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Write A Personal Mission Statement to Achieve Your Goal More Easily

Write A Personal Mission Statement to Achieve Your Goal More Easily

As 2016 approaches, I bet you are fired up with those New Year Resolutions. You are going to be better, do things faster, achieve this and that. Well, I have bad news for you. In the long term, only 20% of you will actually keep to these resolutions and get results, according to one study done by University of Scranton researchers.

A much better idea is to write a personal mission statement. Now, before you groan inwardly and think of all those company mission statements you hear about in meetings, read on.

The idea is simple, effective, and puts New Year’s Resolutions in the shade. The main reason is that you are writing down for the record what you want to be. Think of what you will be like when you achieve it. Think about what you are like when you are at your best. Make a promise to yourself and keep it. If you are stuck for ideas you could read Stephen Covey’s bestselling book which is entitled The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons In Personal Change

   Here are some examples to get you going.

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 “To have fun in [my] journey through life and learn from [my] mistakes.” – Sir Richard Branson

“To serve as a leader, live a balanced life, and apply ethical principles to make a significant difference.”- Denise Morrison, CEO Campbell Soup

“My mission is to give, for giving is what I do best and I can learn to do better.” – Anonymous

“To be a teacher. And to be known for inspiring my students to be more than they thought they could be.” – Oprah Winfrey

“I want to be the kind of person my dog already thinks I am.” – Anonymous

There are some more great ideas here to help you build a personal mission statement if you are still stuck. Once you write your statement, you will experience these six benefits:

1. You’ll feel your life has a purpose

Whatever your role on this planet, whether you are a manager, husband, lover, or friend, the personal mission statement will be there to spur you on to do better. It is there in black and white and can help you to focus on achieving this goal and many others.

2. You’ll be able to do progress checks

It is a great tool to keep an eye on how much progress you are making when you come up against some tough life choices. How far or close are you to completing this one and moving on to the next? Without it, you might be floundering around in a sea of indecision.

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3. You’ll be much more productive

With that mission statement forming part of your daily mantra or if it is a post-it on your computer, you’ll find that you will be more productive. It really gives you a chance to get rid of a lot of the time wasting activities and being less distracted.

“In an age of distraction, nothing can feel more luxurious than paying close attention.” – Pico Iyer, The Art of Stillness

4. You’ll be more motivated

You know how you make excuses about certain obstacles or circumstances getting in your way? It is a great way to avoid completing a task or a deadline. Obstacles need to be pushed aside and not block your path to success. Your personal mission statement takes on much more importance and can help you stay more motivated.

5. You’ll be more focused on your talents

Remember when we said that an essential part of writing the statement is when you list all your talents and what you excel at doing? Skills, natural gifts and talents will now be to the forefront and there is no better way to self fulfillment. These are the ingredients in the mix which will be developed and grown for success, rather than left in the trash can of failure.

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6. You’ll be stronger when times get tough

When you have to face a break up or an unbearable boss, you may have to weather a few storms. Your personal mission statement will be there to give you a sense of stability in turbulent times.

Yes, circumstances change but your mission statement is still as valid as ever.

“There’s always another level up. There’s always another ascension. More grace, more light, more generosity, more compassion, more to shed, more to grow.” – Elizabeth Gilbert

Featured photo credit: Day 148: the end of the line/ Bruce Guenter via flickr.com

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Last Updated on February 21, 2019

The Secret to Effective Conflict Resolution: The IBR Approach

The Secret to Effective Conflict Resolution: The IBR Approach

In business, in social relationships, in family… In whatever context conflict is always inevitable, especially when you are in the leader role. This role equals “make decisions for the best of majority” and the remaining are not amused. Conflicts arise.

Conflicts arise when we want to push for a better quality work but some members want to take a break from work.

Conflicts arise when we as citizens want more recreational facilities but the Government has to balance the needs to maintain tourism growth.

Conflicts are literally everywhere.

Avoiding Conflicts a No-No and Resolving Conflicts a Win-Win

Avoiding conflicts seem to be a viable option for us. The cruel fact is, it isn’t. Conflicts won’t walk away by themselves. They will, instead, escalate and haunt you back even more when we finally realize that’s no way we can let it be.

Moreover, avoiding conflicts will eventually intensify the misunderstanding among the involved parties. And the misunderstanding severely hinders open communication which later on the parties tend to keep things secret. This is obviously detrimental to teamwork.

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Some may view conflicts as the last step before arguments. And they thus leave it aside as if they never happen. This is not true.

Conflicts are the intersect point between different individuals with different opinions. And this does not necessarily lead to argument.

Instead, proper handling of conflicts can actually result in a win-win situation – both parties are pleased and allies are gained. A better understanding between each other and future conflicts are less likely to happen.

The IBR Approach to Resolve Conflicts

Here, we introduce to you an effective approach to resolve conflicts – the Interest-Based Relational (IBR) approach. The IBR approach was developed by Roger Fisher and William Ury in their 1981 book Getting to Yes. It stresses the importance of the separation between people and their emotions from the problem. Another focus of the approach is to build mutual understanding and respect as they strengthen bonds among parties and can ultimately help resolve conflicts in a harmonious way. The approach suggests a 6-step procedure for conflict resolution:

Step 1: Prioritize Good Relationships

How? Before addressing the problem or even starting the discussion, make it clear the conflict can result in a mutual trouble and through subsequent respectful negotiation the conflict can be resolved peacefully. And that brings the best outcome to the whole team by working together.

Why? It is easy to overlook own cause of the conflict and point the finger to the members with different opinions. With such a mindset, it is likely to blame rather than to listen to the others and fail to acknowledge the problem completely. Such a discussion manner will undermine the good relationships among the members and aggravate the problem.

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Example: Before discussion, stress that the problem is never one’s complete fault. Everyone is responsible for it. Then, it is important to point out our own involvement in the problem and state clearly we are here to listen to everyone’s opinions rather than accusing others.

Step 2: People Are NOT the Cause of Problem

How? State clearly the problem is never one-sided. Collaborative effort is needed. More importantly, note the problem should not be taken personally. We are not making accusations on persons but addressing the problem itself.

Why? Once things taken personally, everything will go out of control. People will become irrational and neglect others’ opinions. We are then unable to address the problem properly because we cannot grasp a fuller and clearer picture of the problem due to presumption.

Example: In spite of the confronting opinions, we have to emphasize that the problem is not a result of the persons but probably the different perspectives to view it. So, if we try to look at the problem from the other’s perspective, we may understand why there are varied opinions.

Step 3: Listen From ALL Stances

How? Do NOT blame others. It is of utmost importance. Ask for everyone’s opinions. It is important to let everyone feel that they contribute to the discussion. Tell them their involvement is essential to solve the problem and their effort is very much appreciated.

Why? None wants to be ignored. If one feels neglected, it is very likely for he/she to be aggressive. It is definitely not what we hope to see in a discussion. Acknowledging and being acknowledged are equally important. So, make sure everyone has equal opportunity to express their views. Also, realizing their opinions are not neglected, they will be more receptive to other opinions.

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Example: A little trick can played here: Invite others to talk first. It is an easy way to let others feel involved and ,more importantly, know their voices are heard. Also, we can show that we are actively listening to them by giving direct eye-contact and nodding. One important to note is that never interrupt anyone. Always let them finish first beforeanother one begins.

Step 4: Listen Comes First, Talk Follows

How? Ensure everyone has listened to one another points of view. It can be done by taking turn to speak and leaving the discussion part at last. State once again the problem is nothing personal and no accusation should be made.

Why? By turn-taking, everyone can finish talking and voices of all sides can be heard indiscriminantly. This can promote willingness to listen to opposing opinions.

Example: We can prepare pieces of paper with different numbers written on them. Then, ask different members to pick one and talk according to the sequence of the number. After everyone’s finished, advise everyone to use “I” more than “You” in the discussion period to avoid others thinking that it is an accusation.

Step 5: Understand the Facts, Then Address the Problem

How? List out ALL the facts first. Ask everyone to tell what they know about the problems.

Why? Sometimes your facts are unknown to the others while they may know something we don’t. Missing out on these facts could possibly lead to inaccurate capture of the problem. Also, different known facts can lead to different perception of the matter. It also helps everyone better understand the problem and can eventually help reach a solution.

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Example: While everyone is expressing their own views, ask them to write down everything they know that is true to the problem. As soon as everyone has finished, all facts can be noted and everyone’s understanding of the problem is raised.

Step 6: Solve the Problem Together

How? Knowing what everyone’s thinking, it is now time to resolve the conflict. Up to this point, everyone should have understood the problem better. So, it is everyone’s time to suggest some solutions. It is important not to have one giving all the solutions.

Why? Having everyone suggesting their solutions is important as they will not feel excluded and their opinions are considered. Besides, it may also generate more solutions that can better resolve the conflicts. Everyone will more likely be satisfied with the result.

Example: After discussion, ask all members to suggest any possible solutions and stress that all solutions are welcomed. State clearly that we are looking for the best outcomes for everyone’s sake rather than battling to win over one another. Then, evaluate all the solutions and pick the one that is in favor of everyone.

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