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8 Steps To Follow To Become More Patient

8 Steps To Follow To Become More Patient

Losing your patience can damage your career and your personal relationships.

Learning to become patient puts you in the pole position to display self-control, show restraint, and delay gratification. Patience is effective on all kind of wounds. It is simply up to you to learn how to apply patience and watch your frustration go away as your peace comes.

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“Patience and fortitude conquer all things.” Ralph Waldo Emerson

Step 0. Learn to visualize

Spend time alone before a frustrating situation comes up. During this period, you can visualize how you want to react when you are triggered by something or someone. Visualize how you will handle the situation, what you will say, and how you will look for (or react to) the trigger. Understand that how you react should not escalate or aggravate a situation. Visualizing the perfect situation will help you be calm when you are pushed by a trigger.

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Step 1. Know what your triggers are

Losing your patience frequently should make you more aware of what triggers it. You should focus on what triggers you to lose your patience, whether it is when your coworker does something irritating or when your spouse doesn’t pay attention to what you have to say. While some triggers are more frequent than others, you should be aware of them to learn patience.

Step 2. Learn to count to 10

This works most of the time. By counting (in your mind) slowly from 1 to 10, you will be able to release the initial impulse to yell or do something out of frustration. Be calm and focus on your breathing to practice this tip more effectively.

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Step 3. Take deep breaths

Losing patience should give you enough time to take a deep breath. Breathe out slowly when you first start to lose your patience. Take another three breaths. And another. Slowly, your frustration will melt away.

Step 4. Learn to manage your emotions

How you react in every situation is in your hands. The choice is yours. You should be able to choose whether or not you want to be patient. It is all up to you to manage your emotions.

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Step 5. Learn to relax your body

You can consciously focus on relaxing your body. The truth is that impatience has a way of pushing you to tense your muscles involuntarily. Take slow deep breaths and relax your muscles from your toes up to the top of your head.

Step 6. Use tally marks

With this strategy, you keep tally marks on a little sheet of paper every time you lose your patience. What the tally mark strategy does for you is help you control your impulsiveness and your quickness to act. It helps you to be more aware of your response rate, making you work out an alternative reaction rather than act impulsively.

Step 7. Don’t sweat over it

Start small and do not become overly engrossed in being patient. Practice and learn to take each strategy in strides. The truth is that you cannot become patient overnight. Focus on the triggers that induce a mild impatience within you. Start with the trigger that pushes you mildly and focus on that one trigger. By controlling this trigger, you can move on and use what you have learned to focus on the next small trigger. Learn to focus gradually and practice this accordingly. Slowly, you will get to your destination. It takes time but it can be done if you direct your effort, one at a time.

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Casey Imafidon

Specialized in motivation and personal growth, providing advice to make readers fulfilled and spurred on to achieve all that they desire in life.

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Last Updated on February 21, 2019

How to Stop Information Overload

How to Stop Information Overload

Information overload is a creature that has been growing on the Internet’s back since its beginnings. The bigger the Internet gets, the more information there is. The more quality information we see, the more we want to consume it. The more we want to consume it, the more overloaded we feel.

This has to stop somewhere. And it can.

As the year comes to a close, there’s no time like the present to make the overloading stop.

But before I explain exactly what I mean, let’s discuss information overload in general.

How Serious Is Information Overload?

The sole fact that there’s more and more information published online every single day is not the actual problem. Only the quality information becomes the problem.

This sounds kind of strange…but bear with me.

When we see some half-baked blog posts we don’t even consider reading, we just skip to the next thing. But when we see something truly interesting — maybe even epic — we want to consume it.

We even feel like we have to consume it. And that’s the real problem.

No matter what topic we’re interested in, there are always hundreds of quality blogs publishing entries every single day (or every other day). Not to mention all the forums, message boards, social news sites, and so on.

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The amount of epic content on the Internet these days is so big that it’s virtually impossible for us to digest it all. But we try anyway.

That’s when we feel overloaded. If you’re not careful, one day you’ll find yourself reading the 15th blog post in a row on some nice WordPress tweaking techniques because you feel that for some reason, “you need to know this.”

Information overload is a plague. There’s no vaccine, there’s no cure. The only thing you have is self-control.

Luckily, you’re not on your own. There are some tips you can follow to protect yourself from information overload and, ultimately, fight it.

But first, admit that information overload is really bad for you.

Why Information Overload Is Bad for You

Information overload stops you from taking action. That’s the biggest problem here.

When you try to consume more and more information every day, you start to notice that even though you’ve been reading tons of articles, watching tons of videos and listening to tons of podcasts, the stream of incoming information seems to be infinite.

Therefore, you convince yourself that you need to be on a constant lookout for new information if you want to be able to accomplish anything in your life, work and/or passion. The final result is that you are consuming way too much information, and taking way too little action because you don’t have enough time for it.

The belief that you need to be on this constant lookout for information is just not true.

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You don’t need every piece of advice possible to live your life, do your work or enjoy your passion.

How to Stop Information Overload (And Start to Achieve More)

So how to recognize the portion of information that you really need? Start with setting goals.

1. Set Your Goals

If you don’t have your goals put in place, you’ll be just running around grabbing every possible advice and thinking that it’s “just what you’ve been looking for.”

Setting goals is a much more profound task than just a way to get rid of information overload. Now by “goals” I don’t mean things like “get rich, have kids, and live a good life”. I mean something much more within your immediate grasp. Something that can be achieved in the near future — like within a month (or a year) at most.

Basically, something that you want to attract to your life, and you already have some plan on how you’re going to make it happen. So no hopes and dreams, just actionable, precise goals.

Then once you have your goals, they become a set of strategies and tactics you need to act upon.

2. Know What to Skip When Facing New Information

Once you have your goals, plans, strategies and tasks, you can use them to decide what information is really crucial.

First of all, if the information you’re about to read has nothing to do with your current goals and plans, then skip it. You don’t need it.

If it does, then ask yourself these questions:

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  • Will you be able to put this information into action immediately?
  • Does it have the potential to maybe alter your nearest actions/tasks?
  • Is it so incredible that you absolutely need to take action on it right away?

If the information is not actionable in a day or two, then skip it.

(You’ll forget about it anyway.)

And that’s basically it. Digest only what can be used immediately. If you have a task that you need to do, consume only the information necessary for getting this one task done, nothing more.

You need to be focused in order to have clear judgment, and be able to decide whether some piece of information is mandatory or redundant.

Self-control comes handy too. It’s quite easy to convince yourself that you really need something just because of poor self-control. Try to fight this temptation, and be as ruthless about it as possible – if the information is not matching your goals and plans, and you can’t take action on it in the near future, then SKIP IT.

3. Be Aware of the Minimal Effective Dose

There’s a thing called the MED – Minimal Effective Dose. I was first introduced to this idea by Tim Ferriss. In his book The 4-Hour BodyTim illustrates the minimal effective dose by talking about medical drugs.

Everybody knows that every pill has a MED, and after that specific dose, no other positive effects occur, only some negative side effects if you overdose big.

Consuming information is somewhat similar. You need just a precise amount of it to help you to achieve your goals and put your plans into life.

Everything more than that amount won’t improve your results any further. And if you try to consume too much of it, it will eventually stop you from taking any action altogether.

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4. Don’t Procrastinate by Consuming More Information

Probably one of the most common causes of consuming ridiculous amounts of information is the need to procrastinate. By reading yet another article, we often feel that we are indeed working, and that we’re doing something good – we’re learning, which in result will make us a more complete and educated person.

This is just self-deception. The truth is we’re simply procrastinating. We don’t feel like doing what really needs to be done – the important stuff – so instead we find something else, and convince ourselves that “that thing” is equally important. Which is just not true.

Don’t consume information just for the sake of it. It gets you nowhere.

The focus of this article is not on how to stop procrastinating, but if you’re having such issue, I recommend you read this:

Procrastination – A Step-By-Step Guide to Stop Procrastinating

Summing It Up

As you can see, information overload can be a real problem and it can have a sever impact on your productivity and overall performance.

I know I have had my share of problems with it (and probably still have from time to time). But creating this simple set of rules helps me to fight it, and to keep my lizard brain from taking over.

I hope it helps you too, especially as we head into a new year with a new chance at setting ourselves up for success.

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