“Oh, you hate your job? Why didn’t you say so? There’s a support group for that. It’s called everybody, and they meet at the bar.”
Admit it, one of your favorite things to say is “I hate my job.” It’s not that you want to hate it. You’d like nothing more than to have a job that you love. But your job just makes it impossible. And so you have to vent just to survive. When someone cuts you off in traffic, or they’re rude to you at a store, you feel a need to tell someone about it just to make yourself feel better and to get over the shock.
The same is true about your experience at work. The difference is, you have to keep going back to work day after day and subjecting yourself to the same horror. But you might not feel like you have a choice. Everyone around you seems to be having the same problem, so it begins to feel normal, even though it’s bad – really bad. In fact, you might feel like your job is killing you, and you might just be right.Advertising
Basically, if you’re like most people, you don’t like being at work, or you really don’t like being at work. If you love your job, you’re a rare exception. But why is this happening? Why does everyone seem to hate work? Are we all just lazy? No. There are other forces at play.
Here are 10 reasons why almost everyone you know hates their job:
You’re not allowed to be creative.
Your job has certain red tape and requirements that you must abide by. Sure, there are times when rules and standards work. But there are also times when new ways of thinking would improve things tremendously. The problem is at your job, no one seems to know the difference. You work with brainless drones who follow protocol even if it makes no sense.
No one listens to you.
You’re the first to admit that you’re not always right. But sometimes you actually are, and if anyone was listening they would know that. It would be nice if you weren’t invisible.Advertising
You don’t like the people.
You’re pretty easy to get along with. But the people you work with? It’s hard to know where they found them. Needless to say, your personalities just don’t fit, and you’d love to find a job with people who think more like you do.
You don’t like your boss.
You’re not sure how your boss got the job. Either she is the Devil that wears Prada, or she can’t make a decision to save the whole Titanic. Either way, you want to strangle her, but of course, you can’t (and avoid a homicide charge).
You find your work boring.
Wait, what? Oh, sorry, I fell asleep there. . .
Your schedule isn’t flexible.
Forget about your kid’s soccer games. You’d be lucky to get there if your kid was being born. Ok, maybe even your work isn’t that bad. (If it is email me and I’ll feel bad for you personally.) But seriously, did these people ever hear of work/life balance?Advertising
You don’t feel like you’re making much of a difference.
At the end of a long, hard workday, if you don’t feel like you cared about what you did. You probably leave wondering what the point is. It makes it hard to be motivated to get up and do it all over again.
It doesn’t tap into your real talents and who you are.
Do you ever get the feeling that you could dress a random stranger up like you and send them in to do your job and no one would notice? If you feel like you’re completely interchangeable, your job probably doesn’t connect with the parts of you that make you YOU. How great would it be to have a job that really needed you everyday?
It’s out of your comfort zone – in a bad way.
Remember going up in front of the class with that sick feeling in your stomach because you didn’t know the answers? If your job feels like that everyday, you probably hate it. You might have somehow found yourself in a job that you don’t feel prepared for or feel particularly good at. If you’re feeling like a fraud, it’s not because you’re not good at anything, it’s because this job isn’t right for you.
You don’t like the company or its policies.
Maybe you don’t like what your company stands for or how it does business. Maybe you’d feel more at home in a smaller company or a place that has more flexible or family-friendly policies. If your company’s values and your own don’t align, you might feel like you’re being forced to compromise yourself in ways that don’t sit right.Advertising
Do these resonate?
If you said yes to one or more then you’re not alone. And, that’s bad. That’s bad for you. But it’s also bad for all of us in terms of economic costs and lost productivity. But there is good news. Even though most people don’t like their jobs, you don’t have to be one of them. You might want to consider making a change. Now that you know 10 things that will make you hate your job with a passion, you can find a better job next time.
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Last Updated on July 27, 2020
How to Find Your Entrepreneurial Passion and Purpose
I wrote a few articles about starting a business based on something you love doing and are passionate about. I received several responses from people saying they weren’t sure how to go about figuring out what they were most passionate about or how to find their true purpose. So I’m dedicating this article to these issues — how to find your entrepreneurial passion and purpose.
When I work with a new client, the first thing we talk about is lifestyle design. I ask each client, “What do you want your life to look like?” If you designed a business without answering this question, you could create a nice, profitable business that is completely incompatible with your goals in life. You’d be making money, but you’d probably be miserable.
When you’re looking for your life purpose, lifestyle design isn’t a crucial component. However, since we’re talking about entrepreneurial purpose, lifestyle design is indeed crucial to building a business that you’ll enjoy and truly be passionate about.
For example, say you want to spend more time at home with your family. Would you be happy with a business that kept you in an office or out of town much of the time? On the flip side, if you wanted to travel and see the world, how well could you accomplish that goal if your business required your presence, day in and day out, to survive? So start by getting some clarity on your personal goals and spend some time working on designing your life.
At this point, you may need a little prodding, and you may want to hire a coach or mentor to work with you through this process. Many people are very used to the idea that there is a particular way a life “should” be. There are certain milestones most people tend to live by, and if you don’t meet those markers when or in the manner you’re “supposed” to meet them, that can cause some anxiety.
Here’s how to find your passion and purpose:
Give Yourself Permission to Dream a Little
Remember that this is your life and you can live it however you choose. Call it meditation or fantasy, but let your imagination run here. And answer this question:
“If you had no fears or financial limitations, what would your ideal life, one in which you could be totally content and happy, look like?”
Once you’ve figured out your lifestyle design, it’s time to do a little more soul-searching to figure out what you’re truly passionate about. This is a time to really look within and look back.
Specifically, look back over your life history. When were you the happiest? What did you enjoy doing the most? Remember that what you’re looking for doesn’t necessarily have to be an entire job, but can actually be aspects of your past jobs or hobbies that you’ve really enjoyed.
Think About a Larger Life Purpose
Many successful entrepreneurs have earned their place in history by setting out to make a difference in the world. Is there a specific issue or cause that is important to you or that you’re particularly passionate about?
For some, this process of discovery may come easily. You may go through these questions and thought experiments and find the answers quickly. For others, it may be more difficult. In some cases, you may suffer from a generalized lack of passion and purpose in your life.
Sometimes, this can come from having suppressed passion in your life for too long. Sometimes, it can come from eating poorly and lack of exercise. But occasionally, it may have something to do with your internal chemistry or programming. If the latter applies to you, it may be useful for you to seek help in the form of a coach, mentor, or counselor.
In other cases, not knowing your true purpose may be a matter of having not discovered it yet: you may not have found anything that makes your heart beat faster. If this is the case, now is the time to explore!
The Internet is a fantastic tool for learning and exploration. Search hobbies and careers and learn as much as you can about any topic that triggers your interest, then follow up at the library on the things that really intrigue you. Again, remember that this is your life and only you can give yourself permission to explore all that the world has available to you.
How Do You Know When You’ve Found Your True Entrepreneurial Purpose?
I can only tell you how I knew when I had discovered my own — it didn’t hit me like a ton of bricks. Rather, it settled over me, bringing a deep sense of peace and commitment. It felt like I had arrived home and knew exactly what to do and how to proceed.
Everything flowed easily from that point forward. That’s not to say that I found success immediately after that moment. But rather, the path ahead of me was clear, so I knew what to do.
Decisions were easier and came faster to me. And success has come on MY terms, according to my own definitions of what success means to me in my own lifestyle design.
Dig deep, look within, and seek whatever help you need. Once you find that purpose and passion, your life — not just your entrepreneurial life, but your entire life — will never be the same.
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