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Wish To Be Successful And Rich? Then Quit This One Terrible Habit

Wish To Be Successful And Rich? Then Quit This One Terrible Habit

Complaining.

The amount of complaining you do is equivalent to the amount of power you don’t have. It’s the sound wave of defeat. Becoming a repeat complainer keeps your failures alive. The anger you feel every time you utter those words serves only to revive that negative memory- a memory that would be much better off dead and forgotten. As one of the pioneers of human development once said:

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“We become what we think.” – Earl Nightingale

Complaining shows that you’re weak. You may believe that it serves you well because you’re releasing the “stress” but nothing could be further from the truth. When have you seen a successful person complaining to their friends at the bar about life being so unfair? Chances are.. never. If you have seen a successful person at the bar you can rest assured that they own it. I’m going to now go over 5 things successful people don’t do; these will reinforce why complaining destroys your chances of success. I’m also going to go over what you can do instead, so pay attention.

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1. They don’t focus on the problem

Focusing on the problem is the reason why people crash into poles even though they’re one hundred feet away from it. Focusing on problems can cause a tragic situation and yes, it can even be the reason you’ll never succeed. If you keep focusing on the problem you’ll only gravitate towards more problems. Complaining is a form of focusing on the problem. Instead, you should be focusing on finding a solution. In pilot school they teach you to not focus on the ground (the problem) if you happen to have a system failure, but instead, focus on where you want to go (the solution) and your body will naturally follow. Rich and successful people are where they are because of their ability to find solutions. So the next time you catch yourself complaining, make sure it’s at least followed by a solution.

2. They don’t blame others for their failure

Blaming someone or something else for the lack of your success implies that you have no control over your situation. This causes a sense of powerlessness that overwhelms you to the point where you don’t want to take action anymore. Instead, you’ll try to look for other people to solve your problems for you, which causes dependency. Even if your failure was caused by a force outside of you, you should still find a way to take responsibility for it. Once you do this, you will find yourself doing things to move closer to your goal and you will find yourself succeeding more often. That’s much better than complaining and not doing anything at all.

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3. They don’t procrastinate

It’s easy to do tasks that don’t move you closer to what you want to achieve. But procrastination almost never results in becoming success. You can look at complaining as a form of procrastination. It’s so much easier to complain about the problem instead of looking for the solution to the problem. Don’t fall into this trap or you’ll never become rich and successful. Instead, eliminate the source that’s causing you to procrastinate. If it’s complaining, just change the subject matter. If it’s social media, then make it harder for you to access your accounts. Doing so will ensure that you focus on the things that truly matter, such as solutions.

4. They don’t believe in limitations

This might be dangerous, but successful people don’t believe there’s a limit to the amount they can achieve. It seems almost delusional, but this is inherit in almost every successful person. They don’t listen to society when they say they can achieve something, because how would society know? Have they tested it? Most likely not. Rich and successful people know this so they tend to not listen to conventional logic. Complaining implies that you’re limiting what you can achieve. You say things like “I can’t do it! It’s too hard!” This is called a limiting belief. They’re artificial boundaries that only exist in your head. Instead, you should be asking yourself “What can I do differently to get to where I want to be?” This allows you to achieve things you never thought you could.

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5. They don’t make a big deal out of mistakes

Making a mistake is not a big deal. In fact, the longer you think and complain about that mistake you made, the more likely you are to fail. You end up getting so fearful of making that mistake again that you decide to hold back and do nothing. You’ll never catch a successful person dwelling on their mistakes. Instead, you should look at the mistake you’ve made, get the lesson out of it and move on. You don’t want your fear to grow bigger.

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Last Updated on July 2, 2020

7 Ways To Stop Being Lazy And Start Getting Things Done

7 Ways To Stop Being Lazy And Start Getting Things Done

“I’m going to take a lazy day today.”

Okay, there’s nothing wrong with this. It’s called a day off, and it’s a magical thing.

But when every day is a “lazy day,” there’s a problem. Sometimes we just need a kick in the butt to get us up and moving, so we can handle our business effectively.

Often, laziness has a deeper and darker cause that we don’t want to think about, let alone acknowledge. Here are 7 ways to stop being lazy and become more productive.

1 Find Out the Root Cause

Are you burned out from working 27 hours a day, 9 days a week since before you can remember? This is a signal that you need a rest or a change.

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Human beings are not meant to work all the time. Our paleolithic ancestors worked, on average, about 20 hours a week. (Yeah, we members of modern society are getting hosed.) Maybe you feel overwhelmed, are afraid to fail at the task, or you just don’t want to do the task; these are discrete problems with separate solutions.

Finding out the root cause of your laziness can help you make the changes you need to make to be a more effective and energetic person.

2. Find Your Passion for the Work

You started doing what you do for a reason, but sometimes, even the tasks we love the most can become dreary and mundane. When this happens, remind yourself why you started doing it in the first place.

You must have had a passion for it at some point, or you wouldn’t be bothering with it. Remind yourself of the good points of the work, not just the parts that suck.

3. Break up Your Time

People work more efficiently when they have ample rest time. Working in short, focused bursts is far more effective than trying to slog through the task all at once. Not only will you be happier with the end product, but you’ll feel better and more energized after completing it.

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4. Look at Ways You Can Do the Task More Efficiently

When possible, work smarter instead of harder.

We’ve already talked about why working hard doesn’t work as well. If you can find a better way to do the task, you’re more likely to enjoy it because you’re not simply performing the task by rote, but rather, using your creativity and imagination to their best effect. This will make you feel better about the job and probably enjoy it more, too.

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5. Ask for Help or Support

Sometimes, we just need a little extra backup. There’s nothing wrong with asking for help from a more motivated coworker, friend, or family member. This is a useful way to get you up and moving, because they will motivate you to do the task.

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At the same time, you may be doing them a favor by motivating them to work harder. A little friendly competition never hurt anyone!

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6. Think About Why You Don’t Want to Do the Task

This sounds like a rehash of number 1, but it’s really not.

Some jobs we don’t want to do because they’re just not fun. Mowing the lawn, cleaning the house, or getting under the car and replacing the alternator all have one thing in common. People don’t like doing these jobs because they take time and energy, they’re not pleasant, and we know that sooner or later, we’ll just be doing the same thing all over again.

However, instead of thinking about why you don’t want to do the task, think about the benefits. Your car will run better, the Homeowners’ Association won’t be leaving you a nasty gram for the sixth time this month, and your house will look nicer and feel more welcoming.

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By turning a negative into a positive, you’ll find your outlook about these tasks will be more positive too.

7. Force Yourself

Sometimes there’s just no getting around it. All the good advice and wishes in the world won’t make the job look any better. In these cases, you need to remember you’re an intelligent, mature member of Homo Sapiens, and get off your butt.

While it may not be fun at the time, you can look back on the task you did later and say, “Yeah. I did that.” You shouldn’t have to force yourself out of bed every morning (this is a warning sign of depression that you should NOT ignore), but every once in a while, we need to force ourselves to do something we just don’t want to do.

Believe it or not, you’ll be proud of yourself once the task is done.

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