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This Is Why You Should Forgive Yourself, No Matter What

This Is Why You Should Forgive Yourself, No Matter What

Forgiveness is such an enriching substance that it is so hard to make real progress without it. Fundamentally, our ego also depends on it. If we want to make things right we have to let go. Forgiveness also emanates from our spirituality and if we continue holding on to the past misdeeds of ourselves, or of others, we will dent our self-esteem and scar the best image of who we can be.
The truth is that there is already enough hatred, pain and persecution. It is really vain to continue building upon what is negative and damaging. Letting yourself radiate in love and learning to let go could be the decision you can ever make. Here are four reasons why should learn to forgive yourself no matter what.

You will find peace of mind

Forgiving yourself gives you peace. You stop being a captive to any resentment or grudges you may have and start focusing on other things that are important. You can let go and show you are willing to embrace freedom. There is no partial letting go, you have to let go completely so you can completely embrace peace.

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You show strength

Whether it is courage or fairness, forgiveness gives you strength over the situation before you. You cannot really understand the depth of this when you are filled with anger and resentment over your past misdeeds. You can only accept this and understand this when you are willing to let go. It is not so easy to forgive or to let go as you think this poses some limitations or shows some weakness. But contrary is the case when you can forgive yourself, no matter what happens. The weak cannot forgive. Only the strong can. Show strength and forgive yourself.

You embrace a gift

Just like the gift of sunshine or rainfall, forgiveness is a gift we can give to ourselves. This all stems from understanding our spirituality and knowing that we are designed to be happy and never be held bound of anything. We are designed to be free and rise above situations. You cannot take full advantage of this gift of forgiveness unless you show willingness of letting go. You have to embrace this gift and take charge of your life.

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You show responsibility

You are responsible for your next actions and the decisions you make. It should not be decided upon regret, resentment or a mistake. It should be decided on what direction you want to take and that will serve in your best interest. Taking charge of your life by forgiving yourself gives you ultimate responsibility and leadership of your life and what will happen to you.

You understand the importance of forgiveness

You have to be aware of your limitations and who you are to truly forgive yourself. However it is important to know that there is no one who has not been hurt or who has not made a mistake. Forgiving yourself makes you realize the position you are as an imperfect being that makes mistakes every now and then. You know what this means and rather than beat yourself over every terrible action you take, you can learn to tap into the benefits of forgiveness and be happy.

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You can take more responsibility and live fully

Forgiving yourself permits you take more actions, knowing that you won’t be living in regrets or hurt after all. You can see a clear horizon rather than a distorted one of discomfort of uncertainty. You see everything you do as a learning point. After all you can start seeing yourself as a student of life. You start seeing possibilities and become more positive even in the face of wrongdoings and misgivings. You can be more tolerant and live better rather than live in bitterness.
Happiness is a choice after all. And if you really want to be happy, you can start taking an important choice of forgiving yourself no matter what and becoming happy.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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