“Oh, you hate your job? Why didn’t you say so? There’s a support group for that. It’s called everybody, and they meet at the bar.”
Admit it, one of your favorite things to say is “I hate my job.” It’s not that you want to hate it. You’d like nothing more than to have a job that you love. But your job just makes it impossible. And so you have to vent just to survive. When someone cuts you off in traffic, or they’re rude to you at a store, you feel a need to tell someone about it just to make yourself feel better and to get over the shock.
The same is true about your experience at work. The difference is, you have to keep going back to work day after day and subjecting yourself to the same horror. But you might not feel like you have a choice. Everyone around you seems to be having the same problem, so it begins to feel normal, even though it’s bad – really bad. In fact, you might feel like your job is killing you, and you might just be right.Advertising
Basically, if you’re like most people, you don’t like being at work, or you really don’t like being at work. If you love your job, you’re a rare exception. But why is this happening? Why does everyone seem to hate work? Are we all just lazy? No. There are other forces at play.
Here are 10 reasons why almost everyone you know hates their job:
You’re not allowed to be creative.
Your job has certain red tape and requirements that you must abide by. Sure, there are times when rules and standards work. But there are also times when new ways of thinking would improve things tremendously. The problem is at your job, no one seems to know the difference. You work with brainless drones who follow protocol even if it makes no sense.
No one listens to you.
You’re the first to admit that you’re not always right. But sometimes you actually are, and if anyone was listening they would know that. It would be nice if you weren’t invisible.Advertising
You don’t like the people.
You’re pretty easy to get along with. But the people you work with? It’s hard to know where they found them. Needless to say, your personalities just don’t fit, and you’d love to find a job with people who think more like you do.
You don’t like your boss.
You’re not sure how your boss got the job. Either she is the Devil that wears Prada, or she can’t make a decision to save the whole Titanic. Either way, you want to strangle her, but of course, you can’t (and avoid a homicide charge).
You find your work boring.
Wait, what? Oh, sorry, I fell asleep there. . .
Your schedule isn’t flexible.
Forget about your kid’s soccer games. You’d be lucky to get there if your kid was being born. Ok, maybe even your work isn’t that bad. (If it is email me and I’ll feel bad for you personally.) But seriously, did these people ever hear of work/life balance?Advertising
You don’t feel like you’re making much of a difference.
At the end of a long, hard workday, if you don’t feel like you cared about what you did. You probably leave wondering what the point is. It makes it hard to be motivated to get up and do it all over again.
It doesn’t tap into your real talents and who you are.
Do you ever get the feeling that you could dress a random stranger up like you and send them in to do your job and no one would notice? If you feel like you’re completely interchangeable, your job probably doesn’t connect with the parts of you that make you YOU. How great would it be to have a job that really needed you everyday?
It’s out of your comfort zone – in a bad way.
Remember going up in front of the class with that sick feeling in your stomach because you didn’t know the answers? If your job feels like that everyday, you probably hate it. You might have somehow found yourself in a job that you don’t feel prepared for or feel particularly good at. If you’re feeling like a fraud, it’s not because you’re not good at anything, it’s because this job isn’t right for you.
You don’t like the company or its policies.
Maybe you don’t like what your company stands for or how it does business. Maybe you’d feel more at home in a smaller company or a place that has more flexible or family-friendly policies. If your company’s values and your own don’t align, you might feel like you’re being forced to compromise yourself in ways that don’t sit right.Advertising
Do these resonate?
If you said yes to one or more then you’re not alone. And, that’s bad. That’s bad for you. But it’s also bad for all of us in terms of economic costs and lost productivity. But there is good news. Even though most people don’t like their jobs, you don’t have to be one of them. You might want to consider making a change. Now that you know 10 things that will make you hate your job with a passion, you can find a better job next time.
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Last Updated on April 17, 2019
10 Essential Soft Skills That Will Help Advance Your Career
What’s the secret of professional success? Some of it lies in the mastery of your discipline and all the technical skills you have to carry out your job; but a much bigger part lies in the soft skills list you possess.
Soft skills are your people or relationship skills—how well you get along with others and your ability to communicate and collaborate—as well as the personal characteristics you bring to the job, such as optimism, a can-do attitude and the motivation to work hard. These skills are not always easy to point out, but their absence can cause serious problems and negatively affect the whole work atmosphere.
They say that hard skills will help you get the job, but soft skills will help you get along—and get ahead. With that in mind, here’s the top-10 essential soft skills list to help you advance your career.
1. Communication Skills
Communication skills are hands-down the most sought-after soft skill that bosses want, and this one ability covers a lot of ground.
To communicate well, you have to listen carefully, interpret the context of the conversation, express yourself clearly, persuade others of your point of view, check your body language and use an engaging presentation style that won’t intimidate or bore your audience. That’s a big ask!
Your personality traits can influence the way you communicate with others. For instance, some people get straight to the point and center their arguments around facts and logic; others are cooperative and sensitive to how others feel. Both these approaches are equally valuable but there can be misunderstandings if you don’t understand where the other person is coming from.
Taking a comprehensive personality test can help you understand why you communicate the way you do and where your blind spots are. It can also help you understand other communication styles is so you can tailor your communication to the person you’re dealing with.
After all, connecting with your conversation partner is the hallmark of good communication.
Change is an essential part of any business. Companies need employees who are flexible enough to work with new initiatives, open to new ideas, and generally are able to tough it out when things don’t go as planned.
Research has found a link between job performance and flexibility over the long term because there will be times when you have to step outside your routine and rise to fresh challenges that didn’t exist before.
Being flexible doesn’t mean you have to hop into a new task or job role like an expert. Rather, it’s about showing you’re willing to accept new responsibility and learn different things.
Bosses look for people who are prepared to step outside their comfort zones and are open to alternative solutions when their first idea doesn’t work.
3. Being a Team Player
Working on a team can be challenging but learning to do it well can definitely help you get ahead in your career. Employers look for people who can negotiate, cooperate and manage conflicts with other people to achieve a common goal. That includes the ability to build lasting relationships with customers and clients.
What makes a good team player? Essentially, it’s someone who knows the goal and knows her role. Employers look for evidence that you know your strengths, your responsibilities and how you can best contribute to the team, then put those skills into action by sharing ideas and communicating in a respectful manner. That’s the definition of being a good team player.
This is another area where taking a personality test can help you get ahead. When teams work together, each member brings a unique set of skills and qualities to the group. Research has shown that different combinations of personalities affect how teams collaborate and how productive they are.
Knowing who you are, and how you work on a team, can drive new insights and open the door to better teamwork.
4. Positive Mental Attitude
There are plenty of things you can’t change at work, like the people you work with or the fact that the printer is broken again. The one thing you can change is how much you let these things bother you.
Bosses like people who are calm, rational and upbeat—those who diffuse tensions in the workplace, not get all grouchy and go around slamming doors.
Studies show that people who maintain a sunny disposition have better relationships at work, are happier in their jobs and make better decisions than those who whine and complain. Some suggest that a positive mental attitude can also make you live longer—which means it’s beneficial for every area of your life!
It’s not always easy to keep a “glass half full” mentality when work is stressful and the deadlines are piling up. But there are some things you can do to help maintain a positive attitude. Laughing at your unfortunate circumstances keeps the work environment positive, and taking “sanity” breaks can help you keep your cool in high-pressure situations.
Managers look for positive mental attitude in a team member that is ready for a promotion, so it really does pay to keep your cool in challenging situations.
5. A Strong Work Ethic
People with a strong work ethic are committed to the role, persevere when things get tough and are inspired by challenge. These people are ambassadors for the organization, and will always be seen as top talent and ideal candidates.
If you can exhibit this skill, then expect to be seen as a great candidate, eligible for new opportunities and positions throughout your career.
Since a strong work ethic can mean different things to different people, it helps to show specific examples of your exceptional work ethic during a performance appraisal or interview. For instance, you might talk about:
- A time when you persisted in the face of challenges and did not shy away from hard work.
- How you volunteered to help with projects even though these tasks did not form part of your job description.
- The networking, workplace learning and skills betterment you’ve undertaken, which shows ambition and drive (people with a strong work ethic have those qualities in spades).
- How you own your mistakes and never, ever point the finger of blame at others.
For help with building a strong work ethic, check out these tips: How to Build a Reliable Work Ethic
6. Public Speaking
Who’s terrified of public speaking? Pretty much everyone, since public speaking is America’s number one fear, ahead of death at number five and loneliness at number seven.
Yet, according to Warren Buffett, mastering this one skill you could increase your personal value by 50 percent. That’s huge!
If you’re not natural at public speaking, you’re in good company. Buffett had to work hard to overcome his stage fright and once dropped out of a public-speaking course before it started—because he was afraid of public speaking! He eventually realized that he needed to build up his confidence by just doing it; over and over in front of small groups.
For a more structured approach, Toastmasters International teaches public speaking and leadership skills through a variety of pathways. Membership of this non-profit looks good on your resume but the real payoff will come when you can put your newfound skills to use on the job or in the interview room.
Or, you can check out this advice: The Ultimate Public Speaking Tips to Hook and Impress Any Audience
From a manager’s point of view, the two integrity skills that will set you apart are:
- Always doing what you say you will do
- Owning an error instead of minimizing or hiding it
…even when no one is around to check up on you.
There are lots of people who have climbed the ladder without scruples, but they are not the people who others trust, respect and support when promotion time comes around.
Behaving with integrity is a safe and consistent way to enhance your reputation and achieve your professional goals.
8. Managing Your Time
Phone calls, texts, Slack pings, meetings, huddles, side projects, multitasking—we are busier today than any generation before us. There’s no denying the workplace is an incredibly distracting place to be.
A lot of us have traded effectiveness for busyness which we wear as a badge of honor, both as a proxy for productivity and to show our value to the company. But what bosses want, what they really, really want, is someone who actually gets stuff done on time.
Time management is not merely the art of being on time, but of managing your time so you focus on the projects that really matter and add value to the business. This means prioritizing well, sticking to schedules, delegating, and not getting distracted by tasks that are easier to perform or less important. It means planning ahead and learning when it’s appropriate to say no.
Time management can be a tough skill to maintain, but not a difficult one to pick up. Monitor your actions for a few days—how long do your tasks take to finish? What’s interrupting you? What causes you to lose focus? Once you have the answers to these questions, you can set a schedule for yourself to make sure you’re spending your time wisely and this valuable asset is never wasted.
These 20 Quick Time Management Tips to Super Boost Your Productivity are also great to try.
In any workplace, you typically will find people with the following conflict styles:
- Passive: Those who go out of their way to avoid conflict.
- Passive-aggressive: Those who express their negative feelings through actions rather than words.
- Aggressive: Those who respond to conflict in a hostile and rude manner. These people get their opinion heard but they won’t make any friends in the process.
- Assertive: People who stick up for their rights while still respecting the rights of others.
Managers look for assertiveness above all other styles because it allows decisions to be made without conflict or alienating people.
How do you use this information for yourself?
It starts with understanding your personality so you can anticipate how you will react when conflict arises and address your own shortcomings. Then, you can start influencing the team for top results, and securing your own career advancement in the process.
Learn how to be assertive and gain respect:
10. Creative Thinking
LinkedIn recently analyzed over 50,000 skills that employers search for when looking for candidates to find out what skills are currently in demand. Taking the number-one slot on the 2019 soft skills list was creativity: the ability to solve problems and think outside the box.
Creativity is about bringing fresh, and sometimes unorthodox, ideas to the table. This helps companies to innovate, and companies that do not innovate will not survive very long.
How do you showcase your creative thinking skills? The golden rule is to participate.
Be brave and share your ideas during group brainstorming sessions. Volunteer to run a society, networking event or recruitment drive. Ask “what if” questions: “What if we add this information to the client welcome pack?” “What if we eliminate step 3 from the process?”
These activities demonstrate that you’re prepared to go beyond “business as usual” towards creative problem solving—an ability that will serve you every day, all throughout your career.
You can learn to unleash your creativity power:
The good news? Every item on this soft skills list can be learned. Although you may feel lacking in certain areas, taking an inventory of your strengths and weaknesses will allow you to focus in on the areas that you’ll benefit from developing.
So take an inventory of your personality, skills, and talents. This will give you a baseline for your communication style, attitude to change, conscientiousness and more. You can then identify your weak areas and develop strategies for improving your team-building, assertiveness and conflict skills.
The better news? The effort is worth it. Developing your soft skills opens the door to a new job or a promotion, and helps you succeed once you get there.
More Articles to Help Advance Your Career
- 17 Work Related Skills to Equip Yourself with for a Successful Career
- Conflict Management Styles for Effective Communication at Work
- Master These 15 Skills for Success to Get Ahead in Your Career
- How to Be Productive at Work: 9 Ground Rules
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