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7 Inspiring TED Talks That’ll Help You Get Through Difficult Times

7 Inspiring TED Talks That’ll Help You Get Through Difficult Times

Are you facing adversities and in need of positive messages to help you get through difficult days? All of us have to deal with feelings of failure, loneliness, and blah-ness. Sometimes we lack focus, calmness or positivity.

I’m excited to pass on the following 7 TED Talk videos that are both comforting and inspiring. TED Talks motivate the viewer to take action to make a change in their lives.

During difficult times, we might feel confused and unclear about how to move ahead. Taking a time out for some Ted Talks is a positive step forward.

Try one of the following and be inspired today!

1. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, you could benefit from using this “10 Minutes a Day” technique.

This is a great 10-minute video from Andy Puddicombe explaining the necessity for keeping the mind healthy. His positive technique involves doing absolutely nothing for 10 minutes each day. Simple, eh?

The benefits are huge. You’ll experience a greater sense of calmness in your life, particularly if you’re feeling overwhelmed.

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Andy contrasts his positive technique with the negative ways people often handle being overwhelmed. These include burying yourself in work or taking medication.

You can’t change every little thing that happens to you in life.  However, after listening to Andy, you’ll know how to change the way you handle life’s experiences.

2. If you’re feeling like a failure, you might be ready to learn this important key to success.

In this 6 minute video, Angela Duckworth explains her view that the key to success isn’t necessarily being smart. Her message, backed by her own research, focuses on having grit. That’s her key ingredient for success.

Angela suggests that it’s okay to fail or to be wrong. Failure isn’t a permanent situation. Simply start over again—but this time, be gritty.

3. If you’re feeling alone, you could try clarifying what is most meaningful in your life.

Candy Chang gives a brief talk about what life meant to her after she lost someone she loved dearly. She realized she wasn’t alone when she conducted an experiment. She asked many people the question, “Before I die I want to … ” and received some thought-provoking answers.

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Have you thought about what is most meaningful in your life? Just refuse to let day-to-day pressure dominate your life. You’ll find you have time for friendship and community involvement. That lonely feeling will be lessened.

Be inspired by Candy’s account of her creative community activity. It’s a video of reflection and contemplation and how thinking about death clarifies life.

4. If you’re feeling stuck in a rut, you’ll probably enjoy following this 30-Day Challenge technique.

In this TED talk, Matt Cutts details his special technique—the 30 Day Challenge—guaranteed to move anyone out of the rut they’re in. Matt challenges you to make small, sustainable changes to your life. You’ll build self-confidence through achieving the changes you make.

Follow Matt’s ideas to make your moments more memorable. It’s true, as Matt says, that if you really want something badly enough, 30 days gives a reasonable time frame within which to accomplish your goal. It would, don’t you agree?

Well, take on Matt’s challenge and move ahead from today. This 3 minute video should bring lots of positive results with it. Well, what are you waiting for?

5. If you’re feeling stressed, you might find the key you’ve been looking for to unlock your feelings.

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In this 10 minute video, Tara Igoe shares how she found her way back from the darkest period of her life. She views stress as a trigger to start thinking deeply about our feelings, so we understand them more.

Follow Tara’s steps to unlocking your feelings and free yourself from the grip of stress.

Do you always experience stress and anxiety as negative situations? Instead, find freedom by viewing these feelings as opportunities for transformation.

You’ll find this video enlightening as it brings a different angle to coping with stress.

6. If you’re feeling negative, you can focus on the good things in your life to bring that smile back.

Alison Ledgerwood gives a thought-provoking talk about changing from a negative to a positive frame of mind. She admits that making such a change isn’t easy.

Why does failure stick in our minds longer than success? Alison answers this question and others.

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What can you take away from this talk? You’ll leave being more aware of why negatives tend to stick in the mind. With this knowledge, you can use Alison’s quick way of changing negative feelings into happy ones.

Adopt this simple idea that will make you smile.

7. If you’re feeling blah, you can lift your spirits quickly by marveling at the music created by this young violinist.

Are you feeling blah or very ordinary about your life just now? Let Sirena Huang, a brilliant 11-year-old violinist, work her magic on you.

This is a feel-good TED Talk. You’ll relax as you marvel at her performance. It’s obvious that Sirena loves playing her instrument. You’ve probably heard the saying that music is food for the soul. Well, prepare yourself for the beauty of the music that this young person creates to feed your soul.

You’ll be amazed at how uplifted you’ll feel.

If you’re facing adversities, I hope you’ve found comfort and inspiration from viewing the above TED Talk videos. They contain many actionable ideas that can lift you up from even your darkest moments. So try some of these to put a smile back on your face. Hopefully they’ll transform your pain into purpose.

Featured photo credit: Andy Puddicombe All it takes is 10 mindful minutes via tedcdnpi-a.akamaihd.net

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Last Updated on January 16, 2020

12 Simple Ways to Boost Your Confidence Right Now

12 Simple Ways to Boost Your Confidence Right Now

The way you feel about yourself greatly influences how you live and interact with others. If you are confident about yourself, you tend to see yourself positively and actually enjoy spending time with and around people. You don’t feel self-conscious or awkward around others, and that allows you to live your fullest and happiest life.

However, if you’re drowning in a sea of self-doubt, hesitancy and shyness, you often withdraw and isolate yourself from others and avoid interacting and connecting with people. That anxiety you feel in the pit of your stomach when you are around people is holding you back greatly and it is not good for your emotional health and overall well-being. You need to do something about it if you are low in self-confidence or have friends or family members who are not confident.

“Confidence isn’t walking into a room thinking you’re better than everyone, it’s walking in not having to compare yourself to anyone” – Anonymous

Here are simple, practical tips to boost your confidence right now and make you feel and act your best.

1. Stop labeling yourself as awkward, timid or shy.

When you label yourself as awkward, timid or shy, you sub-consciously tell your mind to act accordingly and psychologically feel inclined to live up to those expectations. Instead of labeling and entertaining negative self-talk, visualize and affirm yourself as confident and strong. Close your eyes for a minute and visualize yourself in different situation as you would like to be.

Be your own cheerleader. Experts believe that positive affirmation and good mental practices like picturing yourself winning or achieving a goal can lead to greater feelings of self-assurance and prepare your brain for success.[1] As the saying goes, “seeing is believing.” Picture yourself as confident and soon enough you will begin to manifest behavior that gives evidence to this new ‘fact.’

2. Recognize that the world is not focused on you (unless, of course, you are Kanye West).

That means you don’t have to be excessively sensitive about who you are or what you are doing (or not doing). You are not on the center stage; there is no need for preoccupation with self and perfectionism. As rap music star Rocko sings, “You just do you and I will do me, aight?”

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Forget about trying to please everyone or being perfect. Trying to be perfect and being a people-pleaser puts too much pressure on you and creates unnecessary anxiety. Besides, people are too preoccupied with their own issues to pay much attention to your every move unless, of course, you are a mega famous, super celebrity like Beyonce or Kanye West.

3. Focus on other people as opposed to yourself.

If you are low on confidence, self-conscious, nervous and shy in social situations, focus your attention on other people and what they are saying or doing instead of focusing on your own awkwardness.

For example, think about what it is that is interesting about the person who’s the centre of the party or the guy or girl you are talking with. Prompt them to talk more about themselves and be genuinely curious and interested in what they say. You will instantly come across as confident and warmhearted.

People generally want to talk about themselves, be heard and understood. They will love it when you’re eager and willing to listen to them and really hear what they have to say.

This habit of focusing more on what you love in others as opposed to what you dislike in yourself will not only help you become more assertive and comfortable in virtually all social situations, but also instantly make you feel great about yourself.

4. Know (and accept) yourself for who you are.

Chinese military general, strategist and philosopher Sun Tzu, author of the internationally acclaimed book The Art of War, said, “Know yourself and you will win all battles.” Even in the battle with lack of confidence, you will need to know yourself to win.

Knowing yourself starts with understanding that people are not all the same, neither are all social situation suitable for everyone. You might not be confident in large gatherings, but you could be bold and confident in one-on-one and small group interactions. We all have our own unique gifts and unique ways of expressing ourselves. Embrace yours!

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Introverts, for example, have a quiet confidence that is, unfortunately, often confused for shyness. They are naturally low key and prefer to spend time alone. However, this natural disposition affords them certain unique gifts, such as an ability to listen better than most people and notice things that others don’t.

Your uniqueness is where your strength and advantage lies. You won’t be comfortable and confident in all situations all the time. Albert Einstein said,

“Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”

5. Crack a smile.

If there is one sure way to instantly boost your confidence, it’s cracking a smile. Christine Clapp, a public speaking expert at The George Washington University, says that flashing those pretty, pearly white teeth will immediately make you appear both confident and composed. But, the effect of smiling is not just external. Studies show that smiling can also help nix feelings of stress and pave the way for a happier and more relaxed you.[2]

Not a bad return for something seemingly so trite, wouldn’t you agree?

6. Break a sweat—with exercise.

Working out is another great way to make yourself feel amazing and confident. Science has shown that exercising increases your endorphins, helps reduce stress, tones your muscles and makes you feel happy and confident.[3]

And hey, all you have to do is take a walk a few times a week and you’ll see the benefits. What seems to matter—as far as your confidence goes—is whether you break a sweat, not how strenuous your session is, which is pretty cool. Start working out now.

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7. Groom yourself.

This might seem mundane, but it’s amazing how much of a difference a shower and shave can have on your confidence and self-image. And when you spritz on a scent, the boost on confidence and self-esteem is incredible. As it turns out, your favorite fragrance does more than make you smell oh-so-nice.

A study found that a fragrance can inspire confidence in men. Interestingly, the study also found that the more a man likes the fragrance, the more confident he might feel. Another study found that 90% of women feel more confident while wearing a scent than those who go fragrance-free.

8. Dress nicely.

Another one that might seem trite, but it works. If you dress nicely, you’ll instantly feel good about yourself and give your confidence a real boost. That is largely because you’ll feel attractive, presentable and sometimes even successful in nice clothes.

While dressing nicely means something different for everyone, it does not necessarily mean wearing $500 designer outfits. It means wearing clothes that are clean, that you are comfortable in and that are nice-looking and presentable, including casual clothes.

9. Do activities you enjoy.

Whether it is reading a book, playing a musical instrument, riding your bicycle or going fishing, do what you really enjoy and what makes you truly happy often. It will boost your self-esteem, soothe your ego and allow you to identify with your gifts and talents. That will in turn bolster your self-belief and grow your confidence exponentially.

You might not become popular for doing what you love, but you might not even want to be popular at all. Being popular doesn’t make you happy; doing what you love does.

10. Prepare for the possibility of rejection / setback.

Late World No. 1 professional tennis player Arthur Ashe said, “One important key to success is self-confidence. A key to self-confidence is preparation.” You need to prepare for the possibility of rejection and setback.

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Why?

Everybody suffers rejection and setback at one point or another. You are not exempted. The question on your mind, therefore, should not be if you will be rejected, but how you will handle rejection when it comes.

Prepare yourself adequately in every situation to minimize the risk and effect of rejection and so that your confidence is not broken. For example, learn public speaking and rehearse what you are going to say beforehand if you have landed a public speaking engagement. That way, you are sure of yourself and confident you have what it takes to hack it. If you are rejected, don’t take it personally.

Rejection and setbacks happen to the best of us. Take it as a learning experience. Learn from your mistakes and move on.

11. Face uncomfortable situations square in the face.

Don’t run away from uncomfortable situations. Running away from people or situations because you feel scared, shy or timid only confirms and reinforces your shyness. Instead, face the situation that makes you uneasy square in the face. For example, go ahead and talk to that person you are afraid to approach, or go straight to the front of your yoga class! What’s the worst that can happen?

Prepare and be ready for any eventuality. The more you face your fears, the more you realize you are stronger than you thought and the more confident you get. This simple, yet admittedly courageous, act makes you unstoppable. You get comfortable being uncomfortable and begin to feel like you can take on the world. And that is the hallmark of someone destined for great things.

12. Sit up straight and walk tall—you are awesome!

Yes, sit up straight and believe you are awesome. Don’t slump in your chair or slouch your shoulders. Experts say the right stance can not only keep your self-esteem and mood lifted, but also lead to more confidence in your own thoughts.[4]

The way to sit is to open up your chest and keep your head level so that you look and feel poised and assured. And when you get up, stand tall and walk like you’re on a mission. People who sit up straight and walk tall are more attractive and instantly feel more confident. Try it now: you’ll feel fierce and confident just by sitting up straight and walking tall.

Featured photo credit: Freshh Connection via unsplash.com

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