Planning to gift your dad flashy things like neckties, football tickets, world’s best dad mugs, or a bottle of his favourite alcohol this Father’s Day? Well, you might have to drop the idea of surprising him. Forget gift shop promotions. Go for a real present that he actually wants. After all, it’s his day; shouldn’t he get to celebrate on his terms?
A recent survey by Deal News shed light on the fact that catching up over a cup of coffee, talking on the phone, playing a video game together, or a hug is more valued by dads than any sort of material gift.
Instead of scouring different websites and inundating yourself with ads espousing the perfect Father’s Day gift, consider the things that represent the close bond in your relationship with him this year. Here are a few reasons why most dads would rather skip gifts on Father’s Day.
1. Because he doesn’t want you to burn your budget
No surprises here. An invite to an expensive restaurant or a 10-dollar greeting card from one of the hippest places in town is not what most dads want. They would prefer a handmade card or a cheap coffee date. They value shared time more than material possessions.
2. Because he is not fond of surprises
Men, in general, and fathers in particular, do not like surprises. They prefer to plan everything ahead of time so that they know exactly what is going to happen and when. Remember that they prefer to have control over the situation before you start planning a big surprise for Father’s Day. Think back to the times you’ve surprised dad with unpleasant moments; that fender bender, a failing grade on a report card, or an unpopular personal decision.
Give him control over the day, or at least inform him of your plans ahead of time!
3. Because he values family time more
Research has shown that two-fifths of dads feel that spending quality time with their families on a holiday is worth far more than a wrapped gift, sporting event ticket, or new fashion accessory.
4. Because expensive gadgets are often of no use to him
Often, children present their fathers with expensive, trendy gadgets for Father’s Day.
While these gadgets may seem necessary to you at the time, your dad might think otherwise. Even though some gizmos can be useful, most usually end up at the back of some shelf or drawer.
Children should consider asking before buying electronics for their fathers. This way, you ensure that your purchase will be useful to dad, rather than just a waste of money.
5. Because he prefers to be acknowledged verbally
Today’s dads don’t want their kids to feel indebted to them. All the things they did to provide a good life for their family were due to the responsibility they feel they have as a father.
But that doesn’t mean fathers don’t want to hear about how their sacrifices impacted you personally. According to Eckhart Tolle, “Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all abundance.” This Father’s Day, your dad would love to hear your thoughts on how he impacted your life. Sharing a fond memory and creating new ones is what dad loves most.
6. Because a small thing like a phone call is enough to tell him you care
Sometimes, it’s hard to believe that a phone call can say it all. Could a phone call really replace an expensive gift? Well, in your dad’s universe, a meaningful phone call beats an expensive gift every time.
7. Because he is a true believer in practicality
Have you ever asked your dad: “What do you want for Father’s Day?”
A pair of socks or underpants were probably pretty high on his list. Dads love spending money on things that are useful to them, regardless of it being an everyday thing.
8. Because he still thinks of you as a child
While you might feel all grown up, your dad still sees you through the lens of a loving parent. That’s one reason some dads actually give their children a present on Father’s Day. It’s about looking after a child and giving them every opportunity in life.
9. Because he wants appreciation in the truest sense
The stereotypical father is emotionally hardened and stern. That tough exterior is covering a warm and sensitive dad that’s emotionally attached to his kids.
Take the opportunity this Father’s Day to really open up and share with your dad how he makes you feel. Talk about the good times, the bad times, and just be emotionally honest. It’s okay to let your guard down for 24 hours out of the year. Seriously, he’ll love it.
10. Because he believes every day is Father’s Day
It might just be that your father does not believe in the idea of a special day for dads. For him, every day might be Father’s Day. He might prefer that you show your gratitude year-round with something more practical, like performing well in school or helping out around the house.
Don’t be alarmed if his response to your gift on Father’s Day is lukewarm. He’s proud to be your dad, and he celebrates it in his own special way every day. Let’s all raise a toast to the dads out there that make the world a better place!
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