“Oh, you hate your job? Why didn’t you say so? There’s a support group for that. It’s called everybody, and they meet at the bar.”
Admit it, one of your favorite things to say is “I hate my job.” It’s not that you want to hate it. You’d like nothing more than to have a job that you love. But your job just makes it impossible. And so you have to vent just to survive. When someone cuts you off in traffic, or they’re rude to you at a store, you feel a need to tell someone about it just to make yourself feel better and to get over the shock.
The same is true about your experience at work. The difference is, you have to keep going back to work day after day and subjecting yourself to the same horror. But you might not feel like you have a choice. Everyone around you seems to be having the same problem, so it begins to feel normal, even though it’s bad – really bad. In fact, you might feel like your job is killing you, and you might just be right.Advertising
Basically, if you’re like most people, you don’t like being at work, or you really don’t like being at work. If you love your job, you’re a rare exception. But why is this happening? Why does everyone seem to hate work? Are we all just lazy? No. There are other forces at play.
Here are 10 reasons why almost everyone you know hates their job:
You’re not allowed to be creative.
Your job has certain red tape and requirements that you must abide by. Sure, there are times when rules and standards work. But there are also times when new ways of thinking would improve things tremendously. The problem is at your job, no one seems to know the difference. You work with brainless drones who follow protocol even if it makes no sense.
No one listens to you.
You’re the first to admit that you’re not always right. But sometimes you actually are, and if anyone was listening they would know that. It would be nice if you weren’t invisible.Advertising
You don’t like the people.
You’re pretty easy to get along with. But the people you work with? It’s hard to know where they found them. Needless to say, your personalities just don’t fit, and you’d love to find a job with people who think more like you do.
You don’t like your boss.
You’re not sure how your boss got the job. Either she is the Devil that wears Prada, or she can’t make a decision to save the whole Titanic. Either way, you want to strangle her, but of course, you can’t (and avoid a homicide charge).
You find your work boring.
Wait, what? Oh, sorry, I fell asleep there. . .
Your schedule isn’t flexible.
Forget about your kid’s soccer games. You’d be lucky to get there if your kid was being born. Ok, maybe even your work isn’t that bad. (If it is email me and I’ll feel bad for you personally.) But seriously, did these people ever hear of work/life balance?Advertising
You don’t feel like you’re making much of a difference.
At the end of a long, hard workday, if you don’t feel like you cared about what you did. You probably leave wondering what the point is. It makes it hard to be motivated to get up and do it all over again.
It doesn’t tap into your real talents and who you are.
Do you ever get the feeling that you could dress a random stranger up like you and send them in to do your job and no one would notice? If you feel like you’re completely interchangeable, your job probably doesn’t connect with the parts of you that make you YOU. How great would it be to have a job that really needed you everyday?
It’s out of your comfort zone – in a bad way.
Remember going up in front of the class with that sick feeling in your stomach because you didn’t know the answers? If your job feels like that everyday, you probably hate it. You might have somehow found yourself in a job that you don’t feel prepared for or feel particularly good at. If you’re feeling like a fraud, it’s not because you’re not good at anything, it’s because this job isn’t right for you.
You don’t like the company or its policies.
Maybe you don’t like what your company stands for or how it does business. Maybe you’d feel more at home in a smaller company or a place that has more flexible or family-friendly policies. If your company’s values and your own don’t align, you might feel like you’re being forced to compromise yourself in ways that don’t sit right.Advertising
Do these resonate?
If you said yes to one or more then you’re not alone. And, that’s bad. That’s bad for you. But it’s also bad for all of us in terms of economic costs and lost productivity. But there is good news. Even though most people don’t like their jobs, you don’t have to be one of them. You might want to consider making a change. Now that you know 10 things that will make you hate your job with a passion, you can find a better job next time.
Know someone who hates their job?(I’m guessing you do.) Please share this post with them!
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Last Updated on October 13, 2020
How to Get Promoted When You Feel Stuck in Your Current Position
Have you been stuck in the same position for too long and don’t really know how to get promoted and advance your career?
Feeling stuck could be caused by a variety of things:
- Taking a job for the money
- Staying with an employer that no longer aligns with your values
- Realizing that you landed yourself in the wrong career
- Not feeling valued or feeling underutilized
- Taking a position without a full understanding of the role
There are many other reasons why you may be feeling this way, but let’s focus instead on learning what to do now in order to get unstuck and get promoted
One of the best ways to get promoted is by showing how you add value to your organization. Did you make money, save money, improve a process, or do some other amazing thing? How else might you demonstrate added value?
Let’s dive right in to how to get promoted when you feel stuck in your current position.
1. Be a Mentor
When I supervised students, I used to warm them — tongue in cheek, of course — about getting really good at their job.
“Be careful not to get too good at this, or you’ll never get to do anything else.”
This was my way of pestering them to take on additional challenges or think outside the box, but there is definitely some truth in doing something so well that your manager doesn’t trust anyone else to do it.
This can get you stuck.
Jo Miller of Be Leaderly shares this insight on when your boss thinks you’re too valuable in your current job:
“Think back to a time when you really enjoyed your current role…You became known for doing your job so well that you built up some strong ‘personal brand’ equity, and people know you as the go-to-person for this particular job. That’s what we call ‘a good problem to have’: you did a really good job of building a positive perception about your suitability for the role, but you may have done ‘too’ good of a job!”
With this in mind, how do you prove to your employer that you can add value by being promoted?
From Miller’s insight, she talks about building your personal brand and becoming known for doing a particular job well. So how can you link that work with a position or project that will earn you a promotion?
Consider leveraging your strengths and skills.
Let’s say that the project you do so well is hiring and training new entry-level employees. You have to post the job listing, read and review resumes, schedule interviews, make hiring decisions, and create the training schedules. These tasks require skills such as employee relations, onboarding, human resources software, performance management, teamwork, collaboration, customer service, and project management. That’s a serious amount of skills!
Are there any team members who can perform these skills? Try delegating and training some of your staff or colleagues to learn your job. There are a number of reasons why this is a good idea:
- Cross-training helps in any situation in the event that there’s an extended illness and the main performer of a certain task is out for a while.
- As a mentor to a supervisee or colleague, you empower them to increase their job skills.
- You are already beginning to demonstrate that added value to your employer by encouraging your team or peers to learn your job and creating team players.
Now that you’ve trained others to do that work for which you have been so valued, you can see about re-requesting that promotion. Explain how you have saved the company money, encouraged employees to increase their skills, or reinvented that project of yours.
2. Work on Your Mindset
Another reason you may feel stuck in a position is explained through this quote:
“If you feel stuck at a job you used to love, it’s normally you—not the job—who needs to change. The position you got hired for is probably the exact same one you have now. But if you start to dread the work routine, you’re going to focus on the negatives.”
In this situation, you should pursue a conversation with your supervisor and share your thoughts and feelings to help you learn how to get promoted. You can probably get some advice on how to rediscover the aspects of that job you enjoyed, and negotiate either some additional duties or a chance to move up.
Don’t express frustration. Express a desire for more.
Present your case and show your boss or supervisor that you want to be challenged, and you want to move up. You want more responsibility in order to continue moving the company forward. Focus on how you can do that with the skills you have and the positive mindset you’ve cultivated.
3. Improve Your Soft Skills
When was the last time you put focus and effort into upping your game with those soft skills? I’m talking about those seemingly intangible things that make you the experienced professional in your specific job skills.
According to research, improving soft skills can boost productivity and retention 12 percent and deliver a 250 percent return on investment based on higher productivity and retention. Those are only some of the benefits for both you and your employer when you want to learn how to get promoted.
You can hone these skills and increase your chances of promotion into a leadership role by taking courses or seminars.
Furthermore, you don’t necessarily need to request funding from your supervisor. There are dozens of online courses being presented by entrepreneurs and authors about these very subjects. Udemy and Creative Live both feature online courses at very reasonable prices. And some come with completion certificates for your portfolio!
Another way to improve your soft skills is by connecting with an employee at your organization who has a position similar to the one you want.
Express your desire to move up in the organization, and ask to shadow that person or see if you can sit in on some of their meetings. Offer to take that individual out for coffee and ask what their secret is! Take copious notes, and then immerse yourself in the learning.
The key here is not to copy your new mentor. Rather, you want to observe, learn, and then adapt according to your strengths.
4. Develop Your Strategy
Do you even know specifically why you want to learn how to get promoted? Do you see a future at this company? Do you have a one-year, five-year, or ten-year plan for your career path? How often do you consider your “why” and insure that it aligns with your “what”?
Sit down and make an old-fashioned pro and con list.
Write down every positive aspect of your current job and then every negative one. Which list is longer? Are there any themes present?
Look at your lists and choose the most exciting pros and the most frustrating cons. Do those two pros make the cons worth it? If you can’t answer that question with a “yes,” then getting promoted at your current organization may not be what you really want.
The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why. —Mark Twain
Here are some questions to ask yourself:
- Why do you do what you do?
- What thrills you about your current job role or career?
- What does a great day look like?
- What does success look and feel like beyond the paycheck?
- How do you want to feel about your impact on the world when you retire?
These questions would be great to reflect on in a journal or with your supervisor in your next one-on-one meeting. Or, bring it up with one of your work friends over coffee.
After considering all of these points and doing your best to learn how to get promoted, what you might find is that being stuck is your choice. Then, you can set yourself on the path of moving up where you are, or moving on to something different.
Because sometimes the real promotion is finding your life’s purpose.
More Tips on How to Get Promoted
- How to Ask for a Promotion and Move up the Career Ladder
- What are the Real Reasons People Get Promoted and Others Don’t?
- 14 Signs Of People Who Advance Rapidly In Their Careers
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|||^||Be Leaderly: Ask Jo: Stuck! When you’re too valuable to be promoted.|
|||^||Forbes: 3 Ways To Reconnect With Your Job When You Feel Stuck|
|||^||The Balance Careers: Hard Skills vs. Soft Skills: What’s the Difference?|
|||^||University of Michigan: Soft skills training boosts productivity|
|||^||GoalCast: Finding Your Why: How to Discover Your Professional Purpose|