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4 Weeks Pregnant: Symptoms And All You Need To Know

4 Weeks Pregnant: Symptoms And All You Need To Know

For many women, they don’t experience pregnancy symptoms until a few weeks after conception starts. It’s common to notice pregnancy symptoms at 4 weeks when the body starts taking on noticeable physical and mental changes. Additionally, cells start to divide in the baby’s body that will later make up the child’s brain, spinal cord, and other body parts.

Knowing the most common pregnancy symptoms at 4 weeks could be key to experiencing a happy and healthy pregnancy. And more importantly, any mother would want to know how well their baby is developing because major changes start to occur in the baby’s life at just a few weeks.

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So, let’s take a look at some major changes for mom and baby during 4 weeks gestation as well as some tips for making sure your pregnancy progresses with ease.

1. What to Know about the Baby at 4 Weeks

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    4 weeks into your pregnancy, your little tyke truly is a little tyke. A common size for an embryo (or a blastocyst at this point in the pregnancy) is about 3mm long. If you need a better visual, your baby is about the size of a mustard or poppy seed or smaller. During this period, many things are developing for the baby. First, cells are starting to separate into 3 different parts. These 3 parts will eventually become these major body parts:

    • Brain, spinal cord, and back
    • Circulatory system
    • Lungs, stomach, and urinary system

    As far as the baby, he or she is now growing in your plush amniotic sac which will be their “house” for the next several months. Your placenta is also developing at this time along the uterine walls. The placenta will send vitamins, nutrients, and oxygen to the baby in the amniotic sac via the umbilical cord.

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    2. How Your Body Is Changing and Common Pregnancy Symptoms at 4 Weeks

    Pregnancy symptoms at 4 weeks are non-existent for some mothers but hit like a ton of bricks for others. At 4 weeks, one of the most common symptoms is the lack of a period or a very spotty one. If the latter, this is likely due to the embryo detaching from the uterine lining. Hence, why you may see light spotting as opposed to typical menstrual blood flow.

    Physically, you may experience a wave of fatigue. What is usually a normal 8 hours of sleep turns into 13. While there are conflicting medical reasons to pregnancy fatigue, many blame it on higher than usual levels of progesterone.

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    Fluctuating hormonal levels could also mean larger, tender breasts, too. Sky-rocketing estrogen and progesterone levels are preparing your breasts for milk production so swollen boobs are to be expected.

    Lastly, you may find yourself snapping at everyone! Moodiness is also one of the most common expected pregnancy symptoms at 4 weeks. The heightened levels of hormones mean the neurotransmitters in your brain are reacting differently to certain stimuli.

    3. Tips to Consider When You’re 4 Weeks Pregnant

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      Outside from the many physical changes you and your baby are experiencing at 4 weeks, there are several tips you can take advantage of to ensure this phase progresses smoothly.

      • Ditch the bad habits NOW! Because of the very crucial developments taking place with your baby, it’s vital that you cease with your unsavory habits now. Smoking and drinking are the first things to cross off your list. Carbon monoxide and alcohol could severely damage the baby’s neurological development, so shelve the Virginia Slims and Bourbon immediately! If you enjoy strenuous workouts, ease up a little. Consider a brisk walk to a hyperactive run. Trade your weight lifting classes for yoga or aerobics. Your body is catering to a delicate being so now is definitely the time to start taking it easy.
      • Take your vitamins seriously. At 4 weeks, you and your baby will need many nutrients to ensure a healthy pregnancy for the next several months. Start taking in more folic acid to prevent neurologic birth defects. Up your calcium game to strengthen your baby’s bones as well as yours. Foods with iron are a great way to ensure your baby gets plenty of extra oxygen through the bloodstream. Lastly, consider taking iodine supplements. Iodine is helpful to prevent severe mental and physical deformities, as well as preventing miscarriages and stillbirths. An easy way to get all of these vitamins and more is through prenatal supplements. Your OBGYN can provide them or you can get them over-the-counter.
      • Ease up on the junk food. Everyone enjoys a nice burger and fries occasionally, but now is the time to leave McDonald’s and Burger King in the fry cooker. Reduce the burgers and upgrade to more lean meats like white chicken and fish at 4 weeks. And you’ll want to maintain a healthier diet throughout your pregnancy. Lean meats, leafy greens, and fruits will provide an abundant amount of crucial nutrients, including the ones listed above. Junk food often comes loaded with sodium, sugar, fat (not the good kind!) and other foulness that could wreak havoc on your heart health. And what affects your body will affect your baby.
      • Get a due date. While some medical professionals advise against visiting the OBGYN at 4 weeks (some say to make a first appointment at 8 weeks), it may be a good idea to get an approximate due date at 4 weeks. This will come in handy when considering other major events in your life. Are you buying a house? If so, you know to have something large enough for you and your growing family come the baby’s birthday. Knowing the baby’s introduction date will provide you the time frame to start financially planning for your new addition. Many parents take this time to consider 529 education accounts for their children, life insurance policies, and other financial safety nets. Additionally, become familiar with the pregnancy leave policy at work. Knowing how much time you have for leave will provide you the peace of mind in planning for your little one’s arrival.

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      Published on December 20, 2019

      Is Authoritarian Parenting Good or Bad for Your Child?

      Is Authoritarian Parenting Good or Bad for Your Child?

      Kate sits down to the dinner table and is eager to be a good girl and eat her dinner like her Mom and Dad want her to do. She is a sweet girl who wants the approval of her parents very much. It is not always easy though. During dinner, she stands up and starts to leave the table because she has to use the bathroom. Her Dad yells at her to sit back down. He tells her “we don’t just get up from the dinner table, we wait and ask to be excused after everyone is finished eating.” She begins to protest, wanting to explain that she needs to use the bathroom. Her father becomes more upset with her and yells at her that she is now talking back and she is not allowed to say another word at the dinner table until everyone is finished eating and then she can be excused.

      Unfortunately for Kate, she can’t hold it, and she has a little accident because she is too fearful to say a word to her Dad. She doesn’t want to get yelled at anymore. She also knows that in her home, kids don’t have a say. What Mom and Dad say is like words carved into stone. They are strict beyond reason and they will not bend their rules. Therefore, Kate felt that she had no choice in the matter and when she could no longer hold it. There was nothing she could do about it.

      Kate’s parents are an example of authoritarian parenting. They are strict, they are not emotionally engaged with their children, and they have very high expectations for their children. This type of parenting style leaves children feeling disconnected from their parents.

      Kate wanted to communicate to her parents that she had to use the restroom, but she couldn’t even get her words out because her parents have such strict rules and demands of her. They did not care to hear what she had to say, because upholding their rules was more important to them. In their household, a child’s opinions and feelings do not matter.

      This kind of strict parenting is not helpful for children. It can damage a child and leave them with low self-esteem, mental health issues, and doing poor academically among other problems cited by research in Parenting Science.[1]

      What Does Authoritarian Parenting Look Like?

      In the 1960’s, a researcher and theorist by the name of Baumrind established the well known theory of parenting styles. Those four parenting styles, which are well known today, are authoritarian, authoritative, passive, and neglectful. For proactive parents that are trying hard to be good parents, they will usually lean toward either authoritarian or authoritative.

      Authoritarian parenting involves strict parenting and high expectations for children. This can sound reasonable and even like good parenting. However, the strict parenting is often characterized by lack of compassion toward the child, little to no flexibility in rules, and complete control sought over the child’s behavior.

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      Parents who use this parenting style believe it is their job to control the will and behavior of their children. An article in Psychology Today explains how authoritarian parents operate:[2]

      Authoritarian parents believe that children are, by nature, strong-willed and self-indulgent. They value obedience to higher authority as a virtue unto itself. Authoritarian parents see their primary job to be bending the will of the child to that of authority—the parent, the church, the teacher. Willfulness is seen to be the root of unhappiness, bad behavior, and sin. Thus, a loving parent is one who tries to break the will of the child.

      For example, Jake has authoritarian parents. He wants to stay out past curfew on a school night because he has an opportunity to play in a jazz ensemble. He has been playing the saxophone for years and his ambition is to play in a college jazz ensemble.

      With Jake still being in high school, his parents have a curfew. On school nights, it is 8:00 pm. This rule is instituted because his parents believe they need to ensure that Jake gets his school work done each night and that he needs to be well rested for school the next day. However, they don’t explain the why of their rules to him, they simply tell him that those are their rules. The jazz ensemble is practicing at 8:00 pm on a Thursday night and they have invited Jake to come play with them. It is a well known group and a huge opportunity for Jake.

      Unfortunately, his parents say no. Their authoritarian parenting style is unwavering. He wants to discuss the opportunity and its importance, but his parents will not even entertain the conversation. They stop him mid-sentence and go over their rules again. There is no flexibility.

      If Jake’s parents had been authoritative, they would have taken the time to hear out his case and would likely have granted him a later curfew for that one instance. They would see that, although they have a curfew, there are some instances when an opportunity is worth bending the rules. They would ask that he has his homework done before going to play with the group, and that he come home as soon as the practice was finished.

      Authoritative parents have rules, but they are also flexible based on reasonable requests for exceptions. The authoritative parents are interested in how their children are thinking and feeling. Conversely, authoritarian parents are not likely to be interested in hearing their child’s thoughts and feelings, because they want to control the will of their child, not come to some middle ground.

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      Here are some characteristics of authoritarian parenting:

      • They have strict rules that are unyielding and unwavering. This is often called “heavy handed parenting.”
      • They do not want input from the child about rules. They also feel that the child’s opinion does not matter, because they are the parent thus are the supreme authority over the child.
      • There are severe punishments when rules are broken.
      • There is an emotional disconnection between parent and child, because the parent is not interested in what the child thinks or feels. They are more interested in controlling the behavior of the child and having the child be compliant to their rules.
      • Children are expected to listen to their parents and follow the rules, there are no exceptions. A child that voices their objections will likely be punished for doing so.
      • The parents have high expectations, especially when it comes to compliance of their rules.
      • Parents expect that their child will be obedient and they do not need to explain the “why” of their rules and expectations. Compliance is expected out of sheer obedience, not because the child understands the reasons why the rules are set. Parents do not feel the need to explain why they set their rules.
      • There is a failure to have attached relationships between parent and child because of the overly dominant nature of authoritarian parents and their unwillingness to allow their children to have their own voice or free will.

      Authoritarian parents are driven by a belief that they need to control their children. This means controlling their children’s behavior to an extreme. They are inflexible and don’t take into account the child’s desires, emotions, or well-being as being as important to enforcing rules to get the desired outcome. Authoritative parents on the other hand, seek to guide and direct their children instead of control. There is a distinction.

      The Problems of Authoritarian Parenting

      Authoritarian parenting has many negative consequences to children. Children who are raised in homes with extreme authoritarian parenting are more likely to become dependent on drugs and alcohol, have lower academic performance, and increased mental health issues according to Parenting for Brain.[3] Children who are raised with authoritarian parents are also more likely to have lower self esteem, inability to make decisive choices, and have social skills that are lacking.

      When a child is raised to be taught day in and day out that their voice does not matter, then that child will likely be ingrained with that belief. They will not value their own opinions because they have been taught that what they think does not matter and is of no value. This leads to poor self-esteem and low self-worth.

      If a child doesn’t believe that their thoughts matter, then what they think about themselves overall is going to be affected. They will not think highly of themselves or believe that what they think, say, or do is of value. This will contribute to low self-esteem long term.

      Social skills will suffer because a child who comes from an authoritarian home will be trained to believe that nobody wants to hear their opinion and that relationships are based on compliance.

      For example, Judy is raised in an authoritarian home. She is now 18 years old and has her first boyfriend. Anytime that he asks something of her, even if she internally disagrees, she feels that she is supposed to comply and do what he says in order for him to like her and continue wanting to be with her.

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      He wants to have sex. She does not feel that she is ready, but she will not voice this to her boyfriend because she doesn’t think that her opinion will matter or that he will want to listen to what she is feeling. She goes along with sex in their relationship to be compliant. She doesn’t want to be punished by disagreeing with not having sex. He says that they are ready for that next step in the relationship and she fears that the consequence of saying no would be that he ends the relationship.

      Therefore, she doesn’t even voice her thoughts or feelings on the situation because she doesn’t think they have value or will be heard anyway.

      She has been taught by her parents that her opinions and feelings don’t matter. She has learned from the past 18 years with her parents that what matters most is that she is compliant. She gets along with her parents best when she is doing exactly what they want her to do. This is why she feels the need to do the same with her boyfriend.

      Going along with his decisions, being compliant, and not voicing her feelings will keep the relationship going and avoid conflict or punishment. The ultimate punishment in her mind would be that he ends the relationship.

      With her opinions never being valued by those who she has loved the most (her parents), she has learned that she should not voice her opinion if she wants to keep the other person in the relationship happy. In her mind, because of how she has been raised, compliance overrides all else, and her opinion is meaningless.

      However, her boyfriend is not her parents. He is understanding and would want to know how she feels. He wants a long term relationship with her and he loves her so much. His true desire is for her to be happy. He would never want her to have sex if she wasn’t feeling the same way that he was feeling. He would gladly wait and would want to hear what she thinks and feels about taking their relationship to the next level.

      Authoritarian parenting methods can inflict great harm on a child. The child becomes emotionally damaged because they grow up believing that their opinions, thoughts, and feelings do not matter. Instead they are taught that compliance and being obedient supersedes all else.

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      The Solution

      The solution is to move from authoritarian parenting methods to authoritative parenting practices.

      Authoritative parenting has been deemed as the best parenting method by researchers, according to Psychology Today. Parents who use authoritative parenting methods have rules for their children, but they are not looking for blind compliance. They recognize that having a relationship with their child is of great importance and therefore valuing the child’s voice, opinions, and thoughts is important.

      Authoritative parents seek to guide and direct their children, but they do not seek to control the will of their child.

      Parenting Coach Plan explains the foundation of authoritative parenting as the following:[4]

      Authoritative parenting can be described as a style of parenting that combines firm limits and clear boundaries with fair and consistent discipline. Authoritative parents are also nurturing, highly-involved, and willing to speak openly with their child regarding expectations and the consequences for failing to meet those expectations. Rules are enforced and fair consequences are put in place for when those rules are broken.

      Children raised in authoritative homes follow the rules because they understand the “why” of the rules. They are also bonded to their parents because they are able to talk to their parents openly. This bond helps nurture a positive home environment and a two-way relationship that can last a lifetime.

      To learn more about how to be an authoritative parent and how to discipline a child using this parenting method, check out my article:

      How to Discipline a Child (The Complete Guide for Different Ages)

      Featured photo credit: Xavier Mouton Photographie via unsplash.com

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