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7 Things All Boys Should Understand About Being A Man

7 Things All Boys Should Understand About Being A Man

Nowadays, the trend is that people don’t want to grow up. Just like in “Peter Pan,” boys do whatever they can to stave off the burden of manhood. Video games, sports, serial dating, not taking jobs seriously–this is all evidence of a growing trend of men trying to stay boys for longer than normal. But being a man is not all that bad. It actually comes with a lot of perks. For that reason, we have compiled a list of things that boys need to understand to become men.

Be humble and classy, because the world truly is neither

Once you get out into the world for real, you will notice that nearly no one can accomplish anything without taking pictures and talking about it. Men do not do this. Being a man is about achieving every day, succeeding in ways that only matter to you, and really, truly enjoying those successes only for yourself. Chances are you are never going to earn a parade for your work, and no one is going to name an award after you, and that’s fine. Do you job anyway.

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Women are thoughtful, intelligent, and equal to men

A lot of dating culture boys learn going through college has them treating women like objects and has them thinking of dating as if it’s a game. Many boys will spend years acting in this way. But being a man is about recognizing the worth of the fairer sex–they are usually more level-headed and nurturing to men, and are definitely equal in every way. Loving a woman isn’t about owning her or winning her body in any way. It’s about recognizing her equality feeling privileged to share love with her.

Take care of the elderly, children, and animals

When becoming a man, it is important to learn to tend to those who need it. If you’re on a bus, give out your seat for the elderly. If you see a child struggling to reach something at the grocery store, help them grab it. If you see a lost dog on the street, catch it and return it. These are all small tasks that just help society run smoother, and they cost you very little.

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Cooking and cleaning are essential skills

Boys are often thought of as slobs. But being a man means being able to take care of yourself. So learn how to pickup your clothes off the ground and make sure you can cook a dish or two. Eating boiled hot dogs over the sink gets old quickly, so start learning early.

Read books, watch movies, and learn about the world outside your experience

Being a man means knowing a little bit about history and being able to talk about it. It also means being able to talk about your favorite book or describe a scene from a movie you like. Any medium that offers a way to broaden your horizon is one you should be consuming.

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Sometimes,you have to fight

Most tense situations can indeed be easily diffused with a joke or some calm talking. But other times, you have to fight. Being a man is about being able to recognize the difference between those two situations and being able to act accordingly. I’m not advocating that every conflict you have in a bar turn into a brawl; rather, I’m saying that a man knows which ones need to and which ones can be resolved in other ways.

Life isn’t about just getting things, but also maintaining things

This is a lesson I am still learn. Acquisition of prized objects or amazing goals may come easy to you, and that’s great. But being a man is about keeping that success going, or maintaining the objects that you obtain. Otherwise, things will fall apart, and you’ll be back at square one.

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Last Updated on October 16, 2019

5 Powerful Ways for Building Fulfilling Relationships

5 Powerful Ways for Building Fulfilling Relationships

We all have relationships. We have acquaintances, relatives, colleagues, neighbors and friends. However, for a large percentage of us, many of these relationships are not fulfilling.

They are unfulfilling because they lack real strength; and they lack real strength because they lack real depth.

Unfortunately, in today’s society, we tend to have shallow, superficial relationships with others, and it’s extremely hard for this kind of relationships to provide anything more than faint satisfaction.

I’d like to show you, based on my experience as a communication and confidence coach, how you can add a significant amount of depth, and thus strength, to your relationships and make your social life a whole lot more meaningful.

Here’re 5 simple yet powerful ways for meaningful relationships building:

1. Meet More People

This is an apparent paradox, but the quality of the people you meet has considerably to do with the quantity of people you meet.

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If you don’t know a lot of people and you barely meet one or two new people every season of the year, considering the variety of individuals out there, you won’t meet very often people who are a good match with you in terms of personality, interests and values.

And since this natural match plays a huge part in building strong relationships, you’ll just as seldom have the opportunity to develop strong relationships.

Conversely, if you go out a lot, you meet a lot of new people and you constantly expand your social circle, you’re much more likely to meet people you match up well with, and these people have a tremendous potential to become good friends, reliable partners, etc.

This is why it’s important to meet more people.

2. Talk about the Things That Matter To You

A relationship becomes the strongest when two people discover they believe in the same things and have similar interests. It’s these commonalities regarding values and interests that create the strongest emotional connection.

I’ve noticed that many people keep conversations shallow. They talk about trivial stuff such as the weather, what’s on TV, the lives of various movie stars, but they rarely talk about what really matters to them in life. This is a mistake from my perspective, because it’s the perfect method for a relationship to not develop.

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Talk about the things that truly matter to you and give others a chance to know what you care about and what you believe in. If they believe in the same things and they care about the same things, they’ll eagerly let you know. Thus you’ll find meaningful common ground and you’ll feel more connected.

3. Express Vulnerability

Many people try to come off as perfect. They don’t talk about their failures, they hide their shortcomings and they never say anything that could embarrass them.

This is all just a facade though. You may appear perfect to some, but you know you’re not perfect and they know that too. You’re only human and humans have flaws.

However, by hiding your flaws, what you do succeed in is appearing cold and impersonal. You seem like a marble statue rather than a real person. And this makes it very hard for anyone to connect with you emotionally.

Humans connect with other humans, not with ideals. Keep this in mind and don’t be afraid to let your vulnerability and your humanity show. This is what takes a relationship to the next level.

Take a look at this article and find out Why Showing Vulnerability Actually Proves Your Strength.

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4. Have Integrity

Integrity, as I see it, is the alignment between your thoughts, your words and your actions. When you say what you think and you do what you said you’ll do, you have integrity.

This is a crucial trait because if you have integrity, people can trust you. They can trust you to give them an honest feedback, even when it’s hard to shallow, and they can trust you to keep your promises.

This trust is one of the central pillars of a strong relationship, both in your personal and your professional life. So, as challenging as it can be sometimes, always try to have integrity.

Be honest with the people around you, even when this will initially hurt them. It’s more important for them to trust you than to not feel hurt. And always do what you promised. Even better, think twice before you promise anything, and only promise what you really can and you are willing to do.

5. Be There for Others

Another central pillar of strong relationships is support. Connections between people grow sturdy if they can rely on each other for support when it’s needed, whether that support means a few kind words or several massive actions.

Of course, you can’t be there for everybody, all the time. Your time, energy and other resources are limited. But what you can do is identify the genuinely important people in your life and then seek to be there as much as possible, at least for them.

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Your support will help them practically, and it will comfort them emotionally; which makes one hell of a difference in a relationship.

The Bottom Line

With the right mindset and the right behavior, you can strengthen a wide range of relationships in your life and advance them as far as they can be advanced.

And with strong relationships, not only that you feel more fulfilled, but you feel more connected to the entire world. You feel that your life has real value, you have more fun and you live in the moment. An entire world of opportunities opens up in front of you.

Then your task is to simply walk through the open doors.

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