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5 Ways People Change When They Quit Social Media

5 Ways People Change When They Quit Social Media

There’s no denying that social media is all around us. To many people, Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram are the most consistent presences in their lives. But this doesn’t mean that social media is inescapable. Many people actively choose to stay off of these platforms, opting instead for a more visceral experience in life. And they just may be on to something. When people cut the cord and start actively living, good things start happening.

1. They gain confidence

We’ve become so accustomed to using social media and electronics to communicate with others that, for some, face-to-face interaction has become incredibly difficult. While it’s easy to write an email to a supervisor or reach out to new clients through Twitter, it’s much more difficult to do so in person. But that’s only because it takes practice to improve and strengthen your interpersonal skills.

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As you stop relying on social media to make person-to-person interaction easier and more simplified, you’ll allow yourself to expand your comfort zone. The more you work on social interaction, the easier it becomes.

2. They don’t constantly seek validation

Of course, everyone likes to know their opinions and suggestions are appreciated and valued, but the ubiquity of social media has made this validation an obsession for some. I know that I’ve found myself checking my phone over and over again after making a witty comment or sending out a well thought-out tweet to see how many people “liked” or “shared” my message. In reality, I know the people who “liked” my comment simply clicked a button and moved on with their lives.

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Those who stay off media seek out actual validation where it matters; but they don’t become overly obsessed with being accepted that it ends up taking over their lives.

3. They can focus on what’s important to them

Social media is full of, for lack of a better term, fluff. Even if you don’t subscribe to any pages yourself, your friends are constantly sharing articles and websites that, first of all, may or may not be factual, and second of all, probably don’t interest you in the slightest.

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So many of us (again, myself included) spend way too much time wading through headlines that we don’t care about in search of one or two articles that might benefit us in some way. When you stay off social media, you can actively seek out the things in life that interest you, and end up learning something pertinent to your life in the process.

4. They communicate more effectively

I spoke a little before about how those who don’t use social media are actually more social in person. But not only are they more social, they’re also better at communicating entirely. A tweet or a Facebook status are made up of simple words on a computer or phone screen; there’s almost no way to effectively communicate the underlying tone of the message.

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When you’re face-to-face with the person you’re speaking to, the mood of the conversation becomes crystal clear based on facial expression, body language, and tone of voice.

5. They become more aware and live in the moment

Let’s be serious: most of us have used social media as a crutch at times. Think about those times you were waiting for a friend at the mall, or sitting on a bench waiting for a bus to arrive. Instead of taking in your surroundings, you probably took out your phone to mindlessly scroll through your various feeds, pretending to look busy. But by doing so, you miss out on so much of the world around you.

When you put your phone away, you start to appreciate even the little things in life that you never knew existed before.

Featured photo credit: Mobile phone and the Japanese 2 / Cocoarmani via farm3.staticflickr.com

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Last Updated on July 3, 2020

30 Small Habits To Lead A More Peaceful Life

30 Small Habits To Lead A More Peaceful Life

In today’s world, true peace must come from within us and our own actions. Here are 30 small things you can do on a regular basis to increase your overall sense of harmony, peace, and well-being:

1. Don’t go to every fight you’re invited to

Particularly when you’re around those who thrive on chaos, be willing to decline the invitation to join in on the drama.

2. Focus on your breath

Throughout the day, stop to take a few deep breaths. Keep stress at bay with techniques such as “square breathing.” Breathe in for four counts, hold for four counts, then out for four counts, and hold again for four counts. Repeat this cycle four times.

3. Get organized and purge old items

A cluttered space often creates a cluttered spirit. Take the time to get rid of anything you haven’t used in a year and invest in organizational systems that help you sustain a level of neatness.

4. Stop yourself from being judgmental

Whenever you are tempted to have an opinion about someone else’s life, check your intentions. Judging others creates and promotes negative energy.

5. Say ‘thank you’ early and often

Start and end each day with an attitude of gratitude. Look for opportunities in your daily routine and interactions to express appreciation.

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6. Smile more

Even if you have to “fake it until you make it,” there are many scientific benefits of smiling and laughing. Also, pay attention to your facial expression when you are doing neutral activities such as driving and walking. Turn that frown upside down!

7. Don’t worry about the future

As difficult as this sounds, there is a direct connection between staying in the present and living a more peaceful life. You cannot control the future. As the old proverb goes, “Worry is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it won’t get you anywhere.” Practice gently bringing your thoughts back to the present.

8. Eat real food

The closer the food is to the state from which it came from the earth, the better you will feel in eating it. Choose foods that grew from a plant over food that was made in a plant.

9. Choose being happy over being right

Too often, we sacrifice inner peace in order to make a point. It’s rarely worth it.

10. Keep technology out of the bedroom

Many studies, such as one conducted by Brigham and Women’s Hospital, have connected blue light of electronic devices before bed to adverse sleep and overall health. To make matters worse, many people report that they cannot resist checking email and social media when their cell phone is in reach of their bed, regardless of the time.

11. Make use of filtering features on social media

You may not want to “unfriend” someone completely, however you can choose whether you want to follow their posts and/or the sources of information that they share.

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12. Get comfortable with silence

When you picture someone who is the ultimate state of peace, typically they aren’t talking.

13. Listen to understand, not to respond

So often in conversations, we use our ears to give us cues about when it is our turn to say what we want to say. Practice active listening, ask questions, process, then speak.

14. Put your troubles in a bubble

Whenever you start to feel anxious, visualize the situation being wrapped in a bubble and then picture that sphere floating away.

15. Speak more slowly

Often a lack of peace manifests itself in fast or clipped speech. Take a breath, slow down, and let your thoughtful consideration drive your words.

16. Don’t procrastinate

Nothing adds stress to our lives like waiting until the last minute.

17. Buy a coloring book

Mandala coloring books for adults are becoming more popular because of their connection to creating inner peace.

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18. Prioritize yourself

You are the only person who you are guaranteed to live with 24 hours a day for the rest of your life.

19. Forgive others

Holding a grudge is hurting you exponentially more than anyone else. Let it go.

20. Check your expectations

Presumption often leads to drama. Remember the old saying, “Expectations are premeditated resentments.”

21. Engage in active play

Let your inner child come out and have some fun. Jump, dance, play, and pretend!

22. Stop criticizing yourself

The world is a hard enough place with more than enough critics. Your life is not served well by being one of them.

23. Focus your energy and attention on what you want

Thoughts, words, and actions all create energy. Energy attracts like energy. Put out what you want to get back.

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24. Assign yourself “complaint free” days.

Make a conscious decision not to complain about anything for a whole day. It might be harder than you think and the awareness will stick with you.

25. Surround yourself with people you truly enjoy being in the company of

Personalities tend to be contagious, and not everyone’s is worth catching. Be judicious in your choices.

26. Manage your money

Financial concerns rank top on the list of what causes people stress. Take the time each month to do a budget, calculate what you actually spend and sanity check that against the money you have coming in.

27. Stop trying to control everything

Not only is your inner control freak sabotaging your sense of peace, it is also likely getting in the way of external relationships as well.

28. Practice affirmations

Repeat positive phrases that depict the life and qualities you want to attract. It may not come naturally to you, but it works.

29. Get up before sunrise

Personally witnessing the dawn brings a unique sense of awe and appreciation for life.

30. Be yourself

Nothing creates more inner discord than trying to be something other than who we really are. Authenticity breeds happiness.

Featured photo credit: man watching sunrise via stokpic.com

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