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7 Things All Boys Should Understand About Being A Man

7 Things All Boys Should Understand About Being A Man

Nowadays, the trend is that people don’t want to grow up. Just like in “Peter Pan,” boys do whatever they can to stave off the burden of manhood. Video games, sports, serial dating, not taking jobs seriously–this is all evidence of a growing trend of men trying to stay boys for longer than normal. But being a man is not all that bad. It actually comes with a lot of perks. For that reason, we have compiled a list of things that boys need to understand to become men.

Be humble and classy, because the world truly is neither

Once you get out into the world for real, you will notice that nearly no one can accomplish anything without taking pictures and talking about it. Men do not do this. Being a man is about achieving every day, succeeding in ways that only matter to you, and really, truly enjoying those successes only for yourself. Chances are you are never going to earn a parade for your work, and no one is going to name an award after you, and that’s fine. Do you job anyway.

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Women are thoughtful, intelligent, and equal to men

A lot of dating culture boys learn going through college has them treating women like objects and has them thinking of dating as if it’s a game. Many boys will spend years acting in this way. But being a man is about recognizing the worth of the fairer sex–they are usually more level-headed and nurturing to men, and are definitely equal in every way. Loving a woman isn’t about owning her or winning her body in any way. It’s about recognizing her equality feeling privileged to share love with her.

Take care of the elderly, children, and animals

When becoming a man, it is important to learn to tend to those who need it. If you’re on a bus, give out your seat for the elderly. If you see a child struggling to reach something at the grocery store, help them grab it. If you see a lost dog on the street, catch it and return it. These are all small tasks that just help society run smoother, and they cost you very little.

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Cooking and cleaning are essential skills

Boys are often thought of as slobs. But being a man means being able to take care of yourself. So learn how to pickup your clothes off the ground and make sure you can cook a dish or two. Eating boiled hot dogs over the sink gets old quickly, so start learning early.

Read books, watch movies, and learn about the world outside your experience

Being a man means knowing a little bit about history and being able to talk about it. It also means being able to talk about your favorite book or describe a scene from a movie you like. Any medium that offers a way to broaden your horizon is one you should be consuming.

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Sometimes,you have to fight

Most tense situations can indeed be easily diffused with a joke or some calm talking. But other times, you have to fight. Being a man is about being able to recognize the difference between those two situations and being able to act accordingly. I’m not advocating that every conflict you have in a bar turn into a brawl; rather, I’m saying that a man knows which ones need to and which ones can be resolved in other ways.

Life isn’t about just getting things, but also maintaining things

This is a lesson I am still learn. Acquisition of prized objects or amazing goals may come easy to you, and that’s great. But being a man is about keeping that success going, or maintaining the objects that you obtain. Otherwise, things will fall apart, and you’ll be back at square one.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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