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5 Surprising Things Would Happen When You Start To Take Control Of Your Sunday Sadness

5 Surprising Things Would Happen When You Start To Take Control Of Your Sunday Sadness

Sunday morning’s glorious sleepiness embraces you with the provocative aroma of fresh brewed coffee, pancakes shyly rising in their buttery pan and the delightful sizzling of bacon. The stage is set for a perfect Sunday, full of promise and never asking for anything in return. This wondrous moment is nothing less than pure joy.

Then 4 p.m. approaches and BOOM … your mood plummets and everything feels bleak and hopeless (a legit thing – ask the experts). But you have the power to dramatically turn your day around when you decide to take control of your Sundays.

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1. You’ll Create A Future Overflowing With Happy Sundays.

Choose to do your unpleasant chores or obligations on Saturday. This is when your energy and mood are naturally more positive. You will open Sunday up for unencumbered fun, when your psyche is most in need of it. Even better, accomplish those Sunday chores during the week. This will considerably free you up. Food shop online and have it delivered after work, do small loads of laundry here and there during the week, run your errands before or after work. If you have no choice but to do your chores on a Sunday, set a timer and do them and be done. Agonizing over what you have to do, interferes with your peace of mind and the quality of your Sunday.

2. You’ll Develop Skills Of A Forward Thinker.

On Friday, before the workday ends, plan your Monday schedule. Keep it as light and friendly as possible, gently reintroducing yourself to the beginning of the week. Who wrote the book on Mondays having to be a dreaded day? Rewrite that book. Changing a formed habit is sometimes all it takes to make a big difference, to make all the difference. Plan a treat for every Monday. Something to look forward to, something just for you. Make Mondays memorable.

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3. You’ll Discover The Ideal Day For Pampering.

Sunday is the perfect day to dedicate to showering yourself with love and attention. You’ve taken care of business during the week, today is your day. By the end of Sunday, you’ll be refreshed and more than ready and willing to take on the challenges of the week. When late afternoon arrives, it’s especially important to do something fun. Turn up some music and joyously dance around your house, call a funny/inspiring friend, watch a movie that motivates and inspires you. Anything that says fun to you.

4. You’ll Become A Master At Setting Yourself Up For A More Positive Week.

When you make the choice to have a positive attitude on Sunday afternoons, you feel empowered. Think about your Sunday routine and decide what it would take to disempower the Sunday blues. Maybe all it would take is writing your feelings down as soon as you begin feeling blue. Keep writing and do not stop until every last drop of negativity is out of your system. How about lending a hand to those who are in need, or join a fun group that meets on Sunday afternoons. When you choose to take the power back, this wonderful feeling spills over into the rest of your week. You are no longer a victim. You will perform better at work, be more relaxed and feel healthier.

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5. You’ll Be Able To Answer The Question “What Is My Purpose In Life”.

Once you do that, there’s no reason to feel sad on Sunday afternoon. Your life isn’t about the nine to five of Monday through Friday, it’s about something more meaningful. Setting up a life that you don’t need to escape from is your goal when the Sunday blues are threatening to overtake your night. Use this time wisely, determine what triggers this blue feeling and instead of sitting there dwelling, strategize. What is it that bothers you about Mondays? Do you work for an unbearable boss, is the traveling getting you down or do you just hate what you do? You are not getting the Sunday night blues because it’s the end of the weekend. You are getting the Sunday night blues, because you hate your job. This will not be solved in a day, but this is the ideal time to come up with realistic ways to solve this problem. Each Sunday, write down easy, achievable goals, and begin achieving them, slowly, steadily. The Sunday blues will melt away as you transform your life.

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Last Updated on January 16, 2020

12 Simple Ways to Boost Your Confidence Right Now

12 Simple Ways to Boost Your Confidence Right Now

The way you feel about yourself greatly influences how you live and interact with others. If you are confident about yourself, you tend to see yourself positively and actually enjoy spending time with and around people. You don’t feel self-conscious or awkward around others, and that allows you to live your fullest and happiest life.

However, if you’re drowning in a sea of self-doubt, hesitancy and shyness, you often withdraw and isolate yourself from others and avoid interacting and connecting with people. That anxiety you feel in the pit of your stomach when you are around people is holding you back greatly and it is not good for your emotional health and overall well-being. You need to do something about it if you are low in self-confidence or have friends or family members who are not confident.

“Confidence isn’t walking into a room thinking you’re better than everyone, it’s walking in not having to compare yourself to anyone” – Anonymous

Here are simple, practical tips to boost your confidence right now and make you feel and act your best.

1. Stop labeling yourself as awkward, timid or shy.

When you label yourself as awkward, timid or shy, you sub-consciously tell your mind to act accordingly and psychologically feel inclined to live up to those expectations. Instead of labeling and entertaining negative self-talk, visualize and affirm yourself as confident and strong. Close your eyes for a minute and visualize yourself in different situation as you would like to be.

Be your own cheerleader. Experts believe that positive affirmation and good mental practices like picturing yourself winning or achieving a goal can lead to greater feelings of self-assurance and prepare your brain for success.[1] As the saying goes, “seeing is believing.” Picture yourself as confident and soon enough you will begin to manifest behavior that gives evidence to this new ‘fact.’

2. Recognize that the world is not focused on you (unless, of course, you are Kanye West).

That means you don’t have to be excessively sensitive about who you are or what you are doing (or not doing). You are not on the center stage; there is no need for preoccupation with self and perfectionism. As rap music star Rocko sings, “You just do you and I will do me, aight?”

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Forget about trying to please everyone or being perfect. Trying to be perfect and being a people-pleaser puts too much pressure on you and creates unnecessary anxiety. Besides, people are too preoccupied with their own issues to pay much attention to your every move unless, of course, you are a mega famous, super celebrity like Beyonce or Kanye West.

3. Focus on other people as opposed to yourself.

If you are low on confidence, self-conscious, nervous and shy in social situations, focus your attention on other people and what they are saying or doing instead of focusing on your own awkwardness.

For example, think about what it is that is interesting about the person who’s the centre of the party or the guy or girl you are talking with. Prompt them to talk more about themselves and be genuinely curious and interested in what they say. You will instantly come across as confident and warmhearted.

People generally want to talk about themselves, be heard and understood. They will love it when you’re eager and willing to listen to them and really hear what they have to say.

This habit of focusing more on what you love in others as opposed to what you dislike in yourself will not only help you become more assertive and comfortable in virtually all social situations, but also instantly make you feel great about yourself.

4. Know (and accept) yourself for who you are.

Chinese military general, strategist and philosopher Sun Tzu, author of the internationally acclaimed book The Art of War, said, “Know yourself and you will win all battles.” Even in the battle with lack of confidence, you will need to know yourself to win.

Knowing yourself starts with understanding that people are not all the same, neither are all social situation suitable for everyone. You might not be confident in large gatherings, but you could be bold and confident in one-on-one and small group interactions. We all have our own unique gifts and unique ways of expressing ourselves. Embrace yours!

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Introverts, for example, have a quiet confidence that is, unfortunately, often confused for shyness. They are naturally low key and prefer to spend time alone. However, this natural disposition affords them certain unique gifts, such as an ability to listen better than most people and notice things that others don’t.

Your uniqueness is where your strength and advantage lies. You won’t be comfortable and confident in all situations all the time. Albert Einstein said,

“Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”

5. Crack a smile.

If there is one sure way to instantly boost your confidence, it’s cracking a smile. Christine Clapp, a public speaking expert at The George Washington University, says that flashing those pretty, pearly white teeth will immediately make you appear both confident and composed. But, the effect of smiling is not just external. Studies show that smiling can also help nix feelings of stress and pave the way for a happier and more relaxed you.[2]

Not a bad return for something seemingly so trite, wouldn’t you agree?

6. Break a sweat—with exercise.

Working out is another great way to make yourself feel amazing and confident. Science has shown that exercising increases your endorphins, helps reduce stress, tones your muscles and makes you feel happy and confident.[3]

And hey, all you have to do is take a walk a few times a week and you’ll see the benefits. What seems to matter—as far as your confidence goes—is whether you break a sweat, not how strenuous your session is, which is pretty cool. Start working out now.

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7. Groom yourself.

This might seem mundane, but it’s amazing how much of a difference a shower and shave can have on your confidence and self-image. And when you spritz on a scent, the boost on confidence and self-esteem is incredible. As it turns out, your favorite fragrance does more than make you smell oh-so-nice.

A study found that a fragrance can inspire confidence in men. Interestingly, the study also found that the more a man likes the fragrance, the more confident he might feel. Another study found that 90% of women feel more confident while wearing a scent than those who go fragrance-free.

8. Dress nicely.

Another one that might seem trite, but it works. If you dress nicely, you’ll instantly feel good about yourself and give your confidence a real boost. That is largely because you’ll feel attractive, presentable and sometimes even successful in nice clothes.

While dressing nicely means something different for everyone, it does not necessarily mean wearing $500 designer outfits. It means wearing clothes that are clean, that you are comfortable in and that are nice-looking and presentable, including casual clothes.

9. Do activities you enjoy.

Whether it is reading a book, playing a musical instrument, riding your bicycle or going fishing, do what you really enjoy and what makes you truly happy often. It will boost your self-esteem, soothe your ego and allow you to identify with your gifts and talents. That will in turn bolster your self-belief and grow your confidence exponentially.

You might not become popular for doing what you love, but you might not even want to be popular at all. Being popular doesn’t make you happy; doing what you love does.

10. Prepare for the possibility of rejection / setback.

Late World No. 1 professional tennis player Arthur Ashe said, “One important key to success is self-confidence. A key to self-confidence is preparation.” You need to prepare for the possibility of rejection and setback.

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Why?

Everybody suffers rejection and setback at one point or another. You are not exempted. The question on your mind, therefore, should not be if you will be rejected, but how you will handle rejection when it comes.

Prepare yourself adequately in every situation to minimize the risk and effect of rejection and so that your confidence is not broken. For example, learn public speaking and rehearse what you are going to say beforehand if you have landed a public speaking engagement. That way, you are sure of yourself and confident you have what it takes to hack it. If you are rejected, don’t take it personally.

Rejection and setbacks happen to the best of us. Take it as a learning experience. Learn from your mistakes and move on.

11. Face uncomfortable situations square in the face.

Don’t run away from uncomfortable situations. Running away from people or situations because you feel scared, shy or timid only confirms and reinforces your shyness. Instead, face the situation that makes you uneasy square in the face. For example, go ahead and talk to that person you are afraid to approach, or go straight to the front of your yoga class! What’s the worst that can happen?

Prepare and be ready for any eventuality. The more you face your fears, the more you realize you are stronger than you thought and the more confident you get. This simple, yet admittedly courageous, act makes you unstoppable. You get comfortable being uncomfortable and begin to feel like you can take on the world. And that is the hallmark of someone destined for great things.

12. Sit up straight and walk tall—you are awesome!

Yes, sit up straight and believe you are awesome. Don’t slump in your chair or slouch your shoulders. Experts say the right stance can not only keep your self-esteem and mood lifted, but also lead to more confidence in your own thoughts.[4]

The way to sit is to open up your chest and keep your head level so that you look and feel poised and assured. And when you get up, stand tall and walk like you’re on a mission. People who sit up straight and walk tall are more attractive and instantly feel more confident. Try it now: you’ll feel fierce and confident just by sitting up straight and walking tall.

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