lot of patience, discipline, effort, and hard work, but you paid your dues. Somehow, you have done things many never thought you could do or could be done. You sort of made possibilities out of impossibilities. This also gives haters the props to wonder how you could have done it.

You are strong

“A truly strong person does not need the approval of others any more than a lion needs the approval of sheep.” – Vernon Howard

Hating you may just be the right channel for a hater to look for your Achille’s Heel. They use hating you to find out your weakness so they can exploit it for their own advantage as well. Strength on your part means that you have risen above the regular and are flying high.

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You stand up for something

“You have enemies? Good. That means you’ve stood up for something, sometime in your life.” – Winston Churchill

Being hated means you have grown and matured enough to stand up for something. The truth is that people who live reasonably happy lives have no reason to hate. Haters are immature and want to stay that way even if it means getting in your face.

Conclusion

At the end of the day, while it is not good to criticize or be a hater, it is important to have haters as this shows you are on the right path for more success. Hating shouldn’t stop you, but motivate you even more to get those things you want.

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Last Updated on June 24, 2019

Why Social Media Might Be Causing Depression

Why Social Media Might Be Causing Depression

A study [1] published in Depression and Anxiety found that social media users are more likely to be depressed. This was just one of the huge number of studies linking social media and depression[2] . But why exactly do platforms like Facebook and Instagram make people so unhappy? Well, we don’t know yet for sure, but there are some explanations.

Social Media Could Lead to Depression

Depression is a serious medical condition that affects how you think, feel, and behave. Social media may lead to depression in predisposed individuals or make existing symptoms of depression[3] worse explains[4] the study above’s senior author Dr. Brian Primack. So, the problem may not be in social media per se, but how we use it.

Signs You’re Suffering From “Social Media Depression”

If you feel like social media is having a negative impact on your mood, then you may be suffering from “social media depression.” Look for symptoms like:

• low self-esteem,

• negative self-talk,

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• a low mood,

• irritability,

• a lack of interest in activities once enjoyed,

• and social withdrawal.

If you’ve had these symptoms for more than two weeks and if this is how you feel most of the time, then you are likely depressed. Although “social media depression “is not a term recognized in the medical setting, social media depression seems to be a real phenomenon affecting around 50% of social media users. As explained in a review study[5] published in Cyberpsychology, Behavior, and Social Networking, if a person has a certain predisposition to depression and other mental disorders, social media use may only worsen their mental health.

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Social Media Could Crush Self-Esteem

We know that social media and depression are in some way linked, but why is this so? Well, according to Igor Pantic, MD, Ph.D.[6], social media use skews your perception about other people’s lives and traits. To explain this further, most people like to portray an idealized image of their lives, personal traits, and appearance on sites like Facebook and Instagram. If you confuse this idealized image with reality, you may be under the false impression that everyone is better than you which can crush your self-esteem and lead to depression. This is especially true for teens and young adults who are more likely to compare themselves to others. If you already suffer from low self-esteem, the illusion that everyone has it better off than you will just make you feel worse.

Causing Social Isolation and Other Negative Emotions

Another commonly cited reason for the negative impact of social media on mental health is its link with social isolation. Depressed people are more likely to isolate themselves socially and chose only to interact indirectly through social media platforms. But communication online tends to be superficial and is lacking when compared to real-life interaction explains Panic. What this means is not that social media leads to isolation but the other way around, possibly explaining why we find so many depressed persons on these sites.

Lastly, social media use may generate negative emotions in you like envy, jealousy, dislike, loneliness, and many others and this may worsen your depressive symptoms.

Why We Need to Take This Seriously

Both depression and social media use are on the rise according to epidemiological studies. Since each one has an impact on the other, we have to start thinking of healthier ways to use social media. Teens and young adults are especially vulnerable to the negative impact of social media on mental health.

Advice on Social Media Use

Although these findings did not provide any cause-effect explanation regarding Facebook and depression[7], they still do prove that social media use may not be a good way to handle depression. For this reason, the leading authors of these studies gave some suggestions as to how clinicians and people can make use of such findings.

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One suggestion is that clinicians should ask patients about their social media habits. Then they can advise them on how to change their outlook on social media use or even suggest limiting their time spent on social media.

Some social media users may also exhibit addictive behavior; they may spend too much time due to compulsive urges. Any compulsive behavior is bound to lead to feelings of guilt which can worsen depressive symptoms.

Having Unhealthy Relationship with Social Media

If you feel like your relationship with social media is unhealthy, then consider the advice on healthy social media use provided by psychology experts from Links Psychology[8]:

Avoid negative social comparison – always keep in mind that how people portray themselves and their lives on social media is not a realistic picture, but rather an idealized one. Also, avoid comparing yourself to others because this behavior can lead to negative self-talk.

Remember that social media is not a replacement for real life – Social media is great for staying in touch and having fun, but it should never replace real-world interactions.

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Avoid releasing personal information – For your safety and privacy, make sure to be careful with what you post online.

Report users who bully and harass you – It’s easy to be a bully in the anonymous and distant world of social media. Don’t take such offense personally and report those who abuse social media to harass others.

The bits of advice listed above can help you establish a healthy relationship with social media. Always keep these things in mind to avoid losing an objective perspective of what social media is and how it is different from real life. If you are currently suffering from depression, talk to your doctor about what is bothering you so that you can get the treatment you need to get better. Tell your doctor about your social media use and see if they could give you some advice on this topic.

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