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7 Inspiring TED Talks That’ll Help You Get Through Difficult Times

7 Inspiring TED Talks That’ll Help You Get Through Difficult Times

Are you facing adversities and in need of positive messages to help you get through difficult days? All of us have to deal with feelings of failure, loneliness, and blah-ness. Sometimes we lack focus, calmness or positivity.

I’m excited to pass on the following 7 TED Talk videos that are both comforting and inspiring. TED Talks motivate the viewer to take action to make a change in their lives.

During difficult times, we might feel confused and unclear about how to move ahead. Taking a time out for some Ted Talks is a positive step forward.

Try one of the following and be inspired today!

1. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, you could benefit from using this “10 Minutes a Day” technique.

This is a great 10-minute video from Andy Puddicombe explaining the necessity for keeping the mind healthy. His positive technique involves doing absolutely nothing for 10 minutes each day. Simple, eh?

The benefits are huge. You’ll experience a greater sense of calmness in your life, particularly if you’re feeling overwhelmed.

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Andy contrasts his positive technique with the negative ways people often handle being overwhelmed. These include burying yourself in work or taking medication.

You can’t change every little thing that happens to you in life.  However, after listening to Andy, you’ll know how to change the way you handle life’s experiences.

2. If you’re feeling like a failure, you might be ready to learn this important key to success.

In this 6 minute video, Angela Duckworth explains her view that the key to success isn’t necessarily being smart. Her message, backed by her own research, focuses on having grit. That’s her key ingredient for success.

Angela suggests that it’s okay to fail or to be wrong. Failure isn’t a permanent situation. Simply start over again—but this time, be gritty.

3. If you’re feeling alone, you could try clarifying what is most meaningful in your life.

Candy Chang gives a brief talk about what life meant to her after she lost someone she loved dearly. She realized she wasn’t alone when she conducted an experiment. She asked many people the question, “Before I die I want to … ” and received some thought-provoking answers.

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Have you thought about what is most meaningful in your life? Just refuse to let day-to-day pressure dominate your life. You’ll find you have time for friendship and community involvement. That lonely feeling will be lessened.

Be inspired by Candy’s account of her creative community activity. It’s a video of reflection and contemplation and how thinking about death clarifies life.

4. If you’re feeling stuck in a rut, you’ll probably enjoy following this 30-Day Challenge technique.

In this TED talk, Matt Cutts details his special technique—the 30 Day Challenge—guaranteed to move anyone out of the rut they’re in. Matt challenges you to make small, sustainable changes to your life. You’ll build self-confidence through achieving the changes you make.

Follow Matt’s ideas to make your moments more memorable. It’s true, as Matt says, that if you really want something badly enough, 30 days gives a reasonable time frame within which to accomplish your goal. It would, don’t you agree?

Well, take on Matt’s challenge and move ahead from today. This 3 minute video should bring lots of positive results with it. Well, what are you waiting for?

5. If you’re feeling stressed, you might find the key you’ve been looking for to unlock your feelings.

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In this 10 minute video, Tara Igoe shares how she found her way back from the darkest period of her life. She views stress as a trigger to start thinking deeply about our feelings, so we understand them more.

Follow Tara’s steps to unlocking your feelings and free yourself from the grip of stress.

Do you always experience stress and anxiety as negative situations? Instead, find freedom by viewing these feelings as opportunities for transformation.

You’ll find this video enlightening as it brings a different angle to coping with stress.

6. If you’re feeling negative, you can focus on the good things in your life to bring that smile back.

Alison Ledgerwood gives a thought-provoking talk about changing from a negative to a positive frame of mind. She admits that making such a change isn’t easy.

Why does failure stick in our minds longer than success? Alison answers this question and others.

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What can you take away from this talk? You’ll leave being more aware of why negatives tend to stick in the mind. With this knowledge, you can use Alison’s quick way of changing negative feelings into happy ones.

Adopt this simple idea that will make you smile.

7. If you’re feeling blah, you can lift your spirits quickly by marveling at the music created by this young violinist.

Are you feeling blah or very ordinary about your life just now? Let Sirena Huang, a brilliant 11-year-old violinist, work her magic on you.

This is a feel-good TED Talk. You’ll relax as you marvel at her performance. It’s obvious that Sirena loves playing her instrument. You’ve probably heard the saying that music is food for the soul. Well, prepare yourself for the beauty of the music that this young person creates to feed your soul.

You’ll be amazed at how uplifted you’ll feel.

If you’re facing adversities, I hope you’ve found comfort and inspiration from viewing the above TED Talk videos. They contain many actionable ideas that can lift you up from even your darkest moments. So try some of these to put a smile back on your face. Hopefully they’ll transform your pain into purpose.

Featured photo credit: Andy Puddicombe All it takes is 10 mindful minutes via tedcdnpi-a.akamaihd.net

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Last Updated on February 21, 2019

The Secret to Effective Conflict Resolution: The IBR Approach

The Secret to Effective Conflict Resolution: The IBR Approach

In business, in social relationships, in family… In whatever context conflict is always inevitable, especially when you are in the leader role. This role equals “make decisions for the best of majority” and the remaining are not amused. Conflicts arise.

Conflicts arise when we want to push for a better quality work but some members want to take a break from work.

Conflicts arise when we as citizens want more recreational facilities but the Government has to balance the needs to maintain tourism growth.

Conflicts are literally everywhere.

Avoiding Conflicts a No-No and Resolving Conflicts a Win-Win

Avoiding conflicts seem to be a viable option for us. The cruel fact is, it isn’t. Conflicts won’t walk away by themselves. They will, instead, escalate and haunt you back even more when we finally realize that’s no way we can let it be.

Moreover, avoiding conflicts will eventually intensify the misunderstanding among the involved parties. And the misunderstanding severely hinders open communication which later on the parties tend to keep things secret. This is obviously detrimental to teamwork.

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Some may view conflicts as the last step before arguments. And they thus leave it aside as if they never happen. This is not true.

Conflicts are the intersect point between different individuals with different opinions. And this does not necessarily lead to argument.

Instead, proper handling of conflicts can actually result in a win-win situation – both parties are pleased and allies are gained. A better understanding between each other and future conflicts are less likely to happen.

The IBR Approach to Resolve Conflicts

Here, we introduce to you an effective approach to resolve conflicts – the Interest-Based Relational (IBR) approach. The IBR approach was developed by Roger Fisher and William Ury in their 1981 book Getting to Yes. It stresses the importance of the separation between people and their emotions from the problem. Another focus of the approach is to build mutual understanding and respect as they strengthen bonds among parties and can ultimately help resolve conflicts in a harmonious way. The approach suggests a 6-step procedure for conflict resolution:

Step 1: Prioritize Good Relationships

How? Before addressing the problem or even starting the discussion, make it clear the conflict can result in a mutual trouble and through subsequent respectful negotiation the conflict can be resolved peacefully. And that brings the best outcome to the whole team by working together.

Why? It is easy to overlook own cause of the conflict and point the finger to the members with different opinions. With such a mindset, it is likely to blame rather than to listen to the others and fail to acknowledge the problem completely. Such a discussion manner will undermine the good relationships among the members and aggravate the problem.

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Example: Before discussion, stress that the problem is never one’s complete fault. Everyone is responsible for it. Then, it is important to point out our own involvement in the problem and state clearly we are here to listen to everyone’s opinions rather than accusing others.

Step 2: People Are NOT the Cause of Problem

How? State clearly the problem is never one-sided. Collaborative effort is needed. More importantly, note the problem should not be taken personally. We are not making accusations on persons but addressing the problem itself.

Why? Once things taken personally, everything will go out of control. People will become irrational and neglect others’ opinions. We are then unable to address the problem properly because we cannot grasp a fuller and clearer picture of the problem due to presumption.

Example: In spite of the confronting opinions, we have to emphasize that the problem is not a result of the persons but probably the different perspectives to view it. So, if we try to look at the problem from the other’s perspective, we may understand why there are varied opinions.

Step 3: Listen From ALL Stances

How? Do NOT blame others. It is of utmost importance. Ask for everyone’s opinions. It is important to let everyone feel that they contribute to the discussion. Tell them their involvement is essential to solve the problem and their effort is very much appreciated.

Why? None wants to be ignored. If one feels neglected, it is very likely for he/she to be aggressive. It is definitely not what we hope to see in a discussion. Acknowledging and being acknowledged are equally important. So, make sure everyone has equal opportunity to express their views. Also, realizing their opinions are not neglected, they will be more receptive to other opinions.

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Example: A little trick can played here: Invite others to talk first. It is an easy way to let others feel involved and ,more importantly, know their voices are heard. Also, we can show that we are actively listening to them by giving direct eye-contact and nodding. One important to note is that never interrupt anyone. Always let them finish first beforeanother one begins.

Step 4: Listen Comes First, Talk Follows

How? Ensure everyone has listened to one another points of view. It can be done by taking turn to speak and leaving the discussion part at last. State once again the problem is nothing personal and no accusation should be made.

Why? By turn-taking, everyone can finish talking and voices of all sides can be heard indiscriminantly. This can promote willingness to listen to opposing opinions.

Example: We can prepare pieces of paper with different numbers written on them. Then, ask different members to pick one and talk according to the sequence of the number. After everyone’s finished, advise everyone to use “I” more than “You” in the discussion period to avoid others thinking that it is an accusation.

Step 5: Understand the Facts, Then Address the Problem

How? List out ALL the facts first. Ask everyone to tell what they know about the problems.

Why? Sometimes your facts are unknown to the others while they may know something we don’t. Missing out on these facts could possibly lead to inaccurate capture of the problem. Also, different known facts can lead to different perception of the matter. It also helps everyone better understand the problem and can eventually help reach a solution.

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Example: While everyone is expressing their own views, ask them to write down everything they know that is true to the problem. As soon as everyone has finished, all facts can be noted and everyone’s understanding of the problem is raised.

Step 6: Solve the Problem Together

How? Knowing what everyone’s thinking, it is now time to resolve the conflict. Up to this point, everyone should have understood the problem better. So, it is everyone’s time to suggest some solutions. It is important not to have one giving all the solutions.

Why? Having everyone suggesting their solutions is important as they will not feel excluded and their opinions are considered. Besides, it may also generate more solutions that can better resolve the conflicts. Everyone will more likely be satisfied with the result.

Example: After discussion, ask all members to suggest any possible solutions and stress that all solutions are welcomed. State clearly that we are looking for the best outcomes for everyone’s sake rather than battling to win over one another. Then, evaluate all the solutions and pick the one that is in favor of everyone.

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