“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent” – Eleanor Roosevelt
I hate getting bad news, don’t you? You work so hard day in day out and some jerk comes along and ruins your day with a blast of his inconsiderate tongue. Maybe you’ve been demoted or worse you got your marching orders from a job that you love.
That’s rough for sure. But what’s important here is how you handle this let down. Are you confident enough to handle yourself with grace and come out on top?
Confident people deal with bad news in a very constructive way. Lets take a look at what you can do to confidently handle this sort of bad news.
1. Stand Up For Yourself
Don’t let anyone accuse you of something you didn’t do. Voice your opinion and do it with certainty.
Confident people aren’t afraid to defend themselves if they are accused in the wrong. They will find a way to address each situation in a a diplomatic way ensuring all parties involved are clear about their point of view.Advertising
Confident people never hide away in a corner and let a situation spiral out of their control. That said people who are confident are not afraid to be wrong and don’t mind admitting as much if this is the case.
2. Embrace Every Opportunity
Look for the opportunity, the diamond in the rough. It’s there if you look. If you’ve lost your job, maybe this is an opportunity to set up your own business.
Those who are sure of themselves will see opportunities arise from bad situations. They don’t let these opportunities pass them by. Instead they find small accomplishments within this opportunity and their confidence grows with each small step.
Never deterred, the confident person grabs onto life in a very powerful and impressive way and never looks back.
3. Take Action
Make that call, get researching those agencies. Buy a new diary and start making to-do lists. You are the creator of your own destiny now.
Have you every seen someone struggle to take action? They procrastinate and avoid. They hesitate and fumble. Anything to avoid taking action. This is down to a lack of confidence. The opposite is true of the confident person. They will embrace every opportunity with great gusto. They take control, research, plan, organize and take action.Advertising
They don’t fear the consequence of their actions as they are confident in their ability to do well. More importantly they’re confident in their ability to pick up the pieces should they not do well.
4. Remain Optimistic
Make a list of all the positives that have come out of this situation and write down how grateful you are for them. Do this every day.
In the face of bad news many people go through a period of self-pity. Unlike the average Joe, Mr.Confident will always feel positive about his situation no matter how terrible it may seem to others.
These kind of people will always see the silver lining and the glass will always be half full.
5. Stay Calm and Composed
Make some time for yourself when you can meditate, walk in nature or listen to inspiring music. This is a time for gentle reflection.
The confident person is not only very relaxed about their present problem whatever that may be, but they are also unmoved by the the outcome.Advertising
Under those conditions they are able to remain calm and composed – not worrying about the present or the future. In fact they don’t bother with worrying at all.
6. Treat Feedback Objectively
Thank all the people who have been supportive to you in this difficult time and simply ignore the rest.
The person who is sure of themselves doesn’t get all in a tizzy over someone else’s negative appraisal of them. If someone is justified in making those comments the confident person will admit the error of their ways – apologize even. But they will not entertain unwarranted accusations or comments.
For the confident person, happiness comes from themselves. They don’t need the approval of others to be content and productive. Instead they function just fine by reassuring themselves.
7. Remain Focused on What’s Important
Set one medium term goal and a few short term goals. Tick each one off as you achieve them – your confidence will grow each time.
Confident people have a clear vision of what’s possible and they know that this is within their reach. They don’t allow the opinions of others to taint their progress as they work towards their goal.Advertising
As a rule they keep their eye on each small victory they achieve, celebrating as they go. Each step is a step closer to their goal.
8. Let Go of Bad Feelings
Sit quietly for a few minutes and think of those who have wronged you. Make a resolution to forgive them and then focus on all of the good things that have come out of their actions.
The truly confident know that the only way that they can move forward productively is to let go of all ill feelings towards those who may have wronged them.
This takes strength of character and a willingness to forgive. This is also the healthiest way to handle receiving bad news of any kind. Let it go, so that you can grow.
Developing confidence is a process. It doesn’t happen overnight, but confidence is definitely not something that is set in stone.
Our life experiences since childhood and beyond shape and mould our levels of confidence to what they are today.
Volunteering for new experiences will help our confidence to grow no matter what age we are. The more exposure we get the more confident we will become.
Believe in yourself that you can do this and you’ll get off to a flying start.
Last Updated on April 23, 2019
13 Ways Happy People Think and Feel Differently
Let me begin by being 100% frank with you – everyone is capable of happiness.
Happiness is first a choice but it also takes persistence to maintain. Happiness is our birth right and my mission is to help as many people as I can live their happiest life.
My mission is to spread the message that everyone deserves happiness.
To live a happy life; however, you must do the work, gain the necessary knowledge, and increase your awareness.
You must fully embody this state and begin to think and feel happiness on every level of your being.
Often times, excuses present themselves and our mind gives us the reasons why we can’t be happy:
“I am too busy right now to focus on happiness”
“I will be happy when I finish school, when I have the money, when I am in the right relationship, when I have kids, when my children are older….”
“I would have had a happy life if this traumatic event had never happened”
“I don’t deserve happiness”
EVERYONE deserves happiness. The reason that you are here right now is because you have a purpose and you are on the earth to enjoy your journey.
Think BIGGER than your excuses. Push FARTHER than your complaints.
Don’t be pulled away from greatness. Get uncomfortable. At least these are what happy and successful people do on a daily basis.
This article highlights the top 13 tips and tricks of how happy people think and feel.
If you would like to begin embodying this life-changing state, then… Here are the 13 ways Happy People Think and Feel Differently:
1. Happy People Put Happiness First
Happy people have made the decision that their end goal is happiness.
Every situation, event, bad day ultimately ends with happiness.
To them, happiness is equivalent to sleep and water – it is a necessity to their life. To live an unhappy life is to have never lived at all.
The happy person asks,
“What would be the point of living if every day and moment were filled with negativity?”
“Why would I deplete my energy on negativity when I expend less to be positive?”
They make happy-based decisions which means in EVERY MOMENT they choose happiness.
If their circumstances can’t change then they instead change their perspective, they look for the silver lining in the negative.
Happy people don’t let negativity steal their moments away – a positive mindset always prevails.
If you ask a happy person how their day was, they will always answer your question with a highlight or a lesson learned.
2. Happy People Embrace Pain
I know what you are thinking –
“No one is ALWAYS happy”
“Even happy people get in bad moods”
These statements are absolutely accurate.
Happy people aren’t always happy and they DO get into bad moods. They get overwhelmed, they feel defeated, and their feelings get hurt.
Happy people aren’t invincible and they feel pain just like everyone else. The only difference between happy people and people who let negativity run their lives is that…
Happy people quickly acknowledge their pain and they make a decision to find a way to transform their pain into something greater. They also use these 13 simple ways to shake off the sadness.
Happy people admit the negativity they feel and they do what it takes to get back into their natural state: happiness.
When your end goal is happiness, then you will find a way to achieve it no matter how much strength you have to muster.
3. Happy People Have a Happy Self-Image
We all have an image in our minds that we subconsciously live up to.
The reason that change is so hard is because our subconscious mind is programmed to live by how we define ourselves.
How are you currently defining yourself?
For happy people, they see themselves with a smile, positive outlook, and/or a bounce in their step. When an event or situation arises that brings in a negative emotion, they quickly change their state to resemble their natural self-image.
When happy people are in a bad mood, it feels unusual to them because feeling negative isn’t aligned with how they see themselves.
When they feel upset, they acknowledge the negativity and look for a solution to bring their emotions to the level of how they perceive themselves.
Look at how you define yourself today – your mind and body are always trying to live up to the definition it is taught to believe.
Your body’s job is to keep you in a “normal” state because this is where it feels most comfortable.
If your self-image is happy, then your mind and body will naturally be brought back to where it feels at home. Your actions will be a clue to how you define yourself.
4. Happy People Have a Strong Support System
The happiest people know that it takes a village and they lean on others for support.
Happy people feel comfortable reaching out for help when they feel that their resistances are overpowering them. They quickly sense their negativity and they tell somebody.
Happy people ask for assistance when they can’t figure out a problem. Seeking help takes strength and it never gets in the way of their self-worth. Happy people appreciate the wisdom that their support system provides.
They have strong connections with the people who are close to them. They never trudge through tough times alone because jeopardizing their happiness for too long would be detrimental to their well-being.
5. Happy People Safeguard Their Minds from Negative Triggers
Warding off negativity is almost impossible when we live in a society that lives by what went wrong and feeds off of what could go wrong. News travels instantaneously so it would be unrealistic to shut this out of your life completely.
However, one strategy that happy people use to safeguard their minds is regulating their environment.
We have a lot of control on how we allow our environments to affect us. We can control our social media feed, the television shows and movies we watch, the books that we read, the people that we spend our time with, and the places that we hang out.
If happiness is your end goal, then take a good look at what is bringing you down. What triggers your unhappiness? See if there is anything in your environment that can be changed……
What we listen to, read, and who we hang out with influence our mind, what we think about, what we worry about, our reactions, and behaviors.
Happy people know what triggers a feeling of negativity and it feels out of alignment for them so they do what it takes to avoid it.
They might regulate their social media news feed to reflect the information that brings them positive energy. They might regulate the people that they spend their time with. It is important to hang out with like-minded people.
What are you triggers? How can you avoid the negativity in your environment?
These are ways that happy people regulate their environment and safeguard their minds.
6. Happy People Know When to Say “No”
Happy people know when to sit one out and say “no.” They do this to protect their happiness and well-being.
Life gets overwhelming – a lot of people need our attention and the to do list can seem never ending.
Happy people give themselves permission to take the day off and they feel comfortable with saying “no” when their stress levels begin to climb. They understand that those around them aren’t benefiting from someone who is frazzled, overwhelmed, and tired.
A happy person identifies their negative emotion and then they quickly treat it to bring themselves back to their “normal” state, so that they can be at their best for not only themselves but for those around them, too.
A simple “no” can ultimately mean many more “yes’s” in the future because happiness has a long battery life. You can take a look at Leo Babauta’s article The Gentle Art of Saying No and learn to say no.
7. Happy People Are Good Evaluators
Happy people can quickly sense when something is off with themselves or others. They are very intuitive to happiness levels. When someone isn’t quite right, they are the first ones to notice.
Being able to evaluate happiness means that you can identify when negativity is lingering around for too long.
We all have bad days; however, the happy person evaluates often and quickly intervenes.
In other words, happy people frequently evaluate their state and immediately change when their pessimism is overshadowing their joy.
8. Happy People Bring Other People Up
What goes on inside of us is mirrored into our physical world.
What we think about literally consumes our life and is displayed in our work, relationships, and attitude.
Happy people naturally feel good inside and about themselves so they treat others the way that they treat themselves. It never feels forced to give a compliment or to help out a stranger.
When we are truly happy with ourselves, everyone around us has a better experience. Happy people are kind to themselves and because of this, it feels natural to them to want to make others’ happy, too.
9. Happy People Go After Their Dreams
Happy people are always following the joyful path. They make happy-based decisions and because of this, they always end up where they want to be.
It’s absolutely impossible to be happy by following an undesirable path, which is quite opposite for unhappy people.
Most people journey through life on a path they think they are “supposed” to be own. Warning signs (negativity) are often ignored because they truly believe that these feelings are a normal part of life.
Negativity is NOT normal.
The happiest people investigate the negativity in their life and quickly analyze the results. This process allows them to get back on the joyful path which ends in a desirable outcome.
Follow your happiness and your dreams will come true (If that isn’t motivation then I don’t know what is!)
In addition to happiness, here are 14 amazing things that happen when you live your passion.
10. Happy People Never Sweat the Small Stuff
The only expectation that the happy person has is that they remain in a joyful state.
They rarely have expectations for the events and people in their lives because they know that this is a sure way to get let down.
The happiest people take life as it comes – you could say that they roll with the punches. When you don’t have expectations, thenyoue can just sit back and watch how beautifully life unfolds.
Happy people understand that bad things are inevitable, they are a part of life – The car will break, the kids will make mistakes, people will be late, and dinner will burn.
If it’s not anything seriously affecting their lives, then they don’t give their energy to it.
11. Happy People Rarely Have to Prove That They Are Right
Happy people remember that it’s more important to live up to what they believe. When you live your life aligned with your belief system, then there is no need to explain or prove yourself to others.
Differences in opinions are inevitable, but the happiest of people know it’s wasted energy to defend their position.
It is more effective to simply show people, through actions, how you think, feel, and what you believe.
Energy is saved, arguments are diminished, and credibility/respect are gained when we live by what we believe.
12. Happy People Smile (Even When They Don’t Want To)
Smiling is one of the healthiest things we can do; and happy people use this simple trick quite often.
It has been proven that smiling has the ability to boost your immune system, decrease stress levels, and can even make you look younger. The benefits of smiling have even been backed up by science.
Better yet, smiling is contagious. When you engage in a quick smile, you are likely to brighten someone else’s day along with your own. It is no wonder why happy people smile often!
13. Happy People Live Life in the Present Moment.
When we are genuinely happy, we are living for the moment.
Happy people let go of the past, enjoy the present, and look forward to the future. They take the moments for what they are worth – they only invest their energy in what feels right to them.
Everyone is capable of living a happy-centered life. You deserve a life that you desire – your dream life. All you have to start doing is make happy-based decisions TODAY.
In every moment, decide on what makes you happy – decide on what gets you excited. Stop doing what you don’t love, don’t listen to the people that you dislike.
If you are engaging in something that isn’t bringing you joy, then quit doing it. Listen to your heart, stop ignoring the warning signs (negativity) because they are there for a reason.
I have observed, studied, and interviewed some of the happiest and most successful people along with some of the most miserable and self-loathing.
It starts with one decision – happiness.
The happiest, most successful people choose happiness with EACH and EVERY decision. And you can start doing this today.
More Articles About Pursuing Happiness
- How to Get Motivated and Be Happy Every Day When You Wake Up
- 10 Scientifically Proven Ways To Stay Happy All The Time
- How to Be Happy: Why Pursuing Happiness Will Make You Unhappy
- How to Be Happy Again: 13 Simple Ways to Shake off Sadness Now
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