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10 Reasons Why Your Dad Doesn’t Actually Want Your Father’s Day Gift

10 Reasons Why Your Dad Doesn’t Actually Want Your Father’s Day Gift

Planning to gift your dad flashy things like neckties, football tickets, world’s best dad mugs, or a bottle of his favourite alcohol this Father’s Day? Well, you might have to drop the idea of surprising him. Forget gift shop promotions. Go for a real present that he actually wants. After all, it’s his day; shouldn’t he get to celebrate on his terms?

A recent survey by Deal News shed light on the fact that catching up over a cup of coffee, talking on the phone, playing a video game together, or a hug is more valued by dads than any sort of material gift.

Instead of scouring different websites and inundating yourself with ads espousing the perfect Father’s Day gift, consider the things that represent the close bond in your relationship with him this year. Here are a few reasons why most dads would rather skip gifts on Father’s Day.

1. Because he doesn’t want you to burn your budget

No surprises here. An invite to an expensive restaurant or a 10-dollar greeting card from one of the hippest places in town is not what most dads want. They would prefer a handmade card or a cheap coffee date. They value shared time more than material possessions.

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2. Because he is not fond of surprises

Men, in general, and fathers in particular, do not like surprises. They prefer to plan everything ahead of time so that they know exactly what is going to happen and when. Remember that they prefer to have control over the situation before you start planning a big surprise for Father’s Day. Think back to the times you’ve surprised dad with unpleasant moments; that fender bender, a failing grade on a report card, or an unpopular personal decision.

Give him control over the day, or at least inform him of your plans ahead of time!

3. Because he values family time more

Research has shown that two-fifths of dads feel that spending quality time with their families on a holiday is worth far more than a wrapped gift, sporting event ticket, or new fashion accessory.

4. Because expensive gadgets are often of no use to him

Often, children present their fathers with expensive, trendy gadgets for Father’s Day.

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While these gadgets may seem necessary to you at the time, your dad might think otherwise. Even though some gizmos can be useful, most usually end up at the back of some shelf or drawer.

Children should consider asking before buying electronics for their fathers. This way, you ensure that your purchase will be useful to dad, rather than just a waste of money.

 5. Because he prefers to be acknowledged verbally

Today’s dads don’t want their kids to feel indebted to them. All the things they did to provide a good life for their family were due to the responsibility they feel they have as a father.

But that doesn’t mean fathers don’t want to hear about how their sacrifices impacted you personally. According to Eckhart Tolle, “Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all abundance.” This Father’s Day, your dad would love to hear your thoughts on how he impacted your life. Sharing a fond memory and creating new ones is what dad loves most.

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6. Because a small thing like a phone call is enough to tell him you care

Sometimes, it’s hard to believe that a phone call can say it all. Could a phone call really replace an expensive gift? Well, in your dad’s universe, a meaningful phone call beats an expensive gift every time.

7. Because he is a true believer in practicality

Have you ever asked your dad: “What do you want for Father’s Day?”

A pair of socks or underpants were probably pretty high on his list. Dads love spending money on things that are useful to them, regardless of it being an everyday thing.

8. Because he still thinks of you as a child

While you might feel all grown up, your dad still sees you through the lens of a loving parent. That’s one reason some dads actually give their children a present on Father’s Day. It’s about looking after a child and giving them every opportunity in life.

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9. Because he wants appreciation in the truest sense

The stereotypical father is emotionally hardened and stern. That tough exterior is covering a warm and sensitive dad that’s emotionally attached to his kids.

Take the opportunity this Father’s Day to really open up and share with your dad how he makes you feel. Talk about the good times, the bad times, and just be emotionally honest. It’s okay to let your guard down for 24 hours out of the year. Seriously, he’ll love it.

10. Because he believes every day is Father’s Day

It might just be that your father does not believe in the idea of a special day for dads. For him, every day might be Father’s Day. He might prefer that you show your gratitude year-round with something more practical, like performing well in school or helping out around the house.

Don’t be alarmed if his response to your gift on Father’s Day is lukewarm. He’s proud to be your dad, and he celebrates it in his own special way every day. Let’s all raise a toast to the dads out there that make the world a better place!

Featured photo credit: kumasi via flickr.com

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Last Updated on September 20, 2018

How to Stay Calm and Cool When You Are Extremely Stressful

How to Stay Calm and Cool When You Are Extremely Stressful

Being in a hurry all the time drains your energy. Your work and routine life make you feel overwhelmed. Getting caught up in things beyond your control stresses you out…

If you’d like to stay calm and cool in stressful situations, put the following 8 steps into practice:

1. Breathe

The next time you’re faced with a stressful situation that makes you want to hurry, stop what you’re doing for one minute and perform the following steps:

  • Take five deep breaths in and out (your belly should come forward with each inhale).
  • Imagine all that stress leaving your body with each exhale.
  • Smile. Fake it if you have to. It’s pretty hard to stay grumpy with a goofy grin on your face.

Feel free to repeat the above steps every few hours at work or home if you need to.

2. Loosen up

After your breathing session, perform a quick body scan to identify any areas that are tight or tense. Clenched jaw? Rounded shoulders? Anything else that isn’t at ease?

Gently touch or massage any of your body parts that are under tension to encourage total relaxation. It might help to imagine you’re in a place that calms you: a beach, hot tub, or nature trail, for example.

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3. Chew slowly

Slow down at the dinner table if you want to learn to be patient and lose weight. Shoveling your food down as fast as you can is a surefire way to eat more than you need to (and find yourself with a bellyache).

Be a mindful eater who pays attention to the taste, texture, and aroma of every dish. Chew slowly while you try to guess all of the ingredients that were used to prepare your dish.

Chewing slowly will also reduce those dreadful late-night cravings that sneak up on you after work.

4. Let go

Cliche as it sounds, it’s very effective.

The thing that seems like the end of the world right now?

It’s not. Promise.

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Stressing and worrying about the situation you’re in won’t do any good because you’re already in it, so just let it go.

Letting go isn’t easy, so here’s a guide to help you:

21 Things To Do When You Find It Hard To Let Go

5. Enjoy the journey

Focusing on the end result can quickly become exhausting. Chasing a bold, audacious goal that’s going to require a lot of time and patience? Split it into several mini-goals so you’ll have several causes for celebration.

Stop focusing on the negative thoughts. Giving yourself consistent positive feedback will help you grow patience, stay encouraged, and find more joy in the process of achieving your goals.

6. Look at the big picture

The next time you find your stress level skyrocketing, take a deep breath, and ask yourself:

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Will this matter to me…

  • Next week?
  • Next month?
  • Next year?
  • In 10 years?

Hint: No, it won’t.

I bet most of the stuff that stresses you wouldn’t matter the next week, maybe not even the next day.

Stop agonizing over things you can’t control because you’re only hurting yourself.

7. Stop demanding perfection of yourself

You’re not perfect and that’s okay. Show me a person who claims to be perfect and I’ll show you a dirty liar.

Demanding perfection of yourself (or anybody else) will only stress you out because it just isn’t possible.

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8. Practice patience every day

Below are a few easy ways you can practice patience every day, increasing your ability to remain calm and cool in times of stress:

  • The next time you go to the grocery store, get in the longest line.
  • Instead of going through the drive-thru at your bank, go inside.
  • Take a long walk through a secluded park or trail.

Final thoughts

Staying calm in stressful situations is possible, all you need is some daily practice.

Taking deep breaths and eat mindfully are some simple ways to train your brain to be more patient. But changing the way you think of a situation and staying positive are most important in keeping cool whenever you feel overwhelmed and stressful.

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